Emotionally Unstable Virgo

So i met this Virgo guy, he told me that he likes me a lot, and keep saying like he likes everything about me.

Asked me not to worry.

But then, he can go disappeared on me for days or weeks without contact.

After he said he loves or likes me or whatsoever lol.

We aren’t dating yet, because he isn’t ready. He just asked me to wait for him.

So I agreed to wait for him.

He has been played by women before and cheated on.

So he told me his heart is like having a big hole, and he isn’t dare to think of relationship or even liking someone a lot, because he is afraid of heart broken again.

So whenever he feels like his heart isn’t right, then he will retreat and go hide.

He just keep telling me he wants to be alone for now.

I wish I can do something to help him, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Now I’m giving him all the space he wants and I didn’t even text him anything at all.

Ever since he told me he likes me and said nothing wrong with me then disappeared.

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Posted by Elizabeth_
So i met this Virgo guy, he told me that he likes me a lot, and keep saying like he likes everything about me.

Asked me not to worry.

But then, he can go disappeared on me for days or weeks without contact.

After he said he loves or likes me or whatsoever lol.

We aren’t dating yet, because he isn’t ready. He just asked me to wait for him.

So I agreed to wait for him.

He has been played by women before and cheated on.

So he told me his heart is like having a big hole, and he isn’t dare to think of relationship or even liking someone a lot, because he is afraid of heart broken again.

So whenever he feels like his heart isn’t right, then he will retreat and go hide.

He just keep telling me he wants to be alone for now.

I wish I can do something to help him, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Now I’m giving him all the space he wants and I didn’t even text him anything at all.

Ever since he told me he likes me and said nothing wrong with me then disappeared.

He needs room to breathe... I wouldn't worry.

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So I just let him be until he come find me again? He did say he will meet me later, but he just isn’t contact at all. So my thought keep telling me like he might cancel it lol

Your being played.

Don't fall for this shit. You deserve better. You deserve to have someone that's ready to build something with you.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Your being played.

+100

Bullshit. Even if he has been hurt, asking you to wait for him is selfish and inconsiderate. If you have an ounce of empathy in your heart, you would never string someone along while you get your shit together. We’ve all been hurt.

I had a long convo with my Virgo cousin the other day. He told me when he is not INTERESTED in a woman, he tells her he does not want relationship bc he works too much, or does not have the time. Basically excuses. Also said he is open to sex with her along she does not expect much from him. Smh

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So i met this Virgo guy, he told me that he likes me a lot, and keep saying like he likes everything about me.

Asked me not to worry.

But then, he can go disappeared on me for days or weeks without contact.

After he said he loves or likes me or whatsoever lol.

We aren’t dating yet, because he isn’t ready. He just asked me to wait for him.

So I agreed to wait for him.

He has been played by women before and cheated on.

So he told me his heart is like having a big hole, and he isn’t dare to think of relationship or even liking someone a lot, because he is afraid of heart broken again.

So whenever he feels like his heart isn’t right, then he will retreat and go hide.

He just keep telling me he wants to be alone for now.

I wish I can do something to help him, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Now I’m giving him all the space he wants and I didn’t even text him anything at all.

Ever since he told me he likes me and said nothing wrong with me then disappeared.

He needs room to breathe... I wouldn't worry.

So I just let him be until he come find me again? He did say he will meet me later, but he just isn’t contact at all. So my thought keep telling me like he might cancel it lol

How long has he kept you waiting for?

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One week++ i guess.

I don’t bother msg him either.

We were having long distance, because before we spent one month together in our home country, then he has to go overseas study.

But Feb 9 he back to our home country, then he said he must meet me, but no msg too.

But before he back I asked him if he wants meet up, he said after Feb 9, he wants chill.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Your being played.

I didn’t expect much from him actually.

But he is like my bestfriends.

Then we fell for each others later.

So I just kinda hate the fact that this turned this way lol

Because I never done anything to him tho.

Even without relationships, can still be friends.

Posted by Plutonian
Don't fall for this shit. You deserve better. You deserve to have someone that's ready to build something with you.

Ya, I know I deserve better.

I still live my life happily and do my own stuffs and improve myself.

Because I’m a loner lol

So without him and with him dont affect me much.

I just hate the fact that why he suddenly become like that, because he is also my bestfriends.

We’ve been thru many things together.

Then we fell for each others.

So I kinda curious what’s going on lol

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Your being played.

+100

Bullshit. Even if he has been hurt, asking you to wait for him is selfish and inconsiderate. If you have an ounce of empathy in your heart, you would never string someone along while you get your shit together. We’ve all been hurt.

I had a long convo with my Virgo cousin the other day. He told me when he is not INTERESTED in a woman, he tells her he does not want relationship bc he works too much, or does not have the time. Basically excuses. Also said he is open to sex with her along she does not expect much from him. Smh

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I hope he isn’t someone like that.

Because we are bestfriend too, so if he really someone like that.

Really unexpected, but so far I know him, his personalities isn’t something like use people for sex.

Because when we fell in love that time, and spent one month together before he go to overseas study. We did makeout and then later I curious and asked him if he wants sex, he said it’s fine. I won’t force you until you are ready, also he knows I’m a virgin.

So we just cuddled and talked.

Just recently many things happened to him when he at other country, full time job (10am-11.30pm), then study, then also his ex gf keep annoying him.

So he started to behave weird.

I tried to talk to him, ask him express his feeling to me, but he chose to hide himself and be alone instead.

Because eventhough not couple, as a bestfriend, I hope I can help him when he is down or have problems.

But he just keep repeatedly saying he mentally and physically tired.

Said he wants do his own stuffs.

(He is people pleaser, so whoever ask him for help and do things, he has hard time to reject people, so he always accepted their requests.)

So that’s why he now focus back his own stuffs.

Also I taught him about internet-free. Which will make him feel better, but I kinda regret somehow LOL

Because after that, even me he reply less or read and no reply.

That’s why I really curious what’s going on with him.

The sudden changes.

Before we text everyday tho even busy.

We mostly chat like bestfriends and make fun of each others.

Posted by clownloyal
delete his number and disappear and when he text don't reply or explain to him when you choose to reply a month later

Hard choice :/

He is my bestfriend too.

So it’s pretty hard for me to do it lol

Because we used to always stay by each others side and support each others.

Posted by Earthgoddess
He doesn’t know wat he wants yet. Or rather is still tied to someone else.

Either way I say pull back and wait. When he is ready he will find u. We love to chase if u give us a clear signal that u might be interested

Ya now I just let him do what he wants and I told him to focus himself and make himself happy lol

I will just wait and see what he do lol

I don’t chase him either, I always respect his space and give him time.

We behaving more like bestfriend even we like each others.

His Venus is Cancer too.

My Venus is Taurus.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Your being played.

I didn’t expect much from him actually.

But he is like my bestfriends.

Then we fell for each others later.

So I just kinda hate the fact that this turned this way lol

Because I never done anything to him tho.

Even without relationships, can still be friends.

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A friend that ghosts you for weeks at a time?

You deserve better friends.

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Your being played.

I didn’t expect much from him actually.

But he is like my bestfriends.

Then we fell for each others later.

So I just kinda hate the fact that this turned this way lol

Because I never done anything to him tho.

Even without relationships, can still be friends.

A friend that ghosts you for weeks at a time?

You deserve better friends.

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He wasn’t like that.

But then I noticed when there is problem arise and he tired or sick of it.

He chose to go back his comfort zone or hide.

I must agreed that it’s kinda immature.

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delete his number and disappear and when he text don't reply or explain to him when you choose to reply a month later

Hard choice :/

He is my bestfriend too.

So it’s pretty hard for me to do it lol

Because we used to always stay by each others side and support each others.

if he was your "best friend" or "friend" he wouldn't treat you this way, he wouldn't give you hope in the first place or string you along when he knows he has commitment issues, friends respect each other and are honest about their intentions

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I asked him before about why he confessed to me if he has commitment issue.

He said feeling of the moment and he is afraid that after he finished his studies and back to home country, then i am no longer into him.

So he wants to confess before it’s too late.

But i told him we stay as friends first until he come back.

He also mentioned he isn’t ready, same as me.

So we stay as friends but we can’t help and we did couple stuffs lol

But ya, I find it kinda selfish that he keep me string along this way then don’t talk to me.

Even he wants to be alone and chill, at least can let me know.

It’s like Im not even worth a reply lol

Even he said i am important to him -.-

Sometimes he also having hard time to express his emotions, like he knows how he feels but he don’t know how to make it into words and talk it out.

Posted by Elizabeth_
So i met this Virgo guy, he told me that he likes me a lot, and keep saying like he likes everything about me.

Asked me not to worry.

But then, he can go disappeared on me for days or weeks without contact.

After he said he loves or likes me or whatsoever lol.

We aren’t dating yet, because he isn’t ready. He just asked me to wait for him.

So I agreed to wait for him.

He has been played by women before and cheated on.

So he told me his heart is like having a big hole, and he isn’t dare to think of relationship or even liking someone a lot, because he is afraid of heart broken again.

So whenever he feels like his heart isn’t right, then he will retreat and go hide.

He just keep telling me he wants to be alone for now.

I wish I can do something to help him, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Now I’m giving him all the space he wants and I didn’t even text him anything at all.

Ever since he told me he likes me and said nothing wrong with me then disappeared.

the thing with being a virgo is we tend to ignore our feelings and rather move on from them right away but in fact we've never moved on we just sweep it under the rug

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delete his number and disappear and when he text don't reply or explain to him when you choose to reply a month later

Hard choice :/

He is my bestfriend too.

So it’s pretty hard for me to do it lol

Because we used to always stay by each others side and support each others.

if he was your "best friend" or "friend" he wouldn't treat you this way, he wouldn't give you hope in the first place or string you along when he knows he has commitment issues, friends respect each other and are honest about their intentions

I asked him before about why he confessed to me if he has commitment issue.

He said feeling of the moment and he is afraid that after he finished his studies and back to home country, then i am no longer into him.

So he wants to confess before it’s too late.

But i told him we stay as friends first until he come back.

He also mentioned he isn’t ready, same as me.

So we stay as friends but we can’t help and we did couple stuffs lol

But ya, I find it kinda selfish that he keep me string along this way then don’t talk to me.

Even he wants to be alone and chill, at least can let me know.

It’s like Im not even worth a reply lol

Even he said i am important to him -.-

Sometimes he also having hard time to express his emotions, like he knows how he feels but he don’t know how to make it into words and talk it out.

been there, once you realize you're worth more thats when they'll have an epiphany 💡

some men just like the chase/obsession and once they get their hands on they don't seem as eager

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Ya agree.

Most of the men i met almost like that, after they get their hands on and they don’t seem as eager.

He was so scare of losing me or me not talking to him.

Because I’m quite independent and I always focus my own stuffs.

He said he likes that about me.

But sometimes he told me that he is insecure and scared of people left him and break his heart again.

So I tried to give him more care and attentions.

Then he started becoming cooler and not like before.

This is why sometimes I feel like being too good to someone and they will never cherish or appreciate :/

Until it’s gone.

Sometimes he is afraid of me leaving, he will keep spammed me a lot msgs once he sensed that I am a bit angry.

But once he fixed it and I told him I’m fine.

Then he disappeared again.

Well, it's right that virgos need their space, but in this case I guess he's just not ready to commit in a relationship. Also, he doesn't have the right to tell you he likes you and then ask you to wait for him and disappear!! He shoud've gathered himself all together before taking this step of telling you he likes you.

That's what I see based on your description. 🙂

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Your being played.

I didn’t expect much from him actually.

But he is like my bestfriends.

Then we fell for each others later.

So I just kinda hate the fact that this turned this way lol

Because I never done anything to him tho.

Even without relationships, can still be friends.

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It's a trap. 😐

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Posted by Elizabeth_
So i met this Virgo guy, he told me that he likes me a lot, and keep saying like he likes everything about me.

Asked me not to worry.

But then, he can go disappeared on me for days or weeks without contact.

After he said he loves or likes me or whatsoever lol.

We aren’t dating yet, because he isn’t ready. He just asked me to wait for him.

So I agreed to wait for him.

He has been played by women before and cheated on.

So he told me his heart is like having a big hole, and he isn’t dare to think of relationship or even liking someone a lot, because he is afraid of heart broken again.

So whenever he feels like his heart isn’t right, then he will retreat and go hide.

He just keep telling me he wants to be alone for now.

I wish I can do something to help him, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Now I’m giving him all the space he wants and I didn’t even text him anything at all.

Ever since he told me he likes me and said nothing wrong with me then disappeared.

the thing with being a virgo is we tend to ignore our feelings and rather move on from them right away but in fact we've never moved on we just sweep it under the rug

I'm intrigued by your answer. Care to explain further?

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what else do you wanna know about emotions as virgo?

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So i met this Virgo guy, he told me that he likes me a lot, and keep saying like he likes everything about me.

Asked me not to worry.

But then, he can go disappeared on me for days or weeks without contact.

After he said he loves or likes me or whatsoever lol.

We aren’t dating yet, because he isn’t ready. He just asked me to wait for him.

So I agreed to wait for him.

He has been played by women before and cheated on.

So he told me his heart is like having a big hole, and he isn’t dare to think of relationship or even liking someone a lot, because he is afraid of heart broken again.

So whenever he feels like his heart isn’t right, then he will retreat and go hide.

He just keep telling me he wants to be alone for now.

I wish I can do something to help him, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Now I’m giving him all the space he wants and I didn’t even text him anything at all.

Ever since he told me he likes me and said nothing wrong with me then disappeared.

the thing with being a virgo is we tend to ignore our feelings and rather move on from them right away but in fact we've never moved on we just sweep it under the rug

I'm intrigued by your answer. Care to explain further?

what else do you wanna know about emotions as virgo?

You said -we tend to ignore our feelings and rather move on from them right away but in fact we've never moved on we just sweep it under the rug. Is this something very common and how do you deal with this? Do you ever forget old flames/love/ lovers?

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I think it has to do more with the moon then sun sign and in which house it is in i have my sun in the 9th house sun is ofcourse the ego but in a fire house i think ego and pride become very big then i have my moon in the 1st house in sagittarius also a fire house.

The thing is as a virgo in general is we internally suffer rather then to bother someone with our pain we like to think we can deal with it ourselves.

If i am sad/mad i do active things like sport and a lot of sex out of frustration once that is out i can calm down but the truth is it only helps temporarily unless it's a small problem.

If that doesn't help i try to think of people who have it way worse and help those people to feel good about myself but also because i am very caring as a person.



How i deal with old lovers/flames i keep contact with them (not all of them ofcourse) when i really care about you i will keep in contact with you and stay friends even if i do not stay friends i will always have this curiosity i wonder how his life might be now is he happy has he found true love etc.

Someway somehow they always tend to come back into my life even if it were to be 10 years later people actually never leave me even if they leave my mind.

If i had a crush on you i will often still fantasize about things just to get it off my mind even though i know we will never be anything it's then purely lust.



A lot happens in the mind rather then in reality because it's safer to keep our thoughts to ourselves rather then speak them out loud. I am an open book but when it comes to caring about someone or loving someone or being hurt i will not show you easily.

Since i am with my sagg i have opened up way more when it comes to my emotions but i also feel being emotional sometimes can be used against you so the moment i feel someone is using my emotions and see that as a weakness i will remove my emotions right away.

It's like a on and off switch

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So i met this Virgo guy, he told me that he likes me a lot, and keep saying like he likes everything about me.

Asked me not to worry.

But then, he can go disappeared on me for days or weeks without contact.

After he said he loves or likes me or whatsoever lol.

We aren’t dating yet, because he isn’t ready. He just asked me to wait for him.

So I agreed to wait for him.

He has been played by women before and cheated on.

So he told me his heart is like having a big hole, and he isn’t dare to think of relationship or even liking someone a lot, because he is afraid of heart broken again.

So whenever he feels like his heart isn’t right, then he will retreat and go hide.

He just keep telling me he wants to be alone for now.

I wish I can do something to help him, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Now I’m giving him all the space he wants and I didn’t even text him anything at all.

Ever since he told me he likes me and said nothing wrong with me then disappeared.

the thing with being a virgo is we tend to ignore our feelings and rather move on from them right away but in fact we've never moved on we just sweep it under the rug

I'm intrigued by your answer. Care to explain further?

what else do you wanna know about emotions as virgo?

You said -we tend to ignore our feelings and rather move on from them right away but in fact we've never moved on we just sweep it under the rug. Is this something very common and how do you deal with this? Do you ever forget old flames/love/ lovers?

I think it has to do more with the moon then sun sign and in which house it is in i have my sun in the 9th house sun is ofcourse the ego but in a fire house i think ego and pride become very big then i have my moon in the 1st house in sagittarius also a fire house.

The thing is as a virgo in general is we internally suffer rather then to bother someone with our pain we like to think we can deal with it ourselves.

If i am sad/mad i do active things like sport and a lot of sex out of frustration once that is out i can calm down but the truth is it only helps temporarily unless it's a small problem.

If that doesn't help i try to think of people who have it way worse and help those people to feel good about myself but also because i am very caring as a person.



How i deal with old lovers/flames i keep contact with them (not all of them ofcourse) when i really care about you i will keep in contact with you and stay friends even if i do not stay friends i will always have this curiosity i wonder how his life might be now is he happy has he found true love etc.

Someway somehow they always tend to come back into my life even if it were to be 10 years later people actually never leave me even if they leave my mind.

If i had a crush on you i will often still fantasize about things just to get it off my mind even though i know we will never be anything it's then purely lust.



A lot happens in the mind rather then in reality because it's safer to keep our thoughts to ourselves rather then speak them out loud. I am an open book but when it comes to caring about someone or loving someone or being hurt i will not show you easily.

Since i am with my sagg i have opened up way more when it comes to my emotions but i also feel being emotional sometimes can be used against you so the moment i feel someone is using my emotions and see that as a weakness i will remove my emotions right away.

It's like a on and off switch

Thank you so much! I can relate to many things you've said as I have rising in virgo And Mars in Virgo. I've always been attracted to Virgos as friends and last year one entered my life as a possible lover. It didn't work out, but seems like he is everywhere I go, does all the things I do, even we travel to same places without knowing the other will be there. He married someone else, so I stopped fantasizing about him. Still, occasional "what if" comes through my mind. I love virgos.

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We virgo's aren't so bad as everybody thinks hihi the thing i virgo's are very visual and with you mars in virgo even more they say with air signs things often happen in the mind but with virgo as an earth sign that happens too we imagine the wildest fantasies but will never say it out loud only the right person can trigger that closet freak hehe we are not prude we know what we want and only the best of the best deserve our body and soul.

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So i met this Virgo guy, he told me that he likes me a lot, and keep saying like he likes everything about me.

Asked me not to worry.

But then, he can go disappeared on me for days or weeks without contact.

After he said he loves or likes me or whatsoever lol.

We aren’t dating yet, because he isn’t ready. He just asked me to wait for him.

So I agreed to wait for him.

He has been played by women before and cheated on.

So he told me his heart is like having a big hole, and he isn’t dare to think of relationship or even liking someone a lot, because he is afraid of heart broken again.

So whenever he feels like his heart isn’t right, then he will retreat and go hide.

He just keep telling me he wants to be alone for now.

I wish I can do something to help him, but I don’t know what to do.

Any suggestions?

Now I’m giving him all the space he wants and I didn’t even text him anything at all.

Ever since he told me he likes me and said nothing wrong with me then disappeared.

the thing with being a virgo is we tend to ignore our feelings and rather move on from them right away but in fact we've never moved on we just sweep it under the rug

I'm intrigued by your answer. Care to explain further?

what else do you wanna know about emotions as virgo?

You said -we tend to ignore our feelings and rather move on from them right away but in fact we've never moved on we just sweep it under the rug. Is this something very common and how do you deal with this? Do you ever forget old flames/love/ lovers?

I think it has to do more with the moon then sun sign and in which house it is in i have my sun in the 9th house sun is ofcourse the ego but in a fire house i think ego and pride become very big then i have my moon in the 1st house in sagittarius also a fire house.

The thing is as a virgo in general is we internally suffer rather then to bother someone with our pain we like to think we can deal with it ourselves.

If i am sad/mad i do active things like sport and a lot of sex out of frustration once that is out i can calm down but the truth is it only helps temporarily unless it's a small problem.

If that doesn't help i try to think of people who have it way worse and help those people to feel good about myself but also because i am very caring as a person.



How i deal with old lovers/flames i keep contact with them (not all of them ofcourse) when i really care about you i will keep in contact with you and stay friends even if i do not stay friends i will always have this curiosity i wonder how his life might be now is he happy has he found true love etc.

Someway somehow they always tend to come back into my life even if it were to be 10 years later people actually never leave me even if they leave my mind.

If i had a crush on you i will often still fantasize about things just to get it off my mind even though i know we will never be anything it's then purely lust.



A lot happens in the mind rather then in reality because it's safer to keep our thoughts to ourselves rather then speak them out loud. I am an open book but when it comes to caring about someone or loving someone or being hurt i will not show you easily.

Since i am with my sagg i have opened up way more when it comes to my emotions but i also feel being emotional sometimes can be used against you so the moment i feel someone is using my emotions and see that as a weakness i will remove my emotions right away.

It's like a on and off switch

Thank you so much! I can relate to many things you've said as I have rising in virgo And Mars in Virgo. I've always been attracted to Virgos as friends and last year one entered my life as a possible lover. It didn't work out, but seems like he is everywhere I go, does all the things I do, even we travel to same places without knowing the other will be there. He married someone else, so I stopped fantasizing about him. Still, occasional "what if" comes through my mind. I love virgos.

We virgo's aren't so bad as everybody thinks hihi the thing i virgo's are very visual and with you mars in virgo even more they say with air signs things often happen in the mind but with virgo as an earth sign that happens too we imagine the wildest fantasies but will never say it out loud only the right person can trigger that closet freak hehe we are not prude we know what we want and only the best of the best deserve our body and soul.

That's so true. Him and I shared things I could never say to anyone else. It was a really strong connection and I think both of us were scared by that intensity. I love love virgo energy. Libra and Pisces I can't stand.

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