Ended things with my Virgo friend/relationship

Think we kind of fell "in love" with each other. He had admitted it first.

Due to circumstances we cannot be in a relationship together.

We were in a very calm discussion about our situation. I asked him to let me go... That he has to admit it to me and to himself that he's lost and confused. That if he truly cared about me, he'd give me peace of mind.

We ended our conversation there and haven't spoken since. I'm just aching in every bone and it's a struggle to see him at work everyday.

I think I've just lost my work bestfriend! 😭

Posted by CluelessCancer
Sorry to hear, it's not easy, but why lost and confused? I thought you had all the answers, i guess there aren't answers for "lost & confused"

sounds like a Virgo i once knew. Lost and Confused. Yep.

It's not that I don't, I'm very very patient with him and I have been there for him everyday since we met, it's this "situation" he's in that has really taken a toll on him, thus affecting me as well. One big mess.

We are pretty perfect for each other, I mean that in every way - our outlook, temperament, personality, goals, and views on everyday life couldn't be more fitting, but the timing is unfortunate.

I just simply told him I was struggling, not because of him or his feelings of me but because of the problems currently in his life, I needed space.

Posted by RomancingA
Could you have possibly been fishing to make him commit further? Did he call your bluff anf agree?

If you called this on and now your "hurt" doesn't that make it your fault anf reason for your heartbreak?

He's actually the one who wants to commit, but I won't because of his situation; hence, I've asked for space because this has taken an extremely stressful toll on the both of us.

I'm not manipulative so refrain from making me out to be that person. I am surrounded by Virgos so I know they're drawn to me because I play no games and they trust me as a result, as much as I trust them for the same reason.

And yes, I did request this for both of our sanity. I don't think I'm blaming anyone for the heartache I feel, I feel it because I care for him and I will miss talking to him everyday.

I'm hurt because it HAS to be this way, at this moment (maybe forever, who knows), even though I want the complete opposite with him. I (we) just simply can't right now.

"Only time will tell."

ah, it's complex.

I will give an update w/ more information if/when there's resolution.

It'll make more sense then.

In the meantime, more exercise, more activities, and more volunteer work to distract myself.

you'll be back 'together' in a week and a half

I feel ya . Me n my virg guy called it quits. Because of a difficult situation . Things have been jot good for a month. Due to other people causing drama. But, now its over. I miss him so much, im so heartbroken! Sux! All i can say is, if u love him, dont let him get away!

Thanks. 🙂

Will definitely provide details when the time is right.

Shouldn't have posted in the first place as w/o details, everything and everyone is lost in translation.

I just hope he prevails and figures things out on his end. I hope he finds what he's looking for - closure to things and people in his life and most importantly, peace of mind. Until then...

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9

Posted by CluelessCancer
Sorry to hear, it's not easy, but why lost and confused? I thought you had all the answers, i guess there aren't answers for "lost & confused"

sounds like a Virgo i once knew. Lost and Confused. Yep.

It's not that I don't, I'm very very patient with him and I have been there for him everyday since we met, it's this "situation" he's in that has really taken a toll on him, thus affecting me as well. One big mess.

We are pretty perfect for each other, I mean that in every way - our outlook, temperament, personality, goals, and views on everyday life couldn't be more fitting, but the timing is unfortunate.

I just simply told him I was struggling, not because of him or his feelings of me but because of the problems currently in his life, I needed space.

so you left him cause he has problems going on in his life, can we get details on these problems? I mean is everything supposed to be peachy kin for a virgo to stick by you?

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I was going to answer this question in my own words, but instead found a Virgo's response on the web that summarized my thoughts exactly.

So here it is, the answer to your question is, "Yes. Everything has to be peachy keen for a Virgo, not necessarily to just stick by you, but for them to provide you with the love and security you need, they do need to be stable with themselves." That was what I was going to say to you.

Otherwise, read what I found online written by another Virgo, "Our insecurities will often get the best of us, this is why it greatly requires we have the time, means, and understanding in ourselves to find true balance. Without that balance, ALL of you will experience this —relationship hell??."

It's because I know this, that is why I suggested we take time apart. I know that if I don't, he won't, and we will simply get stuck in limbo - suffering from his confusion.