Expressing Emotion & Virgo's 52
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by cumngetme on Tuesday, April 1, 2008 and has 14 replies.
Im a female Virgo dating a virgo and i can honsetly say that i have a hard time getting him to share his feelings
he has already told me he loves me after only 3 months so that's a plus, but as far as being emotional or showing alot of emotion, it's very rare
Virguys by nature are usually emotionally arrogant/unstable: sometimes deep down inside we believe that nothing can, could, or should break us.....we refuse to be weak, or submissive and feel that if we do, that the world will come down on us.....and that if we show even a glint of weakness we'll be left and that we will be made to feel something we can't just get over and will be scared: this is the unevolved Virgo that tries to set up one contingincy plan after the other to keep himself 'safe' and you 'out' of his 'zone'....most men actually feel this way.....but I can say that when you grow to accept yourself the need to wear the 'emo-armour' all the time will become less, and less prevelant....but ironically, the man that wears the toughest suit of armour is usually the nicest kind....he saddly learned (as do most men in the west) that we must be soldiers....we have to fight, and are constantly pushed into a constant struggle to assert our maculinity.....This is so much a part of me, I don't know how to really express myself to others, and my feelings are so strong, I often don't know how to express them properly without overwhelming the person I'm with so I just sit 'poker faced'....
To share the feeling one should be?romantic? first, and some Virgos are surprisingly too damn romantic.
But, this ?not sharing/showing romantically feelings? is generally part of the nature of the male creature and has nothing to do with the star signs.
Some male creatures have difficulties to say even (I love you) let alone showing it.
But, this ?not sharing/showing romantically feelings? is generally part of the nature of the male creature and has nothing to do with the star signs.
Some male creatures have difficulties to say even (I love you) let alone showing it.
sometimes deep down inside we believe that nothing can, could, or should break us.....
Who are ?WE? and what is that weakness you are talking about? Speak of yourself dude.
There are many ways to expressing the feelings and there are many ways to translate it correctly, if someone is arrogant enough and don't get the signals and efforts by Virgos, then she/he is blind as bat and probably deserve the ignorance.
Why blame the Virgos..??
Who are ?WE? and what is that weakness you are talking about? Speak of yourself dude.
There are many ways to expressing the feelings and there are many ways to translate it correctly, if someone is arrogant enough and don't get the signals and efforts by Virgos, then she/he is blind as bat and probably deserve the ignorance.
Why blame the Virgos..??
What goes around comes around!
HAHAHA
One virgo complaining about the other for being COLD. Fantastic! If it is this cold initially, it will become Antarctica for life. Can you handle it?
HAHAHA
One virgo complaining about the other for being COLD. Fantastic! If it is this cold initially, it will become Antarctica for life. Can you handle it?
lmao....yea Q, you're right: I mean, what do I know about being a Virgo? lol
Virgos seem to live by the "I can SHOW you better than I can TELL you" creed. I'm an Aqua so I know Allll about not expressing emotions. I think Virgos love very hard & have all of the same emotions everybody else have. They cry in the dark just like everybody else, they love & will generally do anything for the people they care about but when it comes down to always expressing their love or like for someone, they tell me that they feel it's unecessary because they assume how they feel SHOWS THROUGH their actions. And a Virgos biggest fear is REJECTION. Just like anyone else, they are always worried about expressing their feelings TOO SOON. Normally Virgos will open up when THEY feel THEY are ready (which is normally long after WE are ready) & doing things this way is what fits into their comfort zone.
the female Virgo doesnt have problem with expressing..n they r affectionate,romantic...u name it
...But not the guys i noticed
...But not the guys i noticed
'And a Virgos biggest fear is REJECTION. Just like anyone else, they are always worried about expressing their feelings TOO SOON. Normally Virgos will open up when THEY feel THEY are ready (which is normally long after WE are ready) & doing things this way is what fits into their comfort zone.'
So insightful! lol I feel as if we've known each other for years! lol
Introverts don't rely on words to say much of anything, becuse we realize there's a great deal of pretense that could lie in them....what good are the words 'I love you' when they can't SHOW the feeling? There is absolutely NO pretense in emotion/action....it is the truth....where as a word can all to easily become a lie.
I don't prefer to be decieved with word play, as I don't look at love in a 'lovely' sense....love can do ACTUAL damage....the action is what is most important in my opinion.
I will express a DEPTH of feeling, not just words....if you can't read between the lines, you may miss my affection...When emotions are intense there is a risk of damaging the self, but I don't fear rejection....I hate the idea of expressing myself to someone who is unworthy of my feelings, AND WORSE YET, SOMEONE WHO IS INCAPABLE OF RECIPROCATION!!!!! As I have a high sense of self worth and a deep sense of emotion....anyone who dosen't value themselves or their emotions will place themselves in harms way by compulsively starting relationships with people who are no good to, or for them.
I need to know your intentions (as I have a right to know, just as you do; our lives are blending, and I'd like to know before hand if this potential relationship will be damaging and an overall waste of time) before I apply my real feelings.
So insightful! lol I feel as if we've known each other for years! lol
Introverts don't rely on words to say much of anything, becuse we realize there's a great deal of pretense that could lie in them....what good are the words 'I love you' when they can't SHOW the feeling? There is absolutely NO pretense in emotion/action....it is the truth....where as a word can all to easily become a lie.
I don't prefer to be decieved with word play, as I don't look at love in a 'lovely' sense....love can do ACTUAL damage....the action is what is most important in my opinion.
I will express a DEPTH of feeling, not just words....if you can't read between the lines, you may miss my affection...When emotions are intense there is a risk of damaging the self, but I don't fear rejection....I hate the idea of expressing myself to someone who is unworthy of my feelings, AND WORSE YET, SOMEONE WHO IS INCAPABLE OF RECIPROCATION!!!!! As I have a high sense of self worth and a deep sense of emotion....anyone who dosen't value themselves or their emotions will place themselves in harms way by compulsively starting relationships with people who are no good to, or for them.
I need to know your intentions (as I have a right to know, just as you do; our lives are blending, and I'd like to know before hand if this potential relationship will be damaging and an overall waste of time) before I apply my real feelings.
you can't read between the lines, you may miss my affection...
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VE.. well said, every thing above, about words, not using words, actions , no actions, reciprocation etc.
Yes- one needs to read between the lines when dealing with virgos, you guys are VERY deep!
It not only requires patiences but a well balaced mix of feelings, emotions and brain.
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VE.. well said, every thing above, about words, not using words, actions , no actions, reciprocation etc.
Yes- one needs to read between the lines when dealing with virgos, you guys are VERY deep!
It not only requires patiences but a well balaced mix of feelings, emotions and brain.
Fear of rejection, you got it.
Many times though I am wary of showing my true feelings because I'm afraid if I show how much I like someone, their feelings for me will change. Sometimes I even try to trick myself into thinking I don't like the person as much as I do in order to do this, which more times than not blows up in my face.
Many times though I am wary of showing my true feelings because I'm afraid if I show how much I like someone, their feelings for me will change. Sometimes I even try to trick myself into thinking I don't like the person as much as I do in order to do this, which more times than not blows up in my face.
I don't think I'm a deep person at all: when you read between the lines, (which isn't hard: it's more based on time spent with a person, figuring out their 'details' and their ways....you just have to know that people are prompted and compelled to action by not just conscious reason, but condition responses outside of their awareness) people ususally make the mistake of taking my actions as being 'straightforward' and they are, but when it comes to my feelings, I tend to be more mysterious and 'side stepping'
All things that have to do with this Virgo in terms of matters of the heart, are kept deeply inside me...so much of my nature is barely seen becuase I move with necessity in mind....if the situation dosen't call for dramatics, I won't make a scene, if the situation is a relatively simple one, I'll look for an appropriate resopnse to step past my feelings...to protect them....I have a soft core, (A soft core means sensitive and the amount of sensitivity I have exacerbates my emotional response to a situation and I may come off as intense for that reason becuase I'm working subconsiously twice as hard to over power that feeling or person that roused my sensitivity in the first place) but that doesen't mean I'm not strong....What I'm working on now, is integrating 'personal function' into my thought pattern....just becuase something isn't 'NECESSARY' dosen't mean it isn't good for you...
I just want and need to share that space with someone who UNDERSTANDS this about me, and gets it....you have to develop that 'second sight' with a Virgo....but under NO circumstances should you use their feelings against them....the chances of them trusting you again are slim to nil.
All things that have to do with this Virgo in terms of matters of the heart, are kept deeply inside me...so much of my nature is barely seen becuase I move with necessity in mind....if the situation dosen't call for dramatics, I won't make a scene, if the situation is a relatively simple one, I'll look for an appropriate resopnse to step past my feelings...to protect them....I have a soft core, (A soft core means sensitive and the amount of sensitivity I have exacerbates my emotional response to a situation and I may come off as intense for that reason becuase I'm working subconsiously twice as hard to over power that feeling or person that roused my sensitivity in the first place) but that doesen't mean I'm not strong....What I'm working on now, is integrating 'personal function' into my thought pattern....just becuase something isn't 'NECESSARY' dosen't mean it isn't good for you...
I just want and need to share that space with someone who UNDERSTANDS this about me, and gets it....you have to develop that 'second sight' with a Virgo....but under NO circumstances should you use their feelings against them....the chances of them trusting you again are slim to nil.
I like Virgoian used to think that it was rejection ALONE I feared but there was something deeper still....I just happened to use my powers of introspection to probe deeper into myself....what I FOUND was NOT so simple as a fear of rejection: *chuckles* if ONLY it were so superficial! lol....it was a fear of myself....in that I was afraid that my feelings wouldn't be reciprocated or understood, and that I would come into contact with a person that was unable to protect himself and possess the strength necessary to fight and live: it was a deep sense of self-uncertainty.
I'm SUBCONSIOUSLY unsure of myself, but it's repressed from my conscious mind, which is why I can speak of this with no real emotion....but in my dreams it WILL haunt me....every human being needs to have the means to be able to meet their OWN needs after a certain point, and if they can't they face DEATH....or at least an chaotic, and anxiety-ladden subconscious state....I know myself too damned well....!!
I'm SUBCONSIOUSLY unsure of myself, but it's repressed from my conscious mind, which is why I can speak of this with no real emotion....but in my dreams it WILL haunt me....every human being needs to have the means to be able to meet their OWN needs after a certain point, and if they can't they face DEATH....or at least an chaotic, and anxiety-ladden subconscious state....I know myself too damned well....!!
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