Friendship of 7 years with Aquarius is coming to an end, what do you think it’s the reason

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by coldwateryvirgo on Friday, March 8, 2019 and has 17 replies.
I’m letting you guess based on aqua-Virgo friendship pairing.

Hint

It’s not ending in an awful , i hate you kind of way
Posted by PinsNNeedles

"It's not me, it's you"
Lol which end . The Virgo or Aquarius said that ?
this the aqua you had feelings for?

Aww why?
Posted by justagirl

this the aqua you had feelings for?

I don’t think I have ever crushed on an aqua. But no it’s a girl-girl friend relationship which sucks even more
Posted by ladylibra21

Aww why?
Pretty much I realize I’ve been there with her for everything but she never been there for me . She makes effort to maintain relationships with men and even effort to spend time with strangers.

But when it’s me she makes a bunch of excuses .

A year ago I told her she hasn’t been around . If we completely cut all contact today , it really wouldn’t change anything much since we rarely talked to each other . I see her once a month , mind you same city same university . She didn’t say anything or felt like damn , maybe my friend needs me when I said that . The comment was pretty much ignored.

But somehow when we go out she has a million stories of her having tried this restaurant with so and so . But when I ask her she’ll be like, nope I don’t feel like eating . Etc . With other people she makes effort but it seems like with me she takes me for granted

So once I stopped the one sided effort , the friendship died.

And she still say I’m her friend , so close that I’m family.

I would always make excuse that She’s just busy or hate texting , or has hw or being an aqua etc

But actually, she does stuff with her bf n his friends , her work friends etc .

Now that I step away and looking at her , I’m not sure if I know her anymore .

Me , personally though , I no longer find value in a friend that’s never there . Even if I values the people I let in and been friends with me for years , and once told each other everything and have great memories, sometime all those years aren’t worth saving and easier to just move on and find new friends who are on the same level of what you expect in a friendship .

And seriously when a Virgo move on , we move on .

Maybe she’ll miss me one day , maybe she’s indifferent .

Either way I gave her a year to ask if I was okay . Or say sorry I haven’t been around . But nothing Sad always thought aqua and Virgo could be friends forever , guess not

Done with my rant lol 😂 thank guys
You’re asking us what we think the reason is when it seems you’ve got it figured out already. Is it possible you’ve been a pain in the ass nag, like a Virgo usually is? Maybe that’s the only thing to ask yourself.

Never mind. Virgos never do anything wrong. 🙄

Sounds like she’s just more interested in other people. Fine. Be on your way then. She’s already on hers.
Posted by coldwateryvirgo

Posted by ladylibra21

Aww why?
Pretty much I realize I’ve been there with her for everything but she never been there for me . She makes effort to maintain relationships with men and even effort to spend time with strangers.

But when it’s me she makes a bunch of excuses .

A year ago I told her she hasn’t been around . If we completely cut all contact today , it really wouldn’t change anything much since we rarely talked to each other . I see her once a month , mind you same city same university . She didn’t say anything or felt like damn , maybe my friend needs me when I said that . The comment was pretty much ignored.

But somehow when we go out she has a million stories of her having tried this restaurant with so and so . But when I ask her she’ll be like, nope I don’t feel like eating . Etc . With other people she makes effort but it seems like with me she takes me for granted

So once I stopped the one sided effort , the friendship died.

And she still say I’m her friend , so close that I’m family.

I would always make excuse that She’s just busy or hate texting , or has hw or being an aqua etc

But actually, she does stuff with her bf n his friends , her work friends etc .

Now that I step away and looking at her , I’m not sure if I know her anymore .

Me , personally though , I no longer find value in a friend that’s never there . Even if I values the people I let in and been friends with me for years , and once told each other everything and have great memories, sometime all those years aren’t worth saving and easier to just move on and find new friends who are on the same level of what you expect in a friendship .

And seriously when a Virgo move on , we move on .

Maybe she’ll miss me one day , maybe she’s indifferent .

Either way I gave her a year to ask if I was okay . Or say sorry I haven’t been around . But nothing Sad always thought aqua and Virgo could be friends forever , guess not

Done with my rant lol 😂 thank guys
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Well... you both grew in different directions, mentally/emotionally 🤷🏻‍♀️ That happens and is totally normal. She doesn‘t do much with you anymore because she knows that it‘s not that kinda fun time she is looking for 🤷🏻‍♀️ Maybe you both don‘t share the same interests anymore. Just let her go and don‘t cling to her. If you really need her then by all means tell her straight up „hey I have this and this problem, can you help me/listen to me/etc“ and don‘t pull things like „if we cut off contact it wouldn‘t change a thing about our current situation“ aqua cringe right here

Do you have other friends?
Yeahh... here goes my story with My friend Virgo.... And dont take it in a bad way...

My Virgo friend is annoying, he is just like you, he wants to be with me like gum on my shoe, we aquas, we are your friend but when we feel someone is suffocating us, or someone is too intense, or too negative, or too much of whatever... we can love you dearly but we will not want you around all the time.

My friend he acts better than a boyfriend, and he will be there for anything even when I dont need him, or want to... He feels bc he is there for me all the time, I should be with him better than the rest of my friends, bc as he does so many things for me just for the sake, he assume he is my only best friend. and The rest of my friends dont care about me. So, Now I keep him on the edge.... I dont see him as much, I dont answer his msgs for days, I make plans with my other friends, and I make excuses not to see him sometimes even tho I will just be home doing nothing.

Other thing is, if we consider you our friend, no matter if we dont see each other regularly, I will be there for my friends if they need me. Of course, for my real friends. Not the ones who just reach out to me when they need me.

I'm guessing you've grown apart.

Otherwise think back. Have you behaved in a jealous way, passive aggressively, vindictively, or broke the the girl code?

Constantly for the first two. For the last two, it only takes one time.

It always ends that way with Aquas. Then they come later in life to try and kick it. I'm good

My friends are their through thick & thin. Aquas are koo though
Posted by Onimusha01

Yeahh... here goes my story with My friend Virgo.... And dont take it in a bad way...

My Virgo friend is annoying, he is just like you, he wants to be with me like gum on my shoe, we aquas, we are your friend but when we feel someone is suffocating us, or someone is too intense, or too negative, or too much of whatever... we can love you dearly but we will not want you around all the time.

My friend he acts better than a boyfriend, and he will be there for anything even when I dont need him, or want to... He feels bc he is there for me all the time, I should be with him better than the rest of my friends, bc as he does so many things for me just for the sake, he assume he is my only best friend. and The rest of my friends dont care about me. So, Now I keep him on the edge.... I dont see him as much, I dont answer his msgs for days, I make plans with my other friends, and I make excuses not to see him sometimes even tho I will just be home doing nothing.

Other thing is, if we consider you our friend, no matter if we dont see each other regularly, I will be there for my friends if they need me. Of course, for my real friends. Not the ones who just reach out to me when they need me.

Hey there , love the other perspective . For me i think in ny case is different friendship needs . For example, if I need a friend who is around more . I would go and find a friend that would be around more . The only reason I stayed around with this friend is that we were on the same page and great friend for the first 5 years or so . So I stayed and try to make it work since bond already formed .

If I was making new friend n knew that friend has a high affinity for person space from the beginning , I wouldn’t have allowed myself to get close to where I would hope I could count on them when I needed them .

On a side note , Virgo don’t cling to people , they tend to be quite independent. If your friend is of the opposite sex, I would suspect that he secretly likes you
Posted by STILL

I'm guessing you've grown apart.

Otherwise think back. Have you behaved in a jealous way, passive aggressively, vindictively, or broke the the girl code?

Constantly for the first two. For the last two, it only takes one time.

According to her sister , she thinks I’m just mad at her about meeting for lunch a month ago for showing 2 hours late . She thinks we’re in good term I’m just annoyed lol

Where as I’m cutting her off front my life mentally, slowly , until there’s nothing left
Posted by Sleepyquantro

Aqua here 🙋🏽

Just created this acct and my very 1st post..I just could not resist!

I have a virgo best friend and what u describe has always been the other way around for us.

I’ve been the complainer for yrs, not feeling appreciated, neglected, and stuff like u describe. Virgo’s are usually concerned with relationships, and aqua with friendships. I walked away from the friendship a few times but she almost always came back. The longest period was just under a yr, I walked away with not a word bc in the past I’ve always had these talks about her treating like a friend that matters, so I just stopped all contact one day. I got a call a 11 months later with her crying on my vm, because I didn’t pick up, and she was in the hospital. That’s how we became friends again.
Thank you for creating the account to response lol

N I hope it’s like yours . In my life I think I’ve always been a good friend ( it try to be from my perspective) . Then there come a point im tired of being taken for granted and slowly just pull out . And the old friend , they always try to reach out later but we would’ve grown too far apart by then.

With her I would be happy to rekindle and get close again . The foundation of the friendship was always good . Never gossip or competition or fight
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Posted by coldwateryvirgo

Posted by ladylibra21

Aww why?
Pretty much I realize I’ve been there with her for everything but she never been there for me . She makes effort to maintain relationships with men and even effort to spend time with strangers.

But when it’s me she makes a bunch of excuses .

A year ago I told her she hasn’t been around . If we completely cut all contact today , it really wouldn’t change anything much since we rarely talked to each other . I see her once a month , mind you same city same university . She didn’t say anything or felt like damn , maybe my friend needs me when I said that . The comment was pretty much ignored.

But somehow when we go out she has a million stories of her having tried this restaurant with so and so . But when I ask her she’ll be like, nope I don’t feel like eating . Etc . With other people she makes effort but it seems like with me she takes me for granted

So once I stopped the one sided effort , the friendship died.

And she still say I’m her friend , so close that I’m family.

I would always make excuse that She’s just busy or hate texting , or has hw or being an aqua etc

But actually, she does stuff with her bf n his friends , her work friends etc .

Now that I step away and looking at her , I’m not sure if I know her anymore .

Me , personally though , I no longer find value in a friend that’s never there . Even if I values the people I let in and been friends with me for years , and once told each other everything and have great memories, sometime all those years aren’t worth saving and easier to just move on and find new friends who are on the same level of what you expect in a friendship .

And seriously when a Virgo move on , we move on .

Maybe she’ll miss me one day , maybe she’s indifferent .

Either way I gave her a year to ask if I was okay . Or say sorry I haven’t been around . But nothing Sad always thought aqua and Virgo could be friends forever , guess not

Done with my rant lol 😂 thank guys

I'm a Virgo moon and I had this same issue with an Aquarius moon friend of 20 years that I recently ended a friendship with. Good riddance. 👏

Edit: I just realized you're an aqua moon not a poke at you lol. Just funny how these two energies don't mix well. My aqua venus is also not fond of virgo venus long term.
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Lol the funny thing is I think she’s a Virgo moon
Posted by coldwateryvirgo

Posted by Onimusha01

Yeahh... here goes my story with My friend Virgo.... And dont take it in a bad way...

My Virgo friend is annoying, he is just like you, he wants to be with me like gum on my shoe, we aquas, we are your friend but when we feel someone is suffocating us, or someone is too intense, or too negative, or too much of whatever... we can love you dearly but we will not want you around all the time.

My friend he acts better than a boyfriend, and he will be there for anything even when I dont need him, or want to... He feels bc he is there for me all the time, I should be with him better than the rest of my friends, bc as he does so many things for me just for the sake, he assume he is my only best friend. and The rest of my friends dont care about me. So, Now I keep him on the edge.... I dont see him as much, I dont answer his msgs for days, I make plans with my other friends, and I make excuses not to see him sometimes even tho I will just be home doing nothing.

Other thing is, if we consider you our friend, no matter if we dont see each other regularly, I will be there for my friends if they need me. Of course, for my real friends. Not the ones who just reach out to me when they need me.

Hey there , love the other perspective . For me i think in ny case is different friendship needs . For example, if I need a friend who is around more . I would go and find a friend that would be around more . The only reason I stayed around with this friend is that we were on the same page and great friend for the first 5 years or so . So I stayed and try to make it work since bond already formed .

If I was making new friend n knew that friend has a high affinity for person space from the beginning , I wouldn’t have allowed myself to get close to where I would hope I could count on them when I needed them .

On a side note , Virgo don’t cling to people , they tend to be quite independent. If your friend is of the opposite sex, I would suspect that he secretly likes you
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okay, I understand a little bit better now, so, have you tried to tell this friend how you feel tho? what she has to say?
Friendship of 7 years with an Aqua is ending?

This has 'Uranus transit' written all over it