Getting my stuff back from virgo ex boyfriend

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by prplhayesr on Thursday, April 4, 2013 and has 86 replies.
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here is the email thread re: stuff at his house.
me, 3/7 Please let me know when I can come pick up my stuff. I prefer you not be there, if you could leave it somewhereFrom this point out, I absolutely do not want any further contact with you
him, 3/17 R u in the area?
me, 3/17 No, I am not.
him, 3/17 Ok
me, 3/17 I spoke with Cindy, to make things easier you can drop my stuff by her house on Bradlee. Maybe one day this week when you drop Tyler off
him, 3/17 Ok
me, 3/17 Thanks, I think the only things left are, my leather head rests to my third row, Open House Signs, car matts and pajamas
him, 3/17, I forgot about those things do really want the signs now?If u want I can bring them to Cindy but they r heavy! U have a spare car key,PJ`s,headrest,a winter coat,your step stool ,a pair of gloves,an i think thats it.Did u block my phone number?I tried texting u ?????????????????????
me, 3/18, Whatever is easier for you, if you want to drop stuff off now and signs later, that would be fine. Step stool? winter coat you can donate. Yes, I did block you.
me, 4/2 Just wondering when you can drop my things off at Cindy's? She is going on vacation on 4/10 so, anytime between now and then if you can.
him, 4/2 I will drop it on thursday
me, 4/2 ok thanks, I will let her know, around what time
him, 4/2 Between 8 - 8:30pm
me, 4/2 great, someone should be there
him, 4/2 you want ur signs too?
me, 4/2 yes, please
him, 4/2 ok
him, 4/4 any chance you can receive ur stuff at lunch today. I'll bring it to u?
me, 4/4 I am at a training today
him, 4/4 Ok
Let me see what makes sense... hmmm drive 30 minutes to bring stuff to my job or drive 5 minutes around the corner from his house...
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He is trying to see you. He is obviously trying to contact through text. Plain and simple he wants to see you, could be what OP asked or not.
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OMG!!!! This again?!? We Virgo's have given you all we can. Go to your sign's forum and meander there.
Your issue is not a virgo related issue. It is an interpersonal issue between your ex boyfriend and you. Nothing more.
I hope you get the answers you seek but I will say this again it has nothing to do with him being a Virgo.
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Ok, I blocked miamivirgo, aagghh looking for positive comments not negative. Thanks sweetlibra and lioness. I am not sure what his deal is...he needs to come 100% or not at all..
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Posted by miamivirgo
OMG!!!! This again?!? We Virgo's have given you all we can. Go to your sign's forum and meander there.
Your issue is not a virgo related issue. It is an interpersonal issue between your ex boyfriend and you. Nothing more.
I hope you get the answers you seek but I will say this again it has nothing to do with him being a Virgo.




You blocked Miami Virgo for saying this^^^^^^^^^^^???? Seriously? So you are actually here just to listen to what you want to hear, not the truth? C'mon now, how logical is that?
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Posted by prplhayesr
Ok, I blocked miamivirgo, aagghh looking for positive comments not negative. Thanks sweetlibra and lioness. I am not sure what his deal is...he needs to come 100% or not at all..



He did come 100% and has told you it's over. It's clear in the e-mails you shared. As bizarre as it came down, why would you ever want to be someone like this that dropped an A-bomb on you?
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meant be WITH someone...
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letitb, truth is fine. being mean is not.. everyone has had some valid points. I am trying to look at the entire picture from when this first started with buying the house until now. Actions speak louder than words.
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Speaking of that e-mail you shared, I have to tell you this part right here:
"An thats why it`s not all about looks. Do you remember when I said to you.You have until 12/12/12 to fit in that dress well guess what I stuck to it .An yes you got pregnant so I gave you an extension till February."

WTF? What a shallow asshole he is! I mean what man gives a woman a deadline after giving birth to lose wait??? Do you really want to be with someone like this?? That is just WRONG! You are better off without him.
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True, that is hurtful.. I actually miscarried.
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Posted by prplhayesr
letitb, truth is fine. being mean is not.. everyone has had some valid points. I am trying to look at the entire picture from when this first started with buying the house until now. Actions speak louder than words.



Yea, ok, lose 100 pounds, maybe, just maybe he'll give you another look.
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Posted by prplhayesr
True, that is hurtful.. I actually miscarried.



OMG...I am so sorry!Sad That just makes me despise this Virgo more. How long after the miscarriage did he drop the bomb?
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Posted by LetltB
Speaking of that e-mail you shared, I have to tell you this part right here:
"An thats why it`s not all about looks. Do you remember when I said to you.You have until 12/12/12 to fit in that dress well guess what I stuck to it .An yes you got pregnant so I gave you an extension till February."

WTF? What a shallow asshole he is! I mean what man gives a woman a deadline after giving birth to lose wait??? Do you really want to be with someone like this?? That is just WRONG! You are better off without him.


If the VIrgo gave me that kind of ultimatum i would tell him Straight up, you got two months to increase your penis size because im done dealing with a boy. I feel like a pedophile.
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lol...now that's good! Big Grin
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I miscarried in March 2012, I got dumped 2/10/13. baahahahahah at cluelesscancer
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I just realized instead of lose weight I typed lose "wait"..lol
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Posted by prplhayesr
I miscarried in March 2012, I got dumped 2/10/13. baahahahahah at cluelesscancer




So, I don't mean to get personal here, but he gave you until Feb. 2013 to lose the weight? Did you lose it? (NOT THAT IT MATTERS!!! I'm just trying now to get into this Virgo's head, although I believe I have a good clue) I'm very sorry about your miscarriage, I went through that too, and oh boy that's a memory you just never forget..
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thanks letitb, strange enough, I have no idea who that person is who wrote that email. That was not the person I knew for 6 years.
The person I knew was always very very good to me. He had/has planned our vacations for 6 years and paid for them. I would just get the rental car. Always thoughtful. The kind of person who calls his mom at 8pm everynight to make sure she is OK. The kind of person who just took me and his Mom to the Bahamas. He felt his mother was getting older, and wanted her to have a nice trip because he knows she is aging. Makes sure his Dad who is in a nursing home is taken care of. Great father, who sits down and does homework with his son. Attends his son's activities and etc. Any jewerly I rec'd, he always took his time to make sure it was something different. We attended any Jazz Festival, any movie I wanted to see, because I have to see the movie the first weekend it comes out. Any fair that would come to town. wash my car, change my windshield wipers, change my floor matts. The list goes on.....................
Yes, I have lost weight and am looking damn good... at least that is what people are telling me.
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Posted by prplhayesr
thanks letitb, strange enough, I have no idea who that person is who wrote that email. That was not the person I knew for 6 years.
The person I knew was always very very good to me. He had/has planned our vacations for 6 years and paid for them. I would just get the rental car. Always thoughtful. The kind of person who calls his mom at 8pm everynight to make sure she is OK. The kind of person who just took me and his Mom to the Bahamas. He felt his mother was getting older, and wanted her to have a nice trip because he knows she is aging. Makes sure his Dad who is in a nursing home is taken care of. Great father, who sits down and does homework with his son. Attends his son's activities and etc. Any jewerly I rec'd, he always took his time to make sure it was something different. We attended any Jazz Festival, any movie I wanted to see, because I have to see the movie the first weekend it comes out. Any fair that would come to town. wash my car, change my windshield wipers, change my floor matts. The list goes on.....................
Yes, I have lost weight and am looking damn good... at least that is what people are telling me.



Wow..the middle paragraph IS very Virgo. I don't know what to tell you other than what most are saying. That is there is someone out there for you and you'll know it when he finds you. Obviously, you have the emotions to deal with getting over this very hurtful situation and it will get better as time goes on. Regarding the weight..if you did it for you..GREAT! Don't EVER let anyone tell you how to be or how to look. You do for yourself what makes YOU happy. When you're happy, it shows in all aspects. Get your belongings from this guy, get it over with and try to move on. I wish you luck!
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The weight loss is for me, Stella needs to get her groove back..... and wants to look good doing it... yes, that middle paragraph was him up until the time he broke up with me.
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prplhayesr..... are u cluelesscancer?
Maybe he wants to see you....or he was around your office area.
Back then..I still missed my exes even when I was the one who ended. Miss but won't be together, weird.
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no, I am not cluelesscancer..
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I am not blocked but I am interested to know how you keep thinking this is a Virgo issue. The guy's a jerk. The advice I gave you in the previous topic you started was ingnored so let me ask you again what do you want from us?
How to get your stuff back or How to get this guy to talk to you? Either way we simply have no magical powers to deliver on either.
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I pulled this up from your other thread Virgo Man and Breaking Up
Posted by prplhayesr
The reason why I never bought it was not that I didn`t love enough or I wanted u to loose weight it was because I just didn`t have the feeling enough to take that leap.I think you are a better looking girl than Nicole .But some how I have a feeling about her. Not to say I will marry her but it is possible.I think your better looking but their is a different feeling.


Your weight had nothing to do with it.
Your looks had nothing to do with it.
He admitted that you were way more attractive than Nicole.
Your relationship was missing that 'emotional' factor he saw in Nicole.
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d this in your last thread....
Posted by TaurusBull1977
I don't think this is an astrology dilemma.

You were very good to him. He felt the need to reciprocate it. (Which is why he treated you decent during the six year relationship). He tried to feel an emotional connection towards you, but the feelings never kicked in. He hoped as time passed, the admiration, and respect would eventually lead to love...but it never did.
I'm guessing this is why you were blind-sighted.
He was simply passing time with you.
Posted by prplhayesr
Now he tells me he met someone, that she is not as pretty as me but, he has a good feeling about her. Not that he will marry her but, that it is possible. WTF?????


Hmmm...I don't believe he just met her. She was in the picture for quite some time. He may feel an emotional connection to her. Who knows? This woman may have also been the catalyst to terminate the relationship so abruptly and surprisingly. The emotional connection he felt for her may have been his 'wake up' call for the lack of emotion he felt for you.
I hope everything works out for you.
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He's not prolonging it.
But you are.
It's that simple really.
Instead of looking for indirect ways to get your belongings.
Just go there and get it!
I'm sure you will be just fine smile
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What a dick....he needs to be junk punched repeatedly!!!
I'm sorry for your loss ...that's a horrible experience to go thru.
You are totally better off without him ...you may not see it now..but you will!
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Posted by CluelessCancer
Posted by LetltB
Speaking of that e-mail you shared, I have to tell you this part right here:
"An thats why it`s not all about looks. Do you remember when I said to you.You have until 12/12/12 to fit in that dress well guess what I stuck to it .An yes you got pregnant so I gave you an extension till February."

WTF? What a shallow asshole he is! I mean what man gives a woman a deadline after giving birth to lose wait??? Do you really want to be with someone like this?? That is just WRONG! You are better off without him.


If the VIrgo gave me that kind of ultimatum i would tell him Straight up, you got two months to increase your penis size because im done dealing with a boy. I feel like a pedophile.
bahhahahahhhahah
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LMAO good one CC!!!
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Taurusbull, I have not prolonged anything, I asked to get my stuff March 7th, he did not get back to me until 3/17 asking was I in the neighborhood, which he knew I was not. I asked, since I live an hour and half away then, to drop off at a girlfriends that I could get from her when I see her. He did not do that. Then he wanted to travel to me Today to give to me at my place of employment, I am not having it.
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Posted by prplhayesr
here is the email thread re: stuff at his house.
me, 3/7 Please let me know when I can come pick up my stuff. I prefer you not be there, if you could leave it somewhereFrom this point out, I absolutely do not want any further contact with you


You know where he lives.
You know where to get your stuff.
Whether he's there or not is irrelevant.
Who waits to have their belongings sent to them, when they can drive to collect it?
GO and GET your belongings....
And terminate contact for GOOD!

As I stated earlier...
You're the one prolonging it.
You want him to continue to reach out to you.
Keep prolonging...
And you will find your items in the dumpster....
Or right at the sidewalk.

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You were with him for 6 years.
I'm sure you can dictate his movements/schedule like the back of your hand.
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he just dropped my stuff at my girlfriends, end of story. I did not prolong anything. He has rotating shift, so, I could not just get them, that is why I said leave somewhere.
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You have your belongings.
OK then....
Contact over....
Block him, change your phone number, and have all your mail forwarded to a new address.
No more communication needed.
Problem solved.
There shouldn't be any more threads....

You will do just fine smile
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I blocked his number and deactivated my facebook when this first happened. I left the email up only to get my things. As for email, I will leave that alone, as that has been my email for 10+ years. I have no reason to email him.
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Good for you smile
I know the process of getting over someone is difficult.
Personally, I don't think he should have lead you on for 6 years knowing he didn't feel an emotional connection towards you.
But is sure beats walking down the aisle, buying a home and living a life of one BIG lie.
He feels something deeply for this woman.
The sooner you accept it...
The sooner you can move on.
Your weight and looks had nothing to do with it.
Remember this!
In time you will heal....
...And he will be referred to as "What's his name..."?
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I guess he tried talking to my girlfriend about me but, she gave him the cold shoulder. Told her he changed jobs and put in a transfer and asked about me, how I was doing and etc.
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TaurusBull, stop and think and don't be so heartless...I guess you've never been through a breakup. She can make as many threads as she wants, these threads help to process things that she is feeling. Just because he is gone from her life doesn't mean he is gone from her heart, that takes time and people like you stabbing at her all the time don't help. If you nothing encouraging to say except pointing out the truth the way you are doing then don't bother commenting. She needs to experience all the different emotions to get her through and that means to talk about it over and over.. but tell me what does twisting the knife in her heart do??
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This is from virgoking,
I don't know the time of your birth so I can't go into deep but looking at this chart I can see a lot of power struggles and both of you guys, both of you do not understand each others feelings. Both of your mars are square each other this show power struggle can also indicate miss understanding sexually. Both of your moons which represents your emotion are at odds with each other. He is more immature and light with his emotions and a big talker. You are more serious than him you are also a introvert at times and take things more seriously than he does. The only reason why I can see you guys were together is because your south node is connected to his venus, which in astrology represent a past love. When you to first saw each other it might seem like you knew each other before, and the connection was extremely strong. Some astrologers say the node person feels held back and wants to leave but I believe its more the planet person meaning him. his venus was tired but trust me he still misses you and so do you.
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Well, this morning I get my stuff from my girlfriend that my ex drops off and I guess he forgot 2 of the 5 things, which are my leather head rests to my third row and my floor matts. Yep, I am prolonging things.
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Sometimes..we don't realize that the person we're with is not the one that we want to spend the rest of lives with. I don't think he led her on, it just bamm...happened. Feelings can change or he has his reason for not wanting to continue.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Good for you smile

Personally, I don't think he should have lead you on for 6 years knowing he didn't feel an emotional connection towards you.

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wait...he mentioned that he didn't feel an emotional connection? whoops didn't read the whole story!
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NO, he did not say he did not have an emotional connection with me.
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Posted by sweethearts
TaurusBull, stop and think and don't be so heartless...I guess you've never been through a breakup. She can make as many threads as she wants, these threads help to process things that she is feeling. ?


I wasn't being heartless.
I empathized with her break-up with her Virgo.
And yes, I have been through countless difficult break-ups before.
But I realized...
The hardest and 1st step to deal with a break up...
Is to simply accept it!
He verbalized it.
He was honest about his feelings (Which I felt he should have stated this 6 years ago, when the emotions weren't kicking in).
As far as I'm concerned...he gave her closure...a detailed explanation about his actions and feelings towards her via email.
It's over!
Yes.
Break ups suck!
But it's reality.
Welcome to life.
But posting threads discussing her belongings and texts/emails is not going to give her the closure she needs.
This will simply prolong it.
This is why I advised her to just go to his residence, pick up her belongings and simply close that chapter!
He's gone.
He's moved on.
It's over!

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Posted by sweethearts
If you nothing encouraging to say except pointing out the truth the way you are doing then don't bother commenting.


Truth
Please read his email below and pay attention to the words that are bolded.
Posted by prplhayesr
You asked me to marry you one day. An I said no( I have to ask you). Right then an their I knew that wasn`t the reason. An I should have been honest with you an said I didn`t feel it.You once said to me why won`t you marry me and I should of told you. But I never had the heart to tell you because you was so good to me.I think I was trying be optimistic an hope that the felling would come one day but the truth of the matter is you feel it in the very beginning.Do you remember the day I saw the prettiest ring an I sent u the picture of it .The reason why I never bought it was not that I didn`t love enough or I wanted u to loose weight it was because I just didn`t have the feeling enough to take that leap.I think you are a better looking girl than Nicole .But some how I have a feeling about her. Not to say I will marry her but it is possible.I think your better looking but their is a different feeling.An the Lord is my witness it`s not the devil`s work. That comes from the heart.An thats why it`s not all about looks. Do you remember when I said to you.You have until 12/12/12 to fit in that dress well guess what I stuck to it .An yes you got pregnant so I gave you an extension till February.But I would have found another excuse if u lost the weight.You always said to me [you don`t want to marry me] an you was right I just never had the heart to tell you because you was so good me an I believed the Lord did send you to me. I always wanted it to work but I couldn`t get that doubt out of my head.It is hard to live without you but deep down inside I knew this day would come and you an I would hurt for from my decision. I tried for a long time to tell myself you was the one but somethiing deep in side would stop me an the biggest excuse I could come up with was( I`ve been hurt before) that was always my way out. An I should have never looked for a way out.But I always looked for a way out.An that was the problem I should never had looked for a way out.But because you was so good to me I couldn`t help but try to ge go
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Again, I have not prolonged anything... I asked about 2 of things he forgot to drop off and this is his response:
Sorry forgot that stuff. When ur ready let me no.I rather u call me thou. No hurry take ur time.
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Posted by prplhayesr
I am not sure what his deal is...he needs to come 100% or not at all..


^^This is what she's looking for....

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Posted by prplhayesr
Again, I have not prolonged anything... I asked about 2 of things he forgot to drop off and this is his response:
Sorry forgot that stuff. When ur ready let me no.I rather u call me thou. No hurry take ur time.



Honestly.
I feel real bad for you.
I think he should have told you this 6 years ago.
But somehow because you seem like a good person, he couldn't bring himself to do it.
This speaks magnitudes about how great you are.
I'm sure this is why he chose to be with you for so long.
I wasn't attempting to be harsh.
I just wanted you to accept it, move on and find peace.
I feel this 'pick-up-belongings' idea is just a 'distraction' to prevent you from accepting the fact that your relationship is over.
Close the chapter and find someone who can love you and appreciate YOU, YOU and YOU!
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If you're not ready to move on....
I suggest you GO to his residence, pick up the rest of your belongings, confront him, get it off your chest...

And then find closure for yourself.


I really DO hope that everything works out for you.
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A guy like that deserves a kick in his groin..seriously. Did you do that? He's selfish. I won't even want to have back my stuff & see his face again if I were in the same place. Move on fast prplhayesr. It's difficult I know. We're different but my feelings for the guy will change completely if this happens to me..and I will forget abt the stuff left.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Posted by sweethearts
If you nothing encouraging to say except pointing out the truth the way you are doing then don't bother commenting.


Truth
Please read his email below and pay attention to the words that are bolded.
Posted by prplhayesr
You asked me to marry you one day. An I said no( I have to ask you). Right then an their I knew that wasn`t the reason. An I should have been honest with you an said I didn`t feel it.You once said to me why won`t you marry me and I should of told you. But I never had the heart to tell you because you was so good to me.I think I was trying be optimistic an hope that the felling would come one day but the truth of the matter is you feel it in the very beginning.Do you remember the day I saw the prettiest ring an I sent u the picture of it .The reason why I never bought it was not that I didn`t love enough or I wanted u to loose weight it was because I just didn`t have the feeling enough to take that leap.I think you are a better looking girl than Nicole .But some how I have a feeling about her. Not to say I will marry her but it is possible.I think your better looking but their is a different feeling.An the Lord is my witness it`s not the devil`s work. That comes from the heart.An thats why it`s not all about looks. Do you remember when I said to you.You have until 12/12/12 to fit in that dress well guess what I stuck to it .An yes you got pregnant so I gave you an extension till February.But I would have found another excuse if u lost the weight.You always said to me [you don`t want to marry me] an you was right I just never had the heart to tell you because you was so good me an I believed the Lord did send you to me. I always wanted it to work but I couldn`t get that doubt out of my head.It is hard to live without you but deep down inside I knew th
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After he dropped my stuff off to my girlfriend, he tells her that he put in a transfer on his job, that he has been at 23 years. I think I told you on this post, he turned 50 end of August. I think he is having a mid life crisis. Get rid of the girlfriend of 6 years, now leave a place you have known for 23 years. All of this in a months time. Those are two huge changes close together.
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