Guaranteed unconditional love. Would you stay?
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Herself on Wednesday, September 4, 2013 and has 27 replies.
Just a hypothetical thought. If you were with someone/friends with someone that loved you and you had a guarantee that love would be forever and unconditional, would you be with/stay with that person if you didn't love them "like that" in return?
uncoditional love... does such thing trully exist? I??ve been in alot of relationships, and if someone told me ??I??ll love you forever, I want to be the one you wake up to every day and smile, I will give my all to make this work because i know that you will do the same... I love you.?? If someone were to tell me that... I would move mountains to be with someone like that. Unconditional love is the most sexy, most magnetic and ellusive factor in any relationship. So yeah i would, with out thinking it twice.
No. If I'm not burning for that person I would only end up bored, miserable, and always wondering what might be beyond the horizon of if there's a greener pasture somewhere I'm missing out on. A relationship like that would become a suffocating prison, a gilded cage.
I just wonder if the risk of getting hurt is worth the trade off of settling
Posted by Herself
I just wonder if the risk of getting hurt is worth the trade off of settling
Never settle. If that??s how you view it, as settling, then it wouldnt be fair to you or the other person.
I think I would take an aching hole in my chest with a few good memories and knowing that I'm alive over dying inside because of the numbing emptiness.
...But I also seem to be a glutton for punishment.
...But I also seem to be a glutton for punishment.
I'm on the other end of this situation. I love him unconditionally . It's a kind of true love I never experienced. We can't be together because he's sick. I will always love him no matter what.. He didn't choose to work it out together with me ( fighting through his sickness together) as he claimed I deserve better . My love has not stopped since and I don't know if it will ever. I just want the best for him and if living life without me is what makes him happy then i won't push for it as my love for him doesn't die. So to answer your question if a guy has such deep love for me and unconditional I will probably settle with him unless I love someone else then that's unfair.. Follow your heart ... 
Posted by Mr. Defense
I don't believe in unconditional love, so the answer to that question is "no". IF someone offered me unconditional love, it would never work, because I only surround myself with people who live in reality.
just because you have not experienced it does not mean it does not exist.
Posted by Mr. DefensePosted by SunTauVenGemPosted by Mr. Defense
I don't believe in unconditional love, so the answer to that question is "no". IF someone offered me unconditional love, it would never work, because I only surround myself with people who live in reality.
just because you have not experienced it does not mean it does not exist.
It doesn't exist, nor should it. Love should have conditions and standards.click to expand
unconditional doesn't mean no standard. It's similar to how you love your kids. You want the best for them and love them regardless whether they r poor, rich, sick, dying whatever. It doesn't mean I put up with his crap and allow him to treat me like shit. Not everyone experience it but people that do will understand what I mean.
Posted by SunTauVenGem
I'm on the other end of this situation. I love him unconditionally . It's a kind of true love I never experienced. We can't be together because he's sick. I will always love him no matter what.. He didn't choose to work it out together with me ( fighting through his sickness together) as he claimed I deserve better . My love has not stopped since and I don't know if it will ever. I just want the best for him and if living life without me is what makes him happy then i won't push for it as my love for him doesn't die. So to answer your question if a guy has such deep love for me and unconditional I will probably settle with him unless I love someone else then that's unfair.. Follow your heart ...
Absolutely beautiful
There is a person that I love unconditionally. He knows this. We can't be together for quite a few reasons but that doesn't mean I'm his door mat.
Loving him means letting him go. I want him happy healthy and fulfilled even if it's not with me. Seeing him happy is worth more to me than not hurting. I will support him in his successes and comfort him in his losses. .even if it is from afar.
I have felt this way for him for years..and just recently got the courage to tell him. I was petrified to tell him bc it left me so vulnerable. .but I did and won't take it back.
I have someone that says they feel the same way for me... idk if it's true though bc he has shown me otherwise. In any cass.. I don't feel the same and truly am settling.
It can be a double edged sword but none the less is the type of love that is like none other.
Loving him means letting him go. I want him happy healthy and fulfilled even if it's not with me. Seeing him happy is worth more to me than not hurting. I will support him in his successes and comfort him in his losses. .even if it is from afar.
I have felt this way for him for years..and just recently got the courage to tell him. I was petrified to tell him bc it left me so vulnerable. .but I did and won't take it back.
I have someone that says they feel the same way for me... idk if it's true though bc he has shown me otherwise. In any cass.. I don't feel the same and truly am settling.
It can be a double edged sword but none the less is the type of love that is like none other.
No.
Posted by LovesickCancer
True love is always both sided.
That's rather romanticized and not necessarily true.
I would say if someone's affections are dependent on reciprocation from another then that would not be true love. If I love someone those feelings aren't diminished just because the one I feel them for might choose to hate my guts. Sometimes we really do have to love someone enough to let them go and just be happy that they can find happiness, even if it is with another person.
Posted by LovesickCancer
True love is always both sided.
false to a tea.
^^^ TMV and Shorti knows what I am talking about . It's loving another with no conditions.. It kills me that I don't hear from him because I don't know If he is ok... I just want to see him happy even thats with or without me...Hes my first ever true love..I will always keep the great memories of us together.. I do feel that obstacles create true love.. Separation creats stronger bond and deeper connection... It doesn't fade over time .. If it does , it was never true ...
^^ Shorti . Congratulations on telling him. !!
There's no such thing as unconditional love .... every person on this planet has standards in which they need to be treated.
Posted by LovesickCancer
I'm not talking about love I'm talking about one true love. If you love someone enough to let them go are you going to pine for them forever and stay single, or are you going to move on knowing that you love that person and the person you're with (now or in the future) is not the one for you. Don't you think that that person deserves to be with their true love, and it's selfish to be with someone if you know you could never love them the same. Would you be happy with someone knowing that there's someone they love more than you.
Everyone loves but they also love again even when they think they never will again, what I'm saying is your true love (in my opinion), when you meet each other it will just work, you will love each other as much as each other, love each other the most, and it will last.
Sure there's first loves, the first one to hurt you, the one that got away, the one you only loved after they've gone and all that, it's just that I don't believe that you could lose your true love and be doomed not to love again, I'm too optimistic and too romantic.
Nice thoughts but not all of us get to have the fairytale happily ever after. I guess you'll just have to work with your definition and I'll stick to mine.
I don't believe in fairy tale happy endings as a reality.
I just see what people go trough in relationships and if there's a good person who will love you to no end, then maybe it's worth trying it/sticking it out. Idk...
I just see what people go trough in relationships and if there's a good person who will love you to no end, then maybe it's worth trying it/sticking it out. Idk...
Unconditional love means you love them regardless of the condition thats going on. They cold be sexing your mother and you still love them unchanged. Its the love that God offers to us so its the love that feels best when we offer it to others. My love is unconditional.
It might be out of the topic, but agape(love for humanity) is so unconditional.
Love is never guaranteed to be forever ... never has been, and anyone who wishes to believe this is living in la-la-land
The only constant in life is change. What this means is there's nothing in life and love that is unconditional.
Two people will come together initially because of an attraction. This attraction will either grow, stagnate, or die altogether. But regardless of what path people end up taking, there only exists choices that will keep them together; when someone stops making decisions to work on their love and relationship, it will fail regardless of status.
Two people will come together initially because of an attraction. This attraction will either grow, stagnate, or die altogether. But regardless of what path people end up taking, there only exists choices that will keep them together; when someone stops making decisions to work on their love and relationship, it will fail regardless of status.
I have loved an aquarius man unconditionally and it left me hurt unconditionally too. He left me, against what I wanted, due to my virgo style of anger which was me verbally expressing myself in the worst way of what I thought he was doing to me. I still am very much in love with him, but I've accepted him leaving me because I have given everything of myself and it still was not good enough.
If not in love, no, do not accept it, because you will end up hurt in the end. It isn't fair. It's not living either, eventually the one who isn't in love would seek true love outside the relationship.
If not in love, no, do not accept it, because you will end up hurt in the end. It isn't fair. It's not living either, eventually the one who isn't in love would seek true love outside the relationship.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by P-Angel
There's no such thing as unconditional love .... every person on this planet has standards in which they need to be treated.
very true, but Virgos give up on people too easily.click to expand
Not all virgos give up easily. I stuck it out for 13 years with an aries man in a marriage that was a slow descent to an eventual failure. I have just exited a relationship with an aquarius man, where he ended it against my wishes, but I tried to hang on and try and try. Still waiting to see what happens next with my aqauman, He has left, but I haven't given up and hope for his return.
Posted by HungVirgo
Unconditional love means you love them regardless of the condition thats going on. They cold be sexing your mother and you still love them unchanged. Its the love that God offers to us so its the love that feels best when we offer it to others. My love is unconditional.
+1.
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