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Apr 15, 2019Comments: 0 · Posts: 149 · Topics: 10
So my Virgal's ex is taking her to family court over visitation of their son. They have had a verbal arrangement for years now, but he rarely follows up on it. He moved into his girlfriend's house and my Virgal's 10yr old boy has to share a room with a 9 yr old girl and isn't comfortable with it The father is in the middle of a remodel and rather have a large game than add another bedroom... Shows how little he cares.
Anyway, cuz of this little spat, he is taking her to court. I've been through 4 years of custody stuff w/ my boys, so I tried to explain that though are situations are different, that I understand what she is going through and I'd be there to help if she needed anything. She is surprising open and honest about what is going on, despite being so early in our relationship
So, I've got new questions:
1) Is there anything I can do to help keep her from letting her anxieties get the best of her?
2) What should/shouldn't I do to help her?
I don't want to get inappropriately involved, since it's not my kid, but also want to help her however I can. She needs a $ 2500 retainer for an attorney... she is looking for a new job, as her boss no longer needs a nanny.
I know she doesn't have that kind of money or any family that does. Thing is, I do and and am tempted to help her. However, I'm worried she will always feel I have that over her and she might resent it or feel obligated to me. I never want to put anything between us. Should I help her?
3) Do I just keep talking to her when she gets distant, but give her space when she isn't being talkative? Do I continue like I always do and act normal or just kind of let her control the flow of the conversation?
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
Not much you can control here.
Maybe take her out to lunch and get her a massage or nails done or some kinda pampering so she can feel more relaxed.