Guys who assume you are interested . . .
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Virgo_Innamorato on Tuesday, February 13, 2007 and has 10 replies.
Do any other female Virgos sometimes have this dilema?
I like to be nice to everyone. Unless they have done somthing to me, I feel as though everyone deserves a little pleasentry. In the male department, I am usually nice to every guy unless they are really cocky or rude to me. However, throughout my life I have noticed that many guys confuse being nice to them as being interested in them. I have a boyfriend whom I have no desire to leave, but it sometimes feels like if you turn a guy down nicely . . . because you are in a relationship or what-not, but it's like they think you are still interested unless you turn them down in a rude way or totally ignore them. The only guys I have never had this problem with are male friends I have had for years and my boyfriend's friends.
How do you be nice to a guy or make a new friend of the opposite sex without them thinking you are sexually or romantically interested in them?
I like to be nice to everyone. Unless they have done somthing to me, I feel as though everyone deserves a little pleasentry. In the male department, I am usually nice to every guy unless they are really cocky or rude to me. However, throughout my life I have noticed that many guys confuse being nice to them as being interested in them. I have a boyfriend whom I have no desire to leave, but it sometimes feels like if you turn a guy down nicely . . . because you are in a relationship or what-not, but it's like they think you are still interested unless you turn them down in a rude way or totally ignore them. The only guys I have never had this problem with are male friends I have had for years and my boyfriend's friends.
How do you be nice to a guy or make a new friend of the opposite sex without them thinking you are sexually or romantically interested in them?
You cause your own dilemna, than come in here an act all innocent like you did nothing wrong and want someone to tell you, "Men are just that way" .. so you can continue to flirt and make yourself look sleazy without holding yourself accountable for any morals at all?
This seems to be a pattern with Virgo's. They hold thierselves high, yet, present themselves low.
"The only guys I have never had this problem with are male friends I have had for years and my boyfriend's friends"
The ONLY guys?
The ones that are suppose to be your FRIENDS you've had for years?
The ones that are you're bf friends?
All women have male friends and the only ones of these male friends who think that their female friends are sexually attracted to them are the females who are BEHAVING as such ..
Let's see: Tell them it's only platonic? We're talking about friends who have been there for YEARS .. are they retarded? Or, are you jacking them up?
Geeezzzzz, get real .. if you're gonna wiggle your ass in front of someone you shouldn't, then pay the price of having NO real male friends to enjoy, and quit bitching about 'chaos' you created for yourself.
This seems to be a pattern with Virgo's. They hold thierselves high, yet, present themselves low.
"The only guys I have never had this problem with are male friends I have had for years and my boyfriend's friends"
The ONLY guys?
The ones that are suppose to be your FRIENDS you've had for years?
The ones that are you're bf friends?
All women have male friends and the only ones of these male friends who think that their female friends are sexually attracted to them are the females who are BEHAVING as such ..
Let's see: Tell them it's only platonic? We're talking about friends who have been there for YEARS .. are they retarded? Or, are you jacking them up?
Geeezzzzz, get real .. if you're gonna wiggle your ass in front of someone you shouldn't, then pay the price of having NO real male friends to enjoy, and quit bitching about 'chaos' you created for yourself.
"just stop the pleasantries for a moment and make it clear. I know I would appreciate it, instead of being mislead..."
Ding, ding, ding, ding .........
Ding, ding, ding, ding .........
Virgogotme, gttommy & dyrstr8z,
Thank you for your advice. Also, this is like the third thread I have started that P-Angel has just been all totally nasty on acting like she knows everything about the situation. I don't even think I have ever even said one word to her!!! I haven't been on here for very long, so decided to stay out of all the P-Angel hate threads, but my God, what the hell is wrong with her??!?!?!
She always quotes me and then responds with something that makes totally no sense. It's like she is so eager to belittle a someone that she doesnt even read the post effectively!
"Let's see: Tell them it's only platonic? We're talking about friends who have been there for YEARS .. are they retarded? Or, are you jacking them up?"
Does that make ANY sense?!?!? Did I not state that I do NOT have this problem with my long-term friends or my boyfriends friends?!?! She even copied my exact quote and still got it all wrong.
Thank you for your advice. Also, this is like the third thread I have started that P-Angel has just been all totally nasty on acting like she knows everything about the situation. I don't even think I have ever even said one word to her!!! I haven't been on here for very long, so decided to stay out of all the P-Angel hate threads, but my God, what the hell is wrong with her??!?!?!
She always quotes me and then responds with something that makes totally no sense. It's like she is so eager to belittle a someone that she doesnt even read the post effectively!
"Let's see: Tell them it's only platonic? We're talking about friends who have been there for YEARS .. are they retarded? Or, are you jacking them up?"
Does that make ANY sense?!?!? Did I not state that I do NOT have this problem with my long-term friends or my boyfriends friends?!?! She even copied my exact quote and still got it all wrong.
Just an observation...
When I first got here P-Angel was very rude to me as she is to newcomers, but since she was one of the oldies, some other posters would follow along with her put downs. Now that she has been discovered how mean and deceitful she has been, some people are seeing her reality!
Why is it that once a person is busted those that at one point allied with said person (even if she was evil from the very beginning) did not take a stand from the beginning on how offensive she was to others and tolerated her misbehavior?
Just my humble thoughts, that is all...
When I first got here P-Angel was very rude to me as she is to newcomers, but since she was one of the oldies, some other posters would follow along with her put downs. Now that she has been discovered how mean and deceitful she has been, some people are seeing her reality!
Why is it that once a person is busted those that at one point allied with said person (even if she was evil from the very beginning) did not take a stand from the beginning on how offensive she was to others and tolerated her misbehavior?
Just my humble thoughts, that is all...
"I like to be nice to everyone. Unless they have done somthing to me, I feel as though everyone deserves a little pleasentry. In the male department, I am usually nice to every guy unless they are really chickeny or rude to me. However, throughout my life I have noticed that many guys confuse being nice to them as being interested in them. I have a boyfriend whom I have no desire to leave, but it sometimes feels like if you turn a guy down nicely . . . because you are in a relationship or what-not, but it's like they think you are still interested unless you turn them down in a rude way or totally ignore them. The only guys I have never had this problem with are male friends I have had for years and my boyfriend's friends"
No, you are completely right on. I have the exact problem, and it's not called being a tease at all. I think it's the way we were brought up, you have to be polite to everyone. Or it could just be a sheltered thing?? I'm not sure. But I USED to give guys my phone #, b/c I didn't want to be rude (I knew I wasn't interested at all!), I didn't know how to say no, then I started saying no to that, and would take the guy's #, knowing I would never call, lol, so now I try my hardest to make a happy medium, where a guy doesn't walk away feeling like crap...and that's exactly what you feel you have done to them right?
But no, girl, you are not the only one..I have learned that men can be very very persistent if you let them go easy. I think some men are raised that way, you have to go after what you want, or it will get away..we might just have to toughen up!!
No, you are completely right on. I have the exact problem, and it's not called being a tease at all. I think it's the way we were brought up, you have to be polite to everyone. Or it could just be a sheltered thing?? I'm not sure. But I USED to give guys my phone #, b/c I didn't want to be rude (I knew I wasn't interested at all!), I didn't know how to say no, then I started saying no to that, and would take the guy's #, knowing I would never call, lol, so now I try my hardest to make a happy medium, where a guy doesn't walk away feeling like crap...and that's exactly what you feel you have done to them right?
But no, girl, you are not the only one..I have learned that men can be very very persistent if you let them go easy. I think some men are raised that way, you have to go after what you want, or it will get away..we might just have to toughen up!! 
Dont you just hate when that happens...jeez....it happens to me all the time.
well, can't speak as a virgo but i can speak as a female.
i'm a very friendly female to both genders, to all ages from newborns to old prunes, to all ethnics and races, and sexuality.. i don't care... i treat and talk to all just about the same minus the goo goos gaa gaas. lol
i get hit on all the time, and the nicest way of telling a guy off without making him seem stupid (if he doesn't approach in a stupid, annoying, obnoxious, rude way.. etc) "awww. that's really sweet. i'm very flattered. my boyfriend/fiance/husband must be lucky to have me... *laugh a little* and say you're jk. Thank you."
it all depends on what kind of guy they are. if they don't get it, they are immature and just out to get laid, to get you, challenge to win you over *rolls eyes*.... so if they don't get it and is being rude, ignorant.. i am nice but i'm firm with my words. and say it with a smile... if that doesn't work, just be blunt to save anymore time.
but if you feel like a btch like i do at times when guys just holla rudely, just be rude, and ignore.
or just act like u don't hear and/or see them.
good luck girl!
i'm a very friendly female to both genders, to all ages from newborns to old prunes, to all ethnics and races, and sexuality.. i don't care... i treat and talk to all just about the same minus the goo goos gaa gaas. lol
i get hit on all the time, and the nicest way of telling a guy off without making him seem stupid (if he doesn't approach in a stupid, annoying, obnoxious, rude way.. etc) "awww. that's really sweet. i'm very flattered. my boyfriend/fiance/husband must be lucky to have me... *laugh a little* and say you're jk. Thank you."
it all depends on what kind of guy they are. if they don't get it, they are immature and just out to get laid, to get you, challenge to win you over *rolls eyes*.... so if they don't get it and is being rude, ignorant.. i am nice but i'm firm with my words. and say it with a smile... if that doesn't work, just be blunt to save anymore time.
but if you feel like a btch like i do at times when guys just holla rudely, just be rude, and ignore.
or just act like u don't hear and/or see them. good luck girl!
"or just act like u don't hear and/or see them. "
lol, yes, the "no eye contact" rule are words to live by! especially if you want to avoid being approached at all costs! my best friend taught me that
lol, yes, the "no eye contact" rule are words to live by! especially if you want to avoid being approached at all costs! my best friend taught me that
sometimes you dDO have to see him again...and again...and again....
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