Posted by virgoOPPP
reading this, i'd dump you too
too much pressure
Posted by pisceanlovesI thought about that also, but what threw me off was that he seemed excited about me coming to see him. He went as far as sending me love songs 2 weeks before my arrival. Thanks for your understanding.
You did nothing wrong, I just feel like he lost interest. Or he never cared to begin with, don't believe anyone who tells you you pressured him in any way, I don't see anything like that, now what I want to know is that why were you the only one to make trips to his town? it seems to me like you have been taken granted. Having questions is normal, especially when someone ignores you and doesn't clarify the situation. The only thing I didn't like was that you got pissed off, I'd too, again it's difficult to control one self when you care for someone, but making a point in a calm and relaxed manner would have been better. But I don't suppose that would have changed anything. From my point of view he had lost interest way before you got to his town and I believe there's more to the story, if you were to pay attention maybe you could have seen that coming. I'm sorry hun, sending you hugs.
Posted by SleepyquantroThank you
I'm sorry this happened to you! Even if he was no longer interested, he still should have shown some common decency and spent time with you until you left to go back home. Smh 🤦🏽♀️
That was extremely thoughtless! It's one thing if you lived close and he ghosted because he lost interest, but it's a completely diff ball game when someone spends money traveling to see you! This guy lacks integrity!
Posted by Sonia1Yes, we've been intimate before. This is someone that I have had dealings with for a while. He has always been open and honest in the past, so this one throws me off.
Have you been intimate before?
After you were intimate, he became distant and no response for 3 weeks.
Ouch
Posted by WeedsI don't think I reacted wrong in that situation. A bit of communication would have made the difference. He has communicated in the past about things he had to do, so what has changed? Three days by myself in a town where I don't know anyone but him and he all of a sudden chose not to communicate...he doesn't get a pass for that.
I will go back to my previous statement "maybe you just have poor taste in men"
jokes aside there could be so many issues with the reason he went distant.
Some may be reasonable and some maybe selfish... possibly didn't help that you got mad he went off by himself.
Posted by WeedsI don't think I reacted wrong in that situation. A bit of communication would have made the difference. He has communicated in the past about things he had to do, so what has changed? Three days by myself in a town where I don't know anyone but him and he all of a sudden chose not to communicate...he doesn't get a pass for that.
I will go back to my previous statement "maybe you just have poor taste in men"
jokes aside there could be so many issues with the reason he went distant.
Some may be reasonable and some maybe selfish... possibly didn't help that you got mad he went off by himself.
Posted by karebearPosted by WeedsI don't think I reacted wrong in that situation. A bit of communication would have made the difference. He has communicated in the past about things he had to do, so what has changed? Three days by myself in a town where I don't know anyone but him and he all of a sudden chose not to communicate...he doesn't get a pass for that.
I will go back to my previous statement "maybe you just have poor taste in men"
jokes aside there could be so many issues with the reason he went distant.
Some may be reasonable and some maybe selfish... possibly didn't help that you got mad he went off by himself.click to expand
Posted by SleepyquantroShe was so oblivious with the "how do you feel about me," he chickened out and took the easy out:Posted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.click to expand
Posted by SleepyquantroI don't think that his intent was to break up with me. He made it known what we had to talk about wasn't about us because he said we were good. Also, he said that he could see this going somewhere. The issue he discussed was about his child coming to live with him, which the details I will not discuss. However, this is not our first conversation about his child living with him. He had some concerns about her wellbeing on another trip. Plus, if he lied about what happened with her, I would consider him a sociopath. I don't feel like he lied about the situation, but I can see him having 2nd thoughts about me moving down there. However, when we communicate about things he has to do I always find things to do to occupy my time. He knows thisPosted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.click to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by SleepyquantroShe was so oblivious with the "how do you feel about me," he chickened out and took the easy out:Posted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.
"He said that we needed to talk. I wasn't expecting this to be good..."click to expand
Posted by karebearYour instincts were right... it's quite apparent now... isn't it?Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by SleepyquantroShe was so oblivious with the "how do you feel about me," he chickened out and took the easy out:Posted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.
"He said that we needed to talk. I wasn't expecting this to be good..."
He brought it up in the initial text that we needed to talk. At that point I hadn't asked him how he felt about me. I didn't think it was good either and he saw that on my face. That is when he said we were good. He then told me about his daughter and the issue. Me asking him about how he felt about me came much later in the conversation.click to expand
Posted by SleepyquantroA faux pas on his part but point remains the same... shortly after, no phone calls and he diappears.Posted by VenusAquariusI did notice that part, but once she mentioned her worries, he assured her that it wasn't anything she needed to worry about. I wouldn't assure someone nothing was wrong if I was going to break up with them. 🤷🏽♀️Posted by SleepyquantroShe was so oblivious with the "how do you feel about me," he chickened out and took the easy out:Posted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.
"He said that we needed to talk. I wasn't expecting this to be good..."click to expand
Posted by SleepyquantroElaborate please, for OP s and our sake lolPosted by karebearI didn't think he wanted to break up with you either, but idc what his reason was either way, completely unacceptable. It doesn't take much for someone to pick up a phone. You could have used that time off from work to take a real vacation but instead u went to see him, and he does that? (Bleep) noPosted by SleepyquantroI don't think that his intent was to break up with me. He made it known what we had to talk about wasn't about us because he said we were good. Also, he said that he could see this going somewhere. The issue he discussed was about his child coming to live with him, which the details I will not discuss. However, this is not our first conversation about his child living with him. He had some concerns about her wellbeing on another trip. Plus, if he lied about what happened with her, I would consider him a sociopath. I don't feel like he lied about the situation, but I can see him having 2nd thoughts about me moving down there. However, when we communicate about things he has to do I always find things to do to occupy my time. He knows thisPosted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.
From the way you talk, I already have I'm mind mind what I think happened with his daughter.click to expand
Posted by SleepyquantroNow I remembered her previous topic, where she spoke briefly about virgos daughter and his ex, all clear.Posted by pisceanlovesU mean the last part of my post? I won't say what I think, she hasn't mentioned it bc she doesn't want to publicize (I'm guessing) !Posted by SleepyquantroElaborate please, for OP s and our sake lolPosted by karebearI didn't think he wanted to break up with you either, but idc what his reason was either way, completely unacceptable. It doesn't take much for someone to pick up a phone. You could have used that time off from work to take a real vacation but instead u went to see him, and he does that? (Bleep) noPosted by SleepyquantroI don't think that his intent was to break up with me. He made it known what we had to talk about wasn't about us because he said we were good. Also, he said that he could see this going somewhere. The issue he discussed was about his child coming to live with him, which the details I will not discuss. However, this is not our first conversation about his child living with him. He had some concerns about her wellbeing on another trip. Plus, if he lied about what happened with her, I would consider him a sociopath. I don't feel like he lied about the situation, but I can see him having 2nd thoughts about me moving down there. However, when we communicate about things he has to do I always find things to do to occupy my time. He knows thisPosted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.
From the way you talk, I already have I'm mind mind what I think happened with his daughter.
I'm watching closely this topic
Sorry 😐, although doesn't mean that I'm right, just my thoughts 💭click to expand
Posted by SleepyquantroI will say this much; it's a bad situation when CPS is called. He was livid about the situation and I don't blame him. He really is a great Father and I know he doesn't play about his children.Posted by pisceanlovesU mean the last part of my post? I won't say what I think, she hasn't mentioned it bc she doesn't want to publicize (I'm guessing) !Posted by SleepyquantroElaborate please, for OP s and our sake lolPosted by karebearI didn't think he wanted to break up with you either, but idc what his reason was either way, completely unacceptable. It doesn't take much for someone to pick up a phone. You could have used that time off from work to take a real vacation but instead u went to see him, and he does that? (Bleep) noPosted by SleepyquantroI don't think that his intent was to break up with me. He made it known what we had to talk about wasn't about us because he said we were good. Also, he said that he could see this going somewhere. The issue he discussed was about his child coming to live with him, which the details I will not discuss. However, this is not our first conversation about his child living with him. He had some concerns about her wellbeing on another trip. Plus, if he lied about what happened with her, I would consider him a sociopath. I don't feel like he lied about the situation, but I can see him having 2nd thoughts about me moving down there. However, when we communicate about things he has to do I always find things to do to occupy my time. He knows thisPosted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.
From the way you talk, I already have I'm mind mind what I think happened with his daughter.
I'm watching closely this topic
Sorry 😐, although doesn't mean that I'm right, just my thoughts 💭click to expand
Posted by karebearI see so many woman disregard a man's troubles continuing with single mind towards romance.... whether he has a death in the family, lost a job, etc.Posted by SleepyquantroI will say this much; it's a bad situation when CPS is called. He was livid about the situation and I don't blame him. He really is a great Father and I know he doesn't play about his children.Posted by pisceanlovesU mean the last part of my post? I won't say what I think, she hasn't mentioned it bc she doesn't want to publicize (I'm guessing) !Posted by SleepyquantroElaborate please, for OP s and our sake lolPosted by karebearI didn't think he wanted to break up with you either, but idc what his reason was either way, completely unacceptable. It doesn't take much for someone to pick up a phone. You could have used that time off from work to take a real vacation but instead u went to see him, and he does that? (Bleep) noPosted by SleepyquantroI don't think that his intent was to break up with me. He made it known what we had to talk about wasn't about us because he said we were good. Also, he said that he could see this going somewhere. The issue he discussed was about his child coming to live with him, which the details I will not discuss. However, this is not our first conversation about his child living with him. He had some concerns about her wellbeing on another trip. Plus, if he lied about what happened with her, I would consider him a sociopath. I don't feel like he lied about the situation, but I can see him having 2nd thoughts about me moving down there. However, when we communicate about things he has to do I always find things to do to occupy my time. He knows thisPosted by VenusAquariusYou really think so? If that was the case, that (bleep) is just rude! Lol
His intent was to break-up face to face.
To hell with that, I'd rather someone break up with me through text than to have me waste my hard earned money to travel to them, for them to break up with me.
I thought it possibly was the sex, until OP said they had sex before, although that doesn't mean anything. I have sex with someone and the 1st time it was ok, but 2nd time I felt like I'd just slept with an inexperienced school boy. 🤦🏽♀️😂
I was kinda turned off the 2nd time.
The possibility of him thinking OP was moving to fast/or appearing clingy (at the mention of moving) also crossed my mind, but she traveled to see him! The least he could have done was to be a good host/tour guide while she was in town.
From the way you talk, I already have I'm mind mind what I think happened with his daughter.
I'm watching closely this topic
Sorry 😐, although doesn't mean that I'm right, just my thoughts 💭click to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusI am not insisting with anything. You made a wrong statement and I corrected you. There is a big difference, and had you paid attention to what I said, than you would know that. You keep stating that he chickened out of not telling me that we had no issue, yet you keep overlooking the part where HE said from the beginning that we were okay. I asked about how he felt about me much later. Therefore, if it's annoying that I am trying to understand his Virgo mind...move along.
*Insistence with romance
Posted by karebearYou poor thing.Posted by VenusAquariusI am not insisting with anything. You made a wrong statement and I corrected you. There is a big difference, and had you paid attention to what I said, than you would know that. You keep stating that he chickened out of not telling me that we had no issue, yet you keep overlooking the part where HE said from the beginning that we were okay. I asked about how he felt about me much later. Therefore, if it's annoying that I am trying to understand his Virgo mind...move along.
*Insistence with romanceclick to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusI never breezed by that. I stated it. Regardless of what he has going on it does not mean it is okay to disregard me, especially since I came from out of town. As I stated in my original post, I would have postponed the trip out of respect for his child had he told me before I hopped on a plane. I have no reason to lie about anything.
I stated just today in another thread how posters... wait let me quote myself...
People hide all kinds of details in their narratives on DXP...
Strangely, sometimes they lie because they are in denial about just how basic and simple the circumstances are because of needing to think their feelings or situation is unique and want responders to think so too.
Posted by karebearDid not accuse you of lying and you know I didn't.Posted by VenusAquariusI never breezed by that. I stated it. Regardless of what he has going on it does not mean it is okay to disregard me, especially since I came from out of town. As I stated in my original post, I would have postponed the trip out of respect for his child had he told me before I hopped on a plane. I have no reason to lie about anything.
I stated just today in another thread how posters... wait let me quote myself...
People hide all kinds of details in their narratives on DXP...
Strangely, sometimes they lie because they are in denial about just how basic and simple the circumstances are because of needing to think their feelings or situation is unique and want responders to think so too.click to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by karebearDid not accuse you of lying and you know I didn't.Posted by VenusAquariusI never breezed by that. I stated it. Regardless of what he has going on it does not mean it is okay to disregard me, especially since I came from out of town. As I stated in my original post, I would have postponed the trip out of respect for his child had he told me before I hopped on a plane. I have no reason to lie about anything.
I stated just today in another thread how posters... wait let me quote myself...
People hide all kinds of details in their narratives on DXP...
Strangely, sometimes they lie because they are in denial about just how basic and simple the circumstances are because of needing to think their feelings or situation is unique and want responders to think so too.
His conversation and details of custody, the situation surroung it is not of importance to you.
You will not be distegarded and he probably thought it will continue to be that way.
He has a greater challenge ahead than you do with getting over this.click to expand
Posted by karebearPerhaps so... but it's was too difficult for him for some reason. Seems he was already distracted. May have even changed his mind a time or too.Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by karebearDid not accuse you of lying and you know I didn't.Posted by VenusAquariusI never breezed by that. I stated it. Regardless of what he has going on it does not mean it is okay to disregard me, especially since I came from out of town. As I stated in my original post, I would have postponed the trip out of respect for his child had he told me before I hopped on a plane. I have no reason to lie about anything.
I stated just today in another thread how posters... wait let me quote myself...
People hide all kinds of details in their narratives on DXP...
Strangely, sometimes they lie because they are in denial about just how basic and simple the circumstances are because of needing to think their feelings or situation is unique and want responders to think so too.
His conversation and details of custody, the situation surroung it is not of importance to you.
You will not be distegarded and he probably thought it will continue to be that way.
He has a greater challenge ahead than you do with getting over this.
Communication is key. He could have stated this again...before I came to see him. Whatever his challenges are he should be able to say that without leaving me hanging. Just because he has a child does not mean he gets to be disrespectful. I would have understood, but coming out there to be blind sighted and lied to is wrong.click to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by karebearPerhaps so... but it's was too difficult for him for some reason. Seems he was already distracted. May have even changed his mind a time or too.Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by karebearDid not accuse you of lying and you know I didn't.Posted by VenusAquariusI never breezed by that. I stated it. Regardless of what he has going on it does not mean it is okay to disregard me, especially since I came from out of town. As I stated in my original post, I would have postponed the trip out of respect for his child had he told me before I hopped on a plane. I have no reason to lie about anything.
I stated just today in another thread how posters... wait let me quote myself...
People hide all kinds of details in their narratives on DXP...
Strangely, sometimes they lie because they are in denial about just how basic and simple the circumstances are because of needing to think their feelings or situation is unique and want responders to think so too.
His conversation and details of custody, the situation surroung it is not of importance to you.
You will not be distegarded and he probably thought it will continue to be that way.
He has a greater challenge ahead than you do with getting over this.
Communication is key. He could have stated this again...before I came to see him. Whatever his challenges are he should be able to say that without leaving me hanging. Just because he has a child does not mean he gets to be disrespectful. I would have understood, but coming out there to be blind sighted and lied to is wrong.
Also, when saying nothing's wrong between the two of you... he may have interpreted the situation that way... meaning it's not us, it's my situation.click to expand
Posted by karebearSis don’t ever pay to go see a manPosted by virgoOPPP
reading this, i'd dump you too
too much pressure
Just how is that too much pressure? I took my hard earned money and time to visit him, which by the way, he agreed that it was a good time when I made arrangements two months prior. I just don't pop up unexpectedly. I ask and he agrees. If it was too much pressure than he needs to act like an adult and say what is in his mind. You just don't ignore someone that travels to see you. GTFOH!click to expand
Posted by karebearOh hell noPosted by Sonia1Yes, we've been intimate before. This is someone that I have had dealings with for a while. He has always been open and honest in the past, so this one throws me off.
Have you been intimate before?
After you were intimate, he became distant and no response for 3 weeks.
Ouchclick to expand
Posted by bkbella86Posted by karebearOh hell noPosted by Sonia1Yes, we've been intimate before. This is someone that I have had dealings with for a while. He has always been open and honest in the past, so this one throws me off.
Have you been intimate before?
After you were intimate, he became distant and no response for 3 weeks.
Ouch
You slept with him?!!! And he couldn’t pay for you to see himclick to expand
Posted by karebearSorry this happened. He's a *Fu**ing* prick! The least he could've done was let you know the timing wasn't good or that he was pondering calling things off. But, apparently, he's a coward and a liar who wanted to get his rocks off one last time w you. He's a douche.Posted by virgoOPPP
reading this, i'd dump you too
too much pressure
Just how is that too much pressure? I took my hard earned money and time to visit him, which by the way, he agreed that it was a good time when I made arrangements two months prior. I just don't pop up unexpectedly. I ask and he agrees. If it was too much pressure than he needs to act like an adult and say what is in his mind. You just don't ignore someone that travels to see you. GTFOH!click to expand
Posted by karebearPosted by WeedsI don't think I reacted wrong in that situation. A bit of communication would have made the difference. He has communicated in the past about things he had to do, so what has changed? Three days by myself in a town where I don't know anyone but him and he all of a sudden chose not to communicate...he doesn't get a pass for that.
I will go back to my previous statement "maybe you just have poor taste in men"
jokes aside there could be so many issues with the reason he went distant.
Some may be reasonable and some maybe selfish... possibly didn't help that you got mad he went off by himself.click to expand
Posted by karebearHe was happy with the current arrangement of you flying in the pussy to him on your dime.
No, I'm saying that his talk had nothing to do with me. I'm confused as to how you are getting that we he assured me that things between us were good. If our conversation wasn't about us, but his child, than why would I expect it to be about me?
Posted by Sagicornthey'd breathe better without us then so it's a GOOD thing we dumped themPosted by virgoOPPP
reading this, i'd dump you too
too much pressure
It's fascinating how your sign always acts if other people are suffocating you, completely unaware how suffocating you can be to other people. If someone is being a normal human being who wants to know where they stand it doesn't man they can't breath without you.click to expand
Posted by karebearPosted by bkbella86Posted by karebearOh hell noPosted by Sonia1Yes, we've been intimate before. This is someone that I have had dealings with for a while. He has always been open and honest in the past, so this one throws me off.
Have you been intimate before?
After you were intimate, he became distant and no response for 3 weeks.
Ouch
You slept with him?!!! And he couldn’t pay for you to see him
There was more than just sex, and it was my choice to visit. I didn't expect him to pay for me to come down and I didn't ask. That is my decision based on what I felt was right based on the situation. I'm certainly not going to feel any sort of way because having sex is just that. I'm certainly not paying for it, and it doesn't make it any better to be paid for it.click to expand
Posted by bkbella86Sheeet at least if he paid for the flight or went 50/50 on it you'd know he at least wanted to see you and spend time with you.Posted by karebearPosted by bkbella86Posted by karebearOh hell noPosted by Sonia1Yes, we've been intimate before. This is someone that I have had dealings with for a while. He has always been open and honest in the past, so this one throws me off.
Have you been intimate before?
After you were intimate, he became distant and no response for 3 weeks.
Ouch
You slept with him?!!! And he couldn’t pay for you to see him
There was more than just sex, and it was my choice to visit. I didn't expect him to pay for me to come down and I didn't ask. That is my decision based on what I felt was right based on the situation. I'm certainly not going to feel any sort of way because having sex is just that. I'm certainly not paying for it, and it doesn't make it any better to be paid for it.
Him paying for your flight isn’t being paid for sex but it’s the least he could do. Paying to go get pumped and dumped is not the move.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneThis is not my first visit. I know we are not at the place to where I would just move down there. I even stated when time is right.Posted by bkbella86Sheeet at least if he paid for the flight or went 50/50 on it you'd know he at least wanted to see you and spend time with you.Posted by karebearPosted by bkbella86Posted by karebearOh hell noPosted by Sonia1Yes, we've been intimate before. This is someone that I have had dealings with for a while. He has always been open and honest in the past, so this one throws me off.
Have you been intimate before?
After you were intimate, he became distant and no response for 3 weeks.
Ouch
You slept with him?!!! And he couldn’t pay for you to see him
There was more than just sex, and it was my choice to visit. I didn't expect him to pay for me to come down and I didn't ask. That is my decision based on what I felt was right based on the situation. I'm certainly not going to feel any sort of way because having sex is just that. I'm certainly not paying for it, and it doesn't make it any better to be paid for it.
Him paying for your flight isn’t being paid for sex but it’s the least he could do. Paying to go get pumped and dumped is not the move.click to expand
Posted by karebearI am dating a man with a child and I don’t see you did anything that is pressure.Posted by virgoOPPP
reading this, i'd dump you too
too much pressure
Just how is that too much pressure? I took my hard earned money and time to visit him, which by the way, he agreed that it was a good time when I made arrangements two months prior. I just don't pop up unexpectedly. I ask and he agrees. If it was too much pressure than he needs to act like an adult and say what is in his mind. You just don't ignore someone that travels to see you. GTFOH!click to expand
Posted by VenusAquariusAre you assuming he found out he has something to deal with same day she flew in?Posted by karebearDid not accuse you of lying and you know I didn't.Posted by VenusAquariusI never breezed by that. I stated it. Regardless of what he has going on it does not mean it is okay to disregard me, especially since I came from out of town. As I stated in my original post, I would have postponed the trip out of respect for his child had he told me before I hopped on a plane. I have no reason to lie about anything.
I stated just today in another thread how posters... wait let me quote myself...
People hide all kinds of details in their narratives on DXP...
Strangely, sometimes they lie because they are in denial about just how basic and simple the circumstances are because of needing to think their feelings or situation is unique and want responders to think so too.
His conversation and details of custody, the situation surroung it is not of importance to you.
You will not be distegarded and he probably thought it will continue to be that way.
He has a greater challenge ahead than you do with getting over this.click to expand
Posted by stopeApparently you haven’t met someone who would care about you and your child and you would care about her to the point you would WANT to make it work.Posted by Arielle83Bingo.
Sounds like he has too much going on and you overtexting and then calling him just gave him reason to not care enough.
As a dad having to deal with child complications of this nature way back when, i had no emotional time for anyone. For much longer than you'd think, OP.
Kids > you.click to expand
Posted by stopeYeah...I do realize how unlikely is this to happen and I’ve heard ‘maybe I am not ready for rships’ but only once...Posted by GemitatiCase by case i guess.Posted by stopeApparently you haven’t met someone who would care about you and your child and you would care about her to the point you would WANT to make it work.Posted by Arielle83Bingo.
Sounds like he has too much going on and you overtexting and then calling him just gave him reason to not care enough.
As a dad having to deal with child complications of this nature way back when, i had no emotional time for anyone. For much longer than you'd think, OP.
Kids > you.
I don’t know about anyone else but to me this thread is an eye opener and huge help! 🤝click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneFactsPosted by bkbella86Sheeet at least if he paid for the flight or went 50/50 on it you'd know he at least wanted to see you and spend time with you.Posted by karebearPosted by bkbella86Posted by karebearOh hell noPosted by Sonia1Yes, we've been intimate before. This is someone that I have had dealings with for a while. He has always been open and honest in the past, so this one throws me off.
Have you been intimate before?
After you were intimate, he became distant and no response for 3 weeks.
Ouch
You slept with him?!!! And he couldn’t pay for you to see him
There was more than just sex, and it was my choice to visit. I didn't expect him to pay for me to come down and I didn't ask. That is my decision based on what I felt was right based on the situation. I'm certainly not going to feel any sort of way because having sex is just that. I'm certainly not paying for it, and it doesn't make it any better to be paid for it.
Him paying for your flight isn’t being paid for sex but it’s the least he could do. Paying to go get pumped and dumped is not the move.click to expand
Posted by GemitatiAdd long distance relationship and child protective services "situation..." and, it's tew much.Posted by stopeApparently you haven’t met someone who would care about you and your child and you would care about her to the point you would WANT to make it work.Posted by Arielle83Bingo.
Sounds like he has too much going on and you overtexting and then calling him just gave him reason to not care enough.
As a dad having to deal with child complications of this nature way back when, i had no emotional time for anyone. For much longer than you'd think, OP.
Kids > you.
I don’t know about anyone else but to me this thread is an eye opener and huge help! 🤝click to expand