Heartbreak Hotel

There are plenty of stories out there about cheating Virgos, but what about my fellow virgins that have been cheated on?

I can only tell this story from my own perspective, as a Virgo. As a woman. As a human being.

My engagement to my Pisces ended abruptly last night when a stranger contacted me on social media with screenshots of sex chats and traded nudes she had done with him over the course of months. I'm not sure why she decided to come forward, guilt, scorn, I'll never know. But the proof was undeniable. And it wasn't only her, and the infidelity spanned nearly the entire course of the relationship from what I can gather.

It was one hell of a bombshell.

This was someone that I trusted implicitly. Someone I had loved with everything I had. Someone I had given years of my love to with plans to get married and adopt children, the whole white picket fence scenario.

Someone with whom I had begged for honesty on more than one occasion, be it for sexual freedom or even release from the bonds of our relationship.

And it was all a lie. Every romantic moment. Every conversation. A lie. A betrayal. Or fake at best.

Suddenly I no longer knew him. He was a stranger in my bed. A traitor and a repugnant villain who not only broke my trust, but my heart.

But tears did not fall. I can't lie. My first instinct was to stand there watching as he slept, calculating my odds of successfully prying out his eyeballs for an up close and personal view of his own castration. I wanted to set him on fire and listen to the screams so that he might know my pain. I wanted him to hurt as I hurt. I wanted him to know betrayal and violation and pure hate.

Logic saved me. That cold concise collection of thought fought to the forefront of my addled mind. So I walked away. I relished in that cool release from attachment.

Not long after he woke and I calmly explained to him that we needed to talk, that I had found something he needed to see. There was a glint of unmistakable fear in his eyes as he saw what I had seen and still only denials could spring from his lips.

Had he been honest for once there may have been a chance at saving us. But with his vile lies there came nothing from me. My heart had hollowed itself out, gone as empty and icy and dark as it could be. We were done. Over. Period. With no chance of redemption.

I'm looking for apartments today. Moving what I can as I can. And had myself tested for the comprehensive std panel my doc would allow.

I hurt. And yet I don't. I still wonder if I will catch myself burning his things on the lawn. Or if I will cease to care at all.

WTF??! You were engaged— To a Pisces—!!

Posted by Andalusia
WTF??! You were engaged— To a Pisces—!!

Lol yes. I have been for the better part of two years now.

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Posted by Andalusia
WTF??! You were engaged— To a Pisces—!!

Lol yes. I have been for the better part of two years now.

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I'm gonna junk punch him.

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WTF??! You were engaged— To a Pisces—!!

Lol yes. I have been for the better part of two years now.

I'm gonna junk punch him.

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You may have to take a number. I'm still rolling the proverbial dice.

Posted by zFlavor
Thats bad...

those traded nudes...they were him? did he give them to you previously? curiosity.

Yes they were of him. I suspect he was also receiving them but the others were thankfully cut out of the screenshots I received.

We never did anything of that sort. The things he talked about with her and described and wanted were completely foreign from how I've known him.

Sometimes in spite of my trying. 😢

Posted by tiziani
On the positive side: dodged a massive bullet by not actually tying the knot.

Most definitely.

That's fucking awful.

😢

Where to from here TMV?

I think you should book yourself a long frikken holiday on your own, with a great book and start workin' on some healin' vibes.

I am also available for hire as a hit woman, if required.

😡

Posted by wagtail
That's fucking awful.

😢

Where to from here TMV?

I think you should book yourself a long frikken holiday on your own, with a great book and start workin' on some healin' vibes.

I am also available for hire as a hit woman, if required.

😡

Lol much appreciated. I'm thinking the holiday sounds like a fantastic idea. I've been wanting to get out more anyway but... Shall we say that I've been allowing myself to be held back for a while.

I went for a nice long jog this evening. That was good for the soul. Fresh air and space. 🙂

Welcome back TMV!

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Posted by wagtail
That's fucking awful.

😢

Where to from here TMV?

I think you should book yourself a long frikken holiday on your own, with a great book and start workin' on some healin' vibes.

I am also available for hire as a hit woman, if required.

😡

Lol much appreciated. I'm thinking the holiday sounds like a fantastic idea. I've been wanting to get out more anyway but... Shall we say that I've been allowing myself to be held back for a while.

I went for a nice long jog this evening. That was good for the soul. Fresh air and space. 🙂

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Way I see it- you've earned your own personal honeymoon 😎

If you've been saving for a wedding, collect your closest gal pals and take a flight to the Caribbean or Bali and just find yourself again.

🤗

😢

This takes me back years..

I'm sorry girl.

Posted by Ram416
Welcome back TMV!

Thank you. Much love.

Posted by champranger
I'm sorry to hear that OP. Hopefully that bastard will get what he "deserves". 😢

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He might if he gave me the clap or something. I'm seriously paranoid by the thought of herpes or HIV.

I can buy a new house. Make more money. Even find a new love eventually. But I only get one body and it's so wrong to gamble with another person's life like that.

Posted by Damnata
😢

This takes me back years..

I'm sorry girl.

Thank you. The sympathy (or empathy even) is greatly appreciated. As sad as it sounds... I don't really have anyone else but you guys to talk to about this. Trying to keep things on the DL until I can get the hell out of here.

Jesus.

That's the type of guy that deserves a "blanket party".

You're doing the right thing.

Of course the anger and disillusionment is going to be strong, but don't let it close you off or make you do something rash.

That asshole deserves nothing from you. No hate, no anger, no memories.

Your composure is remarkable.

So sorry it happened like that, though.



Don't let that fucker see you cry. 😐

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
Jesus.

That's the type of guy that deserves a "blanket party".

You're doing the right thing.

Of course the anger and disillusionment is going to be strong, but don't let it close you off or make you do something rash.

That asshole deserves nothing from you. No hate, no anger, no memories.

I am so down for the no reaction and no memories path. I still haven't raised my voice or been nasty. Or set anything on fire. Just been firm that it's over and I'm leaving. Took down our pictures and shredded them. Tossed my ring in the trash. Erased him from my virtual life. And now I'm drinking the bottle of wine we were saving for our anniversary on my own. It's not too bad

Posted by cheekyfaerie
It's good to see you, but hate it's under these circumstances. The concept of time must be completely foreign until the results of those tests come back. So sorry.

Thinks Wags is onto something with that get the hell outta Dodge, holiday idea tho. Get the medical stuff outta the way, regroup and start again. Here's to new beginnings.

Cheers to a new start!

Posted by quarius_xy
Does it feel surreal?

Very much so. Almost like a bad dream that I'm waiting to wake up from. Or like it's happened to someone else.

I went into a kind of emotional shock. Maybe my crabby moon came with a fail safe because it's like something inside just... Clicked off.

If that makes any sense.

Posted by Montgomery
Your composure is remarkable.

So sorry it happened like that, though.



Don't let that fucker see you cry. 😐

I never do. 🙂

Posted by xEUx
I'm so sorry to hear that TMV. That's aweful.

Are you TMV as in The Moody Vulcan?

One in the same my dear Uranian friend.

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Posted by xEUx
I'm so sorry to hear that TMV. That's aweful.

Are you TMV as in The Moody Vulcan?

One in the same my dear Uranian friend.

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Uranus dominants FTW!

Dam girl, i'm sorry 😢

Sucks, I'm sorry you have to go through this. 😢

Let's hope those tests come back negative, so you don't have to go apeshit on him and just try to move on and HEALTHY. Feck being nice about it.

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I'm so sorry to hear that TMV. That's aweful.

Are you TMV as in The Moody Vulcan?

One in the same my dear Uranian friend.

I wondered where you went. Sorry I have to see you under such circumstances. Good to see you though.

We'll throw that guy a blanket party, 😈

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It's been a long road EU. Moving. Changing jobs. Giving up my lushy ways for a chance at settling down to the domestic life.

And then that karmic slap from good old 28 year old father satan.

I mean Saturn.

*Cough*

Posted by Greentea
Sucks, I'm sorry you have to go through this. 😢

Let's hope those tests come back negative, so you don't have to go apeshit on him. Fuck it at that point.

Lol right?

Being a good Virgo hypochondriac I've already made plans for my Will and estate trusts. If this mofo kills me because of selfish carelessness I'm going to charter a plane and throw bags of cash out the door before performing an epic final tandom jump with no chute.

No but seriously. I'll probably be fine. I'd just really rather make sure.

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I'm so sorry to hear that TMV. That's aweful.

Are you TMV as in The Moody Vulcan?

One in the same my dear Uranian friend.

I wondered where you went. Sorry I have to see you under such circumstances. Good to see you though.

We'll throw that guy a blanket party, 😈

It's been a long road EU. Moving. Changing jobs. Giving up my lushy ways for a chance at settling down to the domestic life.

And then that karmic slap from good old 28 year old father satan.

I mean Saturn.

*Cough*

I hope you won't want to stab me in the eye for this, but look for the opportunity for growth.

If anyone can come back from this you can.

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I won't stab you EU. It is a valid point.

I even told him last night that I"m pretty well used to being kicked in the teeth at this point, in one manner or another. And I've always survived.

Good old Hades moon is too spiteful to let me stop regenerating.

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Posted by Greentea
Sucks, I'm sorry you have to go through this. 😢

Let's hope those tests come back negative, so you don't have to go apeshit on him. Fuck it at that point.

Lol right?

Being a good Virgo hypochondriac I've already made plans for my Will and estate trusts. If this mofo kills me because of selfish carelessness I'm going to charter a plane and throw bags of cash out the door before performing an epic final tandom jump with no chute.

No but seriously. I'll probably be fine. I'd just really rather make sure.

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Lol. I just edited my post, posted too quickly.

Smart move, I think you'll be fine too, it doesn't hurt to make sure. Something good will come out of this, even if you can't see it right now. 🙂

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Sucks, I'm sorry you have to go through this. 😢

Let's hope those tests come back negative, so you don't have to go apeshit on him. Fuck it at that point.

Lol right?

Being a good Virgo hypochondriac I've already made plans for my Will and estate trusts. If this mofo kills me because of selfish carelessness I'm going to charter a plane and throw bags of cash out the door before performing an epic final tandom jump with no chute.

No but seriously. I'll probably be fine. I'd just really rather make sure.

Lol. I just edited my post, posted too quickly.

Smart move, I think you'll be fine too, it doesn't hurt to make sure. Something good will come out of this, even if you can't see it right now. 🙂

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Thank you. You're very kind.

I'm so sorry TMV

Many blessings your way love

Not even a slap to the face?

Posted by TMV

Someone with whom I had begged for honesty on more than one occasion.

lol



You made your bed when you gave your all to someone you have to beg for honesty.



so, lay in it.

Considering you got engaged with a person to whom you knew was dishonest .... you obviously lack sound enough judgment to discern what is in your best interest.



But, you fooled everyone with an eloquent speech ... except for me, of course.



For the fact that you knew this about him, you aren't a victim here, like you have tried to feign.



Just another typical bitch trying to play victim when she's not.



According to your own words, you knew he couldn't be trusted with being honest ... so, the real person who fucked you up is yourself, and lack of ability to do what is right for yourself.



Had this been a thread to address you actually being a victim to his deception, then my words would represent that. But, since you knew all along that he was a liar ... you're just a another typical bitch looking for validation for her bad choices.

Posted by P-Angel
Considering you got engaged with a person to whom you knew was dishonest .... you obviously lack sound enough judgment to discern what is in your best interest.

It wasn't like that in the beginning. For most of the relationship I never had a gut feeling, no reason to be suspicious, never a wayward thought that what we had was anything but what it presented itself to be. In my mind he was someone I could talk to about anything, and everything, and I genuinely thought it was mutual.

It was about 6 months ago that I first felt an emotional distancing between us. I knew he watched porn but it never bothered me until he seemed more interested in that than our own physical relationship so I began asking if there was a problem or if he was bored. He said no, told me he thought I was beautiful and attractive and what we had was perfect. He said he was just tired and stressed out due to work, and I believed him because it felt reasonable.

And then the suspicious activities really started. Trying to pick fights with me. Not coming to bed until I was getting up for work. Hiding his phone and disappearing to make phone calls. So I kept asking if there was a problem. If there was someone else he would be happier with and he kept denying it.

I freely admit that I went along with his excuses because it was what I wanted to hear. I wanted us to be happy together and live happily ever after. And now that isn't going to happen and I've accepted that. I don't even really blame him for wanting someone else. It is what it is. I just wish he could have told me.

*shrugs*

Posted by DMV
Not even a slap to the face?

Not even a slap. While tempting, I really just want it to be done.

Posted by SensitiveBlues
look dude...you can't get used to getting kicked in the face or mouth or whatever. you need to let that go

you're very young. the good one will come...but you have to make sure you choose correctly and not go based on emotions but reality

Lol that sounds like a wonderful argument for arranged marriage. Maybe not a bad idea. Find a good contractual agreement rather than something as fickle as love.

I'll move on in time. It just might be a long time before I'm ready to put myself out there like that again.

Please tell me you got back at him... Either by burning his shit or parking his car in a no parking zone...