Help! Don't understand this Virgo!!

Hi All!
Scorpio woman here. Have been dating a 38 yo Virgo man whom I can't seem to "get". We started dating (5 dates and we did sleep together~~ whish has been incredible and he spent many nights staying over my house)Then I left for business overseas for a month. I called him once while I was away, came home and he came right over the momment I called to say I was home, once again, spent the night. We are very comfortable together almost as if we have been dating for years. He left Thurs. AM from my house, just a "goodbye" and thats it.

He owns a local bar/resteraunt I frequent (thats where we met), I went there with my friends Friday. He was working. We chatted a bit and he even asked "Are you behaving tonight?". He stayed later than normal and was staring at me all night per my friends. All of a sudden, midnight came and poof...he was gone, he left. I have not heard from him since he left my house Thurs. AM or since seeing him Friday night. I made no mention of him not calling.

Friends say he may be a player, and is playing games w/ me. Some say to call some say DO NOT call. We do have great chemistry, have a lot in common. He is extremely shy and insecure (ie= talks about how "fat" he is). Friends also say he has never dated a woman as successful as himself so he has no idea how to handle it.

Are these Virgos Players? Do I need to let him simmer for some reason? He went from one extreme to the other. I am an indepedent strong woman who has not been pushy with him or even mention a relationship.

What happened here my Virgo friends?

Thanks Virgo!
I really like him and he really seems into me as well. But when he left my house Thurs AM I never heard a word. Friday night was strange because although he came over many times and chatted for a bit, he felt "uncomfortable"...not looking me in the eye, almost timid and shy again, unlike how he is when we are together. He was staring at me all night but then poof..."came over to say he was leaving and he will go get my coat.." we waited a half hour and his car was gone!

Wondering if I did something wrong, said something wrong.
Was it because other men were talking to me and about me (all good stuff) to him?
Was it because he felt bad he didnt call after Thurs?
Maybe he felt uncomfortable me being there (I go there weekly for years).

And his insecurity is incredible! Telling me and my friends how "fat " he is (he's not)

Whats up with the not looking me in the eye when he was speaking and all of a sudden shy and distant?

I think it could be a few reasons why he left at midnight. He was not working the next day nor did he have to close the bar that night. No goodbye?

I will wait...I will not call him. How long does it take for a Virgo to bounce back? Weeks? Days? I travel alot (leaving next week) so why is he pushing away when I am never around?

Ugghhh...I really want to make this work...we are sooooo much alike, same work, same attitude, both sucessful and independent...we like the same things...

Ugh...your right...I just need to let it go for now.
Nice to know theres a Scorp on my side who understands....I am assuming you are right?

You know...maybe he's just "not into me"...but after inviting me to stay over his house to take me to airport before I left last time and all excited to see me when I came back last week (he sleeps over every time) I don't think its the case.

We act like an old married couple. But, I did mention that I was going to South Beach next month and as a joke I said he should join me. His reply "I can't make plans with you like that, you may hate me next week"

Hmmm....what does that mean?
Geesh...this pulling away thing is annoying...just when things were going well.
I'll keep you updated.

Hey Virgootme,
Thanks so much. It makes sense now. I am very sucessful, travel a lot, live in a big house I built myself, (he keeps commenting on how small his condo is compared to mine) and is bewildered about my life style .

By no means am I materialistic but I have worked hard for what I have...maybe he feels intimidated a bit. He's use to going out w/ woman who are not like me.

He is a very handsome (gorgeous actually), sucessful man (ex profesional hockey player) that all the girls want. Thats why my friends say he is a player...good looking and single, girls are all over him.

He showed a tad jealous/overprotectiveness the other night when he found out an ex (who he knows) was emailing me mean emails while away. He said "Did he mention me at all" I was thinking...no one knows we are really dating, why would ex mention you? Then he said "I'll go beat him up" as a joke.

When he stays over the house we are in bed watching TV like old farts (he's not a snuggler~~ Virgo thing?) in the morning we wake up to each other (yes, sex) and he said "What a great thing to wake up to". We have our coffee and he is off to go home and get ready for work. Then not a word since.

I'll keep you posted, my Scorp friend. Do you think I'll here from him this week?

sent you pm....:-)

Hi Sophie 68-- I've been reading your postings..So true about Virgo's..I've posted on the Scorpio site and I've been with a Scorpio man for 3 yrs.
We are Very loyal and very shy (this is part of the problem I'm having) anyhow, take your time with this guy. Not players at all..We pull away when analyzing things. Yes, I don't think he or any VIRGO would feel intimidated by the success you have..I agree, we respect people with independence and an ability to go after what they want. We don't tend to do this in our personal relationships--alot harder for us VIRGOs to do..It's so much more a risk. The comment he made ""I can't make plans with you like that, you may hate me next week""" Is soooo typical of a VIRGO covering and making things easygoing so as not to get tooo attached too soon. This is pretty atypical for a SCORPIO...Scorpio's are all about Passion. I wish u well and wish me well too!!

Hi All!
Had my date w/ Virgo last night...was incredible....but left me confused once again...please read "Had my date With Virgo" post.