Help me Understand my New Virgo Girlfriend
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Nick429 on Saturday, March 17, 2012 and has 22 replies.
So we have been dating for 2 weeks now, but we liked eachother a lot longer than that. We're both 16 and she's my first girlfriend. And from what I hear Virgos and Caps get along quite well. (: But sometimes I don't see the logic in her virgo mind. When I hang out at her house we're both very affectionate and touchy feely and it's great. But last week during school I guess she just SUDDENLY realized that she needed space. And she wouldn't hold my hand or hug me or even stand by me. And she said she was "half mad and half something else".
I asked her so many times what was wrong because I just wasn't getting it. She finally wrote it down on a paper while I was sitting next to her on her bed on Friday telling me how she needs space. But then after that it was touchy feely holding hands and cuddling like last Friday.
What the hell you virgos? Is it just a PDA sort of thing? Or maybe its different when its just me and her sitting on a bed compared to walking around the school during lunch. Can someone explain to me the virgo reasoning of this whole thing?
I asked her so many times what was wrong because I just wasn't getting it. She finally wrote it down on a paper while I was sitting next to her on her bed on Friday telling me how she needs space. But then after that it was touchy feely holding hands and cuddling like last Friday.
What the hell you virgos? Is it just a PDA sort of thing? Or maybe its different when its just me and her sitting on a bed compared to walking around the school during lunch. Can someone explain to me the virgo reasoning of this whole thing?
She's pregnant. No, I'm totally kidding. lol. Space is a big thing for Virgos and most of us (well at least I don't) really don't like public displays of affection. Hate the attention. She might be feeling a bit smothered. It seems like you both see each other at school and at home. That's a lot of time spent together. Just explain to her how you feel and try to get a straight answer on what she wants from you.Be open-minded and kind. She is a teenage girl, ya know. They're sensitive. Try giving her space but sending her nice or funny notes, letters, and texts every once in a while to reassure her that you are still there for her. Most of all, just be a good friend. Most people forget that part once they reach boyfriend/girlfriend status. Friendship/ Companionship is what got them in there in the first place. Good luck my earth brother.
Ya I think your right. I can tell she doesn't really like the attention. She explained it as "awkward". She's also a perfectionist, which is good in some ways because I am too, but not at her level. And she's SOO picky! When we were hanging out she couldn't decide what to have for dinner while her mom was making me some chinese food. She ended up having grapes... Haha, she makes me laugh....
One question though. What would you suggest for writing in the notes or letters. I thought of doing that several times before and just hiding them in her backpack so she would find them some other time randomly. (: But I take it she wouldn't like anything to sappy or anything, but rather something a bit more playful, right?
One question though. What would you suggest for writing in the notes or letters. I thought of doing that several times before and just hiding them in her backpack so she would find them some other time randomly. (: But I take it she wouldn't like anything to sappy or anything, but rather something a bit more playful, right?
Yes, playful. You know her well. Surely you both share funny inside jokes and you know what makes her laugh, right?
I want to sob after reading this lol, I'm no virgo since I'm Pisces.. but, I experienced this treatment from a virgo before.
that feeling that.. you know that you guys are so intimate.. but, when you are outside it seems like you don't know each other at all.
I wonder why he's doing that to me, but I don't have enough guts to ask "WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?" lol I might scare him o__O so I remained silent and just tried to get use to it. but..
still.. when he's doing that to me.
Even though I tried to be patient and understanding..
It's still painful
that feeling that.. you know that you guys are so intimate.. but, when you are outside it seems like you don't know each other at all.
I wonder why he's doing that to me, but I don't have enough guts to ask "WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?" lol I might scare him o__O so I remained silent and just tried to get use to it. but..
still.. when he's doing that to me.
Even though I tried to be patient and understanding..It's still painful
And I thought Caps like me were cold, I had it all wrong... She's really hard to read and I hate that. And I can't figure out what's going through her mind when she becomes so disconnected. I guess, basically, she's a lot more fun when its just us hanging out. Maybe she can focus on me without worrying about getting attention on her from other people at school.
And at school she kept jumping away when I even just tried to stand next to her. So I walked off and conversed with other groups where I wouldn't feel so rejected. Then I went out and found her with the friends I left her with and she was mad that I left. So she wanted me to stay with her but not next to her? I don't get that... Could it be a PDA thing? Would standing next to her put the limelight on her self-conscious self and make her uncomfortable? She's an odd combination of outgoing and shy. Very complicated...
And at school she kept jumping away when I even just tried to stand next to her. So I walked off and conversed with other groups where I wouldn't feel so rejected. Then I went out and found her with the friends I left her with and she was mad that I left. So she wanted me to stay with her but not next to her? I don't get that... Could it be a PDA thing? Would standing next to her put the limelight on her self-conscious self and make her uncomfortable? She's an odd combination of outgoing and shy. Very complicated...
@Nick429
"PDA thing" is also my conclusion before LOL.
but as far as I know, they are holding much inside.
"PDA thing" is also my conclusion before LOL.
but as far as I know, they are holding much inside.
I think it may also be a fear. She might fear love and might not want to admit it that she has emotions because to her, that would be like admitting she's human, and that would be like admitting defeat. And she's cold to me because she's mad at me for making her feel love. But then sometimes she gives in and shows her love to me, but the rest of the time she tries to reject her emotions and tries to bottle them up and run from them.
That's just what I picked up from reading her natal chart. Makes sense to me.
That's just what I picked up from reading her natal chart. Makes sense to me.
Okay so now she is being really annoying. After last Friday where she told me she needed space I thought the problem was solved. But now when we talk on facebook she's just giving me 1 worded answers and crap. And I'm sure she's talking with other friends and having conversations, but now with me. What a cruel creature she is.
So what I'm going to do is the same thing. I'm not going to talk to her on facebook unless she messages me, in which case if she asks me questions I'll just give short replies like she does. Then tomorrow at school ( I was home sick today and wanted to figure out a plan) I'm going to not give her too much attention or even try to be near her. Maybe even join another group of my friends and be chatty with them, but not chatty with her.
I just want to see if doing the same thing she's doing will make me feel the way I feel right now, which is me wanting her attention and love and just simply to have a nice conversation with her.
Wish me luck guys!
So what I'm going to do is the same thing. I'm not going to talk to her on facebook unless she messages me, in which case if she asks me questions I'll just give short replies like she does. Then tomorrow at school ( I was home sick today and wanted to figure out a plan) I'm going to not give her too much attention or even try to be near her. Maybe even join another group of my friends and be chatty with them, but not chatty with her.
I just want to see if doing the same thing she's doing will make me feel the way I feel right now, which is me wanting her attention and love and just simply to have a nice conversation with her.
Wish me luck guys!
Pretty sure she might just follow with your act and do the same back I mean that's what I'd do most likely she's going the push and pull. If you two see and talk all the time she probably just feels overwhelmed and smothered. Give her some space tone down the PDA. So how did it go?
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Hahah ^^^
for me, personal space is a huge thing and i just need lots of time for myself, for the other friends, for my activities. constant cuddling makes me want to run away and get a breath.
and yes, virgos are cruel. no sugar coating, no pretending, sometimes it's good to maintain the same amount of talk she gives, but in those cases when she isn't aware how cruel she was it's really good to stop being nice and just be pissed, oh yes, she'll notice and get scared (if she cares about you enough).
"I think it may also be a fear. She might fear love and might not want to admit it that she has emotions because to her, that would be like admitting she's human, and that would be like admitting defeat. And she's cold to me because she's mad at me for making her feel love."
although dunno about that. sounds like bs people tell themselves to feel better. love is a nice feeling. it grows you wings, makes you want to do stuff you'd never do otherwise, especially when you're young and naive. sorry.
and yes, virgos are cruel. no sugar coating, no pretending, sometimes it's good to maintain the same amount of talk she gives, but in those cases when she isn't aware how cruel she was it's really good to stop being nice and just be pissed, oh yes, she'll notice and get scared (if she cares about you enough).
"I think it may also be a fear. She might fear love and might not want to admit it that she has emotions because to her, that would be like admitting she's human, and that would be like admitting defeat. And she's cold to me because she's mad at me for making her feel love."
although dunno about that. sounds like bs people tell themselves to feel better. love is a nice feeling. it grows you wings, makes you want to do stuff you'd never do otherwise, especially when you're young and naive. sorry.
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So many Virgirls are just emotionally fucked up, thats why I've never dated one 
Being Mercury-ruled suits us guys better it seems. Unless its a Virgirl with plenty of fire or water..I just wouldnt expect much as far as PDA, not even Gemini girls (also Mercury-ruled) are this awkward about their own feelings. Its like Virgirls dont trust their passions/feelings and have to question everything with their little minds to no end.
Being Mercury-ruled suits us guys better it seems. Unless its a Virgirl with plenty of fire or water..I just wouldnt expect much as far as PDA, not even Gemini girls (also Mercury-ruled) are this awkward about their own feelings. Its like Virgirls dont trust their passions/feelings and have to question everything with their little minds to no end.
Posted by Nick429
So we have been dating for 2 weeks now, but we liked eachother a lot longer than that. We're both 16 and she's my first girlfriend. And from what I hear Virgos and Caps get along quite well. (: But sometimes I don't see the logic in her virgo mind. When I hang out at her house we're both very affectionate and touchy feely and it's great. But last week during school I guess she just SUDDENLY realized that she needed space. And she wouldn't hold my hand or hug me or even stand by me. And she said she was "half mad and half something else".
I asked her so many times what was wrong because I just wasn't getting it. She finally wrote it down on a paper while I was sitting next to her on her bed on Friday telling me how she needs space. But then after that it was touchy feely holding hands and cuddling like last Friday.
What the hell you virgos? Is it just a PDA sort of thing? Or maybe its different when its just me and her sitting on a bed compared to walking around the school during lunch. Can someone explain to me the virgo reasoning of this whole thing?
They seem to be masters of unsure feelings. I totally see where you're coming from with the screwy logic. My Virgal does the same shit, and contradicts herself all the time. I usually just call her out on it, or playfully poke fun at her for it. Mine may be different though, I'm not saying call her out, cuz it may backfire. Mine didn't have an issue with PDA, maybe at first, but it quickly changed. she fell for me hard, as she said. She's anything but distant now. Give her patience n time. They're the ones who will tell you straight up if they like you or not. That how I found out mine liked me. You know how us caps are all aloof and oblivious. Best of luck man! Virgals are worth the effort if you find the right one
I missed the 16 year old and 2 weeks in part. I'm lost there, as you're both young. I'm better at ppl my own age, no offense, cuz that's when earth signs, notably caps and virgos, mature better when they're older. I used to be a promiscuous guy back then and so was my current gf, back at that age. Now, we're both completely opposite. It's hard to gauge what 16 year olds are like, mainly cuz it's an experimental stage in adolescence where you guys are still physically maturing. I'd advise against gf's or bf's unless you guys are already friends. You should play the field, you're a capricorn, gain that field experience and sexual experience and start blowing women's minds. I did the relationship thing when I lost my virginitiy at 15, and the girl cheated on me, and messed me up for the next few gf's. Just an example, I'm not saying that will happen to you, I'm just saying you should play the field, have some fun while you're young.
Posted by CappGuy6330
I missed the 16 year old and 2 weeks in part. I'm lost there, as you're both young. I'm better at ppl my own age, no offense, cuz that's when earth signs, notably caps and virgos, mature better when they're older. I used to be a promiscuous guy back then and so was my current gf, back at that age. Now, we're both completely opposite. It's hard to gauge what 16 year olds are like, mainly cuz it's an experimental stage in adolescence where you guys are still physically maturing. I'd advise against gf's or bf's unless you guys are already friends. You should play the field, you're a capricorn, gain that field experience and sexual experience and start blowing women's minds. I did the relationship thing when I lost my virginitiy at 15, and the girl cheated on me, and messed me up for the next few gf's. Just an example, I'm not saying that will happen to you, I'm just saying you should play the field, have some fun while you're young.
Somebody during my younger years should have told me this, now I'm playing the field when I should have been settling down hahaha! The irony of life!
Posted by virgosagscorpioPosted by CappGuy6330
I missed the 16 year old and 2 weeks in part. I'm lost there, as you're both young. I'm better at ppl my own age, no offense, cuz that's when earth signs, notably caps and virgos, mature better when they're older. I used to be a promiscuous guy back then and so was my current gf, back at that age. Now, we're both completely opposite. It's hard to gauge what 16 year olds are like, mainly cuz it's an experimental stage in adolescence where you guys are still physically maturing. I'd advise against gf's or bf's unless you guys are already friends. You should play the field, you're a capricorn, gain that field experience and sexual experience and start blowing women's minds. I did the relationship thing when I lost my virginitiy at 15, and the girl cheated on me, and messed me up for the next few gf's. Just an example, I'm not saying that will happen to you, I'm just saying you should play the field, have some fun while you're young.
Somebody during my younger years should have told me this, now I'm playing the field when I should have been settling down hahaha! The irony of life!click to expand
it loves kicking you in the ass right? lol
One of the worst mistakes of my life was hooking up with a Capricorn.
Run.
Run.
Yes, I know you are the Capricorn. Still, Run. It is a match made in hell.
Trust me. You are still young!
Trust me. You are still young!
Posted by VirgoMerlot
Yes, I know you are the Capricorn. Still, Run. It is a match made in hell.
Trust me. You are still young!
I'm inclined to agree. I didn't even understand myself back then. I wouldn't necessarily run, but friend zone him/her and save em for later when you're more serious about life and love, especially also knowing what love is.
Posted by VirgoMerlot
One of the worst mistakes of my life was hooking up with a Capricorn.
Run.
LoL, why?
I just met a Virgo about 30min ago. I always see why the signs click. Clicking as friends or lovers is always the puzzling part, especially since I have yet to see a Virgo/Cap success story.
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