I'm a Scorpio man who fell in love with a Virgo woman. I knew almost instantly that this woman is who I want to spend my life with. I fell hard and fast. Once I started to express this she started to pull away. I finally got my way and got her to commit to a relationship. Things were very hot and then cold. She was still talking to other guys and I became very jealous and made accusations and assumptions. I kept testing her loyalty and kept questioning her about a this guy who was constantly texting her. Needless to say I drove her nuts. We broke up for a few weeks, not really broken up, she just wouldn't see me. I know this makes me seem in attractive and all, I'm really a nice man with a huge heart that I've been trying to give to her. I finally gave up and promised to drop this behavior. Then things got really good. I felt secure, felt I could trust her. I couldn't be happier. We got real close and I've never felt so connected to another soul. I love her so much. A few months go by and then over night she's ice cold. She was stressed out and depressed about a lot of things in her life. You know how you Virgo's tend to worry too much. 6 weeks go by and she's still very distant and she's not making time for me. Then she had a breakdown one day. I couldn't cheer her up like I normally can. I am frustrated and worried at this point and gave her a hard time for not meeting my needs. She agrees with me and says she's not a good girlfriend and I deserve so much better. She then breaks up with me. I spent a good month trying to convince her to stay with me. Then another month blaming her for all the pain I was feeling over this. I tried not speaking with her. A couple days would go by and she would contact me. She still would not get back together. Finally I said we can't see each other or speak to each other anymore. It hurts too much. This lasted a month. I gave up and started dating other women. We still talk and I even saw her the other day. She still says she doesn't want to date. I told her that I hope that we will be together again someday. She says you never know what our future may hold. So what do you think Virgo's? Do I have any chance? I would do anything for this woman. How do I show her that?
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Sep 26, 2012Comments: 1648 · Posts: 8572 · Topics: 67
You sound intense! Do you actually love this woman or do you want to possess this woman.
Cos just reading your breakdown is sending very mixed signals...
Yes I am intense. I really do love this woman. Possessiveness is one of the negative traits of Scorpio. I'm not trying to own or control her. I'm just want to feel the love she once gave me again.
I've been trying to be less emotional. I started dating again to take my mind off her. That's not working because I think about her constantly. I told her the other day that I have been dating again and she said she was happy for me. I told these other women don't compare to her and that they are just a distraction. It's been a little over 4 months since we broke up and I have never been so hung up on a woman before. I was married once and I didn't love my ex wife as much as I love this woman.
So this is the last text from the Virgo I'm so hung up on. Do I even still have a shot ?
This doesn't even make any sense. If I doubt your feelings are true? That had never been the case. It's as ridiculous as you saying I never cared, wasn't attracted to you, etc. you're going completely off track. I too have been honest and the only two real or relevant issues have been: a) I am not ready to be in or build a relationship right now- and b) your overwhelming lack of trust.
I've said I'm just not feeling it. I've said I don't feel open to it and to try and discern wether it's you, where I'm at in my life, or a combination of both seems impossible. It's been clear that it's been hard and sad for both of us. I was honest in feeling that it was the right thing to do to not lead you on any further when I couldn't answer these questions.
I was under the impression that we were making attempts to be around each other and see, letting it be organically. It's been bumpy but I thought that's what we were doing none the less. I don't like how random and off track this is becoming, that you are still finding some other reasons than what's I've said to be true. There is no more truth. It seems unfair to unload all these things because if your still prevailing doubt. If you want me to say I never cared, if you need to hate me then ok. But that will surely not the truth.
Thanks to everyone who shared their input and experience. Hopefully this is a good sign. I went over to her house to clear away a tree that had fallen on her car and house. She gave me a hug when I got there and a hug when I left. She invited me to a grad party she was hosting for her sister the next day. I went and we talked for a good hour about what's going on in her world. I kept my mouth shut and didn't bring up us. When I left she gave me hug and a kiss on the cheek. Followed by a text a few minutes after I left, saying thanks so much you are so sweet. She wants me to come over tomorrow so she can give me a thank you gift. I'm trying bit to get my hopes up too much but damn that felt really good and I've had a smile on my face all day!
Thanks for popping my bubble! This was the first time I was able to be relaxed and calm in her pressence, in a long time. Thinking and feeling positive now _??_