So Iv been dating this virgo I really like him Iv posted about his bizarre vanishing acts a few times. However, some new info has come to light!
This virgo vanishes regularly which is annoying as hell we are FB friends and all his posts seem to target me. When we speak he is overly nice and heavy with me I'm his girl etc etc but them poof he's gone again.
So I bumped into one of his friends and got talking as we all went to school together many many years ago. Anywho apparently he's obsessed with me he talks about me constantly, checks my FB loads, reads everything on it and checks how often I'm online and yeah the statuses I thought were about me were to provoke a response from me! He's got no issues hiding this to his friends even speaks about me like I'm his GF to them!
He goes for weeks at a time and I wouldn't call myself his GF cos he keeps pulling away from me. He leaves ME hanging
If he likes me so much why would he keep vanishing? Is there a kind virgo that could shed some light onto this for me? Or is this all nothing to do with being a virgo?
Just to add I'm at the end of my tether with him and about to call it quits all together with him and his crazy behaviour
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Apr 14, 2013Comments: 76 · Posts: 810 · Topics: 82
I've said this before and it was a lesson learnt from my past mistakes..don't waste anymore time on someone who keeps popping in and out of your life. If you don't like his behaviour now then don't put up with it. Let him know that you don't like it when he keeps disappearing and if he still continues obviously he didn't care enough to put your feelings first.
Regardless of how he's obsessively stalking you..unless he walks the talk I think you should move on. Find someone who communicates and who wants to spend time you. Not someone who keeps coming in/out of your life on his own terms. That's just selfish on their part. Who needs that?
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May 31, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 332 · Topics: 15
First, I feel obligated to say: please don't judge your relationship on how quickly or often someone likes your Facebook posts... from my experience, that's not a very mature thing to do. I'm not sure how old you are, but I would have a hard time taking a girl seriously if that even came up in conversation.
No one I know IRL is even active on Facebook anymore.
But as a Virgo, I did have one girl tell me once that it was weird that I disappeared and then came back. I tried to explain to her (unsuccessfully) that she had it backwards.
As a kid, I developed a 3-message rule: if I call a girl 3 times in a row and she doesn't call back, then it's over. I absolutely refuse to make a fool out of myself by chasing a girl that doesn't want to be chased.
As an adult, I had to apply this rule to texting, too. If I send you a text and you don't reply, I'm going to wait a few days before sending a second one. If you don't reply to that, I'm going to wait about 2 weeks before sending a third. If you don't reply to that, I assume we're done.
The girl that complained about me disappearing (a Libra, I think) was doing exactly that... not replying to my text, then being offended that I didn't text again, and again, and again, and again.
So if I were the guy in this relationship, the most logical explanation to this problem would be that I'm waiting for you to make some of the effort. Relationships have to be a 2-way street, and I can't be the only one making an effort.
If this doesn't apply then I don't know what to tell you: I don't usually play games, and get bored, fast, with girls that do. If I like you then I'm excited to talk to you, and I'll chat with you all day and night... if I'm not excited, then it means I'm not really in to you.
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Aug 14, 2017Comments: 19 · Posts: 827 · Topics: 18
Classic, push pull dynamic sadly. I hope your will is strong ?.?
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Aug 14, 2017Comments: 19 · Posts: 827 · Topics: 18
Do not let this taint your view, for I too have been where you are. You have two choices the way I see it.
1. Put up with the questionable behavior which causes you undue stress and pain or.
2. Walk away, with your held held high, with a bucket load of self worth in tact.
The choice is yours. I chose self worth.
Be kind to yourself. ?