Honestly - how difficult is it to change your view

Reading these and other boards I get the distinct impression that once a Virgo man has made his mind up about someone - then that is what he sticks with. All these questions about what someone is like and what do you feel about such and such give me the impression that Virgo males are trying to find out as much as possible about us before they commit. But, if the conclusion they come up with is confronted with contradicting evidence - how do you handle that?? a) start again from scratch, b) decide the first thing your first analysis is right and that's it or c. —?? (what ever that is).

I'm asking this because I think it would be very hard for me to do an in-depth study of someone, come to a conclusion and then try and go with the flow if things don't go the way I imagined - not in a bad way but just not how I imagined. I'd be cross referencing where I went wrong all the time !!

I suppose it must be difficult when you already know how thorough your thinking is and gone over countless scenarios in your mind, to take in and accept new aspects of someone you thought you understood inside out. In a way it says that the initial thinking was somehow flawed and that's hard to take in for anyone let alone someone who relies on it so heavily to make all their decisions of people.

I can see why that would unsettle someone to the point where they would rather stick with what they know than change a perception of someone. I would like to think though that given enough time that the Virgo intelligence would override that thinking and would carry on assimilating the new information and come to another view. I think you are too bright and analytical to ignore what is going on around you just because it doesn't fit in with your original thinking..

I think I understand what you both mean and I'm sorry that your relationship ended dyrstr8z. 20+ years is a lot of life that's gone before being faced with the inevitable reality that it just isn't ever going to happen.

I just couldn't understand why Virgo men come over as very black and white in their opinions of people and yet have this admirable intelligence for continual data collection and then analysing it and not grow with it? It just didn't and couldn't make any sence.

"Once I realized she wasn't capable of that (or any!) compromise, I made my decision to end the marriage...

It may take him a while, but when VirGuy deides it's over, it is."


I don't think Virgo males have the monopoly on this one. I tend to invest everything I have in someone who I think has potential and even though they let me down I tend to make some sort of rational excuse for them and carry them. There seems to be a line though that once they have crossed - that's it, I know I can't do anymore so move on and it is a pretty instant reaction as well. I can do this without too many guilty feelings because I know I tried my best when it would have made a difference but sometimes I do tend to catch myself thinking "could I have done more...................." I am very forgiving and not usually to my advantage.