How do Virgos react when surrounded by negativity?
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by buddhachris on Wednesday, July 3, 2013 and has 14 replies.
I'm a Virgo, and I'm sick and tired of the incessant nagging and bickering I hear from my family members. Anything I do, or don't do, usually leads to an unnecessary argument, and I'm so annoyed with this. My family members don't make an effort to be positive, resolve conflict, and speak tactfully. All that matters to them is that they always be right, that whatever the heck they want done gets done, and that they have the last word. I am not allowed to disagree with anyone's statements, because then I'm being "disrespectful and argumentative," and God forbid I say something called my opinion. I oftentimes feel more disrespected in my own home that by all the people at my school combined, and school is basically the land of bullying. How do you Virgos react when you feel drowned in negativity from other people>
Not good, if its too much i'll start reflecting the behavior back at them and usually more intense.
You can always choose not to participate in it. If you grow indifferent, they won't have anyone to argue with and the whole thing will cease. It's your caring that gives them fuel to bicker away.
Posted by Damnata
You can always choose not to participate in it. If you grow indifferent, they won't have anyone to argue with and the whole thing will cease.
Or make it worse...
This is when its time for A DISAPPEARING ACT!!! ba dum TING!
Posted by MellyMel909
Buddha, how old are you? You mention feeling disrespected "in your own home", but then you also mention everyone at school?
I'm still in High School. It's ironic how I very rarely have an issue or conflict with someone at school, but at home it has become something regular. I sometimes feel disrespected because nobody really cares to be kind & polite. My mom is argumenative and short-tempered. My aunt always butts into everyone's business, and believes she's entitled to boss my sister & me around. It's annoying as hell.
When you can I think it's best to distance yourself from it as much as possible. Unfortunately it seems to me as though this is some kind of typical "Virgo karma" (to grow up among negativity/bad vibes). Growing up I was the youngest in my family and so something of the butt of jokes and/or scapegoat for things and even now that kind of dynamic seems to still go on when I am together with my family of origin (minus my late mother who died in 2009). I know that in my case my Virgo "critical nature" which presumably does not help me make friends or find happiness has been internalised from my mother's nagging and negativity (alternating with neglect) while I was growing up. What I would like most of all would be to get a lady in my life who was really good for me, but unfortunately my ex (the only serious relationship that I have had and by whom I have had an unexpected child) has turned out (I am coming to realise) to be rather like my mother in terms of her negative and "killjoy" attitude. Despite what some people may think some of us Virgos do want to get some fun out of life but I know that in my case at least it has been difficult as so many of the people I know or have been close to have turned out to be killjoys. Sometimes I feel as though there is some kind of a "Virgo curse" and that if there is a God it seems as though he does not want us to find happiness for some reason.
Posted by VirgoMerlot
This is when its time for A DISAPPEARING ACT!!! ba dum TING!
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Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by VirgoMerlot
This is when its time for A DISAPPEARING ACT!!! ba dum TING!
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But I also disappear when I'm being negative...so basically I'm no where to be found ever hahahaha
It's because Virgos exude negative energy that they think is positive.
for example, look at Virgodog58 .... he has the ability in his life to make happy, instead, he wallows in how other people make him unhappy.
you could do the same ... that is, if it's your desire ... I've a sneaky feeling it isn't, rather, you want to wallow in what is wrong
You (and him) believe you are being a positive thinker when you think about what you don't have ... but, it's not ... and you probably have no clue.
Like I said: "It's because Virgos exude negative energy that they think is positive."
for example, look at Virgodog58 .... he has the ability in his life to make happy, instead, he wallows in how other people make him unhappy.
you could do the same ... that is, if it's your desire ... I've a sneaky feeling it isn't, rather, you want to wallow in what is wrong
You (and him) believe you are being a positive thinker when you think about what you don't have ... but, it's not ... and you probably have no clue.
Like I said: "It's because Virgos exude negative energy that they think is positive."
for instance ......
In the Opening Post, you described a situation in where you stand there reacting to the naggers, and we know this because you said, "God forbid I say something called my opinion" ... when in reality, because you aren't a child, and so therefore have rational thought, certainly, you realize that you could take the higher ground.
It is a situation in which you disapprove, correct?
After all this time of living in your family (you're a teenager) .... you STILL grump ^^^^^ about that in which you cannot control.
You can control yourself, and take the higher ground.
Instead ... you come here and pour out all of this negative energy to others ... but, you don't know it's negative ... because it's something you don't want.
You are what you think .... and you think about what you don't want .... so you get what you don't want.
simple concept
Posted by buddhachris
I'm a Virgo, and I'm sick and tired of .....
How do you Virgos react when you feel drowned in negativity from other people
In the Opening Post, you described a situation in where you stand there reacting to the naggers, and we know this because you said, "God forbid I say something called my opinion" ... when in reality, because you aren't a child, and so therefore have rational thought, certainly, you realize that you could take the higher ground.
It is a situation in which you disapprove, correct?
After all this time of living in your family (you're a teenager) .... you STILL grump ^^^^^ about that in which you cannot control.
You can control yourself, and take the higher ground.
Instead ... you come here and pour out all of this negative energy to others ... but, you don't know it's negative ... because it's something you don't want.
You are what you think .... and you think about what you don't want .... so you get what you don't want.
simple concept
so you get your family irritating you
You get your people in life being negative to you because your thoughts ask for it, by embracing those thoughts ABOVE what you do want ....
Instead of bitching, actually BE the better person - that you are insinuating that you want them to be.
You get your people in life being negative to you because your thoughts ask for it, by embracing those thoughts ABOVE what you do want ....
Instead of bitching, actually BE the better person - that you are insinuating that you want them to be.
Posted by P-Angel
so you get your family irritating you
You get your people in life being negative to you because your thoughts ask for it, by embracing those thoughts ABOVE what you do want ....
Instead of bitching, actually BE the btter person - that you are insinuating that you want them to be.
Best poster on this forum is right again
Suffocated and then I run!!! It's even healthy to separate from family sometimes to keep your sanity :/
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