How do you know Virgos like you?

How do you know Virgos like you?

I ask this because Branh brought up a topic about "Virgo aren't slow". It has to do with that Virgos are trying to figure out if you like them or they like you. My question is since some Virgos do move slow how do you know if they like you or what?

I was just curious as I've read many posts regarding the hot and cold games with Virgos.

Absolutely not. I dislike games very much. I'm very much upfront and to the point.

I've distanced myself from the situation and have moved on although I still seem to read others who have been dealing with Virgos hot and cold games.

AriesLovesVirgo,

Congratulations with your Virgo guy. I'm very happy for you. I was just curious because I've read so many women who have had to deal with the hot and cold games.

Yeah, that's what I've been doing with being his friend. He does have a lot of issues to deal with. Therefore I have let it all go because he has to get his life back on track on his own time. Besides, I'm very busy with schooling and my parttime job.

"I think you know a Virgo likes you when they compliment you or even make the smallest pysical contact."

....that is so true. The virgo guy I'm seeing loves to do all those small and cute gestures. For examples, when driving, he loves to hold my hands and once in a while he would lend over and kiss me on the cheek or my hands. It's so cute and affectinate. Other stuffs, like when you call he'll pick up if he didnt he'll apologize later on(cause he's either too tired fell asleep or work OT's esp my man is a cop). He'll stay on the phone longer to chat with you. He'll ask how's your mom and dad doing or just basicall how's the whole family lol He'll LOVE to please you sexually. Yeah my virgo is cute and sexy the same time 🙂

Time matters. I've known my virgo for almost 5 years now. We were friends back then and been dating different people and it wasn't until recently that we found out what we want from each other.

They nag you about your taxes, they fix stuff around the house for you (especially stuff you didn't know was broke), they buy a safer car to drive you around in, they find the best credit card rate for you, they cook you dinner, run you a bath when you are sick, they ask your opinion on their shirt/haircut/yadda, they get you a blanket in the middle of the night if you are cold.

They nag, scold, cajole ... because they worry about every aspect of your life. That is how you know.

The hot-cold games are strange.

The first one .... we never had hot-cold games. We were together for five years.

The second .... only got hot-cold after I agreed to marry him and no longer could leave emotionally.

Virgo men do not like emotionally dependent women.

Sooo, does this apply to those under "Virgo" Rising? My "Aries Sun/Virgo Rising" female friend and I ("Aries Sun/Leo Rising") have been talking a lot lately.

She's a sweetheart and under a lot of pressure at work. It's strange that after some very frigid times, we've found some "chemistry" in that she wants to talk to me about her bad times and I basically serve as a "sounding board" for her frustrations/concerns.

Interestingly enough is that she has taken a interest in my work and some other things too. Hahaha, we're at a pretty friendly level......I'm hoping we have something to take it to another level.

The VirGuy I know has people watching my drinking habits. He doesn't like it if I get tipsy but he can guzzle down 8 beers without giving it a second thought. He'll tell the other bartenders if he feels I am right on the edge. I hate that! I know he has a responsbility but they've never had to pick me up off the floor, carrying me out or put me in a car. I always manage to get home by myself. And oh yeah, used to inquire a lot as to what time I got home.

CF36

My VirGuy drinks like a fish, too. It has made me wonder if he's alcoholic-potential. When I've mentioned going out with my girlfriends, he's asked me who is going to drive, where I'm going, etc. When he and I go to his favorite pub, he'll order 3 or 4 beers, but after I've had 2, he'll suggest that I get a diet coke or water...hmmm

Hmm, it appears that VirGuys are protective and responsible for others - or maybe the women they're with?

"Hmm, it appears that VirGuys are protective and responsible for others - or maybe the women they're with?"

It harkens but to the conservative vibe brahn mentioned. CF36

i missed that comment from Brahn

Check out the topic 'Earth Sign and Conservatism'.

I just tell ya that's HOW!!; and I'll probably write something special to ya to let ya know I really like ya!!. Seriously though, my heart beats fast and I can't help wanting to spend more time with you; being around you is a part of what I look for in myself; SANCTUARY, and LOVE. I warn you, I am not the typical Virgo, and lots of people will tell ya that; even still it is after all me you are dating not them....

*wink*

I will talk more to people I like and have a good time. I will just listen and talk less to people that are "ok." If someone is on my crap list, and they are really annoying, I will let them know about it or leave. No games.

I know that some people on this post probably think of me as just a child, and simply silly and as a teen, idealistic about love; I wasn't always that way; I thought love was foolish, but I enjoy having a passion, and holding intrest in love; I like facing my fears and challenges; to express what latent love, and passion I hold inside; to find the one to share these feelings with; until then, this Virgo will continue to enjoy his semi-freedom

I think you express yourself very well, VirgoExalted & am actually surprised you're a teenager. You're very wise for your young years. 🙂

probably; but what does wisdom mean if it can't "give" to, or change the world...? I wish not to serve but to be a source of hope, and wisdom; truthfully I am that altruistic; Also not your typical cancer, my moon is in you sign...guess I ain't so typical for a Virgo huh?!?! LOL!!

I think the reason it is hard for a Virgo to show feeling is becuase...we can usually have TOO MUCH FEELING!!. I have no problem expressing myself...it's trusting you will be there, and love me in my worst moments that worries me; people have been in and out of my life for my whole life, so I adapted to fly-by-nights; but!! that ain't what I'm looking for...I am looking for the love of someone who makes me feel comfortable enough to be myself...flaws and all. I think I know I am flawed, and becuase of that I can be scared to be around people, becuase they might see and try to go for my jugular!!. Don't get me wrong; I am myself and am usually uneffected by stupid insults, but when it comes to expressing feelings I get paranoid you might try to attack me with my gaurd down; I think it's becuase of my own, personal life I am like that...

VE,

Your answer today was the answer I was looking for. Now I finally understand why I've been going through what it is I've gone through. It all makes sense now. Thank you so much. Now I understand the Virgo in my case so much better. Boy, if only I knew this before it would have made things so much easier. I also now understand why the Virgo guy has been the way he has been. You've been great!

P.S: Thanks to all the others who have posted.

If a virgo likes you he/she will most likely not show it. In fact you'll probably never feel like a virgo likes you even if they truely do. Even if you're dating one!

Lol...I'm a Virgo so I know how tough it is to find out whether a Virgo is interested with you or not because we rarely display our emotions, eventhough we are BURNING HOT inside lmao..I usually keep my composure and the flirting subtle but I'll never go overboard especially if I really like the guy because I'm afraid if I scare him away and desperation is a huge turn-off. And I feel such a loser when I let my guard down.. I think it has a lot to do with pride too and constant analyzing, when I really like someone I analyze his actions like a detective, I notice the most critical things that normal people wouldn't even worry about, also constantly probing for answers to the slightest gesture like Why is he doing this for and what is his motive? Why is he so touchy-feely, I wonder if he's like this with other girls or he is just trying to seduce me into getting what he wants? When that negative feeling or paranoia pops in my head automatically I back-off and act cold as hell and just leaves the guy wondering, what the hell did I do wrong? So bottomline, just allow a Virgo to get to know you and trust you more..it might take some hard work to get there but all it is just constant reassurance of your feelings for her and she'll eventually loosen up..And once she trusts, intellect will never rule out her emotions..Good luck

Thanks EstellaV. You and Dyr are most revealing.

Anytime mystical....If you need me, I'LL BE AROUNNND!! LOL!!!!

VE,

You are so sweet. I've made mistakes regarding a Virgo male being that I am Aquarian. I've never really dealt with a Virgo male so everything was so new. I'm a quick thinker and he's not. He must think about absolutely everything which there is nothing wrong with. Oh, I've realized he's shown a part of himself to me because he's started to trust me. It's taken so long. I've ended things with him but he comes back. I let him go but he doesn't want to let me go. Although I still really do like him. It's very bizarre.

Well I understand in that you are a quick thinker, mystical; I am myself, being that I am a Virgo; and some of my best Ideas come on the fly, or out of thin-air!!. I suppose, (depending on how you typify this trait as typical, or rare)A virgo tends to 'Analyze'; I can at times do this, but I've gotten so good at this, I don't need to take long; I get everything, including the main idea, and decide a course of action to go along with the idea; I can see farther down the road than most, and my mind can work like an Aquarians; many of my TRUE FRIENDS are Aquarians; he might just want to get the feel for every possible outcome...and your sooo right, nothing wrong with that, he wants precission, or at least not to run into any kinks...I am more unconventional in my views, and prefer to innovate, and make new ideas, and organize people, having the details don't really matter, all that does is that it comes through; I think as far as your V-man goes....well perhaps a lack of confidence keeps him comming back—?. If a Virgo has come out of a relationship they move on; perhaps he still thinks there's hope; what do you feel about it mystical, I mean, do you still think there's hope for you 2?. it can take a long time for a Virgo male to open himself up becuase, he's looking for someone to 'give himself to'; a person he can give 100% to. He has to understand you're here to stay, and not just a fly-by-night; virgos are usually all, or nothing...another reason why he can't let go—?

VE,

He and I are good friends. We haven't dated due to certain circumstances. He drives me nuts. I think so rationally, and he thinks well, slowly, which there is nothing wrong with. We are complete opposites. I've said goodbye to him twice already and he comes back. Just this weekend I sent him several text messages asking what the heck is going on (when I start writing I really get going but I didn't care). He seems to be very confused about different things in his life. I try to show stability but I don't know if I get through to him at all. He loves to talk to me about anything. He also likes to call me when he's drunk. We also talk when he's sober. I'm always nice with him on the phone, as I know most people when they are drunk, will remember when someone is mean to them. It's been an emotional roller coaster. I get so infuriated when I send him text messages and he doesn't respond. Oh, that drives me up the wall. Anyway, I'm at the point of giving up again. My problem is just when I think he's gone, he pops up again like nothing. Yes, he does have a lack of confidence. Hope for him and I? I have no idea. Very unlikely. The situation is very complicated. He's my first Virgo and well, I've been completely clueless regarding Virgos until I came to DXP, then I understood the Virgo guy in my case better. Oh, I'm rambling now. You Virgo men are addictive. Once you get to us gals, it's hard to forget about you.

VE,

By the way, I've assured him I'm here to stay and will not disappear on him whatsoever which is something he knows. He has shown some insecurities with people disappearing on him and I'm not like that at all. When I say goodbye to him it's because I've felt he's disappeared on me so I think he's gone for good. One thing that always sticks in my head that this Virgo guy has said: "He always comes back". I thought that was very odd because I've never dealt with people disappearing to just come back out of the blue. I never say goodbye to people but I do have a limit. He also knows I can't reject him. I've done it before but felt so guilty. I can't quite figure out why I felt guilty but I did. Therefore I've come to the point with it's his turn to say goodbye, if that happens. Maybe after the direct text messages I sent him this weekend he might just so. I wasn't mean at all. Just explaining some things that I'm confused about. He hasn't taken contact with me yet. I wrote for him to think about what I wrote. He'll probably think a bit this time. The last time I thought he was gone for good, it took him about a week before he got in contact with me. Therefore I wonder if it will take as long or longer. I don't want to end things with him as you've probably gathered but it's a complicated situation.

Yes, Mystical.....many, many kinks...I assure you though, I am ALL Virgo, It's probably that he is emotionally off-balance, or has some 'me' work to sort through we all have problems, and demons, and right now, he probably needs SOMEONE, (not necessarily you, so don't think it's your responsibility to tune him up)to be in his corner this guy is....'DIFFERENT'.; I know that I had times in my life where my behavior shoulda landed me in an PSYCH-WARD, AND IT DID!! LOL!!. What I'm saying is, is the guy knows you're there, and you've proven to him, WITHOUT A SHADOW OF A DOUBT that your there, (gotta hand it to ya there too, I'd have gotten sick of the flip-flop, and as a Air sign you should THEORETICALLY have less tolerance than I) basically Mystical, it falls down on one person....HIM. he's got work to do, and if he finally realizes, (he's not very good with subtltey is he—)than you two might have a chance....I know a Virgo like this and he is a male, and he just needs....well, I'm not very good at assecing the needs of people, but I'd say you need to give him time to come to his 'own resolution'. Anytime you have a person in your life that tends to call you when they are drunk, (don't take it too personally, my dad is the KING and I admitt it!! This guy seems like a afterschool special compared to my dad!! lol!!) they have lots, of 'me' work to do; you've assured him you're there.....what else is there to have, or need in a person— YOU SEEM LIKE YOU HAVE IT TOGETHER FOR THE BOTH OF YOU!!!!. This guy just seems dependent, and hasn't really been able to stand alone yet; when a person gets that alone time it's to ascess themselves, and understand that they need to do to be stable, and supportive internally, and externally;(I've been to MAAAAAAAAANY AL-NON, AND AL-TEEN MEETINGS!! I KNOW THE HYPERBOLLY BS!! LOL!!!).The disappearing act you see in him is his trying to 'work it out' in himself; he needs to try to understand things, and their worth; he values you, and probably grown 'dependent on you'. When I 'dissapear' it's just to have the freedom to do as I please, and just to go out as I want; I don't dissapear becuase I don't want to face you, but becuase this is 'me' time; to figure out my hopes, aspirations, dreams, ideals; and then share them with people; I am a very open virgo, becuase I am SELF-RELIANT. As for the guilt, that comes from your need to probably save him when he's 'in a pinch'...let him figure it out, he's a big boy!!. you did your work.

Wow! You got all that from what I wrote. Geesh! Seems like you got what I was writing. I'm not nuts afterall. Sometimes I think I'm a little weird but then again being an Aquarian, we are different but in a good way.

Mystical, I want to help you, AND this Virguy friend of yours...what can I say....
*puts hand to head, and strums on fore-head*
Firstly, I apolgize to you on behalf of ALL Virguys EVERYWHERE. I'm sorry you met a 'bum ticker' but maybe he just needs a polish, he really seems as though he internally hasn't 'met himself'....he dosen't believe in himself...and it all starts from the self. How can he believe you, if he can't at least 'fool' himself that he's worth it—?......This guy probably needs to stop turning rocks over in his head so much....maybe if you're still willing to help, you could enroll him, or at least present the idea that therapy, or Al-Anon is available. He needs someone....BAAAAAD, waht do ya know about his life at home? or his ability to cope with pain?.......I GOTTTA HELP; I DON'T WANT HIM TO HURT HIMSELF....THIS GUY...HMMM... What can I do....well you've said you've tried to introduce 'stability in his life' right? well, a person behaving that way needs help, from more than just a friend....but who knows? perhaps you're the friend who will save his life...hang in there MYdtical

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Hi all I'm new to this forum. I just meet a Virgo man about two weeks ago, we've been talking on the phone and chatting online. The cold and hot thing throw me for a loop, one minute he seems laid back, the next minute kind of cold and blunt. Just when I thought it's not gonna work he asks can he see me.. I go visit him for the first time at his apartment (very neat which I know is a Virgo trait). We laid in the bed and when it startd getting late I told him I had to go, he said "please stay the night" he held me all night until the morning. I was so emotional from being asked to say even though he knew we were not going to be intimate, I didnt know what to think, never had this type of intimacy with a man. Then the next day he was nonchalant like nothing, not mean just very bland. The same thing happened the first week we met, he begged me to come visit him after only seeing him once, then when I told him I'd better come another day, two days go by and I dont hear from him. Can someone help me, I think I'm truely starting to like him but I am nervous about these mood swings...

hi - allluv72...i am new too and i just met a virgo man as well (i am an aquarius) and the only thing that i can say to you (and i have never had an experience with a virgo man) that i am doing is giving him his space and time to do things so that there is no pressure....sometimes i dont speak to him for a few days but then one of us will contact the other and sometimes he's very moody and i have no idea what to do when he's being a crankmonster but i just kind of stay quite and smile and look dopey b/c i dont know what else to do....or i will ask him a question about something i know he knows or ask him to teach me something minor and hope that it gets him talking and it usually does...

p.s. i can't decipher the hot/cold thing either, i also got the "stay the night" thing....and just when i think that its probably not going to work or that i blew it he contacts me and wants to hang out and i'm just surprised, so i dont really know what to do except just to go with it and see how it develops and accept that it might be a slow process because i have read and heard that virgos can take a long time to trust someone and before they commit, they have to trust you and know that you wont disappear so i am just trying to be his friend more than anything

Thanks Sasha. it's just so strange. I'm a Cancer so I'm all about emotion, so once I feel we click my guard is down and I'm ready to move forward. But we always have weird conversations on the phone very dry and strained but in person we click like we're offically a couple and have been together a while.. It also seems he's more comfortable expressing compliments via email.. I guess I'll just have to back off and see what happens. Heres the question, I'm dying to know, most websites say yes. Are Virgo men usually honest, I've ask a few questions I wished I hadnt because he was bluntly honest, but I wondered if that applied with everything..Also are they usually faithful?

i'm kind of the same (my venus is in pisces which can over ride my aquarian nature when i really like someone) and this is the first time (i'm 23) that i have met someone and not jumped into the relationship immediately so its hard for me to just kind of wait around and try not to think and over analyze...and keep my guard up.
well i think that most of the time its easier with anyone in person and as long as its good in person i dont think you should care about the strained phone conversations or try to use the phone with him only to make plans (unless you live kind of far from each other)

i have also read that virgo men are usually honest, very honest, and if they criticize you that is their way of showing that they care (i guess care enought to want to improve you by criticizing you)
the faithful thing - i have read that they are extremely (maybe the most loyal of the sun signs) loyal but only once they have found the right mate or someone that they deem is worhty of their loyalty....and in order to attain that, they have to trust you, and that is the part that might take a long time...but it depends on the person and it depends some on the natal chart and other circumstances....but he sounds like a typical virgo, kind of like the virgo guy who i am becoming friends with now, and i have read it takes a lot to win the heart of a virgo

but once you do...they are very loyal and supportive and that its worth the wait.... i guess we will both have to see

Yeah I've read on multiple sites, they dont trust very easily. I tried not to put too much emphasis on signs but once I met this Virgo I was curious to figure out what he was all about. I was shocked how accurate most of the sites where with the blantly blunt attitude, but it also said once they trust you, they'll do anything for you... You've just got to learn to deal with them being so critical about everything. Being a Cancer that will be the rough part, I've already had my feelings bruised a few times by him, but I guess now that I know thats just how he is, I can understand it better and not take it so personal.

yea, i am trying not to put too much emphasis on signs etc. (but here i am posting on this forum) but its still very interesting especially not just the sun signs but natal charts...
what you said is pretty much what i have read as well and have experienced with virgo friends (my mother is a virgo as well- neat freak, critical etc.)
does he know that your feelings have been hurt by things he has said? or have you talked to him about taking a different approach to his criticims?

Wow Sasha, you're only 23? You seem very mature. Whats funny is one of my best friends is Virgo, we dated many moons ago and just stayed in contact. I told him a long time ago he needed to slow down, he had all types of women. But in the last 2 years he met someone and fell in love, I always check to see if he's cheated and he says no I have no reason too I've lucked out with this one, that total shocks me.. With my Virgo man, I asked him what he liked in a woman and he said looks dont mean much it's whats in her mind, and he just wants someone who can be faithful, but I was sure if he was sincere or if he was just saying that as a head game and he in fact might be a player himself.. I've read you've got to capture a Virgo with intellect...

Sasha, I did mention that he hurt my feelings, I also asked why he was so mean, because I truely didnt understand why the smallest things seemed so hugh in his eyes, he said "I'm not mean you're just sensitive and in denial" I thought this definitely isnt gonna work. Then a few hours later I get an email asking what I was doing, I told him sitting at my desk mad at him, he says "at least I know you're thinking of me, can I see you today?" I'm thinking does this man have split personalities or what....

yes i have read that you need to capture the virgo with intellect (i have asked for him to read to me which is one of my favorite things)
i have also read (on this message board) that virgos do play head games (aka testing you out repeatedly) but i dont know about the sincerety factor since they are said to be so honest (i have yet to experience the nit picky, critical side of my virgo and i am just waiting for it to come out of nowhere with a little bit of anxiety)

its good that you told him that he hurt your feelings so there will be no built up resentment, maybe you should mention a different approach for him (although i dont know the dynamic of your relationship and what boundaries you have set up, if any, because i know in the beginning its hard to set up boundaries since you dont know each other well so i dont know if its appopriate for you to mention a different approach to his criticism)

what about him makes him seem like a player to you?

because virgo men are typically not players and are usually very shy and hesitant about approaching women then like....i know my virgo (well he is my age) does not have a lot of experience with women so i am trying to help him through it (without him knowing of course) in small and subtle ways.

i think i mentioned this above....but i have been asking him to teach me all kinds of things (things that i have wanted to learn, not just for the sake of spending time with him, but it works out that i learn something i wanted to and i spend time with him and i think he gets excited/proud about it) so that might be a good thing to do with him if he knows something you want to learn

I guess I have a lot of insecurties from past relationship. I know the stop and go didnt help. I was thinking if he was begging to see me the second day after we met and then I dont hear anything from him for two days and then when I do call him he was so nonchalant like nothing was wrong, it made my defensives go up and think he's probably a player and spent time with someone else since you didnt go see him. Before we met and we were chatting online I asked if he met someone he really vibed with would be ready for a serious relationship, he said yes, that his father passed two months ago and he died all alone and he didnt want to be like that. Of course the sensitive Cancer in my was touched by this but again wasnt sure if this is truely how he felt. He did say which I know now is a Virgo trait, lets take it day by day.. Which I thought was kind of strange most guys want to move fast to try to get to the physical aspect, he also talked about holding and being held, which seemed kind of strange too for a man...

that sounds so much like my situation....the first week that we started to see each other, he wanted to spend almost every day together and i kind of put a lid on that and spent a few days with him (not consecutively), then he waited a few days before contacting me and i saw him again last week but only once....i know its hard not to assume that he might not be with someone else but solely judging from my experience so far i dont think my virgo has been with anyone else on the days that i have not seen him or talked to him (but that might be mainly due to the fact that he doesnt really know what to do with women and he is shy)
and the only other thing i have to go by is repeatedly reading/hearing that virgos are not really players .
i think he really means the day by day thing and its hard to do that because sometimes you cant help but think if this person has any place in your future (and i think its normal to have those thought patterns) and also its his way of letting you know that he wants to take it easy and "day by day"....the holding/being held is a little strange but i think its great to hear that from a man

the thing i am struggling with and it seems like you might be also, is that the pace is set by him and not by you because he wants to take it slow and you want to make him feel comfortable (as i want to cater to my virgo's needs because i like him) and i dont really know how to handle this, because i have no problem going slow or fast but he needs to take it slow so my needs are kind of taking a back seat and not to the point of extreme compromise or anything (its so early on too) but just with little things ....

i have a question - it seems like my virgo is constantly telling me things about himself that are not favorable (i think he is testing me) and things that i have never really heard guys say so bluntly about themselves and i am wondering if he does this to get it out in the open to see if i will stay or its just the way he is

does you virgo do anything like that?

It's only been two weeks since I've started communicating with my Virgo, he hasnt really said anything negative about himself, oh scratch that, he did. But it was constantly. I think what you're describing is the insecurity aspect of your Virgo, he's insecure so he views himself kind of negatively. I've read that too about Virgos, they're very insecure about themselves which is why they're so critical of others if that makes sense. My Virgo I think does the opposite he can sometimes come off as almost arrogant, like he's a ladies man, which I've read they fed their insecurity with creating this image, but they truely are very loyal once they feel they can trust you..