How do you react when you dislike somebody?

I am interested in learning how my fellow Virgos deal with people they dislike. Are you silent? Outspoken? Do you throttle them?

Thanks!

Why dislike a person?

Are you not capable of disliking a quality or trait, without the whole person?

Hi P-Angel,

I thought about your response, and yes there are plenty of people that I adore who have traits which I dislike. Yet the simple reality is that there are those who are completely unbearable, at least in my reality. Have you truly never met a person that you dislike? If so, I find that to be an admirable ability. I freely admit that I'm just not that evolved yet.

So your reaction is to find something to like about them.

Anybody else?

This seems like an odd question to me .. most people are comfortable and confident in how they believe thier treatment of others fits within their perception of appropriateness.

But, for the fact that this question is asked .. leads me to believe that you aren't satisfied with the manner in which you treat people you don't like .. as though, there may be some guilt involved.

Normally, when people treat others "nicely" .. there are no lingering thoughts to ponder on whether this is a right choice, or not. Normally, when people treat others "badly", there are indeed lingering thoughts to ponder on whether there should be any guilt to carry, or if adjustments in attitude are warranted.

Very queer question to ask .. why would someone want input on how to hate, rather than like?

"So your reaction is to find something to like about them."


Actually "NO" .. I have no thoughts or reactions to like, or dislike .. this isn't even contemplated within my brain or heart.

My thoughts/reactions are geared towards wanting to know if you know who you are. In my knowing who you are holds no benefit to me .. if I knew who you were, for good (to like), or bad (to dislike) .. then, I would be able to answer your question. But, that holds no interest, nor any revelancy to me ..

My only interest in people is in knowing if they know who they are, and if they don't, then I mean to tell them, so they will know what motivates them .. for good, or bad.

You are reading way too much into this. I am experiencing no guilt over how I treat people. If you are interested in what made me ask this, feel free to let me know and I will tell you, but please don't presume to know what is going on in my head. My reasoning is dead opposite of what you are guessing.

Is there something I'm missing here? You refer to a simple question as odd and queer, and somehow turn it into my "wanting input on how to hate". I simply can't understand the very strong reaction that I am getting from you, except to guess that you truly believed that what you thought I was thinking to be fact.

But I'll take this as a lesson learned and give more background as to why I ask a question from here on out. That's the best that I can do.

Okay, so I know who I am, and I know what motivates me, and once we actually get to know each other, you will know that. Now that you've explained your view, I understand where you are coming from, and I do find it interesting. But yours is a unique view, and I am still wondering how people who actually do experience dislike for another person deal with it.

I just realized the time and need to log out for a few hours. When I get back, maybe I can take the time to explain what motivated this question in the first place, but it will be rather lengthy. Now that I've thought about it, I can see where such a blunt question can be off-putting. My bad.

"but please don't presume to know what is going on in my head. My reasoning is dead opposite of what you are guessing."


lol, I'm not presuming, nor guessing .. merely examining. Taking a defensive posture when not needed, isn't prudent.

"I simply can't understand the very strong reaction that I am getting from you, except to guess that you truly believed that what you thought I was thinking to be fact."

No, most people can't understand, because they will automatically erroneously believe that I am stating an opinion, or making statements as to what is fact within your head.

Though, I clearly stated .. I have no interest in knowing who you are .. my interest is that you know who you are, lol

Every person deserves responses .. whether they be strong or mild, isn't what should be pondered by you, for they came from me and is mine to carry. If I react strongly, that is my emotional burden not yours.

Sorry you have misunderstood me .. is takes a very objective mind to comprehend me. Most people take things subjectively and therefore know not how to proceed.

I make no claims to be in your head because I'm not .. you are.

I'm simply inquiring as to the reason for the question, itself, and have little, if any interest in the answers to it.

Most people don't answer questions on this board, virgoshell .. maybe you can turn it around and get Virgo's to actually answer.

depends upon the depth/intensity of how much I dislike them....I usually seethe before I explode all the while plotting on them, and If I explode, I will probably do all I can to make your life hell....you know hidding the remote, eating all the cookies/juice in the house you know, the really sick shit! lol

seriously If the person is someone I disgust I will confront them. The tact and intellect go out the window, and from there on in, I'll do anything to mentally/physically destroy you...the best part is the plotting....I like to keep something in reserve so when they approach I have the upper hand. I'll do whatever is necessary depending on the given situation. I give 100 percent in whatever it is I do, so.....use your imagination....

When I'm mad at someone, I usually tell them, and then I pout and ignore them until I'm satisfied that they've suffered enough. Is that healthy?

Does anybody else just get the hell out of dodge? I can't stand the feeling of angry adrenaline so much that I say see ya, and go. I've often been accused of having some other motive for this method, but not enjoying the sensation of all the blood rushing to my liver is about it.

I am like you...I can do without the negative energy. Rather go read a book than vent out my frustrations on someone who within days, hours or weeks will more than likely move on out of my life....Now a sibling or other family member...one you can't shake? I just get the heck away until I calm down. I had a pathological liar for a brother and he sure pissed me off. I have been known to rant in younger years. Now I know it takes more out of me than them. It's not worth it. And I never was any good at plotting against anyone ...sometimes wish I was.

P-Angel that was such a pisces answer lol.....so indescriminate. Most pisces would befriend the devil if he had only one redeemable quality.

Nobody is perfect, but there is a certain threshhold where a person has more that I dislike about them then what I like, or what I don't like is in areas that are more important to me (like temperament and honesty).

As a cancer, when I don't like someone it is very obvious. I don't care to speak to them or deal with them at all unless it is absolutley necessary, and even then I am borderline irritated and speak in very short sentences, am overly direct, and seek to END the interaction as quickly as possible-----and won't bother to be tactful or politically correct.

"I have known virgos who will go for character assassination when they are not keen on someone. They love a bit of malicious gossip."

yeah i've witnessed this be pretty bad with them too...

(commenting on above)

...a virgo could be your best friend for 25 years, but if the relationship goes south all of a sudden (let them tell it) you were NEVER shit, NEVER about shit, they ALWAYS KNEW you were a horrible person but they just graciously gave you the benefit of the doubt (for a quarter century lol), etc....its kind of hilarious not to mention ridiculous.

I think it comes from their intense aversion to ever being "wrong". In their mind they need to make sense of whatever altercation they've hadwith you by saying that they've never REALLY liked you anyway...forget what part THEY played in the conflict.

I don't see how you figure that cancerLA, since I neither like, nor dislike a person or their qualities .. I just simply psycho-analyze ..

There's absolutely no interest in knowing how another processes dislike, for however another does is theirs, not mine .. so it's irrelevant .. that's just too superficial for me .. all outside reactions .. however, I cannot understand WHY someone would want to know how another person processes dislike.

Can't say I've ever heard anyone ask a question such as this.

How do I get him to want me?
Why does he cheat?
Why did he pull away?
Where did he go?
Am I coming on too strong?

All of these types of questions seems normal for people to ask.

How often do you hear someone ask .. does anyone hate the same way as me? How do you treat someone you don't like? Should I kill him if I don't like him?

People don't normally ask others how to assassinate, rather, love .. and I find it odd.

Reminds me of a time when a new friend asked me, "how does a person go about finding another person to help you kill someone?" who asked questions like that?

"How do you react when you dislike someone?" I'm not sure how to not like .. can someone tell me how they do it? I want to know if others dislike the same way, please inform.

I'm not sure what this means .. there's something terribly wrong with this picture.

does that not seem queer?

Your entire post is somewhat befuddled, so i won't bother to strangle myself in its web of dementia and gobbledygook,

at any rate, my comment about pisces was a lovingly tongue-in-cheek one, as pisces is one of my favorite signs. Still, the fact remains that pisces are known for taking one redeemable quality in a person and seeing the person a that as opposed to an average of ALL qualities good and bad like most other people do.

Not surprised you didn't understand .. afterall you believe, "pisces are known for taking one redeemable quality in a person and seeing the person a that as opposed to an average of ALL qualities good and bad". So, I guess I can't expect any comprehension beyond the outer layer of surface awareness.

Please don't bother strangling yourself .. people who comprehend, understand.

I tend to ignore them and if ever I do have to have interaction, I try to be politically correct 😉 as Caps are political people (as quoted by other signs!).

"Please don't bother strangling yourself .. people who comprehend, understand."

P, I didn't say that I did not comprehend, I said that what you wrote was gobbledygook. There is a clear distinction. Further, the fact that someone responds differently to people than you do makes your way of seeing it any more "deep" than the the next, and to assert that it does only exposes YOU as being incapable of anything more than mere surface awareness.

Seriously. You need a life.

You still don't get it, lol

Oh well ..