How Does A Virgo Deal?

How does a Virgo deal with the feeling of losing something that they worked so hard to keep together?

Not good i get depress and moody and stick to myself. y do u ask

Is this in reference to the GemGirl you sought to obtain who wasn't taking it seriously?


Just curious ... because if so, then there's a whole other thing to consider than just how does one feel when they don't score the thing they've worked hard to get ...... there's the reality to it, the one about (((((what))))) it actually is you were trying to get, versus what you thought it was because you wanted it.

To answer your question ... when my Virgo husband doesn't score something he's worked hard on to get .... he goes through stages.

First, he'll be pissed off .. and vent off his anger
Next, he'll think he's stupid, worthless
Next, he'll be pissed off again
Then, he'll begin to feel like he's been taken for granted
Pissed off again
Then, his favorite friends will come to visit and he'll drown himself in them = Jim Beam & Ginger Ale

Then, when he sobers up .. he's awake to the truth.

Life's a bitch sometimes, but, not the end of the world ... and he'll start paving a new road with a life-lesson under his belt.

Here is the pattern I noticed.

Gets Really depressed, needing to hide or sleep
Feeling worthless
Feeling of being taken for granted or unfairness
Some whining and venting about the suffering
Then afterwards, they get better and snap out of it
Next day they are fine.

Yep thats how I know my Virgo friends to be like LP.

Im glad we are all on the same page. 😄

Well P-Angel, I know Gemgirl's are hard to keep, even harder that I be a Virguy. But Its pretty scary on how the 'patterns' of a Virguy are... some of the stage's i don't think i hit not unless there is denial somewhere. 🙂

First a person has to look at the worth of the person, for self-benefit, Epictetus.

If the person you chase, to whom you put in tons of effort and precious energy ..... doesn't even want to be with you, and because they don't want to be with you is why you failed to get them after all this effort ... then they actually have no worth to you for your benefit.

So, the way I assess this situation ... you didn't lose something because you didn't get her, you gained something because you didn't get her. When you were chasing a "lost cause", is when you were losing.


Just because you want a person, Epictetus, this doesn't mean that this person who is the object of your affection is actually good for you, or right for you, or beneficial to you ... just because you want it to be.

In fact, an object of ones affection is just an "object".

I'll start throwing and breaking things and swearing for a while then I'll say: fuck it, then try to divert myself somehow all the while feeling like shit and when I do manage to get the shock and anger out of my system I'll think how to fix things and if it was really worth it in the first place

Virgo men give mixed signals & are very slow..if it wasnt for these posts I think I would have given up..its hard because we live in different states, but he was so into me in the beginning, telling me he has never felt this way,blah,blah. me being a cautious Cap, wasnt sure & didnt express much, but he kinda proposed one night, then never mentioned it again..and that is when the pulling started..i dont know if the distance scared him, or if it was financial, I read they overanalyze and get scared. after a while he stopped contacting me and now after 4 mos he send me an email,expressing some feelings, that he thinks about me all the time and cares for me. i dont know if this is to see where I stand or what. does he want to come back? I cant deal with this BS,Virgo men need to stop the games, its not fair. I really had an amazing connection but dont know how much I can take. Patience is the key with them, so I know I have to pace myself..Since this posts is about Virgo, how much longer should I wait, or do I give up completely??

cool, the virgo board is getting some action again .. welcome back cyberbikes