I cant believe he disappeared on me...

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by girlofaqua on Saturday, July 27, 2013 and has 28 replies.
Everything was going perfect. He kissed me on the first date. He told me he liked me on the 4th date, though I didn't reply bc he caught me by surprise (Im aquarius/quite regretting that). Still, he continue asking me out. We had great conversations and fun together, though the last couple of weeks he seemed shyer and always looking at me. It was last month that he had to travel to Europe that I told him that I was going to really miss him, expecting a "Me too". But no, he told me "oh, its just going to be for 2 weeks"!?!. After that he didn't text me until he was back in NY. I really like this guy but I don't know how to approach him. Being an aquarius and seeing his behavior is hard for me to tell him how I feel. Virgo guys, should I tell him how I feel? Would that scare him more? Right now hes in Europe again. He just texted me yesterday saying hes having a great time! after 5 days of not knowing anything about him! and not back till next week. Lately Ive been trying to forget him, but then after some days I receive a text. Do virgo men like to torture girls???
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I'm waiting anxiously for an answer with you. I have a Virgo male that has been doing this to me for the 3 yrs. I recently decided he likes me...lol
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They disappear and reappear when they're not sure about you.
Virgo men do not do the disappearing thing if they truly feel strongly about building a relationship with you.
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Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
They disappear and reappear when they're not sure about you.



I totally agree with this statement.
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Posted by girlofaqua
Would that scare him more?




Your tricks don't fool me. There's no evidence here to support that he is scard, so you saying that makes the suggestion that you weaken him, so don't you look awesome?
Not the case, at all, according to what lies between the lines here.

Posted by girlofaqua
He told me he liked me on the 4th date, though I didn't reply bc he caught me by surprise



Posted by girlofaqua
We had great conversations and fun together, though the last couple of weeks he seemed shyer

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There's nothing unreasonable for a person to tell a potential partner that they really like them after the 4th date. So, you saying it took you off guard is really bullshit you're trying to pull. You not responding back to him when he expresses sentiments to you, is causing him to back off and become shy around you.
The only issue here is you thinking you are more than you are, and attempting to give us this impression. He obviously picked up on it after you blew him off from 4th date when he stated he really likes you.


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Being honest here, Im not the kind to say my feelings on the open and mostly when I just recently met someone I am starting to like. I think actions speak louder than words. I cooked for this guy for one of our dates, and the way he wanted it. Think about organic chicken marsela! smh. I even baked brownies after I knew he was sick which he though I bought them bc they looked too perfect. But he also said that hes not 100% into brownies but chocolate cake?!?!
@lx120 the things that I mentioned before have made me unsure about him. True, I hadn't tell him I like him yet. But who cooks, bakes and spends train fare to date a guy who you don't like. Btw, he also lives in Brooklyn lol
Also when I did get the courage to speak my feelings before he departed to Europe n told him that I was going to really miss him while kissing him. He tells me "its going to be just for 2 weeks"?!?
@RomancingA I am not a clingy person, which reminds me of a libra who would text me 100 msgs per day if not more. We are both busy people. I need sometimes a day of solicitude. I am realizing by now he needs a week...which wouldn't hurt if I knew I was part of something more meaningful but just dating without knowing where I stand.
Also, after I told him I would really miss him, he stopped texting for 2 weeks. I didn't text him either until a week ago to inquire if he was still overseas. No answer but after 2 days to tell me his vacation time periods? Now, my friend set me up on this date last sunday and just when I wanted to call this new guy and let him know that I just arrived to the restaurant guess who texted and hadn't stop since then...yeah Virgo Guy!!!
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Posted by girlofaqua
... this date last sunday and just when I wanted to call this new guy and let him know that I just arrived to the restaurant guess who texted and hadn't stop since then...yeah Virgo Guy!!!




So, now you are going to carry your game even further and bring another man into the picture.
There's no reason to do that, if you really care about Virgo ... except to try and make him squirm, making him think that you're sought after, so he better work really fucking hard for you.
Afterall, you cooked home meals for him to impress him and he simply went out of town for a couple weeks, and you even told him you would really miss him ... so you were intending on him to believe that you're into him ... now, when he calls, you're on a date.
Yep, I'm always right ... you're a bitch.
You don't deserve a Virgo
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Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
Not all virgos are like that though. you can't judge all from one bad apple.




One side of your mouth says that you keep hearing how Virgos disappear to the point that you made reference that you might not like being a Virgo .... then the other side of your mouth says it's just one bad seed.

You can't heal from something that is obviously fucked up, if you turn around and make a justification to continue in the fuck up by saying it's just one bad seed.
See, it's things like that ^^^ zero self accountability, even when it's in your face ... that is one of the many reasons why Virgos fail to maintain relationships because nobody wants a person who won't own up to the truth about themselves.
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Posted by girlofaqua
.... I was going to really miss him, expecting a "Me too". But no ...



Obviously, here is where you decided to play head games with this guy. You had an expectation on how you thought he should respond to you (keeping in mind of course that when he presented you with sentiment, you ignored him).
He didn't act on que, as you expected him to do.
Posted by girlofaqua
Also when I did get the courage to speak my feelings before he departed to Europe n told him that I was going to really miss him while kissing him. He tells me "its going to be just for 2 weeks"?!?
.... after I told him I would really miss him, he stopped texting for 2 weeks.



In a later post, you mention TWICE AGAIN how he didn't respond to you as you thought he should when you expressed a sentiment to him.
Still keeping in mind that you've still failed to tell him how you feel ... and then use your actions of cooking especially for him to attempt to convince your audience that he/we should grasp that you really like him, because why else would a woman do that for a man she didn't like, and shouldn't your actions supercede words, since actions speak louder.
Posted by girlofaqua
... on this date last sunday and just when I wanted to call this new guy and let him know that I just arrived to the restaurant guess who texted and hadn't stop since then...yeah Virgo Guy!!!

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so, that's THREE times in this thread you mentioned that he failed to respond back to you the way you expected him to when you told him you will miss hime ~ still keeping in mind that you ignored him when he told you he liked you.
So, then after all this convincing that your actions of taking care of him speak louder than words, to attempt to present yourself as a woman of little words, but great care .... you turn around and not only go out on a date with another man, you make sure to tell us that he called while on the date .... which then plants the image in your audiences/the readers mind that if you're on the phone with one man, while physically with another .... then "words" now are going to have to be said to either one, project onto one of them that you want him to feel threatened OR continue to blow the one on the phone off, co
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.... considering you'd have to save face with the one you're in front of (the date)
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Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
I'm also quiet sure I did say I was joking, or maybe I forgot to put that but for anybody to throw all virgos in the same sentence is like throwing all blacks, whites or any other race in the same category. I just don't think you should judge a book before you read it. thats just my way of thinking maybe im wrong if I am then I will take that lost.




Well, you failed to say that ... so if you want people to believe it's a joke, then you should state it.
And secondly, there is fantasy ... and there is there is reality.
Ideally, you'd like to believe in that nobody should judge Virgos across the board ... then the reality is that probably 95% of females who come in here are bitching about how fucked up the Virgo male they are trying to date, actually treats them.
So, though I realize that you'd like to believe in your illusion .... reality prevails.
It's a high percentage of people who have actually experienced that their Virgo is less than fair to them .... so, you can spout off at the mouth until the cows come home how you would like people to believe, but, that doesn't make it the reality of truth.
Again .... this is one of the many reasons why Virgos fail in relationships .... because they won't own up to the truth about themselves, even when it's so in their fucking face that they've come onto an internet forum to state that they've noticed that people feel this way about Virgos.
Can you be more deluded than that? In that you state it's there, then deny it's there?
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Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
.... to throw all virgos in the same sentence is like throwing all blacks, whites or any other race in the same category ...




Obviously, you're unable to handle the harsh realities of life.
You have come to a forum where every person is willingly separated/segregated according to their specific label .. then bitch about how unfair it is.
:::: shakes head ::::
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Posted by girlofaqua
.... I just recently met someone I am starting to like. I think actions speak louder than words. I cooked for this guy for one of our dates, and the way he wanted it ... I even baked brownies after I knew he was sick ....
True, I hadn't tell him I like him yet. But who cooks, bakes and spends train fare to date a guy who you don't like.




this ^^^^^^^^^^^ was inserted into the story to try and convince the readers that you really like him ... and then after this you stated again that he didn't respond according to how you expected him to.
It all boils down you ... you're trying to manipulate him, and you're running into a brick wall because the Virgo isn't acting on your cue. Instead, he just goes on vacation and you can't stand that.
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Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
... so that is your reality.



You're the Virgo, not me. You cannot even manage to own up to what the label is you own?
Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
Now my reality I haven't seen anything like ...




You stated it .. see below.
So, you can't now backpedal (or lie, if you'd rather use that word) and state that you know nothing about it.

Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
.... that every forum I see on here about virgos, is the fact that we keep disappearing.

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You just want to state how sad it is that it happens, as if the issue doesn't belong to you ... you don't want to own it, at all ... typical Virgo
The fact that you deny that it's wrong (in saying that it's not you - when it is) is the same as the Virgo disappearing.
Instead of owning up .... you side-step it to not own it. That's the same treatment that women in here talk about ... the Virgo vanishes, rather than owning up.
You are a Virgo, this is a typical Virgo quality that is one of your main fuck ups that needs to be worked on .... but, you can't handle that reality, and so you deny the reality of truth.
I don't see you being any different from the rest ...
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Posted by girlofaqua
Right now hes in Europe again. He just texted me yesterday saying hes having a great time!




You made this thread, making sure to label it that the Virgo disappeared on you .... with intentions of conveying to your audience that you've been jilted.
In reality, he's texting you while in Europe, and did so the yesterday of when this thread was created .... this is a flaw in your fabrication.
You should check that before starting another story.
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Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
Not all virgos are like that though. you can't judge all from one bad apple.




One side of your mouth says that you keep hearing how Virgos disappear to the point that you made reference that you might not like being a Virgo .... then the other side of your mouth says it's just one bad seed.

You can't heal from something that is obviously fucked up, if you turn around and make a justification to continue in the fuck up by saying it's just one bad seed.
See, it's things like that ^^^ zero self accountability, even when it's in your face ... that is one of the many reasons why Virgos fail to maintain relationships because nobody wants a person who won't own up to the truth about themselves.
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Couldn't agree w/ you more.
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Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
..... its like im taking the blame for the men that left you.




I've never stated whether or not a man has ever left me .... so, if it confuses you that you appear to take the blame for a Virgo ... does it also confuse you that you just projected it back on me, as if to suggest that what I said is due to being left by a man .. which is also a form of blame?
suggesting that I am blamed for having these views based off of being left ....

I doubt not .. I doubt you have self awareness or intelligence enough to realize that you just did the exact same thing to me that you accuse me of.
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Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
They disappear and reappear when they're not sure about you.



I totally agree with this statement.
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Actually, that's inaccurate.
they do it when they are unsure about THEMSELVES .. that's a big difference.
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not always. I sometimes do the disappearing act when I'm not ready for a commitment not because I dont like the man/too busy with my life,explaining wont make you understand/when I like the man too much & noticed I am falling for him but just not ready to be in love. it's all about me, not him. I'm not sure abt myself(whether or not I am ready for him/commitment).

Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
They disappear and reappear when they're not sure about you.
Virgo men do not do the disappearing thing if they truly feel strongly about building a relationship with you.


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mes it's this! sigh.

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Posted by leejt86
Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
They disappear and reappear when they're not sure about you.



I totally agree with this statement.




Actually, that's inaccurate.
they do it when they are unsure about THEMSELVES .. that's a big difference.

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more i'm into the man, the more I'll do the disappearing act
I feel intensely & I've to disappear into my own world to get my composure back.

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Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
They disappear and reappear when they're not sure about you.



I totally agree with this statement.
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yes they like to vanish
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just finished reading the whole thing and I get it now when you lot fall deep for the other person you cant handle the emotions and feel out of control so you run and hide. when you feel back in control you re-appear by then the other person is in the mental hospital, Died or moved on that's how long you guys are gone sometimes.
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aquabeauty you keep hiding your post your a bit spiteful reminds me of the playground grow up
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obviously there are regulars on here but some of you are just plan old bitches said in true Scorpio style and I can take the heat so I think I will stay thanks and enjoy the ride
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Posted by applemint_fv
actually the more i'm into the man, the more I'll do the disappearing act
I feel intensely & I've to disappear into my own world to get my composure back.

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Posted by Nebulous_Cloud9
They disappear and reappear when they're not sure about you.



I totally agree with this statement.


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@applemint Your post gives me some kind of hope...To keep you guys posted, I hadn't hear from my virgo since Thursday. He texted me letting me know that hes staying in Europe one more week due to some family matters. I told him to let me know when hes back to meet and catch up...and he didn't answer to that text....I am not surprised anymore.
I decided to give him time to think things through while hes in Europe. I am not going to sweat it anymore. As much as I feel I am starting to fall deeply for this guy my mental health and my work cant be affected by him.
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