I don't know what this Virgo guy wants to get out of our 'relationship'
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Scorpiogrlll on Monday, November 28, 2016 and has 4 replies.
(tl;dr below)
This Virgo guy has been coming off a little strong ever since he told me he liked me. We've never met but he has already tried to kiss me on our first date (which I stopped) and tried to do it again on our second one even though I told him that he needed to slow down. I found out that he was going overseas to study for two years in a few months, and told him we shouldn't see each other anymore (I still like him). He told me he just wanted romantic companionship, I said that wasn't the kind of thing I was interested in, and he told me he respected that and went radio silence for a week before texting me again. This just keeps happening, we text and text - I hint that I'm not going on another date with him, he goes radio silence, then texts again like nothing happen days later. I know it's a really messy story, but I just want to know, is he coming on so strong cos he's trying to get the most out of this fling thing before he has to leave or does he genuinely like me and wants this to last?
tl;dr - Virgo guy leaving to study overseas in a few months, tells me he wants a romantic companionship, I like him but tell him it's not the kind of r/s I'm looking for, he says I understand and texts back a few days later like nothing happen, we've been texting and he just does that same thing every time I hint we're not gonna go out again. Does he just want a fling before he leaves or does he genuinely like me?
This Virgo guy has been coming off a little strong ever since he told me he liked me. We've never met but he has already tried to kiss me on our first date (which I stopped) and tried to do it again on our second one even though I told him that he needed to slow down. I found out that he was going overseas to study for two years in a few months, and told him we shouldn't see each other anymore (I still like him). He told me he just wanted romantic companionship, I said that wasn't the kind of thing I was interested in, and he told me he respected that and went radio silence for a week before texting me again. This just keeps happening, we text and text - I hint that I'm not going on another date with him, he goes radio silence, then texts again like nothing happen days later. I know it's a really messy story, but I just want to know, is he coming on so strong cos he's trying to get the most out of this fling thing before he has to leave or does he genuinely like me and wants this to last?
tl;dr - Virgo guy leaving to study overseas in a few months, tells me he wants a romantic companionship, I like him but tell him it's not the kind of r/s I'm looking for, he says I understand and texts back a few days later like nothing happen, we've been texting and he just does that same thing every time I hint we're not gonna go out again. Does he just want a fling before he leaves or does he genuinely like me?
Posted by starwars
I wouldn't trust someone who doesn't respect the boundaries.
To be fair I wasn't exactly reinforcing it either sigh
He told you explicitly what he wanted, believe him.
If that is not what you want, be firm about it.
He keeps coming back to test your boundaries and your limits.
They will write you or keep writing to you because they can, especially if they are not taken and not invested.
If you decide to respond and give him an ego boost in turn, why would he not return and do so, over and over again. He responds and writes because he is aware that you would still give him the time of day.
Once they know you will not, they will stop and disappear.
If that is not what you want, be firm about it.
He keeps coming back to test your boundaries and your limits.
They will write you or keep writing to you because they can, especially if they are not taken and not invested.
If you decide to respond and give him an ego boost in turn, why would he not return and do so, over and over again. He responds and writes because he is aware that you would still give him the time of day.
Once they know you will not, they will stop and disappear.
Yeah you're all right, I just keep getting played cos he does really nice and thoughtful things. It sucks and I didn't want to give up cos he's the first guy I actually feel comfortable and at ease around and it sucked like crazy every time he didn't text.
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