I need help ! I need to understand my virgo male

I cant understand my Virgo male he is born 13th sept and I am born 4th Oct. I met him online. we met each other in person. He told me after a week he isnt attracted me to me. So we lost contact for 6 months. finally he came back into my life after six months. I was surprised. We did meet. we had sex on the first meeting after 6 months. Since then onwards i find this guy only pulling and pushing away from me. we are really good friends. We really enjoy each others company. BUT he doesnt want to see me as his girlfriend. This kept on going on for a year finally in novemeber 2012 i planned to break up the friendship with him. He wouldnt let me. He kept saying I love you as a friend. Please dont go away. He has a habit also of speaking a lot about his Pisces ex gf. Which i hate the most. I didnt listen to him. After a week he calls me back acting as if nothing happened. he then calls me to meet me. I finally meet him. He says I would want you as my gf. I do have feelings but i am very shy to express it. I gave in but to be honest i really didnt find any difference in him. What I have noticed about him is when he drunk... he says I am an amazing person. Whichever guy will get me will be very lucky. He wished i could be a part of his life. I did remind him all these things when sober but he says its not possible, I am making up stories.I got so angry with him. The very day I began texting him rude stuff and abused his mom too. He was very patient. He finally met me in the evening. As soon as I entered the car he said hi in a smiling way. I did say a word. He took me for a long drive as usual. He was asking me to speak but I couldn't. finally the argument began. I told him what he said in the month of November .And then he finally says I am sorry for everything. Right now my financial crisis doesn't permit me to think anything properly. Help me come out of my situation. I kept asking him why did you ask me to stay with you when you didn't feel for me. He was quite. I asked him why do you call me an amazing women. And finally want to me to go away with another guy. he just kept quite and said I cant handle you. Youre very different from me. I was very upset. I again told him lets break the friendship. But he said no just don't talk to me for a month . give me my space. Lets see what happens. I did express my love for me. But he shouted at me saying —just because you can express your love to me doesn't mean you love me??. Please help me understand thi

So even after a year later your still letting him treat you like this. Do you have any confidence in yourself at all. I have lots of friends and never have they treated me like this, have they ever treated me like shit they would not be my friends. Leave him alone, and start focusing on yourself, his emotionally toying with you and whats worse is your letting it happen.

omfg

I believe it's because mothers are no longer in the homes giving girls guidance. Someone said it was due to absent fathers, but, I don't think so.

When I was a child, when mothers were present and pretty much didn't work, the fathers were always gone. By the time we ate dinner, soon afterward, we were in bed ... so we really only saw our fathers maybe two hours a day.

Mothers on the other hand, were our constant guardians, aware of us, advising us 24/7 ... and we didn't suffer this kind of ignorance. We were adults and ready to face the world as adults by 16 or 17, sometimes younger. Girls had a firm grasp on how to present themselves to men to garner respect.

Sure, there were a few whores .. but, they were a small fraction.

Look what has happened to women now that there isn't anyone there to direct them ..... they end up like this girl, who has absolutely NO clue that she isn't suppose to have zero value, and believes everything is up to him, and will even fuck him or fawn after his every wish, in hopes that he approves of her.


makes me sick to my stomach

sigh.

I will moving to singapore very soon. All i know is when he is drunk or very drunk he did tell me he shall come to visit me in singapore. He also told me the guy who gets me will very lucky to have me. HE did agree with the above two things when sober. BUT when i do tell him that he also said that he wished that I could be a part of his life. He denies this when sober.

so this is really confusing. He agrees almost all the things but when it comes to accepting that he even told me He wished that could be a part of his life. He denies it. FOR me I feel he is just lying. he is denying it. He had a relationship with a girl for 8 yrs , his mom wouldnt accept her. BUT he still pleaded the girl to marry him. But the girl asked him to seperate from his mom. He wouldnt do it.

he keeps talking about his ex as in telling me nitty gritty things about them. what they would, how she would react. ONe day he even shouted at me saying I cant love anyone anymore. That was really scary for me. Cause he being a virgo guy gave me the reason as because " my ex loved me so much I cant love anybody else anymore"

ONly a virgo male or female can help me . There is a lot going on with this guy.

I am a libra girl

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Posted by shuba

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BUT he doesnt want to see me as his girlfriend. This kept on going on for a year finally in novemeber 2012 i planned to break up the friendship with him. He wouldnt let me. He kept saying I love you as a friend. Please dont go away. He has a habit also of speaking a lot about his Pisces ex gf. Which i hate the most. I didnt listen to him. After a week he calls me back acting as if nothing happened. he then calls me to meet me. I finally meet him. He says I would want you as my gf. I do have feelings but i am very shy to express it. I gave in but to be honest i really didnt find any difference in him. What I have noticed about him is when he drunk... he says I am an amazing person. Whichever guy will get me will be very lucky. He wished i could be a part of his life. I did remind him all these things when sober but he says its not possible, I am making up stories.I got so angry with him. The very day I began texting him rude stuff and abused his mom too. He was very patient. He finally met me in the evening. As soon as I entered the car he said hi in a smiling way. I did say a word. He took me for a long drive as usual. He was asking me to speak but I couldn't. finally the argument began. I told him what he said in the month of November .And then he finally says I am sorry for everything. Right now my financial crisis doesn't permit me to think anything properly. Help me come out of my situation. I kept asking him why did you ask me to stay with you when you didn't feel for me. He was quite. I asked him why do you call me an amazing women. And finally want to me to go away with another guy. he just kept quite and said I cant handle you. Youre very different from me. I was very upset. I again told him lets break the friendship. But he said no just don't talk to me for a month . give me my space. Lets see what happens. I did express my love for me. But he shouted at me saying —just because you can express your love to me doesn't mean you love me??. Please help me understand thi

drown'em in bullshit, douse'em in brilliance

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i didnt understand what you wrote. Could you please tell me in plain simple english. thanks.

This really has nothing to do with being a Virgo and everything to do with being a bit of a jerk.
He is either really indecisive or blatantly using you.
I personally feel he is being very manipulative, and you deserve much better.

... he was madly in love with a Pisces girl. And he keeps saying she is very different from you. So i was wondering what is so different in her that he still thinks of her.

Posted by shuba
I will moving to singapore very soon. All i know is when he is drunk or very drunk he did tell me he shall come to visit me in singapore. He also told me the guy who gets me will very lucky to have me. HE did agree with the above two things when sober. BUT when i do tell him that he also said that he wished that I could be a part of his life. He denies this when sober.

so this is really confusing. He agrees almost all the things but when it comes to accepting that he even told me He wished that could be a part of his life. He denies it. FOR me I feel he is just lying. he is denying it. He had a relationship with a girl for 8 yrs , his mom wouldnt accept her. BUT he still pleaded the girl to marry him. But the girl asked him to seperate from his mom. He wouldnt do it.

he keeps talking about his ex as in telling me nitty gritty things about them. what they would, how she would react. ONe day he even shouted at me saying I cant love anyone anymore. That was really scary for me. Cause he being a virgo guy gave me the reason as because " my ex loved me so much I cant love anybody else anymore"

ONly a virgo male or female can help me . There is a lot going on with this guy.

Oh please stop making excuses for his behaviour, that is just making you look more desperate. It isn`t what he is doing anymore, it`s what your allowing yourself to tolerate..Have a backbone and move on. Stop reading into him, he has already told you that he doesn`t want you as a GF...Honey what more are you trying to understand...