I pray this is not how it ends.....

I pray this is not how this ends......I was dating a Aries for three years on and off. for those who know the story I posted before on this situation. The situation has been pretty stagnant..just to brief you....I'm pregnant about 6 months....we went our seperate ways before this happen and started dating again and I ended up pregnant this time.....We had a argument and fell apart again...we were doing fine and was happy about the baby and all......then I became distant due to I thought he was trying to go back to his other baby's mother....which was the reason we broke up the first time.....I love this man and wish things could work out.....we started up again hot and heavy and either I said or did something or he got distant......I admit to saying some hurtful things that he has reminded me of when I called him the other day..... I called him after three months of no communication...not even to talk about my pregnancy. Of course he was cold and said why was I calling after three months and he reminded me of the things I said and the way I acted.....Now I am afraid I have lost him for good or he has went back to her due to me pushing him away from being scared and confused......I love him even though they say Aries and virgo's aren't compatible and want us to raise our child together. He is a good father because I've seen how he is to his other daughter but he acts as if he's mad at me and don't want to be bothered by me and don't want to be apart of the child's life at this point.....He did say he would do what he can to help....I told him I knew he was intentionally being cold and after that he calm down some ......I also opened up to him let him know how afraid I was to do this alone and why I acted the way I did....... he said he was scared also of having another child too, but never spoke on us and what he felt we should do.....my heart is broken because this is not how it started and I dont understand why its ending this way....are Aries really so cold hearted that they will walk away without a thought?.....before I never worried because I knew he would always be back but this time I dont' know...I asked how he felt about me or us and he wouldnt even give me straight answer he just said you cool....

meaning he'll be back eventually.

If not.......call friend of the court they'll make sure he doesn't get far. I have to ask. Knowing that you are pregnant the fact that he could stay away 3 months.....why would you want him. I know he's your child's father but as the old saying goes "I can do bad by myself" Obviously this man has a problem with committment because apparently and I'm just speculating here it sounds as if he pulled this trick with his ex.

If you decide you want to work things out...and it's YOUR decision not his! Then I would give him a cut off date to get his act together. If he doesn't show you within that time frame that he is making an honest effort to be a good support system to you and your child and a wonderful father to your child I'd have him in court so fast his head would spin. Every dime he thought about making he wouldn't get until I got what I needed for my child. I know this is an emotional time for you but you have to remember you are thinking for two from this point on and when it comes to another life sadly What's Love got to do with it. Either he's in or he is out and by his behavior he has told you he is out...I'm sorry I'm not trying to sound harsh so please don't take it that way.

if i were in your situation, i will probably speak to him about our relationship and how much i wanted him to be committed with me and my future child and how important is the family for me. not only because i love him and my future child. once and for all i will talk to him. i will do it only once. i wouldn't push myself in his life and insist that he should be responsible for this child and to love me the way i wanted.

these things doesn't need to be explained and these things need not be discussed because i know he is aware about this responsibility and is aware of everything that's going on between us.

i will think about myself and how i am going to raise my child without him. yes. i wouldn't expect anything from him at all if he refuse to give me an answer to my questions when i talk to him. most of the time we get vague answers in time of crisis.

if he comes back and is willing to discuss things to me and share the love we used to have for each other then perfect but i wouldn't waste my time thinking about his thoughts/plans for us because i will never know the answer from it, i will just feel depressed and my baby will be affected from all these thinking and how much hurt he has caused me. perhaps from getting hurt all over and over again makes one's heart grow numb. besides, everything that happened is not something i have to regret.

prayer is a powerful tool and i know this will also make you stronger and grow with wisdom.

I appreciate the advise ladies...especially the one about my friend the court....I think he knows me well enough to know I will take it there....I also am feeling Vgurl Because I do want it to work....I love him to death....but I'm so afraid of letting him know it to some degree......