I wonder... To dyrstr8z
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Mystical on Saturday, April 1, 2006 and has 4 replies.
You seem to be a very interesting person and have been giving very good advice about Virgos. I have, however, another take for about Virgos and if you can help that would be great. Here it goes:
I have gotten to know a Virgo male who is 29 years old and seems very confused about a lot of things in his life. I am also 29 years old. I've only known him for 2 months but I had to let go of the whole situation. We were only friends because I felt he had so many different issues to deal with. He would call me daily and not let more than two days go by before I heard from him. This was fine by me. He would like to tell me about all the different girls who were interested in him. I just let him go on and on. He was very hung up on his ex. Seemed to be a very sad situation. Anyway, this past Wednesday, I took contact with him to find out how he was doing as I hadn't heard from for a little while. Suddenly, he had a girlfriend. He blamed his girlfriend is the jealous type. I told him I didn't see what one thing had to do with other that he and I were only friends. He said he would call me another time. I told him not to bother because I found it a lame excuse he has a jealous girlfriend for why he hadn't contacted me. It always seems to be he attracts jealous girls. Must be something about him that makes girls insecure. I don't know. Even though, I broke it off with him I became sad. I felt like I had gotten to know him very well in a short amount of time.
The strange thing is when I told him it was nice getting to know him, his reply was he felt the same way. It was like he didn't really care about our friendship. I wanted to know where I stood and I got my answer even though it shocked me. I thought later on in the day he would call me and want to regain the friendship but no. That spoke volumes to me. I highly value friendship and hate giving up on friends. I never end friendships because I feel they are important.
Okay, so what I'd like to know is:
1.Is it normal for Virgo males to have a hard time being friends with a girl
and still have a girlfriend? (I, being an Aquarian, do not have trouble being
friends with guys and having a boyfriend that is why I am little confused)
2.Do you think he will take contact with me or will that be going against his
pride?
3.Do I wait months like when it's birthday in September(for example) and
find out how he's been doing or cut my loses?
I would appreciate your insight very much because for some reason or another I am still a little sad 4 days later. This isn't normal for me to be. By reading what you've already written on other posts you seem to be very bright and I think you could help me out. I have moved on but it has been a sad few days for me. I know it might sound crazy losing a friend. It's been an up and down battle for me. Actually, for the whole two months it's been a roller coaster. An experience I'll never forget but I never thought the friendship would end. I'm glad for the experience but also bewildered.
Thanks!
I have gotten to know a Virgo male who is 29 years old and seems very confused about a lot of things in his life. I am also 29 years old. I've only known him for 2 months but I had to let go of the whole situation. We were only friends because I felt he had so many different issues to deal with. He would call me daily and not let more than two days go by before I heard from him. This was fine by me. He would like to tell me about all the different girls who were interested in him. I just let him go on and on. He was very hung up on his ex. Seemed to be a very sad situation. Anyway, this past Wednesday, I took contact with him to find out how he was doing as I hadn't heard from for a little while. Suddenly, he had a girlfriend. He blamed his girlfriend is the jealous type. I told him I didn't see what one thing had to do with other that he and I were only friends. He said he would call me another time. I told him not to bother because I found it a lame excuse he has a jealous girlfriend for why he hadn't contacted me. It always seems to be he attracts jealous girls. Must be something about him that makes girls insecure. I don't know. Even though, I broke it off with him I became sad. I felt like I had gotten to know him very well in a short amount of time.
The strange thing is when I told him it was nice getting to know him, his reply was he felt the same way. It was like he didn't really care about our friendship. I wanted to know where I stood and I got my answer even though it shocked me. I thought later on in the day he would call me and want to regain the friendship but no. That spoke volumes to me. I highly value friendship and hate giving up on friends. I never end friendships because I feel they are important.
Okay, so what I'd like to know is:
1.Is it normal for Virgo males to have a hard time being friends with a girl
and still have a girlfriend? (I, being an Aquarian, do not have trouble being
friends with guys and having a boyfriend that is why I am little confused)
2.Do you think he will take contact with me or will that be going against his
pride?
3.Do I wait months like when it's birthday in September(for example) and
find out how he's been doing or cut my loses?
I would appreciate your insight very much because for some reason or another I am still a little sad 4 days later. This isn't normal for me to be. By reading what you've already written on other posts you seem to be very bright and I think you could help me out. I have moved on but it has been a sad few days for me. I know it might sound crazy losing a friend. It's been an up and down battle for me. Actually, for the whole two months it's been a roller coaster. An experience I'll never forget but I never thought the friendship would end. I'm glad for the experience but also bewildered.
Thanks!
I say let this one go. He now has a girlfriend and Virgos are very dedicated to the one he's with. He most likely will not call you until other girl is out of the picture.
Maybe they wont go out very long and your friendship can be re-kindled.
Just let it be for now.
Maybe they wont go out very long and your friendship can be re-kindled.
Just let it be for now.
Hi Mystical, If you have time read my posting the situation will sound soooo familiar. I got some insight on various virgo people and let me tell you, im puzzled. Although not a virgo, I beleive he will contact you when he feels the time is right. Hang in there. Ive been virgoed too!. sometimes I think about it and it sux and sometimes I just smile and shrug my shoulders. I understand that virgos like to talk about other girls/guys to show others that they are desired due to their own inseccurities (according to toher virgos of course). Give him his space and he you should be ok. I think I titally lost my little Virgo but its a situation beond my control. Anyway I wish you the best, things will fall in place for you trust me.
johhny
johhny
Thank you very much to dyrstr8z, Johhny and sophi68. All your input was very helpful. I have written replies to each of you on this post.
To dyrstr8z:
Your insight enlighted me very much. I just don't understand this particular Virgo male. I've never encounted a Virgo in this matter before so this is my first experience dealing with Virgos. I have learnt so much from him, crazy as it might seem. I never thought that would happen. He and I are so different. You are more that likely right I will never hear from him again (but I have a gut feeling I will somewhere in the future). I did give him the brush off by saying it was nice getting to know him. He didn't really seem bothered by it. Although I could hear in his voice he was a little sad. It wasn't like I was after him at all. I can understand it's normal to have boy/girlfriends, but I don't quite get why someone can't also have friends of the opposite sex. It's a mystery to me, and probably will always be. This is a lesson learnt the hard way, I can tell you that.
You are right I shouldn't hold a bias against other Virgos in the future. Although, I will be a little more cautious the next time around. Regarding he and I, it went so fast and nothing I've experienced before. I've learnt anything for which starts too fast ends even faster. He was very open with me regarding himself, while I wasn't so open because I wanted to be cautious. Anyway, it's been a worthwhile experience. One I'm glad happened but at the same time left me with more questions than answers. This Virgo male is very confused and he has told me as such. He has had bad relationships and from each relationship he says he's lost a bit of himself. I wasn't looking for a relationship with him at all. I was only looking at him as friends. I had quickly understood, he would be a handful and therefore didn't want to pursue anything more. I don't think he is serious about his new girlfriend at all. He just doesn't want to be alone. He had said at one time he was sorry he didn't fall for me and I didn't fall for him. I was shocked when he said that because I didn't even know he thought of me that way at all. Now when I look back at it, I think he was playing games with me. Although I have read that Virgos usually mean what they say, I don't know about this one. This is why I'm left with more questions than answers.
Anyway, it's been an interesting few months I can tell you. Thanks again.
To Johhny:
Yes, I have been reading your different posts. What a sad situation and soo much like the one I've been having. It's so amazing how some Virgos can be the same. I generally think this Virgo girl you are interested in got cold feet. She must have began to have feelings for you and instead for pursuing it she dropped you like a hot potato because she has a boyfriend. Very much like my situation but I ended my friendship with my Virgo male because I didn't want to be strung along even though we were friends. I didn't need someone to call or whatever whenever he felt like it. This Virgo girl seems to be a little insecure with herself and clings to someone who doesn't treat her right. She more than likely knows she would be better off with you since you would treat her like a queen unlike her boyfriend. Some girls are afraid to leave a relationship because of what the boyfriend might do. I'm not saying her boyfriend would do anything but you never know.
I advice you to hang on in there. Just when you least expect it, she might need your help and you'll hear from here. Then you can decide if you want to be there for her or what. Seems like from what I gather regarding Virgos, they disappear and suddenly reappear when you least expect it. I don't understand this logic but there must be something to it. I know it's hard not wanting to take contact with her (I really know) just for a friendly chat or whatever but please don't do it. If she calls then that's great but I wouldn't
To dyrstr8z:
Your insight enlighted me very much. I just don't understand this particular Virgo male. I've never encounted a Virgo in this matter before so this is my first experience dealing with Virgos. I have learnt so much from him, crazy as it might seem. I never thought that would happen. He and I are so different. You are more that likely right I will never hear from him again (but I have a gut feeling I will somewhere in the future). I did give him the brush off by saying it was nice getting to know him. He didn't really seem bothered by it. Although I could hear in his voice he was a little sad. It wasn't like I was after him at all. I can understand it's normal to have boy/girlfriends, but I don't quite get why someone can't also have friends of the opposite sex. It's a mystery to me, and probably will always be. This is a lesson learnt the hard way, I can tell you that.
You are right I shouldn't hold a bias against other Virgos in the future. Although, I will be a little more cautious the next time around. Regarding he and I, it went so fast and nothing I've experienced before. I've learnt anything for which starts too fast ends even faster. He was very open with me regarding himself, while I wasn't so open because I wanted to be cautious. Anyway, it's been a worthwhile experience. One I'm glad happened but at the same time left me with more questions than answers. This Virgo male is very confused and he has told me as such. He has had bad relationships and from each relationship he says he's lost a bit of himself. I wasn't looking for a relationship with him at all. I was only looking at him as friends. I had quickly understood, he would be a handful and therefore didn't want to pursue anything more. I don't think he is serious about his new girlfriend at all. He just doesn't want to be alone. He had said at one time he was sorry he didn't fall for me and I didn't fall for him. I was shocked when he said that because I didn't even know he thought of me that way at all. Now when I look back at it, I think he was playing games with me. Although I have read that Virgos usually mean what they say, I don't know about this one. This is why I'm left with more questions than answers.
Anyway, it's been an interesting few months I can tell you. Thanks again.
To Johhny:
Yes, I have been reading your different posts. What a sad situation and soo much like the one I've been having. It's so amazing how some Virgos can be the same. I generally think this Virgo girl you are interested in got cold feet. She must have began to have feelings for you and instead for pursuing it she dropped you like a hot potato because she has a boyfriend. Very much like my situation but I ended my friendship with my Virgo male because I didn't want to be strung along even though we were friends. I didn't need someone to call or whatever whenever he felt like it. This Virgo girl seems to be a little insecure with herself and clings to someone who doesn't treat her right. She more than likely knows she would be better off with you since you would treat her like a queen unlike her boyfriend. Some girls are afraid to leave a relationship because of what the boyfriend might do. I'm not saying her boyfriend would do anything but you never know.
I advice you to hang on in there. Just when you least expect it, she might need your help and you'll hear from here. Then you can decide if you want to be there for her or what. Seems like from what I gather regarding Virgos, they disappear and suddenly reappear when you least expect it. I don't understand this logic but there must be something to it. I know it's hard not wanting to take contact with her (I really know) just for a friendly chat or whatever but please don't do it. If she calls then that's great but I wouldn't
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