If a Virgo is constantly criticizing you

Posted by leofPC I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality.

Posted by Weeds

At the core we want you to do better. Sometimes we come off as a dick because it is said in the wrong way and of course sometimes not said at all. If it is hurting you at all then you need to let him know that in order for him to curve the amount of criticism to a minimum.

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Posted by leofPC I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality.

Red flags. Please don't change who you are to satisfy someone else's insecurities or control issues. I was in a similar position once.

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Posted by Basorexia

Posted by leofPC I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality.

Red flags. Please don't change who you are to satisfy someone else's insecurities or control issues. I was in a similar position once.

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Posted by Basorexia

Posted by leofPC I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality.

Red flags. Please don't change who you are to satisfy someone else's insecurities or control issues. I was in a similar position once.

This 💯

I'm dating a Virgo and he does not treat me like this. Yes he might point out things but usually he is right(dont tell him that lmao) but we discuss it and he does not call me names.

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Posted by 7thHouse

You mentioned you are trying to tone down your talkative and outgoing personality. How talkative are you and how outgoing are you? Maybe both of you aren't on the same page. Like for example if he is the introvert type, he wouldn't want you to keep talking and talking when he's trying to relax and think. Maybe he's not the type who likes going out and meeting other people, while you always want to be out with friends. Why would he call you narcissistic? Can you give an example of a situation? Do you always talk about yourself or how amazing you are even when he didn't want to listen?

Just want to see both sides of things. Of course you are telling us the situation based on your perspective. But that also means it's limited info and biased story.

Posted by 7thHouse

Another bit, you were with a Scorp before this and the scorp is equally as bad according to you. It's either you are attracted to people with strong personalities or you, being the common factor, see it as you are never at fault with things. Please help us understand more so we can give you a sound advise.

Yes I have a strong personality. I am attracted to men with strong personalities. I don't mind his criticism but I wanted to know if this a character trait. If this is just how Virgos are I can handle that. I just don't want to worry all the time.

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Posted by Chicadee

on behalf of all virgos, I'm sorry. we do do this lol... normally it comes from a good place though.

If it's hurting you, you need to communicate that.. like everything in your original post, should be a conversation starter.

We may not take it pleasantly but we are receptive to that kind of feedback.. if we care the last thing we want to do is make our beloved feel hurt all the time or that they can't be comfortable around us.

Which really goes for anyone.

Posted by Snakes_N_Ladders

It means they're a Virgo.

Posted by 7s

Posted by leofPC

Does this mean he doesn't like you anymore or is this just a Virgo trait I need to learn to live with. I am a Leo. I read another topic on this forum that said Leos are narcissistic. My boyfriend says much the same thing. But I am not a narcissist. I think he just takes my personality the wrong way. I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality. I am putting more effort into this relationship than he realizes and I truly love him. Are Virgos just like this or does this mean he doesn't like me? How do I get along with him better? I am really trying to work on being a better listener but I don't think he sees how hard I'm trying.

Dating a virgo, man or woman or even being around one will knock your confidence down MANY notches. Your self esteem will get damaged. You will never hold your head high like you did before you got with them.

I've seen it many times. Like a leech, they'll suck out all your good mental vitamins. Every critical remark will suck the life out of you while feeding their sick, dark ego. You'll come out a different person than you went in. And not in a good way.

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Posted by alexscaries

Posted by leofPC

Does this mean he doesn't like you anymore or is this just a Virgo trait I need to learn to live with. I am a Leo. I read another topic on this forum that said Leos are narcissistic. My boyfriend says much the same thing. But I am not a narcissist. I think he just takes my personality the wrong way. I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality. I am putting more effort into this relationship than he realizes and I truly love him. Are Virgos just like this or does this mean he doesn't like me? How do I get along with him better? I am really trying to work on being a better listener but I don't think he sees how hard I'm trying.

If you feel you are on egg shells it isn't right. Is he leo moon?

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Posted by Chao

Posted by 7s

Posted by leofPC

Does this mean he doesn't like you anymore or is this just a Virgo trait I need to learn to live with. I am a Leo. I read another topic on this forum that said Leos are narcissistic. My boyfriend says much the same thing. But I am not a narcissist. I think he just takes my personality the wrong way. I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality. I am putting more effort into this relationship than he realizes and I truly love him. Are Virgos just like this or does this mean he doesn't like me? How do I get along with him better? I am really trying to work on being a better listener but I don't think he sees how hard I'm trying.

Dating a virgo, man or woman or even being around one will knock your confidence down MANY notches. Your self esteem will get damaged. You will never hold your head high like you did before you got with them.

I've seen it many times. Like a leech, they'll suck out all your good mental vitamins. Every critical remark will suck the life out of you while feeding their sick, dark ego. You'll come out a different person than you went in. And not in a good way.

This is absolutely dramatic and narrow minded perspective.

(From leo moon?)...🙄

Virgo critic can be annoying but they never meant any harm. So it's better you see things how it is and you will never be negatively effected ☀️

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Posted by ELIGAB

Honestly

I dumped a leo girl for the same reasons

He should run

😆😁🙃

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by leofPC

Does this mean he doesn't like you anymore or is this just a Virgo trait I need to learn to live with. I am a Leo. I read another topic on this forum that said Leos are narcissistic. My boyfriend says much the same thing. But I am not a narcissist. I think he just takes my personality the wrong way. I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality. I am putting more effort into this relationship than he realizes and I truly love him. Are Virgos just like this or does this mean he doesn't like me? How do I get along with him better? I am really trying to work on being a better listener but I don't think he sees how hard I'm trying.

If you feel you are on egg shells it isn't right. Is he leo moon?

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Posted by Weeds

At the core we want you to do better. Sometimes we come off as a dick because it is said in the wrong way and of course sometimes not said at all. If it is hurting you at all then you need to let him know that in order for him to curve the amount of criticism to a minimum.

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Stop allowing Mutable Suns to think their opinion matters. They often are worried about dumb, trivial shit.

Also, if you aren’t a narcissist then stop reading up on forums mentioning your sign is. Those are often one-sided narratives.

An ‘outgoing talkative personality’ isn’t any indication that you’re a narcissist. I would not try to change or tone down that.

And constant name calling is a sign of low self-esteem.

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Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Stop allowing Mutable Suns to think their opinion matters. They often are worried about dumb, trivial shit.

Also, if you aren’t a narcissist then stop reading up on forums mentioning your sign is. Those are often one-sided narratives.

An ‘outgoing talkative personality’ isn’t any indication that you’re a narcissist. I would not try to change or tone down that.

And constant name calling is a sign of low self-esteem.

What the fuck are you talking about? My post has no name-calling. Reread it again for clarity because you obviously did not comprehend what I posted.

Calling people narcissistic is name calling.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Weeds

At the core we want you to do better. Sometimes we come off as a dick because it is said in the wrong way and of course sometimes not said at all. If it is hurting you at all then you need to let him know that in order for him to curve the amount of criticism to a minimum.

^This please communicate!

I would like to add to and build on this.

Seeing the ways to improve things is useful. I'm very good at that. There was a time where I would just say stuff to that effect BUT in a not constructive manner. Which is very bad idea. Very few see past that. Especially leo energy.

I kept getting bad reactions. I have learned to instead focus and communicate the solutions rather then the problems. This realizations and change came about because I learned the hard way through loss and with the few people who spoke up to me and told me what I was doing and it's effect.

You can help him out with this as well. He needs to learn it's not what you say but how you say it that matters most. Hash it out talk to him. He might get defensive but that's ok. Tell him you know he means well it's just his delivery needs work.

Another piece if advice if this also applies to him.

Murphy's Law came to mind. I am excellent at spotting possible problems. But a totally party pooper because they way I went about it. If he is this way too then use this trick and mindset. Everything is probability nothing is really impossible. Do things to make what you want and don't want to happen though. Not much in life is in your control. You have to accept that to play the game well. You can. However effect the odds though 😁

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Posted by leofPC

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by Weeds

At the core we want you to do better. Sometimes we come off as a dick because it is said in the wrong way and of course sometimes not said at all. If it is hurting you at all then you need to let him know that in order for him to curve the amount of criticism to a minimum.

^This please communicate!

I would like to add to and build on this.

Seeing the ways to improve things is useful. I'm very good at that. There was a time where I would just say stuff to that effect BUT in a not constructive manner. Which is very bad idea. Very few see past that. Especially leo energy.

I kept getting bad reactions. I have learned to instead focus and communicate the solutions rather then the problems. This realizations and change came about because I learned the hard way through loss and with the few people who spoke up to me and told me what I was doing and it's effect.

You can help him out with this as well. He needs to learn it's not what you say but how you say it that matters most. Hash it out talk to him. He might get defensive but that's ok. Tell him you know he means well it's just his delivery needs work.

Another piece if advice if this also applies to him.

Murphy's Law came to mind. I am excellent at spotting possible problems. But a totally party pooper because they way I went about it. If he is this way too then use this trick and mindset. Everything is probability nothing is really impossible. Do things to make what you want and don't want to happen though. Not much in life is in your control. You have to accept that to play the game well. You can. However effect the odds though 😁

Your comment was very helpful. I wish I had known more about Virgos going into this relationship. I had read that Leos and Virgos were not compatible but I'm not going to let astrology decide who I love. I have a strong emotional connection with him that I haven't had before. We talked a little last night.

Virgos think things through before they talk. I am always a few steps behind. When I slow down and listen\let him talk we communicate better. I am not used to this. My ex and I had a very different relationship. He didn't communicate. So I appreciate this and I've told him.

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Posted by 7thHouse

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Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Stop allowing Mutable Suns to think their opinion matters. They often are worried about dumb, trivial shit.

Also, if you aren’t a narcissist then stop reading up on forums mentioning your sign is. Those are often one-sided narratives.

An ‘outgoing talkative personality’ isn’t any indication that you’re a narcissist. I would not try to change or tone down that.

And constant name calling is a sign of low self-esteem.

What the fuck are you talking about? My post has no name-calling. Reread it again for clarity because you obviously did not comprehend what I posted.

Calling people narcissistic is name calling.

I didn’t call anyone narcissistic. Once again, read what I fucking wrote before you respond to my post.

I said an outgoing personality isn’t an indication that someone is narcissist.

I think @alexscaries was not talking about you. But rather the virgo name calling LeoPC.

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Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by black773

What the hell is wrong with you people! Read!!!!!

I think you misread @alexscaries and going nuts over nothing. Please read again. The name calling wasn't pertaining to you name calling. But rather the virgo Leo is dating.

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Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by black773

Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by black773

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Stop allowing Mutable Suns to think their opinion matters. They often are worried about dumb, trivial shit.

Also, if you aren’t a narcissist then stop reading up on forums mentioning your sign is. Those are often one-sided narratives.

An ‘outgoing talkative personality’ isn’t any indication that you’re a narcissist. I would not try to change or tone down that.

And constant name calling is a sign of low self-esteem.

What the fuck are you talking about? My post has no name-calling. Reread it again for clarity because you obviously did not comprehend what I posted.

Calling people narcissistic is name calling.

I didn’t call anyone narcissistic. Once again, read what I fucking wrote before you respond to my post.

I said an outgoing personality isn’t an indication that someone is narcissist.

I think @alexscaries was not talking about you. But rather the virgo name calling LeoPC.

If everyone has to think what he said he should be more clear and more importantly don’t quote my posts, out of all people.

He basically agreed with you and added that the name calling was not nice. And that name calling was pertaining to the virgo calling Leo narcissistic. Geezus. I didn't realise Reading comprehension is outdated.

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Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by black773

Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by black773

What the hell is wrong with you people! Read!!!!!

I think you misread @alexscaries and going nuts over nothing. Please read again. The name calling wasn't pertaining to you name calling. But rather the virgo Leo is dating.

Stop taking up for him. No I don’t have to read anything again. He responded to my post. I read the OP. He can defend himself. He doesn’t need you. Fuck off.

I'm not though. I'm telling you to read properly. You fuck off too. Can't admit you misread things. It's a simple thing. And why would he fight with you over someone else's post? It doesn't make sense. Lol

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Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by black773

Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by black773

Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by black773

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Posted by alexscaries

Posted by black773

Stop allowing Mutable Suns to think their opinion matters. They often are worried about dumb, trivial shit.

Also, if you aren’t a narcissist then stop reading up on forums mentioning your sign is. Those are often one-sided narratives.

An ‘outgoing talkative personality’ isn’t any indication that you’re a narcissist. I would not try to change or tone down that.

And constant name calling is a sign of low self-esteem.

What the fuck are you talking about? My post has no name-calling. Reread it again for clarity because you obviously did not comprehend what I posted.

Calling people narcissistic is name calling.

I didn’t call anyone narcissistic. Once again, read what I fucking wrote before you respond to my post.

I said an outgoing personality isn’t an indication that someone is narcissist.

I think @alexscaries was not talking about you. But rather the virgo name calling LeoPC.

If everyone has to think what he said he should be more clear and more importantly don’t quote my posts, out of all people.

He basically agreed with you and added that the name calling was not nice. And that name calling was pertaining to the virgo calling Leo narcissistic. Geezus. I didn't realise Reading comprehension is outdated.

I don’t need him to agree with me. I don’t care if he agrees with me or not. I only care about my post. I posted a response to the OP. So his reading comprehension is poor. He hasn’t responded since because he knows he didn’t read my post for clarity. He thought I came in the thread name-calling. So now the both of you look foolish.

READ.

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Posted by Black-Mamba

bro you're dimming your sun for him. GET the fuk out!

Posted by Damnata

Posted by Black-Mamba

bro you're dimming your sun for him. GET the fuk out!

^This.

I can tell you from experience as a Virgo, with a family of Virgos and having dated Virgos...we are gentle about suggestions when it comes to what qualifies as improvement in someone else's life...and any Virgo worth their salt will second guess their approach because they know people have free agency in their lives.

If they don't, then they seek control and you better get out before you become a shadow of your former self.

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Posted by 7s

Posted by leofPC

Does this mean he doesn't like you anymore or is this just a Virgo trait I need to learn to live with. I am a Leo. I read another topic on this forum that said Leos are narcissistic. My boyfriend says much the same thing. But I am not a narcissist. I think he just takes my personality the wrong way. I am finding myself constantly on egg shells trying to tone down my outgoing talkative personality. I am putting more effort into this relationship than he realizes and I truly love him. Are Virgos just like this or does this mean he doesn't like me? How do I get along with him better? I am really trying to work on being a better listener but I don't think he sees how hard I'm trying.

Dating a virgo, man or woman or even being around one will knock your confidence down MANY notches. Your self esteem will get damaged. You will never hold your head high like you did before you got with them.

I've seen it many times. Like a leech, they'll suck out all your good mental vitamins. Every critical remark will suck the life out of you while feeding their sick, dark ego. You'll come out a different person than you went in. And not in a good way.

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Posted by Weeds

At the core we want you to do better. Sometimes we come off as a dick because it is said in the wrong way and of course sometimes not said at all. If it is hurting you at all then you need to let him know that in order for him to curve the amount of criticism to a minimum.

Posted by Weeds

At the core we want you to do better. Sometimes we come off as a dick because it is said in the wrong way and of course sometimes not said at all. If it is hurting you at all then you need to let him know that in order for him to curve the amount of criticism to a minimum.