Im pretty sure i messed up with my virgo crush....

okay something is happening that doesnt happen often not only am i overanalyzing( something that i do very often) me and the virgo's last time seeing each other, i am panicking over the MANY reasons as to why he has been acting so distant. im very much of an over analyzer but not much of a panicker when it comes to guys. i like him. more than i want to. Im trying not to ramble but i want to make sure i tell the FULL story so bear with me:


if u read my last thread, you know that me and virgo had our first date on monday.this about two weeks after we met, he would call me 2 or 3 times a day wanting to see me Right then. he would offer to take me to breakfst, luch, or dinner. he would say that he wanted to see me no matter what time of day it was and no matter how long i could stay. Naturally the awkward girl that i am, i was kind of put off by his persistance, so i kept putting him off using work and school as an excuse. when we first met there was this magnet like attraction between us, we both caught the other "checking each other out, we had amazing chemistry, mostly sexual. like i really wanted to jump on him on site. lol. however i was apprehensive about going out with him, mostly because i can be sort of shy and awkward when i really like someone, and truthfully i like to be chased. dont judge me.

soooo i finally promised to go out with him, i was planning n standing him up again, because i was a tad nervous(idk why, im just crazy like that :-P), but he called and reminded me that a promise is a promise, so of course i went. Great date, the conversation was good, the sexual tension could have lit the place on fire, but there was still alot of great conversation btwn us and we never actually talked abt sex (theres just this HUGE sexual elephant in the room). im pretty sure both of us considered it a good date, i was surprised by how comfortable i was around him. we kept engagingj in the most trivial debates and whenever one of us would take our viewpoint too serious the other would poke fun at the others seriousness. i thought we were having a great time. maybe it was all in my head.

i left my car at virgo's house, so we had to go back to his house. when we got there i had to use the bathroom, so i went in ( he lives with his brother). he introduced me to his brother when i got out of the bathroom and i said hi and walked toward the front door. he kind of snapped on me "Why are you in such a hurry to leave?!" and he opened the door. of

of course i immediately realized that i hurt his feelings or something. but it was in no way intentional, i felt like i invited myself in the house by needing to use the bathroom anyway, and i didnt want to make him think that i was trying to be intrusive or nosy. ya know? anyway, that was my first clue that i was dealing with someone who has a hard time expressing themselves. i never can tell when my actions have offended people, but im good at reading peoples emotions. i hope that makes sense. i think its because i too dont react in typical ways either when my feelings are hurt or when im embarassed. he kept making side comments that i was ready to leave him, another sign of some insecurity, which surprised me because you will never guess that he could be insecure about anything the way he carries himself. or was it a mind game? i told him i would be ready to leave whenever he was ready for me to leave.

we're in his room. on his bed laying down. he has created a respectable distance between us. he told me before that he wasnt interestedd in sex. bullshit. but still he was being very much of gentleman. which of course was turning me on. and we were talking. about EVERYTHING. which was turning me on even more. i touched him on him arm and face a few times to show him that i was into him and that i wouldnt mind being a little closer into my personal space. i wasnt trying to say i wanted sex, i just wanted to let him know that i was into him. he seemed very responsive, but we both said we didnt like the feeling of feeling so comnfortable with each other. i told him that im very wierd when i like someone, its hard for me to be vocal abt it or even show it, he said he was the same way. but he said that he really wanted me to know that he sincerely liked me and that he really wanted to get to know me, and that he really wants me to himself. i just kept cool. he kept calling me negative in a joking way. i was really into him but i just couldnt SAY ALL THAT. i cant be that girl. i guess thats the true cap in me. this is how our convo went most of the night. him being affectionate, me using sarcasm to lighten the mood. smh am i a masochist? serious question lol

then he kissed me on my cheeck, then on my neck over and over and that was it. in about 5 seconds the atmosphere screamed sex. we didnt actually have sex. but we were definetely close. i had to leave. on the way out i asked him if he thought i was easy and he said no, he said that he thought we has crazy chemistry and that i drive him crazy. embarrassed as hell, i grabbed my dignity and left. lol

the next day i didnt call or txt him, i was to embarrassed. and i thought i wouldnt hear from him either until he called me. i couldnt answer because i was at work. "WELL HEY HOW ARE YOU DOING?!" he snapped thru text, "Im at work" i replied. then he replies and tells me that i could have spoken today. i responded it works both ways. then he responds ur right. hello ______. i never replied because i was at work. no call wed. he called thurs. didnt answer he txt "CALL me". i called him friday, asked him wat he was doing because i was off, he said he would call me back in ten min and never called back. he's distant. def. and i know my standoffish behavior is to blame. but he's not exactly showing all his cards like he wants me to believe either. i wouldnt be so panicky if his behavior wasnt so diff from how it was in the beginning. im starting to wonder if the thrill of the chase is gone for him. but that cant be the case if we havent had sex right? now im wondering if im stupid for really believeing that he was into me. i mean granted, im being a bit standoffish with my feelings but ive been this way from the beginnning. no surprise here. he's changed in a matter of days. thing is when i talked to him on friday, he talks to me like nothing is wrong. all cheery and stuff. so maybe it is in my head, but i think its impossible for him to not see that he is being distant. meaning it must be on purpose.


i probably confused every person who actually took the time to read this lol. im sorry, this virgo obviously has my mind in another galaxy.

last post: here is a small section of our charts maybe that could explain the emotional blockage btwn us (or me)

ME:
Sun 16??40' Capricorn
Moon 26??43' Leo
Mercury 25??56' Capricorn
Venus 20??19' Aquarius
Mars 29??25' Scorpio
Jupiter 20??46' Aries
Saturn 26??11' Sagittarius
Uranus 28??04' Sagittarius
Neptune 08??03' Capricorn
Pluto 12??02' Scorpio

HIM:
Sun 27??45' Virgo
Moon 14??54' Capricorn
Mercury 23??42' Libra
Venus 14??07' Leo
Mars 07??29' Aries
Jupiter 06??11' Gemini
Saturn 26??14' Sagittarius
Uranus 27??08' Sagittarius
Neptune 07??25' Capricorn
Pluto 10??41' Scorpio

Calm down! 🙂 you're overreacting, last time you spoke to him was yesterday, maybe he's had other things in his mind and was just busy this week. I dont believe for a second he might have lost interest in you, if anything he most probably wants more of you but is trying to figure out how to proceed now that you both had such an intimate moment. Stay calm, let things run its natural course.

lol im going crazy and this is soo unlike me! i think its because i'm now regretting not being more vocal about my interest in him. i swear its like when i like someone, no matter how much i feel the feelings, my mouth wont say the words! WTF is that about?! im emotionally crippled. im scared that i gave him the "she's not interested" vibe, i tend to do that the more i like them O_o. kill me now.

hahah, I PMed you 🙂

Try not to be standoffish, although it seems that when we initiate and put ourselves out there, even a little bit, it backfires and works against us too. Ah well, I tried...lol

But I think he's into you. We Cappies can hurt feelings unintentionally until people are around us enough to understand our ways. I guess you not being able to talk etc, and not answering was a little off-putting to him. Maybe during those times try to smooth it and be a bit gentle letting him know that you enjoy hearing from him, although you can't talk right now. I know how we can be..."I can't talk right now, I'll call back later" with no warmth at all lol. Not saying that's you but I have yet to meet a warm-toned cap.

I would just relax for now but there is nothing wrong with showing you like him and like hearing from him.

maybe im stressing because im wondering if he things im easy. anywho u guys are makig me feel much better. its amazing how in my head i can be...

Oh! A sun Virgo with a Cap moon. Those are my placements...aaaahhhhh...much difficulty in expressing ourselves when it comes to romance/relationships...and we almost don't like to give in (well at least I don't) unless things are made crystal clear.

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Posted by SheDevil77
lol im going crazy and this is soo unlike me! i think its because i'm now regretting not being more vocal about my interest in him. i swear its like when i like someone, no matter how much i feel the feelings, my mouth wont say the words! WTF is that about?! im emotionally crippled. im scared that i gave him the "she's not interested" vibe, i tend to do that the more i like them O_o. kill me now.

You are conflicted. Your internal conflict is most likely due to two particular aspects.
~Your Leo Moon & Venus in Aquarius

Your Leo Moon loves and needs the attention and you really want to respond passionately with everything you've got!
However, that darn Venus in Aquarius really has not much interest in these limiting and confining intimate human behavours, you have a worldy view and like to feel "unfettered" or "free" in your journey through life.
You are much more at ease being a friend than a lover.
I don't know your age but dare I say, you would have, or will attract an eclectic array of suitors through your life.

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This is true....I've dated so many different type of ppl...my friends say I'm only attracted to wierd Ppl. Ive even dated women. I like to date who I want to date....no matter wat anyone has to say. But no matter how passionate I may feel abt a person, emotions make me Soooo uncomfortable

Posted by ellessque
one thing I've learned about virgos, reciprocation.

swallow your urge to be aloof and respond when spoken too. otherwise you'll spend three days explaining why you didn't and everything will go off course a bit.

your chart screams confidence. that can be a bit intimidating and bring out insecurities in anyone, especially virgos.

I APPEAR way more confident than I think I actually am. Dont get me wrong I am very confident. But I am also very sensitive and my feelings can get hurt by MANY things. I just would NEVER verbalize it. and if I did it would probably be thru anger. Lol. I appear to be very confident, but my cancer asc tells an entirely dif story.