Posted by Netsirk
My first Virgo relationship (I'm a Scorpio) is wonderful. Mostly because I read these forums and adjust accordingly and he also has no issue adjusting to accommodate my needs either. Perfect right? Well ..
His father is in the hospital and very ill and he already lost his mother at an early age. So this is a highly stressful and emotional time for him obviously. I have zero issue giving him space, it works well for me too. However, in this particular instance I feel so helpless. I want to be there to support him but he's distant again.
It might just be me, needing to be there for him and protect him. I am not bugging him but "checking in once a day and asking how his Dad is .. he always responds but nothing more. I have let him know that I am here if he needs me too.
Is there anything else I should do you darling Virgo's think he might need that he's not asking for? I want to respect his space but feel really helpless. Which is because I cannot fix this situation for him
Thanks for your time, its much appreciated! Oh and HELLO! My first post
Posted by Netsirk
Is there anything else I should do you darling Virgo's think he might need that he's not asking for? I want to respect his space but feel really helpless. Which is because I cannot fix this situation for him
Thanks for your time, its much appreciated! Oh and HELLO! My first post
Posted by Sion6245
Hello Netsirk,
That is so sad that he is going through this, I cannot imagine and feel for him...
I just wanted to give a little insight from me as a Virgo of how we handle things sometimes. What you are doing is perfect for most Virgo's and you don't have to do anything else. When we are stressed and/or emotional, we tend to shutdown. Its not because we don't appreciate those around us but we tend to want to be given our space and be in our own head. Which is what you are allowing him to do. He knows you are there for him and while he doesn't say much, I can tell you that he appreciates it. We have a hard time expressing how we feel sometimes and the more a person tries to get us to talk about it, we have a tendency to get agitated and shut down more. I know I try really hard not to do that, but when I ask a person to give me space or they notice I am shutting down, the best thing is to let me work through it by myself. We don't get offended when we are left alone for awhile. My advice to you is please do not take it personal at all. His behavior is nothing against you in any way. Its just the way he is coping with this situation. He will open up as soon as he has worked it all out within himself and can express his emotions in a way that he feels comfortable.
This goes toward any situation, when you see your Virgo with a serious look and he is real quiet, there is something on his mind (our minds never shut off, haha) but some days its more than others, just ask if he is okay and if he says yes, leave him be and he will come out of the funk he is in, faster. Trust me. LOL
Posted by Sion6245
Hello Netsirk,
That is so sad that he is going through this, I cannot imagine and feel for him...
I just wanted to give a little insight from me as a Virgo of how we handle things sometimes. What you are doing is perfect for most Virgo's and you don't have to do anything else. When we are stressed and/or emotional, we tend to shutdown. Its not because we don't appreciate those around us but we tend to want to be given our space and be in our own head. Which is what you are allowing him to do. He knows you are there for him and while he doesn't say much, I can tell you that he appreciates it. We have a hard time expressing how we feel sometimes and the more a person tries to get us to talk about it, we have a tendency to get agitated and shut down more. I know I try really hard not to do that, but when I ask a person to give me space or they notice I am shutting down, the best thing is to let me work through it by myself. We don't get offended when we are left alone for awhile. My advice to you is please do not take it personal at all. His behavior is nothing against you in any way. Its just the way he is coping with this situation. He will open up as soon as he has worked it all out within himself and can express his emotions in a way that he feels comfortable.
This goes toward any situation, when you see your Virgo with a serious look and he is real quiet, there is something on his mind (our minds never shut off, haha) but some days its more than others, just ask if he is okay and if he says yes, leave him be and he will come out of the funk he is in, faster. Trust me. LOL
Posted by SuperMissMan
Im a pisces with a scorpio mars and rising. So I oudnt advise anythin that i dont think ould truly touch him. im sorry hes dealing with this.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by Netsirk
My first Virgo relationship (I'm a Scorpio) is wonderful. Mostly because I read these forums and adjust accordingly and he also has no issue adjusting to accommodate my needs either. Perfect right? Well ..
His father is in the hospital and very ill and he already lost his mother at an early age. So this is a highly stressful and emotional time for him obviously. I have zero issue giving him space, it works well for me too. However, in this particular instance I feel so helpless. I want to be there to support him but he's distant again.
It might just be me, needing to be there for him and protect him. I am not bugging him but "checking in once a day and asking how his Dad is .. he always responds but nothing more. I have let him know that I am here if he needs me too.
Is there anything else I should do you darling Virgo's think he might need that he's not asking for? I want to respect his space but feel really helpless. Which is because I cannot fix this situation for him
Thanks for your time, its much appreciated! Oh and HELLO! My first post
When reading this, and in hearing you sparkle all over the thread, as if on happily on top of the world, oh how joyful life for the wonder of Virgo ....
.... when we all know that when the Scorpio gets pissed off, they target those very things they lavish with adoration. It's a trick that Scorpios play. They lavish you with this superficial bullshit to get the person to believe and trust in that the Scorpio is loyal and would never betray them .... when in reality, we all know that the real intention of the Scorpio for being so insincere is so they can get the other person's guard down, so they can look for weak spots to sting them later ....
Most Virgos awareness is so glossed over by all the sex, they it takes them awhile to become aware of how untrusting the Scorpio really is.
My hope is that while this guy is away from you, that this awareness begins to creep into his consciousness ... so, he can dodge the bullet (you)click to expand
Posted by Octoberbaby91
This is not a Virgo hate thread this is someone who has a good relationship with a Virgo who is trying to be there for them. SO STFU with the bullshit and remember your opinion is only an OPINION keep your illogical assumptions to yourself if you want to be negative go look in the mirror and critize what a miserable person you are and try to figure out why you like to talk shit on the Internet.