In what sense are Virgo's misunderstood?

I often read here that Virgo's are often misunderstood.

I am not a Virgo ( I am Scorp woman), so I wonder what that means?

How are they misunderstood?

They aren't misunderstood by others, they just think they are.

If they believed they were understood then there would be nothing to woe about and we can't have that.

marilou:'I often read here that Virgo's are often misunderstood.'


That's a matter of opinion marilou: I don't believe I'm misunderstood at all....just poorly precieved, and misjudged. Everyone thinks that our signs totem means we correlate to precisely what it is, modest, shy.....whatever, but the truth of the matter is that's as far from the truth as you'll get....Now, like Scorpio, there are usually three different forms we tend to take.....the idealist, the scientist/investigator or the critical cynic.....now my theory is becuase of the healing aspect of our sign, (like Scorpio) we can change/heal ourself and others perspective/ideas of us.

I think people right me off too fast as one thing or another becuase I'm a rather complex character....People need definitions for things they don't understand, they need to have an understanding of what a person is with out that knowledge or something to put their confidence in they don't know how to approach: 'If he's not talkative, he's GOT to be shy!' if he's clean all the time he's GOT to be neat-freak!' lol it's thinking like that that really has people missing out on good people........we in my opinion are poorly understood, worst more so than Scorpio.

I don't really put up walls at all, I try to knock them down, got nothing to hide, (although I can be secretive) I just at times expect people to get a 'feel' for me underneath the surface to almost be psychic: I investigate the people and grill them untill I feel comfortable to relax with them. I try to be 'refined' and 'gentlemenly' but I'm really tough/wild underneath....very obstinate, and basically a hellion if I didn't have such a rational mind: I have strong emotions that NEED to be controlled If they weren't, I'd probably been pumped full of tranqs by now, I prefer to go by my emotions even though I SAY logical things: I'm very delibrate with what I say even though, I appear to just be silly there's a point to be made even if no one seems to see it that way.

I know better than to just give people power over me, and that's by devulging private information, or giving them some aspect of myself that they can control keep your emotions hidden and under YOUR OWN WILL and they can't nor would I want to give someone that type of power over me.

That's human nature, we all want to be powerful, and in control, what better way than by being a mother or father or someone with influence and power? I give my parents/people hell to figure them out (I don't trust anyone, not even family) to know if they are 'good' or 'evil'.

what else do you want to know? I'm not sure it will coincide with Virgos in general, but I can tell you what I ALONE feel......

marilou26: "I am not a Virgo ( I am Scorp woman), so I wonder what that means?"

Uh... I'm a Virgo Man married to a Scorpio Woman. Lots of people don't understand Scorps, and for some of the same reasons they don't understand Virgs.

We're deep. We're serious. We're honest. We're sincere. We don't play games. We appear to have it together on the surface, but in our inner worlds there's lots of turmoil. Biggest Difference between Scorp & Virg: Scorp isn't afraid to face those inner passions, and can control them much better when they are released.

Luckily, Scorp & Virg understand each other. My Scorp is the first woman who's ever accepted me as the Lovable Old Grump / Tired Old Hound Dog / Comfortable Old Shoes that I am; and yet, she has the courage to try and nudge me towards "letting loose" more often -- not being afraid to be passionate, spontaneous, and unpredictable...

P-Angel: "If they believed they were understood then there would be nothing to woe about and we can't have that."

Very funny, but completely bass-ackwards. Most Virgs are happy with who they are, and could care less if anyone else understands them. Most of the non-Virgs posting to the Virgo Board are unhappy women who don't understand some Virgo Man. Most of the Virgo Men posting on the Virgo Board try to help these ladies understand us better...

Any more complaints??

I find it's not really a question of being misunderstood, but whether or not someone gets me.

When I think understanding... who understands anyone, really? Aren't we all far too complex and interesting to simply categorize and dismiss?

When I think of someone getting me... I feel accepted. If someone can look beyond all the complexity of the window dressing and see that I'm a fundamentally good person... they get me. More often than not, the person who gets me doesn't know all the details about me - certainly not enough to "understand" me in a more conventional sense - but they like what they can intuit being at the core.

So maybe there's some truth in the comment that virgos feel misunderstood if we take misunderstood to mean people just don't get us. By and large, I don't think a lot of people get virgos. We're hard to understand. I don't understand other virgos either.

Personally, I couldn't give a damn if a lot of people get me, but that's only possible when there is a small handful of people who really do. You'd be amazed at how much nourishment a virgo can derive from that little handful.

"By and large, I don't think a lot of people get virgos. We're hard to understand. I don't understand other virgos either."

Thank you for being honest, VL .. for the fact of the matter is ALL people feel misunderstood, since the only person who really knows what we are feeling and thinking is ourself.

That's one thing I really like about you ... you aren't afraid of who you are .. even when you're getting grief, you remain true.


"I couldn't give a damn if a lot of people get me, but that's only possible when there is a small handful of people who really do."


Curious about the above statement ... are you saying that so long as there is a small group of people getting you, then it's not important if anyone else does? My husband feels this exact way, also. He has only a couple people in his life who he concerns himself with and whether they are getting him .. the rest are expendable.

A quote of Dr. Suess that really says it all ...

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

DyarStarBe? Why are you always giving P-Angel a hard time. But I do love your advice because you are a virgo male. Thanks! Just curious and wonder if there's something you're not saying.....

It actually shocks me how much me and my father have in common....I feel just as strong as he does, but for some reason (Virgo is a human sign) I always try to conceal my feeling or deny them.....It's for evolutions sake....A human must be more than just an animal.....It's a social creature, that although fueled by it's feelings must use them as impetus for positive change.....Virgo in my mind represents mans climb to the heavens (spiritual and mental evolution/expansion). The need to be better than what we are to get away from everyday life to get to something more 'perfect/wholesome' I believe most people turn to religion as a form of comfort from the everyday life, when it becomes too much. Transformation is a huge theme in both signs, that's how both Virgo and Scorpio relate: the need for dramatic, and powerful change....the desire for both is to know the truth, about the other, and all things the methods (as Dy had explained) varry, but on the whole are the same used for a common goal.

That's one thing I really like about you ... you aren't afraid of who you are .. even when you're getting grief, you remain true.

Awww, thanks PA. Sorry for not being able to say thank you earlier - I didn't enable email alerts and didn't notice the thread was updated.

are you saying that so long as there is a small group of people getting you, then it's not important if anyone else does?

I think that is what I'm saying and it sounds as if your husband and I have that in common. I wouldn't go so far as to say that other people are expendable - people mean a lot to me, regardless of how superficial those relationships are - but I have heard other virgos refer to people as items on a list. Hard to gauge whether that's sincere or just stupid callousness with the choice of words.

Maybe it's this idea that, if you have a few people who you can be your true self around, emotional detachment/isolation/distance can be bearable.

And I dig Dr. Seuss, but in my heart of hearts I've always been a Richard Scarry girl.

kuntrygirl: "DyarStarBe? Why are you always giving P-Angel a hard time."

Because she's on DXP all the time, is untrustworthy, and spins things to suit her ever-changing mood. SOMEBODY has to counterbalance her bullsh1t, so I try to when I can.

"But I do love your advice because you are a virgo male. Thanks!"

You're welcome! I try to separate fact from fiction, and my comments about VirGuys are based on the 6 I know pretty well, plus the stuff I read by astrologers about us VGs. I really wish I could get my ScorpWife to participate on DXP -- she could give y'all an ear full of the unvarnished truth!

"Just curious and wonder if there's something you're not saying..."

I always have something to say -- just not much time to get on DXP and say it! Full time job, wife, three kids, big yard, big family, etc. But if you have a question about us VGs, by all means ask it -- there are several other VGs who post regularly on DXP besides me, so you'll probably get some kind of answers...

I am never misunderstood by those with at least a 140 IQ. Below that, and it's their fault they cannot figure me out, not mine. I am only misunderstood by stupid people, which happen to be majority rule the gene pool.

LOL@Virguy62!!