Is he really interested—

Hello All! I have a few questions for my virgo males...or the women that know them very well. When a Virgo exaggerates his feelings is it because he is really into you and he would rather play when expressing that as opposed to being serious...or is he doing this because he is just a Charmer and he thinks that this will make the person feel good. My Virgo and I spend alot of time together and when we do he is very, very affectionate. The sex is mind blowing..almost like we have been screwing for years...but when we are not together I find myself wondering if he is even thinking about me. Sometimes I ask myself is it me that he is interested or is it the sex! Normally I am pretty scary judge of character, but I must say that the Virgo male intrigues me because I can't figure them out. The intrigue is enticing, but I feel like I am playing chess with him. I am constantly strategizing to avoid feeling unwanted..or obsolete. I don't know much about the virgo male...Someone please enlighten me.

Yeah he is just prolly just being corny due to the Negative vibe but yeah since Virgo is an Earth sign you will feel the punch > rather stick straight balls uptight and a mushroom on top yeah mostly tense and for that reason balled up balls so in the bed must be great kinda like Aries another sign which is again stick straight and tense balled up and up tight y'know yeah > yeh but a more pointed tip compared with vIrgo > separate platitudes but similar expression.

Not charm but he would be mostly serious afterall he is a Virgo and he must be doing all the judging > everything about you, U have to be careful incase he becomes Fixated and tries to mold yourself into some vague unknown idealistic conception of himself y'know? His idealistic sidekick but uh if you are enjoying him then just keep going at it y'know atleast you are one among the few that are raving about heh someone.

"When a Virgo exaggerates his feelings is it because he is really into you and he would rather play when expressing that as opposed to being serious...or is he doing this because he is just a Charmer and he thinks that this will make the person feel good."


I understand what you're saying, though, I don't know if I've observed this quality in a male Virgo before ... normally, it's Aries or Gemini's who do this, and I also find it very disturbing.

If a person has to overcompensate in expression ... then this comes off to the other person as if convincing has to be in place. And if a person feels like they HAVE to convince another .... then really, they are only having a hidden need to convince themself, for actions speak to the partner .. intentions of action paints a clear picture, and if words are excessive to PROVE it .. then it likely doesn't exist.

So, I can certainly understand how this behaviour has you wondering if he is really that into and thinking about you ... or whether he is playing at something.

I am not a Virgo man. Im a Virgo woman. When I like someone, I turn up the charm and I do tend to have a sense of humor. I personally like to consider myself more than what is done physically. If i feel I am being used without any possibility of any positive outcome or future, I tend to be forward and demanding, hoping things will blossom. Many try and breath life in something we hope may come a live. If not, I look some where else for prospects for a good relationship down the line. We don't really like situations that lack stability or have uncertainty.

Mike I beleive that he exaggerates his feelings because his expressions seem fake..or rehearsed. Its like he is always saying what he thinks I want to hear...or what he thinks is going to make me feel good, when in reality the thought of him makes me feel good. I know what I like and when I decide that a person fits that description I am IN. You don't have to do anything extra to get or keep my attention but be yourself, and be honest. I don't feel like I know him at all. I feel like I am falling his representative.

Talking about having a relationship and ask him how long it takes for him to want a relationship. I feel that is what he is hinting at. You two having been intimate for a little while however, you don't seem as though you have talking about being together.

Like for instance he always says that I seem like I am so cold, but when I try to warm up to him my mind tells me no. I'm not a telephone person so I don't really call him too often unless of course I want to see him. It is because I know that he is busy and will call me when he isn't. I do call when I want to see him however.

He will call me at night and if I am busy and I can't talk he will say plssss make sure you call me before you go to sleep, I hate when you don't. So I did last night and he didn't even pick the phone up. We already had a long conversation and I knew just as well as he did that he was not going to answer but he just said the butter to hear himself. He'll call out of the blue and say something like I miss you so much I don't know what to do, or if he hasn't seen me in a while he will say Bay would I be asking too much if I wanted to come pick you up....the thing is he has a pretty good idea that the answer is going to be no before he asks. When he knows that I have the time and the answer will be yes he doesn't even ask. Are you ready to take it to the next level in a joking way....How are you supposed to answer a question like that when it comes off as a joke. I don't want to assume he is being fake, or over the top because that would make me wonder what his objective is. I do think that he either has an ulterior motive, or he is in a relationship and feels like he should have told me in the beginning and if he tells me now I won't want to bother with him. Actions speak louder than words and his actions are not parallel with his words so maybe I am being a little presumptious here but I can assume if I want to.lol When I am with him sometimes he is so affectionate, and then sometimes he is so distant.....kinda like his is daydreaming or staring off to space. Somethimes when I am with him I feel like he is somewhere else. Other times when I am with him I feel like there is no one else in the world but the two of us. I am a Capricorn, so I am pretty good at controlling or dealing with my emotions. I am also good at disappearing with out a trace when I feel like I am wasting my time. What does it seem like to you? He has been doing this forever, but I never say anything because the one time I did he was so evasive. He will not open up to me, and if he feels the way he says that he feels opening up shouldn't be a problem. I don't want to get lost! but I feel like I am waiting in vain for something that will never happen!

Propose a relationship and you will know for sure. He seems like he is trying to play it cool to avoid any feelings of rejection.

" .. he always says that I seem like I am so cold, but when I try to warm up to him my mind tells me no."



This stands out in my mind, FF ....... if your mind tells you "no" when you try to warm up to him, then this saying that you are indeed cold to him and know it .. for if you weren't cold to him, then your mind wouldn't tell you "no" .. it would tell you, "I'm not cold to him".



In thinking about what that above quote implies, along with everything esle you have said about the relationship .. I would make the determination that there isn't one of value.

"Are you ready to take it to the next level in a joking way....How are you supposed to answer a question like that when it comes off as a joke."


Maybe his humour is in place to try and warm you up.


Putting all this into the whole picture .. it sounds to me like you have unrealistic expectations of him, while reserving the right for yourself to be cold and withdrawn from expressing, except at your own discretion and when it suits you.


Seriously .... you need a self-check here, and perhaps he needs one, also .. who knows? But, if you KNOW you are being COLD to him, and you KNOW that the only person you can really control is yourself, AND your relationship with him has left you confused .... then the ONLY beneficial course at this time is a self-evaluation about what you really want from a man.

Evan_Kahn said: "Im a Virgo with strong Leo influence and other planets in fire too, yes, we're more affectionate than the average Virgo and expressing this can be a bit over-the-top sometimes;"

I am on the Leo cusp (8/25) and I have an Aries moon. I really believe that I am the exact description of that above. I scare a lot of men off with my feelings. A lot of time they think I have an alterior motive. I have never needed a man for anything other than love and it's all I want to give. So, it's very interesting to know that I am not the only Virgo who runs into problems being affectionate.

MsVirgo2008 said: "When I like someone, I turn up the charm and I do tend to have a sense of humor... Many try and breath life in something we hope may come a live. If not, I look some where else for prospects for a good relationship down the line. We don't really like situations that lack stability or have uncertainty...having a relationship and ask him how long it takes for him to want a relationship. I feel that is what he is hinting at."

When I like someone I usually turn into the soap opera sexy house-wife. I want a man to know that I think about him all day long and miss him just as much. I want him to think I am the cutest thing since the button and that he has no clue how he's ever lived life without me. 🙂 That soulmate love thang, I'm talking about.

I am always trying to perfect a relationship, I think I do things far too soon (jumping the gun) and it's a huge risk that I more often come out losing than not. But it's hard to not over-water/overfeed a budding flower.

So, like MsVirgo once I notice the kinks of instability and uncertainty like things are off track I move on and accept that it's defeated. Bring on the silence, I go MIA and though I still have my feelings I will not try and pursue further and he only has until I move on to something more fulfilling to try and get things back on course. Else he should catch me on the rebound. 😉

As for Fab's Virgo man, I am almost thinking he does want a relationship liie MsV2008 says. So, are there any Virgo's who find a good thing and don't want a relationship? Male or female. I know of plenty of signs who find a good thing and don't want a relationship just some surface crap (finger sandwich vs. a hoagie). I always want a relationship when I have something good with someone as long as my life is stable and on a steady track then I can jump right in.

Oh and I have no real experience with Capricorns. My ex I scared off (I think) back in April. We have known each other since Sept 1997 and we dealt off and on until a big incident where I felt he disrespected me (with wanting another woman) at a party of close friend of mine. I vowed to leave him alone for good. Forgotten this over the last 6yrs and hooked back up with him. I thought we were going to at least be friends this go round since we were older and more stable but he went MIA the very next day and I haven't heard from him since.

All of the textbook stuff says that Capricorns are the NUMBER ONE best match for Virgos. I can't imagine all of that hoopla being off base. So, with that said... Fab, I hope things can be worked out. I mean awesome sex is not something you let get away easily. I love awesome sex!!! 😉

I think your Virgo could have some strong Leo planets in his chart, I can identify very well with his behaviour as well, because Im a Virgo with strong Leo influence and other planets in fire too,

LOL, YES! I understand now! Plently of LEO in your chart, haha, that's whats wrong with you 🙂 My virgo friend has Leo inflences too, but he has a stupid pisces moon that makes him hold back LOL!!!!