Posted by Machchu2
If you could get him to talk but it ain't gonna be easy or pretty. Or the same as what it was.
Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
How did he 'lose' his love for you tho? Did he accidentally misplace it on public transport or something...
Posted by sugarplumeowIf one fight was all it took to kill his love for you, he didn't love you very much. Js.Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
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Posted by LadyNeptuneIt wasnt just one fight that killed his love for me. we had fought before and it was getting tiringPosted by sugarplumeowIf one fight was all it took to kill his love for you, he didn't love you very much. Js.Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomI agree with this sentiment, but provided that children are not in the mix.
"Being friends with an ex" is just an excuse one creates to cling on to someone you know you should just leave alone, for good. "Staying friends with an ex" is a lack of respect towards his/her future partner as well. I have absolutely no contact whatsoever with my exes. Neither does my Libra fiancee.
I'm a Virgo but I can't answer for all Virgos. I do not believe in "being friends" with an ex. Years ago I fooled myself into believing that was possible, but it just isn't. Trying to stay friends with an ex just demonstrates one thing: one's inability to move on and see reality.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
I think you should either try to win him back (until he really tells you to stop trying) or leave him alone. The "trying to stay friends" is just a lame and toxic approach, for both of you.
Posted by LadyNeptuneWell thats not true he introduced me to his whole entire family and his family said that never happened beforePosted by sugarplumeowIf one fight was all it took to kill his love for you, he didn't love you very much. Js.Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
How did he 'lose' his love for you tho? Did he accidentally misplace it on public transport or something...click to expand
Posted by sugarplumeowDoesn't really matter what he did. Thats in the past. He broke up with you...he doesn't see you in his future.Posted by LadyNeptuneWell thats not true he introduced me to his whole entire family and his family said that never happened beforePosted by sugarplumeowIf one fight was all it took to kill his love for you, he didn't love you very much. Js.Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
How did he 'lose' his love for you tho? Did he accidentally misplace it on public transport or something...click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneYeah thats true. Im goingto drop it for nowPosted by sugarplumeowDoesn't really matter what he did. Thats in the past. He broke up with you...he doesn't see you in his future.Posted by LadyNeptuneWell thats not true he introduced me to his whole entire family and his family said that never happened beforePosted by sugarplumeowIf one fight was all it took to kill his love for you, he didn't love you very much. Js.Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
How did he 'lose' his love for you tho? Did he accidentally misplace it on public transport or something...
Convincing him to stay friends so you can try to change his mind is an effort in futility.click to expand
Posted by sierra_Yes I do and I am really working on it now. it cost me the love of my lifePosted by sugarplumeowyou have rage problems?Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
How did he 'lose' his love for you tho? Did he accidentally misplace it on public transport or something...click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunemy point is that he did really love mePosted by sugarplumeowDoesn't really matter what he did. Thats in the past. He broke up with you...he doesn't see you in his future.Posted by LadyNeptuneWell thats not true he introduced me to his whole entire family and his family said that never happened beforePosted by sugarplumeowIf one fight was all it took to kill his love for you, he didn't love you very much. Js.Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
How did he 'lose' his love for you tho? Did he accidentally misplace it on public transport or something...
Convincing him to stay friends so you can try to change his mind is an effort in futility.click to expand
Posted by sugarplumeowI guess only he can say that for sure...Posted by LadyNeptunemy point is that he did really love mePosted by sugarplumeowDoesn't really matter what he did. Thats in the past. He broke up with you...he doesn't see you in his future.Posted by LadyNeptuneWell thats not true he introduced me to his whole entire family and his family said that never happened beforePosted by sugarplumeowIf one fight was all it took to kill his love for you, he didn't love you very much. Js.Posted by LadyNeptuneLol ! I meant to say that he stopped loving me after our huge fight. so yeah, we talked about my explosiveness before ..I feel like one of those alcoholics who drinks so much and their partner doesnt like it so they end up leaving and then the drinker wants to change their ways
How did he 'lose' his love for you tho? Did he accidentally misplace it on public transport or something...
Convincing him to stay friends so you can try to change his mind is an effort in futility.
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Posted by sierra_My Placements
@sugarplumeow
what are your placements OP?
how about his?
Posted by sierra_Posted by sugarplumeowPosted by sierra_My Placements
@sugarplumeow
what are your placements OP?
how about his?
Pisces sun 5'01
Pisces rising 7'24
Pisces moon 27'35
Pisces In Mercury 22'43
Venus in Aries 15'32
Mars in Cancer 9'05
Jupiter in Libra 13'40
Saturn in Aquarius 22'36
Midheaven Sag
His Placements
Virgo sun 3'19
Libra rising 8'05
Moon in Taurus 5'04
Mercury in Virgo 15'56
Venus in Libra 19'12
Mars in Cancer 6'24
Jupiter in Scorpio 9'01
Saturn in Pisces 9'27
Midheaven Cancer
I loved him with everything I had
that's a lot of pisces
hmm.. he's got taurus moon
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Posted by MyStarsShineWell I'm not telling you guys the full story. I'm over it. I'm just really ashamed a lost someone like him.
You don't stop loving someone because of a fight lol.
I am still friends with my Virgo ex, but we are parents so we worked on our friendship for the sake of our son and his welfare
It works very well, once we both put away our egos 😊
Posted by hazeofpixiedustIt was all my fault
Sugar... We talked in another post that we are going through similar situations..
My Virguy has moon in Taurus as well.. He dropped me too over a smaller emotional display. I was feeling the same way you were afterward. How can we not be friends? etc. etc. We really loved each other!! ( or he is a fantastic liar schmoozy Virgos? I don't know?).
I don't know if it has to do with their moon being in Taurus (mess with the bull, get the horns— I have no idea I haven't researched that moon placement much) but it does seem they are dead serious when they say it's over. and pretty harsh about it. Mine took it a step further asking for clean break even though this was our first hiccup and it was miniscule.
I'm still hurting right now but I'm feeling better everyday. Part of me realizes he is a huge jerk. Someone said it earlier too... He must not be in love with you anymore. I'm sorry I know that hurts. The one thing that multiple types of people told me after our break up was this: He must not love you if he dumped you. I couldn't believe what happened wasn't just a discussion and instead was a harsh TEXT MSG break up! It did make me realize his feelings must not have been that deep for me.
Virgs from what I've read just move on (onward and upward mentality) not necessarily to a new love, but his mind is not on you or fixing you two right now--- believe that. He is very much looking forward. I also read that they have scouted the situation fully and realize you two will not work out at all. He put thought into dumping you, hun. It wasn't a willy nilly decision on his part. It's very much a deliberate action, not a mistake - so get that idea out of your head.. I'm sorry but he meant it.
I would recommend NOT reaching out at all. Maybe months down the road if you are really feeling it. I've had to really pull myself back in from wanting to contact him. Don't do it! I did send texts a week later to him. He was nice but they trailed off, and I regret feeding his ego with contact in this way. You will regret reaching out right now, TRUST ME.
I also looked up how to win a Virguy back - and that it is not easy. It said you need to plant yourself near the guy and SHOW him that you've changed. over and over. Words will not work, actions will. Be consistent. Don't stuff yourself into his life but be around and show him that you've changed your silly ways. I can't because we live 3 hours away, lolll, but maybe you have a chance to make things right down the road. This means you better be very sure of your feelings for him and awfully devoted. For me that's hard to do after the dude dumped me by text. Why would I do all this for someone who couldn't even give me the respect of a phone call? Why would you do this at all for someone who dropped you? If they still sense that you have these issues, even slightly, they will no longer pay attention to you.
Take some time with yourself. So you've realized you need some anger help. This is not a quick fix, girl! Forget him and work on getting those nastier habits out of you. I would bet that by the time you have yourself level, you have attracted someone new and different. You should be looking forward, too, because your Virgo definitely is! I know it's painful! My relationship was half the time of yours but man it hurt. He also showed me off to everyone he cared about it. I know it means something to you, but like I said, he was willing to drop all of that and drop you. The sooner you admit that to yourself the better. For what it's worth, you're not alone - I'm going through the exact same thing and hurting pretty badly from it - but one thing I'm doing is not looking back and not considering how to fix us. He doesn't care? I shouldn't either is how I see it. Much love! Hang tough, you will see this through and come out stronger. Cliche, but true.
Posted by sugarplumeowSugar I know how you feel. I am stumped whether my situation was really my fault or not? There were so many factors, but I tend to blame myself. I feel like I royally messed up with mine in being a cranky cigarette quitter..... I was getting pissy and I think he didn't like it. Mine is a little bit more of a jerk though because he said he would be there no matter what. And my crankiness wasn't that bad...Posted by hazeofpixiedustIt was all my fault
Sugar... We talked in another post that we are going through similar situations..
My Virguy has moon in Taurus as well.. He dropped me too over a smaller emotional display. I was feeling the same way you were afterward. How can we not be friends? etc. etc. We really loved each other!! ( or he is a fantastic liar schmoozy Virgos? I don't know?).
I don't know if it has to do with their moon being in Taurus (mess with the bull, get the horns— I have no idea I haven't researched that moon placement much) but it does seem they are dead serious when they say it's over. and pretty harsh about it. Mine took it a step further asking for clean break even though this was our first hiccup and it was miniscule.
I'm still hurting right now but I'm feeling better everyday. Part of me realizes he is a huge jerk. Someone said it earlier too... He must not be in love with you anymore. I'm sorry I know that hurts. The one thing that multiple types of people told me after our break up was this: He must not love you if he dumped you. I couldn't believe what happened wasn't just a discussion and instead was a harsh TEXT MSG break up! It did make me realize his feelings must not have been that deep for me.
Virgs from what I've read just move on (onward and upward mentality) not necessarily to a new love, but his mind is not on you or fixing you two right now--- believe that. He is very much looking forward. I also read that they have scouted the situation fully and realize you two will not work out at all. He put thought into dumping you, hun. It wasn't a willy nilly decision on his part. It's very much a deliberate action, not a mistake - so get that idea out of your head.. I'm sorry but he meant it.
I would recommend NOT reaching out at all. Maybe months down the road if you are really feeling it. I've had to really pull myself back in from wanting to contact him. Don't do it! I did send texts a week later to him. He was nice but they trailed off, and I regret feeding his ego with contact in this way. You will regret reaching out right now, TRUST ME.
I also looked up how to win a Virguy back - and that it is not easy. It said you need to plant yourself near the guy and SHOW him that you've changed. over and over. Words will not work, actions will. Be consistent. Don't stuff yourself into his life but be around and show him that you've changed your silly ways. I can't because we live 3 hours away, lolll, but maybe you have a chance to make things right down the road. This means you better be very sure of your feelings for him and awfully devoted. For me that's hard to do after the dude dumped me by text. Why would I do all this for someone who couldn't even give me the respect of a phone call? Why would you do this at all for someone who dropped you? If they still sense that you have these issues, even slightly, they will no longer pay attention to you.
Take some time with yourself. So you've realized you need some anger help. This is not a quick fix, girl! Forget him and work on getting those nastier habits out of you. I would bet that by the time you have yourself level, you have attracted someone new and different. You should be looking forward, too, because your Virgo definitely is! I know it's painful! My relationship was half the time of yours but man it hurt. He also showed me off to everyone he cared about it. I know it means something to you, but like I said, he was willing to drop all of that and drop you. The sooner you admit that to yourself the better. For what it's worth, you're not alone - I'm going through the exact same thing and hurting pretty badly from it - but one thing I'm doing is not looking back and not considering how to fix us. He doesn't care? I shouldn't either is how I see it. Much love! Hang tough, you will see this through and come out stronger. Cliche, but true.
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Posted by LibraLovesHimThis was my experience with a Virguy too. Lots of criticism when he had so many things blatantly wrong with himself...
I have, sort of more acquaintances. Check in now and then, see how hes doing but we dont meet up etc etc. Much better. He was good to me, took good care of me, caring but unkind if that makes sense. I used to always say-can we please just be nice to one another. The relationship was constant critisizing and displeasure at whatever I done etc at least now we can be civil.
Posted by hazeofpixiedustYou give the greatest advice 🙂 Im glad we talkedPosted by sugarplumeowSugar I know how you feel. I am stumped whether my situation was really my fault or not? There were so many factors, but I tend to blame myself. I feel like I royally messed up with mine in being a cranky cigarette quitter..... I was getting pissy and I think he didn't like it. Mine is a little bit more of a jerk though because he said he would be there no matter what. And my crankiness wasn't that bad...Posted by hazeofpixiedustIt was all my fault
Sugar... We talked in another post that we are going through similar situations..
My Virguy has moon in Taurus as well.. He dropped me too over a smaller emotional display. I was feeling the same way you were afterward. How can we not be friends? etc. etc. We really loved each other!! ( or he is a fantastic liar schmoozy Virgos? I don't know?).
I don't know if it has to do with their moon being in Taurus (mess with the bull, get the horns— I have no idea I haven't researched that moon placement much) but it does seem they are dead serious when they say it's over. and pretty harsh about it. Mine took it a step further asking for clean break even though this was our first hiccup and it was miniscule.
I'm still hurting right now but I'm feeling better everyday. Part of me realizes he is a huge jerk. Someone said it earlier too... He must not be in love with you anymore. I'm sorry I know that hurts. The one thing that multiple types of people told me after our break up was this: He must not love you if he dumped you. I
couldn't believe what happened wasn't just a discussion and instead was a harsh TEXT MSG break up! It did make me realize his feelings must not have been that deep for me.
Virgs from what I've read just move on (onward and upward mentality) not necessarily to a new love, but his mind is not on you or fixing you two right now--- believe that. He is very much looking forward. I also read that they have scouted the situation fully and realize you two will not work out at all. He put thought into dumping you, hun. It wasn't a willy nilly decision on his part. It's very much a deliberate action, not a mistake - so get that idea out of your head.. I'm sorry but he meant it.
I would recommend NOT reaching out at all. Maybe months down the road if you are really feeling it. I've had to really pull myself back in from wanting to contact him. Don't do it! I did send texts a week later to him. He was nice but they trailed off, and I regret feeding his ego with contact in this way. You will regret reaching out right now, TRUST ME.
I also looked up how to win a Virguy back - and that it is not easy. It said you need to plant yourself near the guy and SHOW him that you've changed. over and over. Words will not work, actions will. Be consistent. Don't stuff yourself into his life but be around and show him that you've changed your silly ways. I can't because we live 3 hours away, lolll, but maybe you have a chance to make things right down the road. This means you better be very sure of your feelings for him and awfully devoted. For me that's hard to do after the dude dumped me by text. Why would I do all this for someone who couldn't even give me the respect of a phone call? Why would you do this at all for someone who dropped you? If they still sense that you have these issues, even slightly, they will no longer pay attention to you.
Take some time with yourself. So you've realized you need some anger help. This is not a quick fix, girl! Forget him and work on getting those nastier habits out of you. I would bet that by the time you have yourself level, you have attracted someone new and different. You should be looking forward, too, because your Virgo definitely is! I know it's painful! My relationship was half the time of yours but man it hurt. He also showed me off to everyone he cared about it. I know it means something to you, but like I said, he was willing to drop all of that and drop you. The sooner you admit that to yourself the better. For what it's worth, you're not alone - I'm going through the exact same thing and hurting pretty badly from it - but one thing I'm doing is not looking back and not considering how to fix us. He doesn't care? I shouldn't either is how I see it. Much love! Hang tough, you will see this through and come out stronger. Cliche, but true.
But I have been blaming myself all my month. Sometimes I get clarity in my sleep, during dreams. The past few days I have been really working it out in sleep and I realize that this is noone's "fault." We are not supposed to be together. You know what else my dreams showed me? That I gave a lot more in ways that he never did for me. I woke up relearning the lesson that "love is blind." I wasn't looking at the pitfalls of things he was doing to me, because I've been wrapped up in blaming myself. I had him on a pedestal he didn't belong on.
I would just really do some soul searching... How good of a match was he, TRULY.
I see your next steps going one of two ways - you realize you lost a good thing and take these next months to make YOU your focus. You admit fully that you have some anger issues. You and him will never work until these are gone from you. You can take the time to work on it and come back around to show him that you've changed! But these traits need to be gone from you or he will not accept you. That's deep and it will take hard work on yourself. Maybe by the time you fix the issues you won't want him anymore.
The other way is you find someone who knows how to meddle with that side of you. I had anger issues when I was younger 20's. I met people who knew how to snap me out of it, make me laugh and move on. I also met people who couldn't stand it. I didn't care about the ones who didn't like it, because that was just where I was at with myself at the time. The people who didn't like it had no place in my life right then and vice versa.
Anyway, someone said to keep checking in as an acquaintance. This is a great idea further down the road for you two. Still, immediately, now --- take some time over the holidays to just be you, and work on that stuff that you don't like. In a couple months - pop back in and say hi to your guy. Or you can now, but really really lightly (I wouldn't at all right now).
I know the grieving is rough (I'm right there with you) but your focus shouldn't be him. It should be you, the things you think scared him off, and how to make them better. You need a rest from him, dear!
Have you tried classes or a hobby that gets you calm and centered? Painting, yoga, swimming laps, meditation... You might wanna consider some anger management or simply counseling too. Do SOMETHING over the next few months!
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Posted by FadnavDidnt i talk to you yesterday?
And what to do if you are the one who did the breakup?
I am a leo and I have posted about my 6 month relanrelationship with this virgo guy on this forum, in detail.
I am hurting and it's just two days since i broke up and I did it on fone. Told him it's our last talk but he did not take it seriously.He said why can't you keep in touch with me when you have to talk to this other guy (plz check my post for the whole story)
I did get one morning msg from him yesterday but nothing today.
I so want him back
would he come back to me on his own ?
The ending was as he was not ready to commit to me (The usual saying I am slow and I need time to decide I wanna marry to you or not)
I am missing him so much but i don't wanna go back to him on my own.
So guys your insight please
Posted by sugarplumeowYeap Yeah you did and your answer was very sweetPosted by FadnavDidnt i talk to you yesterday?
And what to do if you are the one who did the breakup?
I am a leo and I have posted about my 6 month relanrelationship with this virgo guy on this forum, in detail.
I am hurting and it's just two days since i broke up and I did it on fone. Told him it's our last talk but he did not take it seriously.He said why can't you keep in touch with me when you have to talk to this other guy (plz check my post for the whole story)
I did get one morning msg from him yesterday but nothing today.
I so want him back
would he come back to me on his own ?
The ending was as he was not ready to commit to me (The usual saying I am slow and I need time to decide I wanna marry to you or not)
I am missing him so much but i don't wanna go back to him on my own.
So guys your insight please
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