Is this the end of a relationship with a Virgo man

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by taurus123 on Sunday, March 29, 2009 and has 5 replies.
Hello all:This is my first post on this website. I have read most of your answers to questions that deal with the mystique of the Virgo male and I was hoping you would be able to give me your input into my situation. I have been off and on friends with this Virgo guy. We met while we were in graduate school and became study partners. He offered to hang out so we have been hanging out for about 2 years now. We went to dinners, movies and walks. We hang out maybe 2-3 times a month for a day. He had his mood swings but I was okay with them. Everyone has off days, right? Unfortunately I developed deep feelings for him although we have never been intimate nor he has made an attempt to be intimate with me. I kissed him two months ago on the mouth and he kissed me back. Couple of days ago I told him about my feelings for him because I could not hold them back anymore. I have not loved and felt this way about anyone for about 10 years since the death of my first love. I am in my late 20's. He did not know that my first love has died and he brought up the topic of first love because he said that his ex gf was his first love. When he asked me about my first love my eyes got watery but I did not cry or anything, it is just that sad memories came back to my head. This is the first time he has ever seen me emotional and he said that was nice. I told him that my feelings were very deep and that I cannot just be in this as friends because it is really hard for me and that I deserve to be loved and wanted by a person who felt the same. He answered, but you are my pal, buddy. I asked him whether he was still talking to his ex and he said that he was. I am not sure what is that all about because he told me before that he has not spoken with her for about a year beforehand. He is lying obviously. I also know that his ex has a child and when I asked him whether it was his he said no, and that his ex does not want to have a relationship with the baby's father. I asked him if he was going back to his ex he said he did not know. He has told me before that he has feelings for me more than a friend but chooses not to act on them. I do not think that I can wait for him to decide if he wants to act or not in regard to his feelings.
I have had only two bf's in my life- the one that is dead and another one, who was my fiance and cheated on me because I did not want to be intimate with him until our wedding night. He cheated a month before the wedding, so I broke off the engagement.
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Thus, I do not have very much experience with relationships because I have not had many. At the end of the night, we gave each other a hug and he told me to take care. I told him take care as well. Nothing else was said.
I wonder if our friendship is now ruined because I finally had the guts to admit that I had those feelings for him.
I also suspect that he has not been truthful to me since I have caught him in multiple lies over the 2 years.
Now I worry that he knows something that is very personal to me like my first love and that I would have sex only after I am married. The decision about sex is my choice and not based on any religious influence.
My question is: whether this Virgo guy is done with me?
Would Virgo men go for a woman who is not promiscuous and would not want to have sex until marriage or that is a big turn off?
Thank you in advance for your responses.
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welcome taurus smile

it seems like he still has feelings for his ex, or he doesn't feel the same way about you yet .. if you bombarded him with questions about her than chances you came in too clingy and might have scared him off a bit
I understand what u are going through, when you love someone you become very wobbly and insecure and that doesn't look good .. all I advice is to make your mind up, can you afford to hang around for him to make his mind up and you will have to do so in a very cool no-pressure way
chances this is going to be hard, I would do it but don't advice you to, virguys are notorious for chasing after the wrong woman and this guy will hang to his ex for a while
as for abstinence, don't let this get to your convictions and principles because they define you, if people aren't ok with them then it's not meant to be .. on another note most men appreciate chastity in a woman especially in this age of sexual overstimulation, a woman who resists this is truly a strong willed one
good luck and keep smiling
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Mister_eee thank you for the warm welcome. The only problem that I have with myself is that I let myself feel that way about him. I am a pretty strong person but somehow those feelings snuck upon me and suprised me big time. I am a person who appreciates honesty and I get frustrated with people who lie to me like my Virgo guy.
I am just going to enjoy my life and try to live through my feelings for him.
Thank you again.
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Virgogotme, thank you. I just thought maybe he is thinking that since he does not feel the same about me he would end the friendship without telling me. Although he referred that he was lucky to have someone in his life who cared about him as much as I did. I guess he appreciates me at some level. The one thing that I cannot understand is when he tells me that he shows affection in a different way. I am a very passionate person and if I am with someone and have feelings for them I show it- whether it will be through holding hands, or kiss on the cheek or a pat on the mouth. I am not ashamed of loving someone. He has told me before that he takes time out of his schedule to see me and that was enough affection for me. However, his schedule is not that busy so although I do feel special. I guess if he wants to talk to me then he will talk to me and if he does not then I have to move on.
Thank you for your response.
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