Its this guy~ Virgo/ Cancer

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by sorcha on Saturday, August 31, 2013 and has 4 replies.
So I moved states recently to be with my family after ending a 4 year relationship with an aries. My cousin thought it would be a good idea to give my number to her coworker who has a cousin my age because I could use a bf *rolls eyes*. Anyway he starts texting me out of the blue my 2nd week here. I was nervous and suspicious because I haven't dated since HS. I decided to give him a chance because what if he turns out to be a good guy. After talking for a while things started getting serious and he would text me everyday and night. He was sweet and I liked his southern charm. We met up one day and it turned out to be a chill day. I met his friends, we smoked alil bit and hit up the courts. He texted me that night saying he was feeling some type of way bout me. I wanted him too so I didn't feel bad about giving it up. And I really did like him at this point. But after the day we hooked up he barely texts me and I have to text him first most of the time. It annoys me but I understand people have lives and can be busy. The thing that is pissing me off is that I've been trying to tell him how I feel but I can't get him in to a serious convo cuz he texts me 3 hours later or doesn't text back at all. And when he does its like "hey bae, wyd, when you coming over??" or "Cn u come out n play today?". He is driving me bananas. I said I was busy which I was and he never texted back. What kills me is that the first time we talked he was upset that i texted him back so slow. I hate texting I'm only texting him because its him and I want things to work. But he is playing games and I don't play games. I left out a lot because Idk how much space I have to write. But my question is what should I do to get him to understand without sounding as needy as I feel right now? Should I stick it out and keep trying or do you think he's playing with me? He said be hates being single and that "I'm his" wtd
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You gave it up too soon and ended up being a booty call. Sorry but that's what happens when you don't take time to develop a friendship first. Also, by having sex so soon, you killed the thrill of the chase for him. He might text you now & then but it will only be for sex. Live and learn.
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PS: I don't mean to harsh on you. You're 21 and I should have moderated my tone. This is a normal young (and not so young) woman mistake. You think having sex will solidify love but that's not the way a man's heart works. You give it up too soon and he'll think either your easy or were simply easy to catch. You gotta take time and make sure they stick around you before you have sex. The real end game strategy is no sex before monogamy. I've done what you've done. It's disappointing and hurtful at the time but you will get over it. Just don't let it make you jaded. We all get disappointed in the love game sometimes.
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Thanks for the advice Este8. I don't think you were harsh at all. At least you answered honestly. I'm not really as hurt as I should be I guess. I've only been in one relationship my whole life so I don't have much experience with men. I mean I wasn't trying really hard to keep it a secret that I wanted to do him. If I want something and I see an opportunity I usually take it. Besides I wanted to test the waters before I got in too deep if you know what I mean. I know that may seem like I'm being easy but I knew what I was getting into when I agreed to let him in my bed. I just wish he would talk to me so I can settle this and move on with my life "if" he's not interested. I texted him earlier and told him to give me a call so we can talk. If I he ignores that text then I'll know for sure he an't worth my time or effort. Live and learn like you said right.
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