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First, someone needs to be posted at the door to keep the men out . . this is for women ONLY.
If your man told you that eating isn't cheating, then is this permission to have a lesbian relationship?
Second, if eating isn't cheating . . then, that should mean that a MAN could eat you too, so long as you don't give back, right?
If your man told you this, would you do it?
'Eating' is sex - right??? So I guess that would be 'permission' to have that sort of sex with either a man or a woman.
If your man told you this, would you do it?
Nope. I have my own definitions and comfort zone with the whole 'cheating' thing. That would be outside it so what 'my man' said would have nothing to do with it. I guess that would make it my own decision though - rather than something I wouldn't do just because it wouldn't be acceptable to my man.
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Jan 18, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 1857 · Topics: 45
P-Angel:-) my lovely - your mind has turned alot towards sex these days:-) - must be something in the air:-)
I do know that nearly all men are turned on to see their female partner involved in lesbian sex acts.
Don't know about the second part of your question - me thinketh the "green eyed monster" would arise in this scenario within him......
You thinkin' of tryin it out Missy? You angel delight??:-)
A x
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Jan 18, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 1857 · Topics: 45
Maybe I am on the wrong page....I thought eating meant "going down" but not actually penetrative sex.......got to catch up on the American slang of today:-)!!
Cuh!! and I thought I knew everything:-)
A x
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Alana . . I did mean oral sex only.
Sex is always on my mind, lol. Plus, it's been raining for several days and well . . that gets me everytime. That's why he would never consider living near a beach. He'd die young from being rocked too much.
I have several thoughts on what this might mean, for instance:
Perhaps he knows he can't keep up with my heat and passion, so rather than worrying about me finding a "dude", I might be able to quench the insatiable desire with a woman. However, if this is his meaning . . that wouldn't work because I LOVE the male anatomy.
Or, maybe he has been doing someone and so now he tells me this, thinking I might do it so he won't look so guilty if the truth comes out.
Or, maybe he was thinking along the lines of me being interested in bringing a woman to our bed, so he can have . . well, you know . . that turn on of two women.
There's so many things this could mean.
Furthermore, oral sex is a two way road . . does this mean that if I do a man orally, that's ok, so long as there is no penetrating?
"You thinkin' of tryin it out Missy? You angel delight??:-)"
Always, Ax . . . if it pertains to erotica . . it's constantly on my mind. I think he's slowing down, getting old and I'm just waking up, coming into my prime.
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Sneaky, little me . . sent my son and his family to live at the beach in our state. Now, my hubby has to follow, so we can be near the grandkids.
Tricky little fishy.
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Furthermore, what IS this fascination:
"I do know that nearly all men are turned on to see their female partner involved in lesbian sex acts."
Why is that so hot? I guess I'd have to let guys in to get that question answered.
Or, maybe he has been doing someone and so now he tells me this, thinking I might do it so he won't look so guilty if the truth comes out.
This was the first thing that popped in my head. Is he or isn't he????????
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Jan 18, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 1857 · Topics: 45
"oral sex is a two way road" - sure is...a "two-forked tongue" more like:-)!!!!
If we are talking about your virgo guy here, well I'd just ask him straight out if he's doin' it with someone else or did it with someone else!!! I doubt it - knowing how much you two guys care for each other and virgos will always (the ones I know) tell you about their sexual experiences truthfully and honestly.....too much detail sometimes for me to handle!!!
We've all heard of the "Prime of Miss Jean Brody".
I think it's now the time of the "Prime of P-Angel" - how you handle it girl is up to you, your imagination, your creativity and ingenious little tricky fishy plots:-) Let the games begin:-) - I want to learn from the Master...sorry Mistress!!:-)
A x
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That was my original thought, too. However, a Virgo can't hide lying eyes. They can say what they want, but, if you know their twinkles (which I do), then there can be no deciet. Maybe that's why they are so honest . . because they know they'd be caught.
I don't think he's doing anybody, his eyes are telling the truth . . however, I've not directly asked the question, only suggested. But, he's not stupid, he knows what my leading questions mean.
Maybe he's figured out my trick of getting him near the water so I'm aroused all the time and will ride him like a driven mule 24/7 and is preparing.
If it would just stop raining, my libido would slow down . . a fraction.
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LOL! Interesting topic. And it's name makes all men come here. Anyway;
Sex is always on my mind, lol. Plus, it's been raining for several days and well . . that gets me everytime. That's why he would never consider living near a beach. He'd die young from being rocked too much.
*P-Angel's hubby at the end of the working day;
Hubby's boss: Can't you stay for overtime, we need that job done until tomorrow?
Hubby: No I can't. My wife has become horny because of too many raining days.
Hubby's boss: *Stoned....
LOL!
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lol, Haffo
Maybe that's WHY he works so much . . escape
Have you ever in your life heard of a man who turns it down because it's too much sex? I mean, wtf . . .
So, Haffo, since you're our token man who was able to bust through the centuries standing at the door . . what is the fascination about two women having sex? Are men thinking that they might learn something new? Or, is it just the more naked women, the better?
Alana: Maybe I am on the wrong page....I thought eating meant "going down" but not actually penetrative sex.......got to catch up on the American slang of today:-)!!
Hi Alana!! Long time not talk - hope things are great with you!! I didn't mean to insinuate that eating was penetrative sex if you were referring to my commnent. You are correct that if you use the term 'sex' as a shortened form of 'sexual intercourse' then that would usually mean penetrative sex in the strict sense of the term. But I do use 'sex' more loosely to describe any sexual act.
P-Angel:
Hmm - I don't know how I'd interpret that if my Virguy brought up a subject like that. I think I'd just have to ask him outright!!! I'd probably ask one of the less threatening questions first though... Like 'So are you bringing this up because you'd want to watch that or what?' No reason to make any negative assumptions, you seem to have a great relationship!
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So, Haffo, since you're our token man who was able to bust through the centuries standing at the door . . what is the fascination about two women having sex?
Fascination? Well, never saw two women having sex, so can't tell exactly, but probably the source of fascination would be "more naked women, the better".
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Who's asking? Bill Clinton?
I don't see the gray area. It's sex, oral, penetrative, whether I have my man's permission or not.
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Well, since Billy got his as whooped by her wife, Hillary, I can safely assume that giving oral is sex.
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Actually Haffo, my question wasn't really, "Is eating cheating"
I was just pondering WHY he said it, what it means. Most Virgo's are pretty direct, unless it comes to their partner . . then their indirect for fear of hurting her/his feelings, at least, mine is. Very accommodating people to their partners and will go out of their way to ease into something confrontational.
Since he was so vague about his comment, I was just wanting to hear from others what they thought it could possibly mean.
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Ok.
I understand. I have my personal experience with Virgo men (not sexual lol) in real life so I'll tell you this:
It is true that they are very accomodating (I have my spine myself than they are
) and can be vague. In such situations, when they refuse to tell what they mean, I punish them. I do my thing until shoe fits. If they object, they fall in their own hole. I say "why you didn't tell me that before?" and they have no more reason to object.
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"when they refuse to tell what they mean, I punish them"
lol, I like the punishment part . . refuse me? Whip, smack, whip some more.
I really didn't ask him point blank what he was talking about, only hinted at a few things. I'm (nearly) possitive that it wasn't his way of trying to tell me something I don't want to know. Hopefully, if that is the case, he will keep his mouth shut and not mention it again . . . ignorance is bliss on that particular thing. What I don't know won't hurt me.
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A man can't sleep at the middle of night in his bed and constatnly changes sides. This behaviour finally causes her wife to wake up. She asks, "WHat's wrong?", and he tells "I have debt to my neighbourhood in the opposite building and have to pay it back tomorrow, and I have no money for that". Wife things for a couple of seconds, stands up, walks to the balcony, calls that neighbour and tells "My husband not gonna pay your money tomorrow!" and walks back, tells her husband "You can sleep now, let him worry about 'his' money, good night"....
Therefore, delegate 'his' responsibility...
If "my man" told me "eating isn't cheating" I wouldn't care.
I pretty much get into whatever type of relationship I want to be in. If it's committed & monogamous, then I would stick by my own standard of what I would consider that to be - which probably wouldn't include sexual activity of any kind with another partner. If it's open - then there's no such thing as cheating.
I feel for ya P-Angel. Getting to that "peak" in life while committed to a partner who can't keep up must be hella frustrating. I just turned 31 and have no idea when or even *if* I should settle down with one person. Especially if my drive gets any higher and my morals any lower. lol
I'm not a Virguy but I believe Haffo is 100% correct that your sweety is trying to accomodate your needs.
There is definitely some sort of cosmic joke in the fact that when a woman reaches 40ish her libido goes up just as her partner's is going down...
Hmmm, "Cosmic Joke" or Cosmic Gift?
Think about it:
When a woman is young and maybe more dependant emotionally and finacially on a man her sex drive may be lower so she can find a suitable partner to be a safe haven while she blossoms into a fuller womanhood in her later 30s to 40s and beyond.
At the time when her libido is going up she is probably more financially stable and emotionally independant without holding on to any preconceived notions or hangups on what's "acceptable" regarding sex or relationships. She's basically in her prime physically, emotionally, mentally, and usually financially. She can see what she wants and go after it with tact, maturity, and a clear head.
If anything, the "joke" is on the guys. When they start to lose their libidos it never comes back. They take viagra, get shiny red sports cars, and younger girlfriends who have to wait for the viagra to kick in so they can "earn" the money they're usually using the old guy for. On top of that, she might get pregnant - then the "trophy wife" is now just another mom who's too busy or tired to be bothered and has "grandpa" watch the kids while she goes out with the girls(and guys). While an older woman, younger man can also be wrought with issues it can also be based on a more honest pretext - SEX. 
Just my ramblings.. Well lv75, your ramblings do make some sense... But whether you look at it as a joke or a gift, it's yet another stage in life that could put a strain on a relationship. Yup, things change and people move on but I've yet to decide if I think that is a good thing or not. 'Things change and people grow' might be better...
But on another note - where did ya say all these younger men are
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Most women have spent the better part of their lives giving to their partner, boss, parents, in-laws, children etc. She's been fighting, sweeping, doing the laundry, wiping noses and asses, car pooling, soccer momming till she's just worn out. So, finally she reaches what I call the "F*ck it forties". She's been through it and is tired of giving and not getting back. Normally, by that time, the kids are off living their own lives (hopefully), her husband is deep in the middle of a mid-life crisis or out screwing some younger chick. Now, she's got some choices, live or die. By this time she's too damn tired to take care of anyone else but herself so she says "F*ck it". I am going to have fun, I don't have to pick up the kids from school, I can go to tai chi, or kickbox or whatever. Botox, plastic surgery or fling, here I come.
Can anyone blame her? She's earned the right to decide whether or not she's gonna eat or get eatin'.
Guys, if you're listening, this is why women get back in the saddle again. It's jumping off place for the rest of her life.
ScorpGal5 - You're 100% right that going through these changes put serious strain on a relationship. That's why I don't know when or even *if* I should "settle down." It's a difficult position for anyone to be in and I feel for anyone going through it. (and psssst - the younger men are at the clubs, colleges, and if you're really feeling frisky the high schools.
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Catfish36 - AMEN!!! lv75 the younger men are at the clubs, colleges, and if you're really feeling frisky the high schools
OMG I can't quite imagine. I think I'd feel like I was robbing the cradle, not to mention like some fool out trying to relive my younger days. Bah - now I'm seeing what the problem is. It's ME!!! 
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"that would mean he has done it and he is putting logic for his own reasoning and offering me the same paralell deal that permitts me to give the head....simply to clear himself of the burden and rationalize things....."
Yes, Archer, that seems to be the common thought among the women who responded. And, I thought that too, originally, and I am still hashing that over.
However, he can be Mr. Kinky, sometimes, and this might have been his way of asking me to do a threesome. He's not very direct with some things and sexuality is one of those things.
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Hi Scorpgal5.......lovely to see and hear from you too:-) - and nice to see Haffo's back with his usual cheery banter:-) and also Archer:-) who I ditto with about virgo lovers being more into sex than anyone else!!albeit behind closed doors:-)!!!! Talking of closed doors and stuff, I blush now - just last nite after a romp of passion with Mr. Virgo on couch-land! lying in afterglow - I suddenly looked up and seen we had forgotten to pull the curtains - there are apartments that look straight into his huge bedroom window. I leaped up to pull the curtains and there was this very very old lady across the window staring in......just how long she had been there, God knows!!!! What she saw will probably kill her or cure her:-)!!!!!
Whew........this is getting hot and heavy.....you're just gonna have to "bottle that libido and start selling it to those poor unfortunates who haven't reached their peaks yet!!!!!!
About lesbian sex, just make sure you're the prettiest:-)
About threesomes, just make sure, it's two men....and your the one being adored:-)
Seriously, though, I still don't think your guy did anything "cheaty" on you.
Keep us posted testosterone-wise!!:-)
Alana x
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My dear Archer:-) you know me so well........and I'm liking your suggestion big time:-)
A x
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lol, Archer, I hear ya. How many old ladies are there out there who men no longer look at with desire . . all shrivelled and sagging . . yet, women only get better, hornier and kinkier as they age. They are burning inside with desire until they die, but, being ignored and rejected because they "look" old.
So, we should all give round of applause to Alana, for fulfilling an old lady, who can only now fantasize about how it used to be when she was young and pretty.
Yeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaah, Alana.
(Pssssss . . acciddntly do it again tonight, hehehehe)
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P-Angel.....am hoping for a repeat performance!!!!:-)...but that friggin' virgo man hasn't rang yet - it's not 4.30 pm...and you know me....I never ever ring him first.....I always let him ask me over:-) - Keep your fingers crossed for a phone-call!!!!! Dam virgos:-)
A x
PS - You have a great weekend full of fun and frolics by the sea of love:-)
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Read again .. this time use your brain.
hey P-A, have you considered that perhaps he hasn't yet, but would like to? maybe he's gauging your reaction to the suggestion...or perhaps he suspects that you have or want to and is digging. but you know...if it's really bothering you then you need to ask him, cause nobody here can give you the answer.
if this is a virgo man we're talking about, he probably not only will let you have sex with a woman, he'll at least insist on watching if not participating! i've never met a man born in september who didn't have at least a strong lesbian fixation!