Hi All, I’m hoping you can help me. I met this Virgo guy about 2 months ago (I’m a Libra, both in our 30s). We hit it off instantly and started hanging out, and it got pretty intense really fast. He spoke about marriage and having children and just how he was totally ready to settle down. Not saying with me exactly, but just that I had the qualities he was looking for. So one night we have this magical evening, just laughing, joking, talking and having unbelievable sex. Nothing went wrong, everything seemed perfect. He confirmed that we’re in a relationship and I was elated. The very next day he started acting really distant and cold. Not texting as much, not making any plans to see me, not calling me. I kept reaching out just trying to talk, and he would reply HOURS later, with short replies. After 7 days of this I sent a text, letting him know how serious I was about us (just as he said he was) and that I really like our connection and like him and hopes he feels the same. He wrote back that he feels the same. We live about 2 hours away from each other so seeing each other is very hard, because of work. So I rely on texting and phone calls to keep it going. Yes we speak everyday via text but it’s nothing substantial, just good morning, how are you, goodnight. Whereas before we were having conversations and he totally seemed interested in me. I finally got fed up after 10 days of this, and told him that I will give him space since he seems so distant and cold towards me. I told him I wasn’t angry or anything but I’ll just give him space. He wrote back that he doesn’t need space and that he “enjoys†me. But he didn’t like the fact that I’m quick to bounce. I told him I’m not bouncing but just giving him some space, because I feel like I’m annoying him, trying to text and call someone who doesn’t seem responsive. He says he's just been busy with work...but that's not true because he does the same thing on the weekends. Do you think I’m wasting my time? I really like this guy, but it’s really hurtful to go from him being so into me, to me literally just trying to make conversation with him. Why does he keep texting at all if he isn’t interested? Should I save myself the heartache or stick it through? Is he just keeping me hanging on a string? As a Libra, I usually stay really surface with people, never letting anyone in to see the real me, until I know they’re really serious about me. But I want to let him in, and I’m a good person, very caring and loving, but this is truly hurting my feelings.
P.S. I just went through a similar thing with a Capricorn. When I finally got the courage to dump him after 7 months of him treating me like I meant nothing to him, he’s literally begging for me to come back. But why not just show you care from the start? Are Virgos the same way?
Him:
Rising - Sagittarius
Sun - Virgo
Moon - Scorpio
Mercury - Libra
Venus - Virgo
Mars - Sagittarius
Jupiter - Scorpio
Saturn - Libra
Uranus - Sagittarius
Neptune - Sagittarius
Pluto - Libra
Me:
Rising - Sagittarius
Sun - Libra
Moon - Pisces
Mercury - Libra
Venus - Virgo
Mars - Sagittarius
Jupiter - Scorpio
Saturn - Libra
Uranus - Sagittarius
Neptune - Sagittarius
Pluto - Libra
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Apr 12, 2015Comments: 1423 · Posts: 3710 · Topics: 58
This is so compatible its sickening..
Its unfortunate the advancements in technology such as cell.phones have made relationships sooo... caca
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Jun 01, 2014Comments: 0 · Posts: 2068 · Topics: 16
I'm getting similar convos with my guy and their placements aren't the same, but similar energies. We've been together for almost 6 months and he's been gone since Sept 2nd for work out of town. I get the same amount of communication from him on his off days as I do on his work days. He was the same with text/phone communication while here, but we saw each other a lot and of course, he's more interactive in person. I think maybe the Scorp/Virgo/Libra energy in combo leads to either out of sight, out of mind or that they just don't do very well if you're not face to face. Every time I've mentioned putting any kind of emotional distance between us, my guy has become frustrated or sad. That's not what he wants and I think he has a hard time expressing what he wants in written or spoken words. He's more of an action/sensory person.
@dontgetmewrong Hahaha...you're so right about that. I don't want to lose interest because he's so great. But I know I will if he keeps this up. And since we're so alike, that's why I'm thinking he's lost interest. Or could this be a test...I think earth signs test you on purpose. LOL, no pop-ups for me!
Finally from a librs - welcome to the club lol
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Apr 12, 2015Comments: 1423 · Posts: 3710 · Topics: 58
My Bitter Catlady Cancer alarm is going off
@kalin I would love a Leo but they usually like drop dead gorgeous girls and alas that's not me. I have a shining personality though :-)
You should read my threads ... its nothing different from yours.. probably even worse :/ and yeah you should definitely find a leo or aries cause libra girls do great with leo guys. Too much attraction.
Well everyone is beautiful so dont underestimate yourself... and i dont know if u haveever dated a leo guy but they are usually fun loving and generous and the amounts of attention u want they will give it to u. They ll flatter you and love you for who u are. U just have to be confident with them and secondly i havent come across any leo who prefers beauty over brajns.. if youre talkative and can keep him around trust me he ll be thrilled ...
Yeah sags are love.. i wish i had a sag guy in my life.. bt unfortunately its mostly all the sag girls haha and yeh i agree libra and sav do well too. A sag frend of mine is married to one they have twins and i love this family. No politics no drama nothin.. just love and friendshipppp
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Apr 12, 2015Comments: 1423 · Posts: 3710 · Topics: 58
I dont see anything wrong here that vant be fixed with a sit down talk and express your needs.... I rarely see this type of compatibility around here.. it be a shame to throw it away.. relationships are not always rays of sunshine y'kno gotta.have some rainy days
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Apr 12, 2015Comments: 1423 · Posts: 3710 · Topics: 58
Leos are ok... till they don't get enough sleep or get irritated... then anythin sets them off and they break your shit..
No i dont think he has a gf... he confirmed their relationship so how can he disappear on her and find another.. its a virgo nature ..they dont communicate much. U cant believe that in the pasr two yrs with my virgo its mostly me who has alway initiated apart from occasional bday/new yrs /valentines calls. They are by nature v aloof and v self absorbed ..the more u demand attention the more he ll run away .. you just need to relax and chill if you can put upwith this hot and cold attitude of his otherwise if ure an emotional and demandin then its time you leave cause even if you dragged cause it sounds all rosy u ll repent later. He ll emotionally drain you out and wont ever change so the ball is in your court now. You cant have him all to urself without breakin a sweat and its not worth ur efforts so be wise..
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Mar 04, 2015Comments: 0 · Posts: 260 · Topics: 15
Hugs OP. I've been through this myself with a Virgo. Almost exact same, except we had no real distance between us. Started out all hot and heavy over text/phone, was exclusive within the first month, and then BAM, started acting weird. I dismissed it, ignored it, made excuses for it because I felt like we were perfect for each other an was so confused on the change. I wasn't clingy or emotional over it, just genuinely confused. He eventually ended things with me because he had issues to work out with work, family, etc. Devastated me because I so believed we were perfect for each other. I need answers as to why and found out that this was something he did to everyone. In hindsight, I know he was trying to subtly push me away.
Not saying this is your situation, but you should definitely figure out if this is how you want to continue to feel this way with someone you're in a relationship with. Personally, I never want to go through that type of thing again. The beginning of something good should not be that hard and leave you this confused. But if you've been emotionally manipulated your whole life, I can understand why this is a pattern for you. You can be the only one to break that cycle.
This is my first relationship w a Virgo I must say my first confusing relationship the hot n cold stuff the one minute distant one minute back to normal self he sometimes get quiet wouldn't speak for a long period of time then sometimes he just want to talk it's very stressful I'm a Gemini but I'm so into him we have been dating almost five months
One thing I notice when we first started going out the chemistry was so intense we couldn't get enough of each other couldn't wait to text/talk couldn't wait to see each other n hang out now it's a lil bit different we still hang out but not as much we do text but it's here n there the sex is great but when we are not together he seems so distant I remember when we first started dating on his lunch break we would text laugh at jokes etc now I never really hear from him on his lunch breaks like we use to it's just so different n to me it's so early on into our relationship for this change
He told me he love me I definitely love him but it's hard getting use to Virgo personality I don't feel like he's romantic I love romance one time he told me I look beautiful n I'm sorry I'm a very attractive lady no beauty queen but I'm not unattractive
I told him the other day I said things has changed so much blah blah blah then he said this to me I will post some the things he say but to me action speaks louder than words this is what he said to me below please read!!!
1....I'm sorry baby I don't want you to feel that way. There is nothing wrong I love you so much and I don't want anyone but you. Things always change but my feeling for you won't I'm sorry if I'm any way I put dought in you about how I feel
2...
I'm sorry your feeling this way I don't want you to. I still have the same strong feeling for you as the day we started talking no that's wrong they are much stronger not. I love you with all my heart. I want us to be very happy together I want you to feel secure I'm not trying to pull away I'm just as much all in on our relationship
3.....You make me happy when we're together and I'm sad when we're separate. I don't want to loose you I want us to be together. I love you so much and I want us to be happy
4..I need to do a better job of doing the little things your right even me being busy at work or with Lola I can still say good morning and good night. I need to be more attentive to there things if I'm puting Lola to bed I should,just say goodnight in case I fall asleep.
I am sorry you didn't get any sleep I hope your day goes by quickly so you can get rest. I don't have Lola tonight witch I didn't remember till Lola told me this morning.
I love you and miss you
5....
I can't ignore how your feeling I am very sorry . I do want to be around you all the time I miss you all the time I love you so much . you made my day today coming to see me at work and bringing me lunch. I can't wait till I can see you next and hold you close