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From what I know about virgo, it seems like they need/require mental stimulation. What do you virgals consider mental stimulation? I'm pretty free-spirited and don't think I provide too much mental stimulation and sometimes bore my love interest. I have attracted her with being hot (as she calls me) and she says i really turned her on by the way i didn't really hesitate to 'go for it' in the intimacy department, she likes my confidence and the fact that I am multi-talented, etc. But I know I bore her sometimes because I know I don't give her much mental stimulation. I feel if I could provide that also things would be alot more comfortable sometimes. got any tips for me you virgals?
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Posted by Kali
Find out what she is really interested in and ask her questions about her interest. Let her teach you. Also, if you can, find books or websites on her interest and read up on it. Really study it. Let her know what you've read and if you don't understand something, ask her. She'll be happy to know that she has found someone who has taken an interest in something she is interested in, is taking initiative to study up on it, but is willing to go to her for those things you don't understand. From there, let it develop into other topics as they come up.



I agree with what Kali said.

And...

Do your own investigation about things you are passionate about. We love learning as much as teaching. It is so attractive to meet in a mental level with someone we like...mmm...it's actually a huge turn on, imho.

I personally love debates, discussions, etc, but I open up and share only based on the audience and how much they can handle. If someone surprises with a new insight that shakes my whole perspective...woah, hot.

So, don't be afraid to speak your mind, we find that very attractive, but make sure you have content in it when you do want to connect. It doesn't have to be necessarily about the same things we like (although that would be great) it just has to be about something you genuinely have an interest for and wonder about.

We love resolving puzzles. We love thinking. Don't be afraid to explore us over there.

Of course, like in other signs, we do have stages where we don't mature to this idea yet, virgos who are still thinking beauty is all we need, but over time we realize (especially as we grow into being who we are and for those virgos who do desire to grow in the aspect of relationships, I think), that beauty is only exciting until certain extent and that we need content in order to find fullfillment in connections.

Based upon what you shared about this girl, seems like she is growing, so I am sure she, at this point, she is recognizing (perhaps struggling at times)with the fact that she needs to connect in that level too to keep on going. I think it is great that you see that and that you are willing to try to connect there too. So thoughtful. Just be you and the good at it. No discussions won't ever be discarded if your heart and mind are into it. Dig that data and enjoy it, you too might find something you really like. 🙂
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No way QV. Cancers give us all kinds of stimulation. Especially emotional. At least for me. Maybe you've heard myself and some of the other virgals on here talk about this before. Cancers have a way of affecting us like no other man in the zodiac. Not to mention, cancers are not only masters of emotion, but they are quite intelligent as well. People think Virgos don't have emotions but we do. However, they have to be 'stirred' and 'called up from the grave' so to speak, and Cancers are one of the few signs that have a knack for doing that for us. Emotionally and intellectually, Virgos and Cancers are perfectly in tune.
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Posted by quo vadis?
very interesting posts...i would like to ask virgos,if they've been experienced mental stimulation deficit in communication with cancers?
also i will appreciate opinions from the other two Earth signs too .



quo vadis, good question...since i have wondered the same thing.

i do agree with VV that cancers can meet our needs emotionally, so true. my cancer exes did that for me. i think it is because they are so loving, emotional, and safe. they are loyal and here is key word that is really important and hard for us to find --> CONSISTENT.

cancers are so amazing at being consistent in their care. unlike other signs, even when they get scared (at least in my experience) they always find a way to show you that they still love you...if you are in a relationship with them.

so i would categorize them as relationship material for sure. they teach us so many things, especially about TRUST and CONSISTENCY...two things that i believe, we, virgos do need so much.

however, although i won't generalize, i have not found the mental connection with cancers i have found with other signs...so although the relationship started out great and could last for a long time, i think it has been rare for me to meet cancers that challenged me mentally.

i met only one and he is a doctor. he works in the pediatric department and likes to call me once in a while for some reason. although he didn't bring any shocking discoveries or new revelations into my life, at least with this guy i was able to talk about certain books we read and opinions about the world...

so, i wouldn't say 'all' cancers are only or mostly strong in the emotional aspect, but i have seen a pattern as well, except for some few exceptions, so if you see them, feel happy...because that is a good combo. also...one more thing...
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there are other cancers, who although might not challenge us mentally as often, they can challenge us spiritually too, and that can make up for the other aspect.

i've been in one relationship with a cancer, who although did not challenge me always mentally, did fill my emotional needs AND encouragement in my spiritual walk...and that made up for the lack of deep discussion, more so that the other case when the cancer was only touching me emotionally. do that makese any sense?

basically my observations goes as follows:

1. cancers are great at meeting our emotinal needs IF we are in a relationship with them (i agree with VV here).

but

2. many cancers aren't as interested in digging deeper into discussions or analyzing things, thus we can sense a lack of mental connection at times...which can make us wonder things (at least for some of us).

however

3. if a cancer meets you not only emotionally, but also spiritually (if you believe in that area) then there is way more hope that the one above, because those are two areas in which they can excell in consistency.

and

4. in some occassions you could meet cancers who are interesting in deeper conversations and/or at the very least have common passions...thus this could also be another venue for part of that mental espace and room we need so much.

amoureux
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Great post, ADL. Question: do Cancer men have a melting effect on you? Did you ever experience the push/pull thing with them? Did you ever make the first move?



hi vv! well, in my case, they always start as friends and win me over eventually.

i never had the burning/unexplicable passion for them intially. if it came, it did as a result of all those wonderful qualities they showed overtime. they are too cute for me to think bad things 😉

other signs on the other hand...man, gotta watch for them, they drive my virgin mind insane.

cancers have been more of the "sweet" loyal type of friends for me and i always want to keep them in my life, because they are (in my experience) sincere, loving, and consistent...once they trust you too.

the two things that are of concern to me with them usually (as qua davis might have pondered about too) have to do with mental connection and with dealing with their emotional changes...haha, they are like a cute headache when they let their emotions run their lives. i don't mind dealing with that, but surprisingly they do mind that i don't mind, so there comes the problem. 🙂

i think they want me to fight or something and i won't, thus, they get even more mad and eventually we just let go...but then regroup and stay friends forever again. :p

right now i'm being charmed by an aqua and by a libra, but if i ever date a cancer again i'd let you know. 😉
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Thanks ADL. Very informative.

"i think they want me to fight or something and i won't, thus, they get even more mad and eventually we just let go...but then regroup and stay friends forever again."

Whoa. Felt the same way about this Cancer guy. We were crushing on one another. Felt like he kept trying to evoke emotion in me and kept playing these petty little games to get me out of my shell. I wouldn't follow so he just seemed to get meaner and meaner. I didn't know what to do because it was my first experience with a Cancer man and didn't realize how full of emotional drama they can be up against an un-emotional Virgo like myself. He did alot of emotional blackmailing and I always came out feeling guilty. I didn't understand his process and he obviously didn't understand mine. It's almost like they always need to see tear-stained faces to believe that you care about them. It was like he kept trying to lure me in. To this day, I still can't make such sense of it. I really liked him but I just could not allow myself to act out and be ridiculous about my feelings like he so easily could. That experience did teach me that it is probably best for me to try and be a little more open in the future but, I will not be bullied or manipulated into doing something. It has to come naturally.

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I have some excellent challenging deep detailed coversations with my virguy friend.
We've gotten into a Saturday visit habit where we hang out and talk about the widest variety of topics. One time it's economics, another time it's antique firearms, just whatever conversational path we happen on.

By the time I leave, we're both laughing over how much fun we had just talking and looking forward to talking again at work Monday.

Oh yeah...I'm seriously cancer 😉
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happycapri:

I'm a Gemini, but I feel a common bond with Vrgos due to the connection we share with mercury.

i agree with many on this board who suggest making an effort to find common interests with your GF and get into good discussions etc.

My experience with Virgo men is that not only do they like to discuss interesting subjects as politics, religion, nutrition/health issues, but they
want to dissect these issues piece by piece. Some people discuss topics; Virgo's analyze them to death. But as a Gemini, I love it because I do
the same thing.

And Virgo's are the type of individuals who not only can discuss an issue; they will always let you know where they stand. They are very opinionated, but can
back it up. That is why I enjoy bantering with them so much. Unlike some people who will argue their POV but lack in any real substantive facts etc.,
Virgos will have a list of facts and/or stats that back up their POV and do their utmost to convince you that they are right and you are wrong, period; End of
discussion. And if you don't agree with them, on the surface, they will act cool and in control. Inside, they will be fuming if you don't give them the credit
they feel they deserve for being so knowledgeable about so many deep topics.

If you can be an active participant in their game "intellectual tennis", and not get all defensive on them when they point out your flaws; they will pick up on your
competitive prowess and charm and embrace a good banter with you when you've got your game on. If there's ONE thing I learned from Virgos, especially Virgo
males, it's that they love someone, especially a young lady, who can hold their own and stand up for her beliefs without backing down. The last thing
a Virgo wants imho is someone who is passive, submissive and lacking a backbone.

I'm sure there are similar qualities Virgo men and Virgo gals share. The Virgals on this site can probably confirm that better than I. However, just wanted to put
in my two cents. Maybe you'll find something in my post that helps you with your endeavor in the long run.

Good luck!
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>>

Just had another visit with my virguy friend this morning. I thought it was going to be a little awkward because of some 'intimate' convo we had by email this week, but we ended up having a very silly time.

For the first time in our 3+ year friendship, he was seriously flipping me shit about personal issues, and I was giving it right back. Being a cancer, I lean toward the over-sensitive, but with enough time & practice I am having a blast using my wit and wisdom with this guy. The stuff he was teasing me about might be considered a flaw from a virgo point of view, but more like a personality quirk from my perspective. I think he knows I'm not budging on certain things, but that I'm not going to fall to pieces if he teases me about them.

I think they key is having confidence in yourself, knowing what you have to offer, then finding a common ground with your virgo. No one can know or be everything, so if you can offer your virgo a new perspective in a thought-out way, s/he will probably enjoy it.
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Posted by sandyclaws
I have some excellent challenging deep detailed coversations with my virguy friend.
We've gotten into a Saturday visit habit where we hang out and talk about the widest variety of topics. One time it's economics, another time it's antique firearms, just whatever conversational path we happen on.

By the time I leave, we're both laughing over how much fun we had just talking and looking forward to talking again at work Monday.

Oh yeah...I'm seriously cancer 😉



sandyclaws,

that is great! it has been hard, in my experience, to find cancer friends who would like to dig into deeper convos with me, just because they seemed to be more in touch with the emotional world...but i truly believe it is possible...and when that happens it is wonderful because you guys could make us feel special in other areas too (in close friendships and realtionships) so having good conversations too about everything and anything could rock our world! i am glad that you and your friend can have that. i don't doubt for a second that cancers are able to do so or that virgos could be more emotional, we just have tendencies...but so many other influences too, so we are uniquely made, and i like that!
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Posted by quo vadis?
from the most confusing i'm afraid ...not to show the other "trade mark" 🙂



🙂 hmmm...someone might have said something. is it true? are you a cancer?

if so, that explains your sweet ways, and i don't think cancers are confusing...you guys just need patience and someone who can read emotions very well.

oh there are so many sweet things about cancers...i wont even start. inspite of the ups and downs, the ones i met were defenitely loyal and so very thoughtful.

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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
^awwww...I truly like those guys. Damn.



yep. aren't they so cute. 🙂 sure they can be crabby...and who knows why in the world their emotions speak louder than their head sometimes, but the loyalty and thoughtfulness they showed me (during the times i dated them) topped all that. i had only one not-so-good experience, but the rest, pure joy and to this day i am friends with all of them, even the babiest of them all. 😉

they are excellent friends too and they value our earthy ways. they don't fall for crazy/empty either...at least not for too long. we should all help each other out! :p
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Posted by VirgoVixxxen
This question is for anyone:

How do you know when a Cancer man is a 'good one' or just a 'rotten egg'? They all embody the positive/negative traits of the Cancer sign to some degree but, for as confusing as Cancers can be to a Virgo, how do you know? When just starting out? Just starting to get to know them?



hey girlie. i have some time to respond. i will let others answers this, but i can share some of my thoughts.

i think, cancers, like any other signs, have different types of people...given their different stages (we can easily see that in virgos, scorpios, and aquas too...as i'm sure in any other signs)...and it all seems to be related, in my opinion to their level of maturity and experience.

an inmature cancer, for example, could be super sweet, but due to his/her inmanageable mood swings could be very flaky about his/her choices and very stubborn about things, given his/her pride.

a mature cancer, on the other hand, would learn to recognize those mood swings and deal with them properly, separating them from reality or by acting in more logical ways...and trade his/her stubborness for understanding and compassion.

we all go through different stages, so you asked a great question. even us, virgos, aren't always at the best place...although we too have good potential, it doesn't mean we always use it well or can even use it at all, depending on our level of maturity.

i think you should observe the level that cancer is in...by the responses they give about how they react to things these days (is it still purely emotional? is it more balanced?) and by the responsability they accept in their actions (do they blame everyone else? are they ever willing to see their own faults?) and i think that can be applicable to others in general too.

i have to go, but i'll try to answer some more later on.
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to nakedgirlavalanche :"Quo, you might want to reevaluate about showing that other trade mark, lol jk."
The most crying...copyright reserved for the eternity 🙂

to VirgoVixxxen and AmoureuxDeLesprit :Ladies,you are wonderful and have so much understanding about us,well ,sometimes i wish i was a man 🙂
Hope with this confession of mine i will not be taken on the " East of Eden " 🙂/virgo board is so amusing/
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No worries, QV and thanks. Happy to be of help. We're pretty nice to Cancers around these parts. Generally speaking, I really like them. If you happen to find us speaking negatively about Cancers, please understand that it's going to be in reference to a personal experience so don't take it to heart (we know how sensitive you guys can be). We tend to really like Scorps too...now them Pisces...hmmph...they are another story.
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Posted by quo vadis?
to nakedgirlavalanche :"Quo, you might want to reevaluate about showing that other trade mark, lol jk."
The most crying...copyright reserved for the eternity 🙂

to VirgoVixxxen and AmoureuxDeLesprit :Ladies,you are wonderful and have so much understanding about us,well ,sometimes i wish i was a man 🙂
Hope with this confession of mine i will not be taken on the " East of Eden " 🙂/virgo board is so amusing/



your confession is appreciated quo vadis! by the way, what does "quo vadis" mean? i would research it right now, but i enjoy talking with you, so i rather ask.

and yes this board is full of all sorts of people, as you can see, hopefully this will help others see the different types and faces of virgo people! we come in all colors and interesting forms 😉 i would just recommend for people to be wise and discerning at the choosing...and not be fooled by the representation of some (for good or bad)...since every sign has its great and not so great, per say.

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Posted by happycapri
But I know I bore her sometimes because I know I don't give her much mental stimulation. I feel if I could provide that also things would be alot more comfortable sometimes. got any tips for me you virgals?


I think the capri bore the virgos when they are way too attached with their work that you tend to forget about what WE WANT, what WE NEED, we just can't keep up with your desire of working and having money. Sometimes you include us, you ask our opinion and we give good criticism on what you do and you listen and that feels ok. But you see... even this is about you and too little about us because once you have our help you get back to work and forget to say thanks in different ways. Even if it is about a hobby you tend to forget that we have our own hobby and it is not all about yours.

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
No way QV. Cancers give us all kinds of stimulation. Especially emotional. At least for me. Maybe you've heard myself and some of the other virgals on here talk about this before. Cancers have a way of affecting us like no other man in the zodiac. Not to mention, cancers are not only masters of emotion, but they are quite intelligent as well. People think Virgos don't have emotions but we do. However, they have to be 'stirred' and 'called up from the grave' so to speak, and Cancers are one of the few signs that have a knack for doing that for us. Emotionally and intellectually, Virgos and Cancers are perfectly in tune.
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I totally agree with this. That reminds me of a good statement that I like very much: "Cancers will always try to find out what Vorgos feel and Virgos will always try to find out what Cancers think." and this my dear friends is a great "mental stimulation" 🙂)
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Posted by happycapri
But I know I bore her sometimes because I know I don't give her much mental stimulation. I feel if I could provide that also things would be alot more comfortable sometimes. got any tips for me you virgals?


I think the capri bore the virgos when they are way too attached with their work that you tend to forget about what WE WANT, what WE NEED, we just can't keep up with your desire of working and having money. Sometimes you include us, you ask our opinion and we give good criticism on what you do and you listen and that feels ok. But you see... even this is about you and too little about us because once you have our help you get back to work and forget to say thanks in different ways. Even if it is about a hobby you tend to forget that we have our own hobby and it is not all about yours.

Posted by VirgoVixxxen
No way QV. Cancers give us all kinds of stimulation. Especially emotional. At least for me. Maybe you've heard myself and some of the other virgals on here talk about this before. Cancers have a way of affecting us like no other man in the zodiac. Not to mention, cancers are not only masters of emotion, but they are quite intelligent as well. People think Virgos don't have emotions but we do. However, they have to be 'stirred' and 'called up from the grave' so to speak, and Cancers are one of the few signs that have a knack for doing that for us. Emotionally and intellectually, Virgos and Cancers are perfectly in tune.



I totally agree with this. That reminds me of a good statement that I like very much:

"Cancers will always try to find out what Vorgos feel and Virgos will always try to find out what Cancers think."

LOVE THIS!

and this my dear friends is a great "mental stimulation" 🙂)
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Yes AV, you are right. It's a perfect combo. Crushing on a Cancer guy now so wish me luck...he's so blasted hard to figure out!


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to VirgoVixxxen: Feel free to speak negatively ,i don't mind ,because virgos are very good in analyzing people and they critique only with the intention to help the other person to became better .Wish you all well in the new adventure 🙂

to AmoureuxDeLesprit: to answer your question here is the explanation i found :
"Quo vadis? is a Latin phrase meaning "Where are you going?" or "Whither goest thou?". The modern usage of the phrase refers to Christian tradition, related in the apocryphal Acts of Peter (Vercelli Acts XXXV), in which Saint Peter meets Jesus as Peter is fleeing from likely crucifixion in Rome. Peter asks Jesus the question; Jesus' answer, "I am going to Rome to be crucified again" (Eo Romam iterum crucifigi), prompts Peter to gain the courage to continue his ministry and eventually become a martyr.

The phrase also occurs a few times in the Vulgate translation of the Bible, notably including the occurrence in John 13:36 in which Peter also asks the question of Jesus, after the latter announces he is going to where his followers cannot come."

"i would just recommend for people to be wise and discerning at the choosing...and not be fooled by the representation of some (for good or bad)...since every sign has its great and not so great, per say."
Thanks for the "recommendation" 🙂 ,to be honest i often rely on my intuition ,but when dealing with virgo people i have to "listening to " in their motto :virgos says what they mean and mean what they say ,so i believe persons on this board are real themselves.

to AngelicVirgo :I totally agree with this. That reminds me of a good statement that I like very much: "Cancers will always try to find out what Vorgos feel and Virgos will always try to find out what Cancers think." and this my dear friends is a great "mental stimulation" )
Seeing your point of view i'm really surprised ...well that's quite encouraging 🙂
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to Sorti-fantastic poney :i hope you will understand i followed the rule "Ladies first" ... 🙂 well, here i am
"Mental stimulation is boring, and talking about every day endeavors can simply dismiss a close connecting bliss...
it's just i read in many articles that virgo people like to be challenged mentally .

"Whip out the sheets and lets make a fest, oh miley oh riley and jolly golly goofy.
Take on the leaves and roll up your sleeves, oh sissy oh missy and sassy brassy tutsy."

Recently i saw a quite lively sexy topic ,so i'm start to think that virgos are this way not only "under sheets" or "behind closed doors" 🙂/i'm joking/
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Posted by AngelicVirgo
I wish you all the best! I think cancer-virgo it's a great match. It has to start with a friendship... and it will become a strong connection between. Did you have any other experiences with cancers?



Yes, but not too much and not in a romantic sense. I've spoken of another Cancer man on here in the past. This is my second and he's confusing. He doesn't talk much, stares alot (he was hiding behind a tree one day watching me...weirdo?)He's very chatty with me via e-mail but in person, he's so closed off. Not to mention I'm really shy too so it's not helping. My gut tells me he really likes me but I could be wrong. The problem with getting the Virgo/Cancer connection moving along sometimes is that we're both so much the same in the love dept - deathly afraid of rejection, and no one wants to make the first move and this is how Cancer and Virgo can loose out. I'm afraid we will never find our way toward eachother. Not to mention, there's another girl who likes him...and she's an Aries...yikes! She's very direct with him. Goes after him and the whole nine yards. I can't do that. It's not my style . He may end up with her because she's so bold. Sigh...
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sandyclaws,

that is great! it has been hard, in my experience, to find cancer friends who would like to dig into deeper convos with me, just because they seemed to be more in touch with the emotional world...but i truly believe it is possible...and when that happens it is wonderful because you guys could make us feel special in other areas too (in close friendships and realtionships) so having good conversations too about everything and anything could rock our world! i am glad that you and your friend can have that. i don't doubt for a second that cancers are able to do so or that virgos could be more emotional, we just have tendencies...but so many other influences too, so we are uniquely made, and i like that!
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My leo rising makes me a little bolder than most cancers, but only to a 'safe' level. When it starts to get real, I clam up. Unless I feel the other person is serious about wanting to know what's going on in my head. My virguy friend is patient and made a point to tell me he's not going anywhere. The virgo slowness to react is helpful too, once I get over that it feels a bit like disinterest or lack of reaction. It helps me slow down and articulate myself better. I think being a cancer helps in that I like trying to catch on to the feel of a particular conversation and go with it, rather than stick to something I had in my head or planned to talk about. We'll end up talking about the technical aspect of trying to fix a radio, and the emotional recollection of liking to take things apart as kids. It's fun to bridge the 'gap' between analytical and emotional with common interests or experiences.
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I will come back to this post over the weekend.

Happycapri, you are so sweet, no wonder why you did get to share the things you did with that virgo girl (regarless of time). I hope everthing is wonderful in your world today! 🙂

And Quo Vadis, great explanation...I like the profound meaning behind it.

I was exposed to some Latin when I was in highschool, so I was wondering about your username for sure...

I hope your day is great. I'll write more this weekend. Ttys.
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Posted by PandorasBox
VV.. Aries can def be more direct than Virgos.. But don't take that into account and remember that the type of relationship you creat w/ your Cancer is one of a kind 🙂.. Also, it helps to take a leap of faith w/ him once in a while and let him peak at your true colors, even if only slightly 🙂. Cancer guys, in my experience, are awesome 😄!!

Thanks so much, PB. I really appreciate your insight. Yeah, she's a real ball o' fire. LOL. I just fall back because I have never and will never compete for a guy. It's just not worth it. A man knows who and what he wants so no sense in forcing him.
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Posted by AmoureuxDeLesprit


Do your own investigation about things you are passionate about. We love learning as much as teaching. It is so attractive to meet in a mental level with someone we like...mmm...it's actually a huge turn on, imho.

I personally love debates, discussions, etc, but I open up and share only based on the audience and how much they can handle. If someone surprises with a new insight that shakes my whole perspective...woah, hot.

So, don't be afraid to speak your mind, we find that very attractive, but make sure you have content in it when you do want to connect. It doesn't have to be necessarily about the same things we like (although that would be great) it just has to be about something you genuinely have an interest for and wonder about.

We love resolving puzzles. We love thinking. Don't be afraid to explore us over there.

Of course, like in other signs, we do have stages where we don't mature to this idea yet, virgos who are still thinking beauty is all we need, but over time we realize (especially as we grow into being who we are and for those virgos who do desire to grow in the aspect of relationships, I think), that beauty is only exciting until certain extent and that we need content in order to find fullfillment in connections.

Based upon what you shared about this girl, seems like she is growing, so I am sure she, at this point, she is recognizing (perhaps struggling at times)with the fact that she needs to connect in that level too to keep on going. I think it is great that you see that and that you are willing to try to connect there too. So thoughtful. Just be you and the good at it. No discussions won't ever be discarded if your heart and mind are into it. Dig that data and enjoy it, you too might find something you really like. 🙂



This is sounding exactly like me. 🙂
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Your username is so cute. And if that description reminds you of you in any way...it is so nice to meet you! Your response made me smile. 🙂

Even though I'm not sure how long and how often I'll be able to be part of this place, I am here if you ever need to discuss anything and you are welcome to check out the thread some girls and I have under "Virgo Girls". I hope you get the chance to see this message. Thanks for writin