More Odd Virgo Behavior

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Hi everyone! I'm back. For those of you who remember me 😄

Sorry I haven't been around much... been on vacation the last few weeks.

Question of the day...

Virgo men, do you tend to completely shut off, ignore someone or become non-responsive for days at a time when a conversation because a tad "emotional"?

Again I'm a Virgo woman myself, but I have found it funny that a Virgo male I have been friends with for a very long time always makes lovely romantically sweet comments to me, yet when I attempt to hint anything remotely "feelings or emotionally" related, NOT even romantically... the conversations end abruptly (for example texting back and forth). He just disappears only to reappear days later as if nothing happened.

I think it's funny. Would any gentleman or ladies like to comment or form opinions?



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welcome back then lol

it's two fold tondalea:

1- if being sweet and romantic is done in an innocent way (some virgos will do that by being absolute charmers and serenading you in words that make you touch the sky) then they will be shocked when you actually take it seriously and either shut off or be very rude to you until you get the hint, very rarely some super virgos will actually appologise if they lead you on.

2- it could be that just he isn't used to you in an emotional state, virgirls don't show much and a virguy will get used to that, so when you get emotional he is in unfamiliar territory and might be distabilised, if he is smart enough he will see that he is in fact the same way and it can be very humbling and makes him understand you more.

when you say friend, you mean more than that right?

I think there is a level of lost-in-translation between you too and chances none of you is sure about this relation you have, which is expected between two virgos.

so you must work on that bigger picture and the small pieces will fall in place, might i even suggest being bold and asking the dreadful question "who are we? friends who tell each other sweet things? or something else?"

once this is defined more or less then you know that his withdrawness isn't because he doesnt care for you but an issue that he needs to work on and you can even help him if he lets you.

the virg-virg relation is rarely well defined, you are always second guessing with him and he is always looking for other prospects ( and vice versa ), you need to work hard on it but first define it girl, then you can be certain, you have a great ally on the road

good luck
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::: shakes head at fumingli, who played head games with Virgo and that's why he bounced on her :::



tondalea .. what you describe is normal for Virgos, and you likely are the same way when it comes to this and just don't realize it ... that is to say, you don't realize it until now, you are relating to a Virgo and this has become apparant to you that it's present.

This stems from the Virgo being so emotionally organized. Other signs just let feelings run rampant much of the time, they just jump in head first with little forthought of emotional aftermath. Every feeling within the Virgo has be put in a place, it has to make sense.

Yet, at the same time, Virgo's are human and do indeed experience random feelings that aren't in order. At these times, they will say something romantic, like your friend for example, and likely not even realize he allowed his feelings to free-flow, without considering from where it came (because they haven't been filed yet).

^^^^ meaning, these feelings are there, without order, and he just let them slip when he hasn't even processed yet, where they belong.

Then you respond. He realizes at this point that these feelings have been expressed without a proper direction or intent, so he'll become silent to analyze .... and when he returns back to you, it will appear as though nothing is wrong, because nothing is wrong.

Another part of the Virgo doing this (above: expressing unconsciously, before putting consideration to it) .... is that they are extremely conscientious of how they appear to other people, what impression is being made upon another. Of all the signs, I would say that Virgo's are the most self-reflective in terms of how they are percieved ...

.. so couple these two conditions together .. and you get a silent Virgo at these times.

1. Let emotions slip without realization of the meaning of their existence .. with ..
2. Extremely AWARE that everything they say and do, indeed leaves an impression upon another


It's just the nature of the beast 🙂

One has to handle their Virgo partner with care in this regard, tondalea, if this man expresses feelings without reiterating what he was implying concisely, then it means these feelings are present but he hasn't yet figured out where within his life they belong .... and he's likely slightly embarrassed that expressed such emotional chaos.
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fumingli_scorp I wouldn't say that bargaining with a virgo is productive at all.

virgos are cheap and as a scorp you must know/loath it. but in fairness to my boys they aren't cheap they are just efficient in their dealership

by this way you have extremes of virgo:

1- the seducer who will "lure" your emotional investment by various intensives from cooking, compliments, to taking care of you and making you feel like the most special creature on the planet

2- the demander who will insist that you make some emotional investement BEFORE he gives you the goods

as you can imagine number 1 to the extreme is the salesman who shows up at your door, he ends up either annoying the hell out of you or ripping you off with you realising it just as he disappears of sight.

number 2 to the extreme is the coke dealer who will name their price because they know you want the good stuff. there is a number 3 who is the extorter but let's not go there.

all extremes and very rare and most modern virgos will be like a very generous department store, the more you spend, the more offers you get in addition to the stuff you already bought with your money, as times passes they will taylor their offers/products more and more towards your liking, this is why these guys only get better with time.

scorps are big spenders and this is why they get so much in return from virgos 🙂 ... my best friend is a scorp and I would lay my life for him.

you probably met an emotional coke dealer who sold you flour, maybe you pulled off a winona rider on his shop but i am sure this aint the case cause scorps rarely sting first 😉 ...

in all cases I am sorry to hear about that fumingli_scorp but rest assured the virgo police is still looking for the suspect, how would you like him? boiled, steamed? or roasted on the spit?
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I like to flirt, I love the attention and I find it very rewarding to have women after me.

Yes, I do shy away when emotions become involved because I don't want to get into anything that I am not sure about.

If it starts out as flirting and I can't tell when things become serious, I will do what I can to protect you from falling for me.

Women always tell me they can handle it, but not ONE ever has. They always fall deeply and hard.

IF I can't figure out why you are feeling/falling or I am not interested in you I WILL pull away as a safety precaution!
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Yes, Fum, time away is good for the virgo man.

We can dissect our experiences at our leisure and evaluate how important that relationship was.

I am sorry about the "getting back when pulling away" thing though. I never really had that experience.

I did though, date my Scorpio for 6 months. This was back in my naive days, before all the confidence. So what we had was sincere.

We got back together last year 2007 for 3 months or so and I really got into my emotions deeply for the first time. I felt complete up to the point she told me she was going to Minnesota to study, then I receded away from her gradually.
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fumi sometimes a virgo will come back to an old flame after they realise they missed on something great.

because a virg is such a detailed analyser he will first experience, take the hit good or bad then sit by himself and dissect the situation to the atom.

also since virgos are natural born survivors they don't pay much attention to their feelings while in the heat of it, they either rely on experience or on instinct to pass it by and when they are on land again they will sit down and reflect on it.

only then they go "oooops I was in love", or "oooops I wronged that somebody", or "what the hell was I thinking/doing".

a lot of "bitterness" in some virgos can be traced to this, but also a lot of lessons and solid determination to snap opportunities.

in your case it might happen or might not, my advice is not to hang on to it too much, he will come back if he is the real deal, if not then good riddance

sorry to go on about that internal virgo stuff fumi, and I am sorry to read about your bad experience with one ... rest assured the virgo police is still after him, currently we have three on the lineup: Hugh Grant, Richard Gere, Kanou Reeves .. when can you come in for identification.

*kisses*
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Wow...we really can be confusing people. No wonder why 'relationships' can be one of those complicated subjects to study for us...

I'm impressed at some of the analysis some have given to Virgo's behavior...I would agree with some of it for sure.

I need more time to read and think...I'm lacking of time to give a right input or good response at the moment, but its been very interesting to read this.
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tondalea: Virgo men, do you tend to completely shut off, ignore someone or become non-responsive for days at a time when a conversation because a tad "emotional"?

Yes. When we perceive that a relationship is developing (and your emotional talk would be his clue!), we will pull back and assess. I think VirGuys are more prone to this than VirGals...

My first love was a VirGal in high school. Before we started dating, our conversations were lively, comical, and almost always some kind of debate. But I can still remember when my feelings for her shifted from Friend to Girlfriend - totally dorked-up my ability to talk to her like before. And, when she let me know - subtly, like a good VirGirl! - that she felt the same way about me, I was a basket case for about a week!

But, once we were a couple, things got back to the way they were before -- only 1000 times better!

Virgo + Virgo can be absolutely perfect (of course!), but working out the kinks is tough... in the beginning.
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hello skys 🙂

i realise that bitterness isn't the best word to use here, self-deprication is more like it ... after someone has many of these "I could have" it starts eating up at their confindence for action and they start loathing themselves.

determination, is to learn not to miss their opportunity and hit the iron while hot. virgo needs 100% certainty before moving so they wait longer before deciding and most of times it is too late.

sometimes virgos need a push and it's like an avalanche afterwards. that boost can be a traumatic experience, a mystical one or an inspirational event, falling in love really shows on their eyes
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Archer the virgos intellectual grasping is rather quick .. it is their decision making process which is the slow part

thats because they sometimes go into fine details or they want things to be "perfect" so they sit and look at them from ALL angles ... while this quick world passes by

eventually a virgo will learn their lesson which is "the simpler the better" and then u ask them something hoping for a very complex analysis and they say two words! still deep nonetheless
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"eventually a virgo will learn their lesson which is "the simpler the better" and then u ask them something hoping for a very complex analysis and they say two words! still deep nonetheless"

LOL I love it! I am a mouthy, detailed talkin' Virgo girl, yet when I talk to my Virgo friend and we get into a conversation, if it's about life in general he's blah blah blah opinion blah blah... once his feelings are mentioned it's like yup. you bet. Or I will thank him for thinking of me by messaging or calling and his answer is. Always. lol too funny
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Strings: Hiding behind Mama's skirts is exactly right!

No, that's exactly wrong!

We don't hide behind anyone. We hide within ourselves.

More Odd Virgo Behavior??

Shit! All of our behavior is odd! But then again: Rock-solid Earth that's mutable? A practical and stolid nature, but with Mercury's wit and smart-alack shit?

We are a compendium of opposites, yet hell-bent on sticking to the straight(laced) and highly predictable path -- paperweights on a river of BB's...
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Virgo men, do you tend to completely shut off, ignore someone or become non-responsive for days at a time when a conversation because a tad "emotional"?


lol, oh yeah -- whether they are friends or lovers, they do this. I only know like two that don't, but they are special 🙂

I say never trust those jokers hahaha or else you'll be disappointed. Archer is right, they are very SLOW and at the wrong times too, and then they pop up like nothing ever happen. Thats happen to me twice this year and I think, "Man, get out of here".

It's this way -- if you aren't around when I need you, then what good are you to me? That may sound arrogant and selfish but thats the way it is. It makes no sense to disappear without warning just for the heck of it and then return out of the blue—??

All virgo men need boot-camp if you ask me 😄
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lol, last year and part of this year, my Saggie friend broke up with her virgo boyfriend because of this. I mean, he was really into her, but then he got into some mood and like hid within himself or whatever. She was pissed and couldn't blame her. She was like, "Whats his deal?"

She with an Aqua dude now but she says the virgo won't leave her alone. I told her to call the police if he keeps bugging her.
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I still love those virgins, but I will say I'm not sure how long I could stay with one before flipping out like my Saggie friend did. She totally flipped out, I was shocked because that was soooooooo not like her but I guess he made her that made. And I guess I would be upset too because the situation that she needed his support with was rather serious but 'his' own stuff was more important.

She has an Aries moon, maybe thats why she went nuts lol
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haha cappysweetie i agree with you these virguys do have a tendency for making even the most sane of us flip out, the same happened to me! Im normally the most witheld person in a relationship and find it easy to keep a distance which normally suits me well but oooh noo.. not with virguy! Virguy had me acting in all sorts of crazy ways.. never again anyway, too much emotional trauma!!
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lol, to me the only behaviour that is odd is the one that obssesses over a person to whom they don't want because they don't like.


"some of them just think too much instead of living and very sensitive and scared of relationships. Some of them truly are non-optimistic in love. That can be boring and uneventful for some of us"


If life is about living to it's fullest, which equals not thinking too much, and this is an unattractive quality for a person .... then why the fuck is this person putting thoughts into this person?

That seems odd to me.

If I didn't like a person .. I'd go find something else to do, rather than spend all my time putting too much thinking into why I think their problem is that they think too much.

Makes no fucking sense to me and very odd behaviour.



If these men bother you theskys, and you FS ... then why are you even bothering to be bothered about it? because you like being bothered?

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FS: "They have shit stuck up right in front of their eyes. So let them.. get them shit as soon as girls recognize. The sooner the better."


Like that ^^^^ for example.


If that's who you feel, and it obviously bothers you to the point that you'd make reference about stuck shit ... then does this mean you like to have these bothering feelings to relish in?

Because nobody is making you put this much "thought" into it, except you.

So, though it may be said that Virgo's think too much .... aren't you in fact, putting to much unsavory thought into why they are such a bother?

Are gooses and ganders not the same in Canada?
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Posted by cappysweetie
I still love those virgins, but I will say I'm not sure how long I could stay with one before flipping out like my Saggie friend did. She totally flipped out, I was shocked because that was soooooooo not like her but I guess he made her that made. And I guess I would be upset too because the situation that she needed his support with was rather serious but 'his' own stuff was more important.

She has an Aries moon, maybe thats why she went nuts lol



Did she even try to find out why he was distant...that's the first mistake people make with us Virgos.