My mind boogles with my Virgo

Hello there people's been awhile since i have written anything on here but read posts daily.

Here is my dilemma.

I have been with my virgo male for nearly 2 years and not once have i been told that he loves me, I have asked him about this but he says he cares for me and thats it so i know you cant push a virgo and because he believes love is a strong word he is not going to say it until he means it.

Then another problem well this is with his ex wife she is an absolute bitch a few other words can describe her but i will keep it clean.

She has decided to go bankrupt and because he has gone guarantor for her her bills have now become his and he has now accumulated over 57 grand worth of debit so as he is telling me this he says how are WE going to pay for it me being the blunt Sag that i am said don't expect me to pay for it he says that im too arrogant and heartless and uncaring but really should a girlfriend be really paying towards an ex wife's debit? he doesn't see it that way he says because we are a partnership we should pay for it together.

So now since that moment my thoughts towards him have changed is he only with me because i am his money bag we do pay half of the bills but his ex wife is a gambler so she gambles away the child support he has 1 child with her and when she comes over every other weekend im the one that buys her things not once has he put his hand out.

And after all this bankruptcy and what she has done she has put our lives on hold because now with the additional debit we cant do anything she still has the hide to ask him out for a coffee and a chat and guess what he is going like WTF

My friends tell me to stay we are good together never fight and listen to everything we both have to say except on this occassion I havent spoken to him for over a week but i need to hear it from other virgos is what he is calling me names and saying those things is a virgos way of getting back at me or am i just in a loveless relationship.

Confused?

Posted by seavixen2
you know, sometimes you really want to help people..
other times, all you can do is read the post and shake your head in disbelief, and keep it moving.

tha thing is why waste everyone's time by posting stupidity lmao.

"I'm an Aries woman who changes her screen name every time she visits DXP.

I claim to have a Virgo man in my life, but I'm really just a psychotic delusional dysfunctional nitwit."

I don't know about this situation, but I have one word for the person you're talking to.

Owned.

He's in debt, wants you to pay the bills, divorced, offends you and has not said he loves you.

Sure you appreciate the person he is, but why would you want to stay with a man like this...

Posted by DyTryin

ANOTHER TYPICAL POST TO THE VIRGO BOARD...

Hi!

I've been skulking around here for months, and I've finally decided to ask for your help with my Virgo man.

Only, I'm not sure he's really my man, since we've never actually spoken to each other. But, he gives me The Stare lots and lots - does that mean anything?

-- OR --

I've been seeing this Virgo man for several months, and I just don't get him. Right after banging me, he withdraws, and doesn't show up again for weeks. I'm not a slut, but I always wind up letting him in my bed when he does show up.

Is he serious about me, or am I just a booty call?

-- OR --

I'm an Aries woman who changes her screen name every time she visits DXP.

I claim to have a Virgo man in my life, but I'm really just a psychotic delusional dysfunctional nitwit.

* I think that about covers it. *

ROTFL!!!!!!!!

His debt, his problems, nothing you can do unless you plan on helping a man that won't say I love you. I have to agree with Jason but if you decide to stay, just stay out of his personal issues including his debts, be supportive but let him deal with his own finances and if he's still seeing his ex-wife after all the bullshit she's putting him through than it's obvious he still loves the woman deeply and can't let her go.

Posted by DyTryin

ANOTHER TYPICAL POST TO THE VIRGO BOARD...

Hi!

I've been skulking around here for months, and I've finally decided to ask for your help with my Virgo man.

Only, I'm not sure he's really my man, since we've never actually spoken to each other. But, he gives me The Stare lots and lots - does that mean anything?

-- OR --

I've been seeing this Virgo man for several months, and I just don't get him. Right after banging me, he withdraws, and doesn't show up again for weeks. I'm not a slut, but I always wind up letting him in my bed when he does show up.

Is he serious about me, or am I just a booty call?

-- OR --

I'm an Aries woman who changes her screen name every time she visits DXP.

I claim to have a Virgo man in my life, but I'm really just a psychotic delusional dysfunctional nitwit.

* I think that about covers it. *

This is a message board about Virgos.... what do you expect— She's posting about a situation that she's having with a virgo man. Being a dickhead because you're frustrated about something gets you nowhere. It makes you look like a prick, especially when you say it with an air of arrogance.

env012:

You can't make someone love you. Being with someone for 2 years doesn't mean a thing. You could be with someone for 2 months and be in love with them. You can love someone for 15 years, and fall out of love with them in a moment. Love is not gaurenteed, not him saying he loves you is a guarentee that he does love you. At least he has the decency to not fool you and just say that he loves you when he doesn't mean it.

Your relationship with him is separate from the relationship from his ex-wife. If he didn't make the effort to legally separate himself from her completely, then that's on him. He has legally accumulated her debt, and he allowed it to happen to himself. The real shitty part of it is this: Say he was married to you, legally, his debt would become your debt too.

This is the impracticality of your boyfriend: He really does expect you to take on this burden with him as a partner, but is he really thinking about you or is he using you as a means to an end?

I don't care how many years a relationship has been invested in..... nobody that cares about somebody else would expect their partner to take on that kind of burden. He's thinking about one thing, and that's himself and the shit that has been created. He should of taken care of this issue when he was getting a divorce. He's being served a life lesson, so don't get involved. If you do, his lesson will become your lesson.

He has still allowed this women to be in his life, even though it's a negative input in his life. Sounds like he's still in love with her, if he's willing to put up with that kind of bullshit from her, and then put his life with you on hold. If he was a real man, he would tell that simple bitch to take care of her own responsibilities like an honest women would, and not stop what he has going on with you.

But like a typical Virgo, he wants to take on somebody else's problem and try to fix it. That's dedication right there.... what a lucky woman she is. She's accummulated the debt, yet she has somebody else paying for it. You need to protect yourself first. You always need to put yourself first, because nobody else will...... unless they really love you.

I would send him packing with IOU notes right back to his ex-wife. They deserve each other!!!!

Posted by DyTryin

ANOTHER TYPICAL POST TO THE VIRGO BOARD...

Hi!

I've been skulking around here for months, and I've finally decided to ask for your help with my Virgo man.

Only, I'm not sure he's really my man, since we've never actually spoken to each other. But, he gives me The Stare lots and lots - does that mean anything?

-- OR --

I've been seeing this Virgo man for several months, and I just don't get him. Right after banging me, he withdraws, and doesn't show up again for weeks. I'm not a slut, but I always wind up letting him in my bed when he does show up.

Is he serious about me, or am I just a booty call?

-- OR --

I'm an Aries woman who changes her screen name every time she visits DXP.

I claim to have a Virgo man in my life, but I'm really just a psychotic delusional dysfunctional nitwit.

* I think that about covers it. *

Wow..I know I don't really know you but isn't that a little harsh? These are REAL people who are posting stuff here and they are just trying to figure things out with the help of others. There are a lot of people in bad relationships and they don't always understand why they stay. Sometimes people just do need to hear it from someone else that their relationship is unhealthy but not in a negative or sarcastic way. I admit that I didn't know a lot about Virgos until I discovered DXP and there have been some really awesome people on here that have helped me. We can't help it that we are the sign we are and we can't always control what sign we get involved with. There are great qualities in all the signs but people also make mistakes...all people.
Just sayin'.....

env012 I just want to agree with a few of the people on this thread and say that you need to leave him. This is an unhealthy relationship. If it's like this now after two years what makes you think it will change? Believe me from experience that it will not. I realized that and I had already wasted years in a bad marriage and regretted staying in it. We as people cannot change other people. They have to want to change themselves. You deserve to be happy and believe me there are men out there who are wonderful and loving but you won't find them if you are in this unloving relationship.
I know how hard it is though because we also get complacent and comfortable and even used to what we have and it can tear down our self esteem so that it makes us think we can't get anyone else. I want you to know that I am having the time of my life now that I don't have that burdensome relationship any longer and I have built back up my self confidence and have even met a really great guy! Life is good! I hope that encourages you that there IS life after ending a relationship especially if it is not a fulfilling one.
Take are of yourself most of all like Mars.In.Aries said.