MySpace Vir-Gal advice please
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Ferghus Clydelover on Wednesday, February 20, 2008 and has 10 replies.
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One other concern is, twice on the phone she has mentioned that she has zero body fat, as if that were a plus or something. It's not in my book. I mean, from her pictures, she is a little thin, but not anorexic... but I'm starting to wonder if this thing she has about not showing more of herself, is about more than the patch... might she be anorexic and could that be why she won't show more of herself?
You've seen the pics of her DY, what do you think?
I guess I need to stop obsessing here and just chill, heh. But any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
One other concern is, twice on the phone she has mentioned that she has zero body fat, as if that were a plus or something. It's not in my book. I mean, from her pictures, she is a little thin, but not anorexic... but I'm starting to wonder if this thing she has about not showing more of herself, is about more than the patch... might she be anorexic and could that be why she won't show more of herself?
You've seen the pics of her DY, what do you think?
I guess I need to stop obsessing here and just chill, heh. But any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
Sorry for hiding it guys... I have to rethink if I really want to have the post out... Thanks for replying for those that did...
I dunno Roxi... I think I did say something nice about her, in that we have a LOT in common, and I think from the 5 pictures I have of her, that she is beautiful... but since she won't give me any more, I have to wonder if those were taken 7 years ago when she first moved down south? Dunno... From the pictures she looks like she is thin, but DOES have body fat.... and here she says recently that she has NO body fat, and I'm thinking, WHA?
About the smoking... my buddy Fritz smokes, but not much. It's rare to see him with a cig, so I guess I am hopeful that she might be a light smoker too... but when we talked on the phone, she SOUNDED like a smoker... do any of you know what I mean by that? Some people who smoke a lot have sort of a raspy voice.... hard to describe.
Fuming, she lives 1000 miles away. I am willing to fly out to visit her, but won't be able to for at least a couple of months, sigh.
YOu're right about meeting too Fume... what you describe happened with a lady friend of my last GF... this lady and her man got along SUPER on the internet... even phone calls. Then she flew out to meet him in person and had planned on staying the weekend... and within a couple of hours of being together she knew it was a huge mistake and flew home the next day...
I dunno... just feeling a bit frazzled today...
THe reason I mentioned the under the covers in the dark thing, was because that Scorp gal I dated... I'm serious, in like her first email to me she said she didn't want anything serious, and wanted a friends with benefits kind of relationship. I said I would only be interested if she was truly a horsewoman with her own horse... Well, she was and did. But we start making out and out comes all this.... it has to be in the dark, under the covers, lights off... and I'm like WHA?
THat Cancer gal I dated, had a "guy butt", had a pimply butt... acne everywhere... but was totally comfortable with her body and that was GREAT.
The Scorp, I even asked her if she'd feel more comfortable wearing a blindfold, so I could turn the lights on.... but she wouldn't. Sheesh.
I dunno Roxi... I think I did say something nice about her, in that we have a LOT in common, and I think from the 5 pictures I have of her, that she is beautiful... but since she won't give me any more, I have to wonder if those were taken 7 years ago when she first moved down south? Dunno... From the pictures she looks like she is thin, but DOES have body fat.... and here she says recently that she has NO body fat, and I'm thinking, WHA?
About the smoking... my buddy Fritz smokes, but not much. It's rare to see him with a cig, so I guess I am hopeful that she might be a light smoker too... but when we talked on the phone, she SOUNDED like a smoker... do any of you know what I mean by that? Some people who smoke a lot have sort of a raspy voice.... hard to describe.
Fuming, she lives 1000 miles away. I am willing to fly out to visit her, but won't be able to for at least a couple of months, sigh.
YOu're right about meeting too Fume... what you describe happened with a lady friend of my last GF... this lady and her man got along SUPER on the internet... even phone calls. Then she flew out to meet him in person and had planned on staying the weekend... and within a couple of hours of being together she knew it was a huge mistake and flew home the next day...
I dunno... just feeling a bit frazzled today...
THe reason I mentioned the under the covers in the dark thing, was because that Scorp gal I dated... I'm serious, in like her first email to me she said she didn't want anything serious, and wanted a friends with benefits kind of relationship. I said I would only be interested if she was truly a horsewoman with her own horse... Well, she was and did. But we start making out and out comes all this.... it has to be in the dark, under the covers, lights off... and I'm like WHA?
THat Cancer gal I dated, had a "guy butt", had a pimply butt... acne everywhere... but was totally comfortable with her body and that was GREAT.
The Scorp, I even asked her if she'd feel more comfortable wearing a blindfold, so I could turn the lights on.... but she wouldn't. Sheesh.
This reminds me a lot about what I've been reading lately in all the horoscopes leading up to the eclipse today. There's lots about unexpected surprises and the need to let go of relationships that aren't right for us. Apparently, those that are holding us (virgos) back are supposed to whither and those that we're supposed to have are going to have a new injection of life. The key task during this phase is learning to accept the pain of letting go with the knowledge that it's only making way for something much, much better.
Good luck, FC. If this woman is supposed to be in your life, I'm sure she will be. If not, then not. Sorry you're having a tough time of things.
Good luck, FC. If this woman is supposed to be in your life, I'm sure she will be. If not, then not. Sorry you're having a tough time of things.
Ok, I've reread it and am just going to remove a couple of parts and here it is, reposted.
I've been in contact with this V-Gal on MySpace for a couple of months now. It started out rather well, with us writing back and forth a lot. Several times a week at least. We have a lot in common, and she really caught my eye. I've asked DY for some advice and he's been a help, but I thought I'd post some info here for everyone to see and maybe you guys can help keep me grounded, and maybe give me a kick in the ass if it's needed, LOL.
I like her personality, and I like her looks. She is blind in one eye and wears a patch, because she can't afford an artificial eye she says. No biggy for me. I know she hates the patch, but don't think it detracts from her beauty in the least. But I think she has like, a phobia about it or something.
I've only seen 5 pictures of her. She basically refuses to add more to her profile, or send me any. I know she hates her patch, but I need to be reassured that she is a real person, and the more pics, the better to prove that. We talked on the phone about it, and I very nicely asked for more pictures. She said she'd have her daughter take some. Then later said she didn't like any of the pictures. And that is the last time we've discussed it.
Then a couple of days later, she emailed me and said she was tired and sore and wished I was there to give her a massage. I replied that "I gave great back, and foot massages, and was quite good at massaging "other" places as well :wink:." THat's how I put it, without saying clit or anything.... then I didn't hear from her for over a week. We're both 47 by the way and She's a Vir-gal... it was the first time I mentioned anything remotely sensual... it threw me that she would be so sensitive about a little comment like that.
And when I send her an email to ask if anything was wrong, she said she had nothing nice to say, so wasn't saying anything at all....
Now, although we talk on the phone once a week, basically just chit chat, and for only an hour or so... there is no email communication from her at all anymore.
A few other concerns that I don't know how to resolve without actually meeting her in person... she smokes. I don't. It's not a deal breaker, but might be if she were a chain smoker. If she's the type who smokes every now and then, I could deal with it.
I've been in contact with this V-Gal on MySpace for a couple of months now. It started out rather well, with us writing back and forth a lot. Several times a week at least. We have a lot in common, and she really caught my eye. I've asked DY for some advice and he's been a help, but I thought I'd post some info here for everyone to see and maybe you guys can help keep me grounded, and maybe give me a kick in the ass if it's needed, LOL.
I like her personality, and I like her looks. She is blind in one eye and wears a patch, because she can't afford an artificial eye she says. No biggy for me. I know she hates the patch, but don't think it detracts from her beauty in the least. But I think she has like, a phobia about it or something.
I've only seen 5 pictures of her. She basically refuses to add more to her profile, or send me any. I know she hates her patch, but I need to be reassured that she is a real person, and the more pics, the better to prove that. We talked on the phone about it, and I very nicely asked for more pictures. She said she'd have her daughter take some. Then later said she didn't like any of the pictures. And that is the last time we've discussed it.
Then a couple of days later, she emailed me and said she was tired and sore and wished I was there to give her a massage. I replied that "I gave great back, and foot massages, and was quite good at massaging "other" places as well :wink:." THat's how I put it, without saying clit or anything.... then I didn't hear from her for over a week. We're both 47 by the way and She's a Vir-gal... it was the first time I mentioned anything remotely sensual... it threw me that she would be so sensitive about a little comment like that.
And when I send her an email to ask if anything was wrong, she said she had nothing nice to say, so wasn't saying anything at all....
Now, although we talk on the phone once a week, basically just chit chat, and for only an hour or so... there is no email communication from her at all anymore.
A few other concerns that I don't know how to resolve without actually meeting her in person... she smokes. I don't. It's not a deal breaker, but might be if she were a chain smoker. If she's the type who smokes every now and then, I could deal with it.
fumingli_scorp:
>don't worry lovely... you are too sweet to be ignored. Just be patient. Find yourself a local, real woman you can touch and feel and smell...
I appreciate the encouragement : )
Sigh... my original plan was... just to be nice, friendly, meet a nice like minded gal who had the same interests as I. And if we got along well enough, advance to passion and beyond.
The Cappy gal, when I went to give her a friendly hug, after our first date, instead KISSED me.. which totally blew my control. It was a struggle from there on.
The Scorp gal, that was a fair try all around in my opinion. We just weren't right for each other, and parted as friends.
This Virgo gal... I would have never searched for someone so far away.
When doing searches in Equestrian Singles, MySpace, etc, I never look beyond what I can comfortably drive there and back in a single day... like, 200 miles at most. Because I must be "real". Anyone further away... would be a real challenge to meet in person, and if we hit it off then what? who moves out to be with who?
It's hard to find someone who has the same interests as you when you have an odd one... like loving horses. If it weren't for horses, I think there would be lots of gals I could be good with... but horses are such a major part of my life, they are something I can't live without. It's mandatory that a love interest either have her own (because she loves them so much) or spends a lot of time with friends who have horses or boards her horses if she doesn't have the room to keep her own at home.
I guess I'd make an exception for a gal who only "likes" horses, but if over time, I determined that she really wasn't into them as much as I am, it would be a dealbreaker.
>don't worry lovely... you are too sweet to be ignored. Just be patient. Find yourself a local, real woman you can touch and feel and smell...
I appreciate the encouragement : )
Sigh... my original plan was... just to be nice, friendly, meet a nice like minded gal who had the same interests as I. And if we got along well enough, advance to passion and beyond.
The Cappy gal, when I went to give her a friendly hug, after our first date, instead KISSED me.. which totally blew my control. It was a struggle from there on.
The Scorp gal, that was a fair try all around in my opinion. We just weren't right for each other, and parted as friends.
This Virgo gal... I would have never searched for someone so far away.
When doing searches in Equestrian Singles, MySpace, etc, I never look beyond what I can comfortably drive there and back in a single day... like, 200 miles at most. Because I must be "real". Anyone further away... would be a real challenge to meet in person, and if we hit it off then what? who moves out to be with who?
It's hard to find someone who has the same interests as you when you have an odd one... like loving horses. If it weren't for horses, I think there would be lots of gals I could be good with... but horses are such a major part of my life, they are something I can't live without. It's mandatory that a love interest either have her own (because she loves them so much) or spends a lot of time with friends who have horses or boards her horses if she doesn't have the room to keep her own at home.
I guess I'd make an exception for a gal who only "likes" horses, but if over time, I determined that she really wasn't into them as much as I am, it would be a dealbreaker.
It's really hard to search for a horse woman. It would be easier if sites like MySpace, OkCupid etc, had a search link for horse-people, but so far, all the popular sites only consider dogs and cats important.
I had finally decided to stop looking, just be content with my life as it is, enjoy my online friends, and save up for a horse trailer, and a big truck to pull it, and start going horse camping, and hope to meet a horse woman that way. Sounds like the best way actually.
But she contacted me... and I was hesitant at first, but when reading her profile, just lost it... we think so much alike... it just blew me away. Then all the emails, where we seemed to have so many of the same feelings... then talking on the phone... it seemed unreal... so close, yet...
Roxi:
>someone with this many issues about themselves needs to seek professional help imo. perhaps she is looking for a man to make her feel validated but personally, i think that's a very big mistake.
She does have a lot of issues. I was hoping that other virgo gals here could tell me if she sounds normal to them or not. I think I have gotten conflicting feelings from her. Like she tells me in an email, that the reason she left her Taurus BF, is he wasn't interested enough in her and she asked him if he was gay... then I make this light comment later about "massaging other things" and she gets pissed and doesn't talk to me for a week. I was wondering if that is a normal reaction for most Virgo gals?
I had finally decided to stop looking, just be content with my life as it is, enjoy my online friends, and save up for a horse trailer, and a big truck to pull it, and start going horse camping, and hope to meet a horse woman that way. Sounds like the best way actually.
But she contacted me... and I was hesitant at first, but when reading her profile, just lost it... we think so much alike... it just blew me away. Then all the emails, where we seemed to have so many of the same feelings... then talking on the phone... it seemed unreal... so close, yet...
Roxi:
>someone with this many issues about themselves needs to seek professional help imo. perhaps she is looking for a man to make her feel validated but personally, i think that's a very big mistake.
She does have a lot of issues. I was hoping that other virgo gals here could tell me if she sounds normal to them or not. I think I have gotten conflicting feelings from her. Like she tells me in an email, that the reason she left her Taurus BF, is he wasn't interested enough in her and she asked him if he was gay... then I make this light comment later about "massaging other things" and she gets pissed and doesn't talk to me for a week. I was wondering if that is a normal reaction for most Virgo gals?
Her first husband was a jackoff, and after they divorced, she dated then married his best friend, who also turned out to be a jackoff. Cheated on her all the time, was a doper, fought with her a lot, cops over to the house often, etc... She seems to have jealousy issues, and who can blame her with what's happened to her? But I plainly talked to her about jealousy and how I was not the jealous type and don't understand it, as I've never experienced it. I have several online friends on MySpace as well as here and I picked up on the vibe from her that that made her uncomfortable somehow... nothing she said really... just a feeling I got. And I've tried to let her know that I'm not a player, just have some good online friends, but she won't discuss the issue and I don't know what she's really feeling.
It's a little hard for me to deal with as you all know me... I'll talk about anything and everything at great length, LOL. And here's someone who seems to have so much in common with me, yet is tightlipped. It confuses me.
I guess I know the answer... I should just chill, and if we're able to meet sometime, fine, but I shouldn't obsess about it in the meantime... it's just... so far in my life, I've never met anyone as close as she to what I would consider a perfect match, even with some of her issues. I keep thinking, if I am patient enough, she will open up and discuss anything bothering her... or maybe, she's just hassled with work, kids, etc and when she has more free time she'll feel free to open up more... :sighs:
It's a little hard for me to deal with as you all know me... I'll talk about anything and everything at great length, LOL. And here's someone who seems to have so much in common with me, yet is tightlipped. It confuses me.
I guess I know the answer... I should just chill, and if we're able to meet sometime, fine, but I shouldn't obsess about it in the meantime... it's just... so far in my life, I've never met anyone as close as she to what I would consider a perfect match, even with some of her issues. I keep thinking, if I am patient enough, she will open up and discuss anything bothering her... or maybe, she's just hassled with work, kids, etc and when she has more free time she'll feel free to open up more... :sighs:
Roxi:
>i'm thinking bunny boiler ferghus.
Bunny Boiler?
>i'm thinking bunny boiler ferghus.
Bunny Boiler?
FC: "You've seen the pics of her DY, what do you think?"
Well, based on the additional information in this thread, I think you should let this one go. BUT, if you think the "What Ifs?" are gonna nag at you, then fly to AZ and meet her. Settle it in your mind if you can.
Thanks for all your help folks... it really helps to get it out and discuss it like this. It helps to get it straight in my mind. I think I'll do my best to chill out about it all, and let her know that I really like her, and want to get to know her better, but anything more serious than an online friendship, will have to wait until someday, when we might be able to meet in person... till then, no pressure.
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