Need help with a Virgo male!

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Fragileheart
@Fragileheart
19 Years

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Hey everyone!
This is my first post here, though I have been lurking on this board for a few months now.
I first came to these boards during a rather short but tumultuous relationship with a virgo male. In the end I wound up heartbroken and looking very foolish to my friends who knew he was cheating. I spent some time trying to get my heart back together, but now I face a new problem.
During the time I was beginning to have problems with my ex, a new guy began to work at my place of employment. We are both virgos and got along quickly. At the time he started he was having trouble with his girlfriend of 3 years. A few weeks after beginning his new job at the place I work at he and his gf finally split.
I am very attracted to him but dont know how he feels. I dont want to come out and say anything because of the fact that he is a co-worker and that may make things awkward. I really don't know what to think because he is very open and friendly with me. He is also friendly with another girl at our job, but she has a bf. She once tried to talk to him about me about a week after he and his gf broke up. His response was that he was happy being single at the moment and that I seemed to be happy being single too.
Sometimes I catch him staring at me and usually when I catch him he will do something funny to make me smile or just turn away. He is quite talkative with me and tells me about his family, his plans for the future, stories about his military service and funny things that have happened to him. He also sometimes has a tendency to talk about women that he has dated and what is going on in his personal life. He has made reference to having a sex buddy and also admits that he is still sleeping with his ex.
We both tease each other a lot in a way that some people have seemed to find flirtatious. Whenever I am having a bad day at work he will do things to try to make me smile. We really get along well and have great conversations but even after a few months he still has not attempted to contact me outside of work. Our common friend has told me that she thinks that he is shy and that he is bsing me about having other girls. I am a really shy person and not really used to dating. I have only had one serious relationship, though I have led my co-worker to believe that I have a few men who I am casually dating. What should I do? I want to find out if he likes me as a friend or if he would ever want more.
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Qbone
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Its not really easy to explain, I as Virgo need some kind of insurance to be sure that the person I want to share my life/feelings/future with is a correct one and I'll study it patiently. Of course it may take times but the end results will be beneficial to both of us.

Some may call it set backs? some may call it sidesteps some may call it aloofness? or many other names and of course (wrong impressions).

I am just talking about myself and I don?t know about other Virgos in similar situation.
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Qbone
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20 Years10,000+ PostsVirgo

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Fragileheart

I really don?t believe in friendship between male and female one way or another they'll get emotional and want to be exclusive to each other or jealousy may arise..

If you feel that he is the one you want then take initiative and start the romance? remember.. people no matter their sign are not mind readers?.

So?. Start a healthy communications?.. Virgos are sucker for that?..

And good luck to you?
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Johhny
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19 Years

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Fragile, be aware to take things very,very slowly. Virgos are a different animal when it comes to issues like that. Personally speaking, Ive noticed that 95 percent of all Virgo issues turn out to be a disaster. Ive noticed that almost EVERY single person involved with a Virgo (atleast the ones on this site) end up getting hurt in some way shape or form. I was waiting for my Virgo for 11 months and I was crushed and destroyed last week when I spoke to her. They could be very cruel sometimes and tend to manipulate people. Atleast that was the issue with me. I wish you luck.
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Fragileheart
@Fragileheart
19 Years

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Is there anything in particular that I can look out for that he might do to indicate that he likes me? I really am pretty dense when it comes to understanding men. Sometimes it feels like there is something there and sometimes he just seems so distant. I really have no idea of how to approach this. Others at our job have approached me and asked what is going on between us, so I guess i'm not the only one to think that something more than friendly might be going on. I dont want to rely on this mutual friend to get info because I feel that it seems like pressure is being put on him. He knows that I am also friends with this person so he would logically assume that she was reporting what he said back to me.
We are both in our early 20's, economically in the same category and sadly no, I dont live on my own, so trying to get him to fix something for me wont really work. How do I get his attention as more than a friend without scaring him off or making things awkward?