New to the Virgo scene...
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by QuirkyOne on Thursday, March 2, 2006 and has 5 replies.
This is a long story so please bare with me.
I am an Aquarian female and he is a Virgo male. The story started 7 years ago when we met and started dating. We dated a couple months and it was great. Never fought, both never jealous... great! So I thought. He went away for vacation and when he came back said he met someone while away and she was moving here. He gave me some lame excuse why he thought I wasn?t ready for a relationship. Being the aloof person I was I congratulated him and told him I was happy for him. I was heartbroken but knew I would be ok. I'd rather save the friendship. So life went on and I heard he married that girl and moved away. He was the one guy I always thought of with fond memories. I stayed single and continued on.
UNTIL.... I was on a singles site and he sent me a message. We talked for hours on the phone. He said he was divorced and leaving me was the biggest mistake he made. He said he never stopped loving me and missed me. That following weekend I drove to see him and spent the weekend at his house (2 hours away). We went out, had fun, he told me he loved me all weekend. We cuddled and laughed. He even made references to us being married someday. He said he would come see me every weekend so we could work this out. I even cried happy tears with this man.
The problem... Since I've been home (just a week) he seems distant. He's started talking about an ex that keeps calling him. He says he's rude to her and she just doesn?t get it. I told him, "I know when I don?t want someone to call me I make sure they get the hint and stop calling." Another thing is he was talking about his 2 marriages and how he got married 6 months after he met them. Then his next comment was "Don?t get any ideas." I would never marry someone after only 6 months but the comment made me wonder. So he will rush into a marriage with 2 wrong women but wait forever for the right one?" He said he trusted me more than he's ever trusted anyone, he can talk to me better than any other woman he's been with, and he has the most fun with me. So why so much doubt? Why come on so strong and then just back off and act as if I'm just his friend? Maybe that?s just a Virgo way of doing things?
Maybe I?m reading too much into this but I?ve never dealt with this before. Any comments on this (good and bad) are welcomed. Thank you.
I am an Aquarian female and he is a Virgo male. The story started 7 years ago when we met and started dating. We dated a couple months and it was great. Never fought, both never jealous... great! So I thought. He went away for vacation and when he came back said he met someone while away and she was moving here. He gave me some lame excuse why he thought I wasn?t ready for a relationship. Being the aloof person I was I congratulated him and told him I was happy for him. I was heartbroken but knew I would be ok. I'd rather save the friendship. So life went on and I heard he married that girl and moved away. He was the one guy I always thought of with fond memories. I stayed single and continued on.
UNTIL.... I was on a singles site and he sent me a message. We talked for hours on the phone. He said he was divorced and leaving me was the biggest mistake he made. He said he never stopped loving me and missed me. That following weekend I drove to see him and spent the weekend at his house (2 hours away). We went out, had fun, he told me he loved me all weekend. We cuddled and laughed. He even made references to us being married someday. He said he would come see me every weekend so we could work this out. I even cried happy tears with this man.
The problem... Since I've been home (just a week) he seems distant. He's started talking about an ex that keeps calling him. He says he's rude to her and she just doesn?t get it. I told him, "I know when I don?t want someone to call me I make sure they get the hint and stop calling." Another thing is he was talking about his 2 marriages and how he got married 6 months after he met them. Then his next comment was "Don?t get any ideas." I would never marry someone after only 6 months but the comment made me wonder. So he will rush into a marriage with 2 wrong women but wait forever for the right one?" He said he trusted me more than he's ever trusted anyone, he can talk to me better than any other woman he's been with, and he has the most fun with me. So why so much doubt? Why come on so strong and then just back off and act as if I'm just his friend? Maybe that?s just a Virgo way of doing things?
Maybe I?m reading too much into this but I?ve never dealt with this before. Any comments on this (good and bad) are welcomed. Thank you.
Obviouslly you are dealing with a very confused individual. Stay away.......
He does not know what he wants, he is wishy washy, insecure = big time trouble for you. Pluse he broke your trust before! Why believe anything he says right now.
My advice: Stop entertaining ANY romantic fantasy with this boy (If he would have been a man, he would have never said the things he said), distance yourself, and adopt a "let's live and let's see" attitude. Go on with your life. If you really like this guy, then insist on friendship only. Later on, if this leads to you guys being together, fine, if not fine too.
Please be smart!
He does not know what he wants, he is wishy washy, insecure = big time trouble for you. Pluse he broke your trust before! Why believe anything he says right now.
My advice: Stop entertaining ANY romantic fantasy with this boy (If he would have been a man, he would have never said the things he said), distance yourself, and adopt a "let's live and let's see" attitude. Go on with your life. If you really like this guy, then insist on friendship only. Later on, if this leads to you guys being together, fine, if not fine too.
Please be smart!
I forgot: Also, please do not try to make excuses for him, such as "Maybe that??_s just a Virgo way of doing things?". This has nothing to do with any sign!!!
excess,
Thank you. I think you may have confirmed what I already knew deep down. I guess I just dont understand why he would say all those things if he didnt mean them. Then I wonder if he did mean them and changed his mind. Either way I agree with you that he is confused. I would never do that to someone so its hard for me to see it.
I already decided that I was going to just sit back and let him come to me. If he wants to be with me I will know it. I just hate that little voice in my head that tells me to hang on and see what happens.
Thank you. I think you may have confirmed what I already knew deep down. I guess I just dont understand why he would say all those things if he didnt mean them. Then I wonder if he did mean them and changed his mind. Either way I agree with you that he is confused. I would never do that to someone so its hard for me to see it.
I already decided that I was going to just sit back and let him come to me. If he wants to be with me I will know it. I just hate that little voice in my head that tells me to hang on and see what happens.
excess,
Thank you. I think you may have confirmed what I already knew deep down. I guess I just dont understand why he would say all those things if he didnt mean them. Then I wonder if he did mean them and changed his mind. Either way I agree with you that he is confused. I would never do that to someone so its hard for me to see it.
I already decided that I was going to just sit back and let him come to me. If he wants to be with me I will know it. I just hate that little voice in my head that tells me to hang on and see what happens.
Thank you. I think you may have confirmed what I already knew deep down. I guess I just dont understand why he would say all those things if he didnt mean them. Then I wonder if he did mean them and changed his mind. Either way I agree with you that he is confused. I would never do that to someone so its hard for me to see it.
I already decided that I was going to just sit back and let him come to me. If he wants to be with me I will know it. I just hate that little voice in my head that tells me to hang on and see what happens.
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