New to this site- just met virgo guy....

About a few weeks ago. Whirlwind lovely first date. Im a Leo lady, im 33, he is 28. Courted me full on and strong the first 2 weeks, then going on week 4 here soon and by week 3, he started turning cold.

Im reading a lot on this site, that this is very common for virgo men. Is it normal for them to turn aloof, unemotional, and distant so early into "dating/not yet exclusive" type relationships? Date 3 we got to 3rd base, lol, passed that test and haven't slept together thank goodness! I think we both want to wait for obvious reasons. I have dated a virgo before, but he wasn't like this and it was long distance. So had no choice but to not see each other often. Besides, that guy texted me regularly to confirm he was alive and well/busy/etc. This guy just keeps feeling like he's farther and farther away!?

I love sending sexy photos and sent 2 (the urge is just insane!) and I feel like I don't get much reaction off of that. Hes def a much different man than I have ever experienced, yet we are both att5racted to each other, both love kissing, cuddling, spending time. WE had that awesome first date that lasted all night and into the morning hours.

Now this. I know its still got that new car smell, but again, is this totally normal and should i continue to refrain from texting? It drives me bonkers! I was great about distancing myself from other men that I wasn't attracted to/not being available to them, but I really have feelings for this man, he was unexpected and I was to him as well.

I need some words of support here! 🙂

Hi! I'm a virgo male I believe this is the part where the virgo male does not know (confuse) of his status in this relationship. Sometimes he wants to do something with you, share something with you, cry his heart out to you even; however the relationship has not been established yet.
I know this feeling because sometimes I really want to share something with the girl, but I do not know if it is my place to do so. It can be very frustrating to keep one's self in check all the time, and if I feel like the relationship is stalling in the "friends" phrase, then I move on.

You giving off signs at the moment where it is probably too hard for the virgo to pick up. Be more direct with him.

btw I hate sluttly bitches that sends pictures over the phone. I always think bitches that does that do so to everyone they know and I wouldn't want anything serious with that girl. So it's good he doesn't respond too well to those pictures as he's not just tryna hit it.

thanks Pax, for responding so quickly!

LOL, and yes, after sexy pic #2, I was like.....hmmm...ok, so he's not into pics. (they weren't nude or anything). So scrathed that off my list. I can tell, he's into quality time. Problem is, he has 2 jobs (fireman, and works with brother on the side), 3 if you include school. And Im not as busy as he is.

Thing here is, I see that virgos like to take things slow. So if he feels the way you described, that's out of character because this is quite early to slap a label on this relationship. Last week he made subtle indications of parts of me that were "his" and its been YEARS since Ive had a man show any kind or level of possessiveness about me. At the same time, I was like, he couldn't possibly already be feeling exclusive? Right? wow. I like that feeling that he has of me by indicating those things, but don't want to jump to conclusions.

His last relationship was in 2009. And that girl cheated on him. He's very handsome, but VERY insecure. Couple facts there.

So your saying its okay to still reach out to him while he's in this mode and let him know im still thinking of him, still around, etc., and wait for him to come back around? He was so wonderful at pursuing, then it just got cold.

im just not clear what my role is here. what to do next. or NOT do! 🙂

oh yeah, after 33 years, I know. I still overanalyze everything though when my heart is involved 😉

Sure leolady33.

You said it, he is very insecure. Seeing that I am also pretty insecure, I tend to show off a coolness side of me to the public and keep the real me privately.
With that all said, he probably wants to appear to you in away that he is cool (smooth). You said he is distancing himself away from you, this probably means that he doesn't want you to know something about him because he believes its not in your place to know - thus he is uncomfortable in sharing that with you. It isn't a secret by any means, but it is stuff thats shows weaknesses and flaws in him.

True, I have my own pace and I like to keep things slow that way I know I am not getting myself attached to someone that is unstable or slutty which will lead to cheating and all that, thus making me sad again.

This thing that you like, the talk where he becomes "possessive" is probably one of his very subtle moves. You must be able to pick these signals up. Congrats though, you most likely past the observation test and he is ready to move up the game. Being that you are denying him this advancement puts him out of place ("hey! I like this girl and I want to trust her by sharing things with her, but if this doesn't go through, I might lose face!")

Now that he laid his cards out for you, he is now waiting for you to reply to it. In any relationship, you gotta ask yourself if you want this to happen or not, and if you do, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. I have had girls that I like, but it never fell through because I laid my cards out but she don't gave back any signs that she really wanted it - so I move on for the one that will be more willing to put in an effort for a relationship to happen.

Stop this bullshit waiting for him, its your turn to make the move. And make it pretty direct too - be clear about it. But also do it with some class like you aint too dependent on it - "this won't kill me, but it'll be nice if it happens" approach.

ok! Well before I got your message Pax, I shook off my stupid silly worries, and did what you just said anyway, made my move! LOL! How cray is that? I sent him a text, hoping he had a great day today (called him handsome, I like reminding him that 😉)

And he responded! Wow! Still never responds with hey gorgeous or anything, just hey. And then told me how good a day it was and asked how mine went.; A very normal and nice reponse! And I replied to him and told him how great I feel and how my day was!

So I guess I am naturally taking the right steps and didn't know it. Im the kind of person to do as I feel and say as I feel, and its just who I am. Even my bestie reminds me to BE MYSELF. Don't play by the rules, its annoying. So I naturally just do and then turn around and overanalyze my actions. Hence, why I am here talking to you 🙂

So anyway, yeah he said something like, "that ****** (body part) is mine..". Something like that, so you fill in the blanks. We are all adults here 😉

Im just very nervous about the whole taking that step up, like I think yhou are implying up there. Whats the best way to do it? And are you sure? How can I be so sure this is the best thing for me to do? I hate to say this....but I want to play it kind of safe. O__O

I don't want to scare him off!

It's good you have a "do as I feel and say as I feel" attitude. Just remember, in the end we only regret chances we didn't take. The relationships we were scared to have and the decisions we waited to long to make.
This a matter of confidence. You first must have confidence in yourself. This confidences will come from not being dependent on this one single event. You must have other things going on in your life. Find your life's purpose.

Now, you texted him and he said his day was good, now he is asking how was your day, this means that he is curious of how you are handling life without him. Are you doing just fine without him in your life? You replied with YES! life is great, I do not need you that much in my life 😄! Not really a good reply, but understandable since you were trying to play it safe.

Again, I can't put words in your mouth, but if that ass is really his, then tell him to come get it. Haha. No, but umm just be yourself, you can't try to deceive a virgo guy if he is smart, these scripted craps are way too easy to see through.

One of my favorite quote describing love is:
"But love is simple; unconditional and invasive, it nurtures and it expands, it only requires a single thing in response; its reflection."
Show him that reflection and that you are for real. Put in the effort (be on top? lol), meet him halfway.

Yes true, virgo male does like girls who are independent, you probably thinking if I make the move, will I look dependent on him? This independent personality need not be perfect.
I would be intimidated by that if you were, it's ok to be to weak - it gives us a purpose to be there for you.
Think about it, if life is so good for you right now, what need do I have to be in your life? Where would I belong?

well I came THIS close to telling him I miss him alil. So I guess im feeling the right feeling, just need to reflect it to him. 🙂 I will do so. Tonight when I say goodnight 🙂 I joked with him yesterday and told him maybe im a loser for admitting that I think of him all the time, he laughed and said no and asked how my night was going.

I will keep at it Pax, I can only do so much, and the rest is out of my control. :/ At the end of the day, astro signs tell you only so much. The rest is up to us. There were times where I was like, dang, I can't believe I said that or my snot dripped on him and he laughed at it (and still came back the next day, lol!) He admits his imperfections and I tell him I don't care I like every inch of him. I overanalyze.

Im glad you responded to me 🙂 I shall keep you posted! 🙂

Astro signs are like bullet notes to me, it makes me become more aware of the small things I might have missed; however human nature is also very unpredictable - that is what makes a human unique.
Seeing from the latests post, I feel you might just have it now.
Good luck lady 😉

I had to remind myself overnight, to lower my expectations. I realized what a hypocrite ive been acting/sounding like. I am fine with him doing his own thing, but I need to physically be fine with it too, as I was before I met him. No expectations, no obligations. That's my motto.