Oh, you Virgos!

Hey all! New to the boards and was hoping to get some perspective with a Virgo interest in my life. I guess to start off, my sun is Taurus, my moon is Capricorn and my rising sign is in Gemini.

A couple months ago I was introduced to a Virgo man shortly after he had broke things off with his girlfriend. We hit it off instantly. He did, however, tell me up front that he wasn't exactly looking to get into another relationship right now, which was all right with me; I was married once upon a time and the last thing I wanted was to jump into another relationship immediately after my divorce. So, although they weren't married, I could appreciate his want or need to not do the relationship thing right away. Things did eventually turn physical and neither of us have been with any other partners in the time that we've been together. A couple weeks ago I had dropped him a text suggesting that we go out that following Saturday and he agreed. We went out to a local bar, shot some pool, played darts and just had a really good time. When I woke up the next morning it was like I was waking up to a different person - he had his arms around me and even called me "babe" when he woke up which was very unlike him. Just when things started moving in the right direction, a couple days later he got into a raging fight with his ex-girlfriend about their son and he started to withdraw and that's how things have been for a couple weeks now for the most part. We still have great conversation and we're still intimate but that brief glimpse of the affectionate and warm guy hasn't reemerged since the blowout with the ex. I have no doubt that one day we'll be together and that sweet guy will emerge once again, and being a Taurus I am patient enough to wait for something I really want. I just feel like he's trying to stay detached because he's afraid I'll take off if things get nasty between him and his ex.

You Virgos are delightfully difficult to understand and wonderfully frustrating! I just wish there was something I could do or say to make him understand that I have no intentions of going anywhere until he tells me to!

All you can say or do, it sounds like you are doing. Patience, friendship and understanding. The question is how much / how long are you willing to give that to him for your own well being and happiness? You are going into this eyes wide open, he has experienced a recent break up and most importantly, he has a son to consider. It is not easy to find balance when there is a child involved, and it sounds like this is new for him. It has been two months so you are really just getting to know each other, have fun and see what develops.

Posted by Taurus32

I just feel like he's trying to stay detached because he's afraid I'll take off if things get nasty between him and his ex.

You Virgos are delightfully difficult to understand ......

The only time other people are difficult to understand is when you ASSUME to know what they feel.

The reality is ... you are clueless, yet, telling yourself that you believe to know his mind.


If this is how you handle relationships when the unknown pops up, you might as well jump ship now.


The only issue I see here is YOU, in that you aren't being real. In the beginning to say it's fine to not want something serious ... but, really that is exactly what you want because here you are, being upset that it isn't non-serious enough to pacify your feelings.


If you can't be real .... Virgo will drop you by the wayside without a second thought.

Posted by Taurus32

I just feel like he's trying to stay detached because he's afraid I'll take off if things get nasty between him and his ex.

Then, as I read this sentence again, it looks like you are telling yourself that you are all that.

You must be a prize because look how frightened he is of losing you? Oh, poor baby, he's so scared of losing his Princess that he has withdrawn, trembling.

::: shakes head :::

How big is your head, exactly?

I never once claimed to be "all that" or a "princess." I guess that's what happens when one ASSUMES that's what is being written. After the fight with his ex he mentioned on more than one occasion that things could get messy and he understood if I didn't want to pursue things any further. That's what led me to believe that perhaps he was concerned about it. Nothing more.

Thank you divineanonimity for your insight. I won't wait forever, but you're right, everything is still new and I'm content with how things are right now.

Wishing you the best!

Haha funny, Im a Virgo and I also recently got together with a lovely Taurus girl with moon in Cap, we were both dating other people when we met, so I had to fight for her quite a bit..and I won 🙂

Taurus32, you and I are in similar situations. Don't expect too much affection from the get-go with him. Even if he came on strong in the beginning, they retract. It's very confusing and frustrating. I have a bit of advice: don't focus on the sweet nothings right before, during, or right after the intimacy. Rather, focus on what he's doing in the day to day. My Virgo male friend shows he cares about me with the acts of service he does for me. For these guys, Actions Speak Louder Than Words when it comes to how they feel because they aren't the best with opening up initially.

^Not the case with me at all^

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