Part 1: So you've never had a virgo father

You don't know what it's like.
(falls off bike)
Father: Well what are you still doing on the ground get up

(fails spelling bee)
Father: Had you studied, it was have come natural to you

(picking something off the floor)
Father: Had you squatted when picking up that, you'd have saved years on your back.

(3 c's on report card)
Father: Redemption!!! REDEMPTION CHILD!!

(Crying over being bullied)
Father: Well are you going to go back and fight or not?

(Look at my creation)
Father: It's ok but what you should have done was..(takes brush and paints over image)

I'd parent more like a Leo. That much is certain.

I'm confused. What is the porpoise/purpose of this thread..?

Because going off my [albeit highly subjective] initial impression, it sounds like you are lamenting your upbringing and/or complaining about your father's parenting approach...

And judging by your profile picture (which is absolutely lovely, btw), you are over the age of 18. Which means you are legally an adult and hopefully in full possession of all your faculties - mentally or otherwise.

There's a statute of limitations when it comes to bitching about your parents. ... Well actually there is not, but there should be. Just because they bore you and raised you doesn't necessarily mean they 'know' you ... either better than you know yourself, or even know *themselves* for that matter.

Children pick up where their parents left off, so-to-speak. If you don't agree with your father's analysis and/or parenting approach, then live your life differently. What good is posting a thread on a public forum as a grown ass beautiful woman gonna do?

Yeah, Virgos don't get the all things in good measure bit. They're great a criticism, but God help you if you just need a quiet hug or a friendly smile to encourage you along.

Scorp Harmony that is so true haha. And well andalusia I guess I figured reflecting on it, it would make for an interesting story/analysis. Half of my dad was a really stern man who was perfect at everything whom I would always disappoint, the other half loves him dearly for it because now I have developed a tough skin and rather fond interest in his antics/lectures about life 🙂.

And aww thankyou (hugs)!

@ PVJ: you're probably right in that it wasn't bitching; just reminiscing and/or sharing humerous anecdotes.

OP was merely adding personal flair to a story. While I was internalizing and subjectifing that shizz. That's my bad.

**@ LivingOnPorpoise: it was rude of me to address you as the "OP" and in third person, as if you didn't create this thread or weren't a part of it.

For that I apologize.

Haha thanks PV I glad I was clear in this thread, I know I am usually off topic. Lol I agree with you though whenever dad gave me criticism man it was so hard not to cry in front of him. I resulted to the cuddling of stuffed animals kept my collection ever since I was about 7 haha. Oh and randomly adopting pets off the street to have as my own. It's ok Andalusia I see where I may have caused confusion, to this day though dad could say one of those criticizing jokes and I laugh along he means no harm now.

PV you understand me!! haha now that's a pretty darn good observation 😄. I once told a friend 'teeth are to apple, as bread is to toast' he was baffled. I didn't understand my meaning behind it at the moment and neither did he so I searched my thoughts and came up with... It is logically better to eat bread toasted as oppose to just solid in it's state, now the same goes with an apple but in a different perspective because it is culturally acceptable to drink apple juice/cider but it's always better to just pick up a apple and customary eat it that way. Still trying to make sense of it haha, PV is the translator to my soul I would have guessed it was her profession just by how second nature it is to her 😄.

Part 2 coming soon

Now this is a refreshing thread! Thank you LOP 🙂

My Dad wasn't that harsh with me. In fact his slight and subtle criticism was backed up with showing me why and how to "fix" whatever it was. By the time I was 18 I knew how to change tires, oil, oil filters, even learned how to take out and install transmission pan, replace cork seal, spark plugs, etc..my first credit card (for emergencies only) co-signed, and how to budget.

He was there for my first heartbreak @ 15 yrs of age and made me feel so much better by criticizing the shit out of the guy who broke it (for consolation purposes) lol...in fact..many years later the same guy applied for a job with my father (the guy and I of course were friends by then), but my father after he looked at the application..and I quote because I'll never forget this "oh, so you're the little bastard who broke my daughter's heart eh?" (yes, I get the "eh" from him) The guy nearly died...lol. Regardless, my Dad patted him on the back and said "when can you start?" while laughing. He has a great sense of humor. Any time I'd made a big decision in life he'd get so serious and would ask me all the important questions to make sure I had my bases covered. I could go on forever here..but will spare you all. He served over 20 years for this country, and today is twice as critical as I am regarding the corruption, greed and how this country is taking a shit. Every week we talk about politics. He is a great man in my eyes, and I love him very much.

Happy Father's Day to all you Virgo Dads!! 🙂

Lol PV, and yessss same here just recently dad said you need to be verbal when you have suppressed feelings. Another thing to work on for me, I knew there was some aqua placements somewhere in there 🙂.

😄 Let please tell me your virgo father is also a mechanic like mines who wanted to be a surgeon but instead dissects cars!!!!? 😄

Salute to you father from me from far away. My dad love sto talk about political matters, corruption, conspiracies, stocks, and all things illuminated. Haha that's cool your dad gave him the job. My dad always have an analysis with me every 3 days on any decision I make he understands it's my choice, but he has a way of asking questions to where if I don't have logical answers I shouldn't be advancing in my choices.

Same here virgo dads are awesome!

My dad loves to* haha error there, dad would kill me for that.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

Salute to you father from me from far away. My dad love sto talk about political matters, corruption, conspiracies, stocks, and all things illuminated. Haha that's cool your dad gave him the job. My dad always have an analysis with me every 3 days on any decision I make he understands it's my choice, but he has a way of asking questions to where if I don't have logical answers I shouldn't be advancing in my choices.

Same here virgo dads are awesome!

🙂

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
You don't know what it's like.
(falls off bike)
Father: Well what are you still doing on the ground get up

(fails spelling bee)
Father: Had you studied, it was have come natural to you

(picking something off the floor)
Father: Had you squatted when picking up that, you'd have saved years on your back.

(3 c's on report card)
Father: Redemption!!! REDEMPTION CHILD!!

(Crying over being bullied)
Father: Well are you going to go back and fight or not?

(Look at my creation)
Father: It's ok but what you should have done was..(takes brush and paints over image)

Oh yeah. This does bring back memories.

When I was in the first grade I was doing my homework at math and my dad...who has an awesome talent with singing and playing guitar asked me to stop for a second and sing something..anything.

He listened to me then SIGHED loudly and only said "Let's go back to math..."

Harsh? Fair. I will never be one of those people who have friends or family backing them up and then they go on musical talent shows and make fools out of themselves.

Me coming home with a bruised eye in secondary school

Dad "What did the other person look like?"
Me: "Worse"
Dad "Good"

I talked about everything with my dad from movies to bands..he insisted I grew up with quality movie to sex and men in general.

He always gave me unbiased advice..which is weird for me who have daughters.

14 year old Damnata..

Me: Dad, how do you know a guy likes you?
Dad: He will invest in you.
Me: Like money?
Dad: Like time and affection and genuine care. He won't push you out of your comfort zone but I hope it will be more years ahead til you bring one home haha. I'm out of bullets.

16 year old Damnata..

Me: Dad, what do you think of oral sex?
Dad: Well, just remember we live in a world where a woman's reputation is important. Just don't go for men who will gossip around the block.

17 year old Damnata..

Me: Dad what would you think if I was into women?
Dad: To be honest, I'd think I wasn't a good enough role model. But I would get over it, your happiness comes first.

20 year old Damnata after I broke up with my Cap fiance.

phonecall

Me: It's all over.
Dad: I won't tell you "I told you so". I can see from your voice you're hurt. What happened?
Me: He cheated
Dad: Ok, let me ask you this..did you cheat? were you over the top possessive and clingy? didn't let the guy have time for his friends?
Me: No, no and no.
Dad: Nothing to feel sorry about then. Head held high and life goes on.
Me: Thanks dad.
Dad: You know what, I'll send you to my brother in Rome for 2 weeks. You need to recharge and have fun.
Me: Thank you dad. Love you always.
Dad: Promise? Even when I am old and you'll have your own family?
Me: Even then.
Dad: Rome it is then.

Me in highschool after a fight with one of my teachers who was hellbent on making our entire class wear uniforms and basically be carbon copies of each other.

She called my dad to complain

Her: "Your daughter is coming across as very outspoken"
Dad: "I know. I taught her to stand up for what she believes in. Goodbye"

*click*

My dad was and still is obsessed with a moral code and instilling good values in his child growing up.

I remember him telling me about honoring commitments people made to each other.

"Listen up. If you like a guy and he has a girlfriend or a wife..do NOT interfere between them. I will not have a woman come to my door and tell me my daughter is a home wrecker. I will disown you in a heartbeat."

I remember when I was really young..first or second grade..my desk mate mistook my backpack for his and put this awesome pen in it. I only noticed it 2 weeks later and it was so awesome and so shiny..I wanted to keep it.

He took me by the hand on Christmas Day and went with me to that guy's house. We knock and he comes outside alongside his parents.

Dad goes "Damnata would like to say something"
Me: "I'm sorry I didn't give this back sooner"
Dad: "Basically she's sorry she stole smthg"
Me: "I didn't steal it!"
Dad: "You weren't going to give it back"

I never put my hands on smthg that didn't belong to me ever again or "Forget" to give stuff back to people.

Oh, LIB's story made me remember my dad's awesome sense of humor and when he met my Cap Ex.

I was living by myself in high school and the guy lived in another city. My dad lived 40 km away from me. Cap comes to me, we have sex, the massive wooden bed broke to pieces. He was scared as fuck because my father was going to visit the other day. He struggled all night to put it back together, no success. Told him to calm down because my dad is cool, he was still scared.

Dad comes in the morning..enters the room..looks at the broken bed, looks at me, looks at the cap and then tells the cap with a smirk on his face:

"So, I take it my daughter is pretty good, eh?"

ALL THE COLORS in the rainbow passed over the poor Cap's face. I was laughing hysterically. My dad goes into the kitchen and gives me a subtle gesture to follow him. I get there, his voice drops to a whisper "I really don't like how this guy has no sense of humor but I know you love him so wherever this goes, it goes."

"Dad, you basically scared him"
"If he cannot get my humor, he sure won't get yours. And humor is important"

Posted by LilyTree
Damanta, I love you, I love your stories, and I love your dad. I hear my mother in your father. As you know, she was a virgo. She was the wisest and most brilliant woman I've ever known. She always knew what to say or do, most especially when I needed it but didn't want it.

Bring on the stories 😄

I'm in a good mood, I'll probably flood this topic with memories 😄

Haha you're welcome cancer 😉.

Virg I agree I like that story about the bruised eye haha.
Lol he was out of bullets *classic*

Posted by CluelessCancer
Sigh, i've fallen in love with Dam's father. He's the type of father i want for my children.

And here I thought you fell in love with him when you saw his picture.

#disloyalcrab

Posted by CluelessCancer
I'm not really fond of the sexual stories though, i wouldn't want my husband to be that open about sex with my children, also the fact you were living alone in HS, is scary to me...

Well he wouldn't have been as open if my mother gave more of a fuck. Which she didn't.

When my period first came she just threw me in my dad's room "Talk to your daughter!"

I lived by myself because we couldn't afford to live together after my mom ruined him in divorce so he left and stayed with his parents til he got some money and I was by myself in the city. I could've lived with my grandparents too but it was easier like this. He just spent the money on rent for me so I wouldn't have to go back and forth 40 kms each day.

I almost want to make a joke about how all Asian fathers are inherently Virgo.

Wish I has a virgo dad instead of a nut job saggie..

My moms a leeb, I suppose i keep her 😛 who wants to trade a virgo dad for a sag dad?!?!

Lol!! you guys crack me up. justagirl what's it like living with a sag father? Lol aquasnoz!! so I wasn't the only one thinking it...

This thread....I'm reading this then I ask hubby to read this. Then we reread it together then:

Hubby: "I can't stand this if you are like this to our children."
Me: "That's what I would be if I have a kid. They will have the childhood I had which is none."
Hubby: "I guess we should plan to have a girl. These girls seems to grow to be tough. I like this character Damnata. Who the heck call herself Damn?"

BTW, we have no kids yet. 😄

This thread is exactly what I imagine I'd be if I have a kid.

Haha awww how cute and yes damnata is a favorite around here, but no one can have her grrrr haha just kidding. Gemini's have 2 faces I'm not complaining but yeah I have thee hardest time, but I love them.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise


(3 c's on report card)
Father: Redemption!!! REDEMPTION CHILD!!

(Look at my creation)
Father: It's ok but what you should have done was..(takes brush and paints over image)

😆!

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

(Crying over being bullied)
Father: Well are you going to go back and fight or not?

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😄 This sounds very familiar.....

Lol phoenix I take it you also have a virgo father who was just as stern 😄

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
Haha awww how cute and yes damnata is a favorite around here, but no one can have her grrrr haha just kidding. Gemini's have 2 faces I'm not complaining but yeah I have thee hardest time, but I love them.

Sorry to let you know this bit Dammy was claimed months ago... Grrrr 😛

I will share with LOR.... Will have to review your application if you are requesting timeshare!

As for sag dad.. He was not a normal or good dad at all so my view is very tainted. Sorry wish I could give feedback!

@Lily lol gem dad? All over The place?

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

You don't know what it's like.
(falls off bike)
Father: Well what are you still doing on the ground get up

That wouldn't be the last time the life ever knocked you on your butt, or the worst. Had there been real damage I'm sure his response would have been different, but you can't get anywhere worthwhile by giving up and staying down. We all have to learn how to get back up, dust ourselves off, give the obstacle at hand the finger and push back until we conquer.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

(fails spelling bee)
Father: Had you studied, it was have come natural to you

Can you honestly say that you did your very best? That you studied as hard as you could? There are so many people all around the world that don't have the opportunity for a good education and the better quality of life that potentially comes with it. For those who do have these gifts they should never be squandered. Such wastefulness is a sign of weakness.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

(picking something off the floor)
Father: Had you squatted when picking up that, you'd have saved years on your back.

Valuable life lesson. You only get one body. Take care of it so that it can take care of you when you really need it to.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

(3 c's on report card)
Father: Redemption!!! REDEMPTION CHILD!!

Same as example #2. No one ever became great by slacking or taking the easy way out.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

(Crying over being bullied)
Father: Well are you going to go back and fight or not?

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Same as example #1. Crying doesn't solve the problem. Neither does making excuses or pointing fingers of blame. We all have challenges to face but are ultimately responsible for our own outcomes by the choices we make and how we choose to react to any situation. The world at large isn't a sympathetic one. Survival of the fittest (or strongest) doesn't exist without reason.

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

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Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

(Look at my creation)
Father: It's ok but what you should have done was..(takes brush and paints over image)

Virgo isn't a sign for blowing smoke up anyone's bum. We can't learn from mistakes or improve without honestly acknowledging a flaw. True character growth comes from facing hard truths and overcoming. Virgo gets a hard rap for "perfectionism" but doing anything to less than the best of your abilities is pointless and an exercise in how to become weak, cowardly and insipid.

My father is a Leo but has a Virgo stellium and he's much the same way. I've come to see it as a positive thing and, personally, am quite grateful. He pushed me to do better, to become smarter, stronger, and more capable. Should I ever have children I intend to raise them the same way because it wouldn't be my job to be their friend or their enabler. It would be my job to prepare to face the world and stand on their own feet so that they might one day have the strength to build their own legacy.

Posted by virg_goki

Posted by justagirl

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise
Haha awww how cute and yes damnata is a favorite around here, but no one can have her grrrr haha just kidding. Gemini's have 2 faces I'm not complaining but yeah I have thee hardest time, but I love them.

Sorry to let you know this bit Dammy was claimed months ago... Grrrr 😛

I will share with LOR.... Will have to review your application if you are requesting timeshare!

As for sag dad.. He was not a normal or good dad at all so my view is very tainted. Sorry wish I could give feedback!

@Lily lol gem dad? All over The place?

and you were claimed months ago as well! 😛

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😛

Lol sounds about right dad had many women fawning over him justagirl what is with all this ownership I do not know about lol.

TMV you make so many awesome points, I would love for you to be my mentor whenever I got into a situation. I figure I need the motivation but maybe I need opposition as well. They both go hand in hand and will make a person do more,be more,and cry less.