Please help with a virgo women I care about.

This topic was created in the Virgo Women forum by wwcod1986 on Saturday, October 14, 2017 and has 12 replies.


Would people mind giving me some feedback about a virgo women I know. It’s a longish story so I’ll try and cut it down the best I can.

Back in 2011/12 I met her and we became friends, during the first few months of knowing each other we found out we were very similar in our personalities, believes, interests, and goals in life. We started talking about becoming a couple but it never happened because of our ages and she seemed to shy away from it. She would give me signs that she liked me the usual smiling when she looked at me, laughing at my “dumb” jokes, looking into my eyes, body contact, standing close to me but out of my line of sight. This went on for a year and a half until I asked if she wanted to go to a carnival in town. She told me “I don’t want to go, its not you its me”. And after that she couldn’t face me and left town for the air force.

Five years later I ran into her at the grocery store and she gave me her old flirty smile and wave where she bent her elbow n wiggles her fingers. So we started to talk again on facebook but she was being very vague and after a few weeks went by she told me that she ran in the past because she lied to me to keep me from knowing bout bad things going on in her life she didn’t want me wrapped up in. She asked me to please forgive her and I told her I need to think you hurt me very bad but after some thinking I was able to. But she wouldn’t say anything as far as if we are ok now so I lost my temper and ended up yelling at her witch I instantly regretted.

So for her b-day I sent her a gift and a letter saying sorry in case she was mad at me for everything I said before and if me assuming she had feelings still case of the wave was a problem. She wrote me on facebook to say thanks and that I wasn’t a giant F up. She told me that she has a very high opinion of me still (nice guy and smart) and shes been wanting to talk to me again for years but wasn’t sure if I’d talk to her. I told her I still cared about her and that maybe if things get better between us I could cook her a steak dinner sometime. Told her about how I cook my steaks and she gave me another big smile and rolled her eyes back in her head like she was day dreaming. As if saying I’m interested in that. But since then she is back to being super vague and not really answering. She was in a relationship then but I’m not sure if that’s still going on.

My issue is does anyone think that she still could have romantic feelings towards me even with how she’s acting? I care a lot about this girl and still after the 6 years we’ve known each other want to try a relationship I just don’t know if there’s hope left or not. A virgo’s opinion would get awesome! Thanks for taking the time to read this.

What's your sign?
I am a capricorn. Everything I have found about how cap and virgo match up has been a top notch relationship with a high chance of being soul mates. That's why it not easy for me to walk away from her because I believe she very well could be mine.
Posted by FknNerd
You were still that mad after 5 years?
I got mad at her because she was ignoring me. I wasn't mad about what had happened before I was shocked to find out that was the real reason she left. From what she told me back then it sounded as if I just wasn't good enough.
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Posted by FknNerd
You were still that mad after 5 years?
I got mad at her because she was ignoring me. I wasn't mad about what had happened before I was shocked to find out that was the real reason she left. From what she told me back then it sounded as if I just wasn't good enough.
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So she opens up about why she left back then....which is in the past and your reaction is to lose your temper and yell? Yeah, no wonder she's vague. I don't think she thinks you're stable mentally/emotionally.

Been there done that with a Scorpio.
I would send her a message to the tune of "Hey so..can we leave the past in the past and get to know each other again? There is this *insert venue* that opened and I think you'd like to go. What say you?"

If she doesn't reply or dodges you, don't pursue further.



So she opens up about why she left back then....which is in the past and your reaction is to lose your temper and yell? Yeah, no wonder she's vague. I don't think she thinks you're stable mentally/emotionally.

Been there done that with a Scorpio.


Yea I know I did myself no favors yelling at her. I do have a traumatic brain injury from a car crash before we meet so that didn't help matters at the time. I know someone on here will make fun of me for that or this but because I lashed out at her I have started medication to control mood swings better.

People with brain injuries don't have the same safe guards everyone else has. And as far as going to see her in a public place I did ask what night she was working so I could come to the diner she told me she worked at but she didn't say anything.
Posted by edgelord
@Damnata is right. I’d go with her advice.
I would really like to do that if she's willing edgelord. It's not always the easiest to just let go of everything from the past but if we are to move forward it needs to be done. Maybe if she would like to try my cooking I could do something for her whole family. That way its a none date type of deal.
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@Damnata is right. I’d go with her advice.
I would really like to do that if she's willing edgelord. It's not always the easiest to just let go of everything from the past but if we are to move forward it needs to be done. Maybe if she would like to try my cooking I could do something for her whole family. That way its a none date type of deal.
Make it a date so it’s clear where you stand IMO. Don’t want to friends place yourself. But yeah go with what Damnata said and go from there.

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Well when we where talking about my cooking and these steaks she sounded interested in trying them as I said. Ppl tell me they are so amazing, out of this world good, best steaks ever kinda reviews. If anything could swing her my way that maybe it. She is a foodie. Have to go to see her and talk to her about us having dinner.
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@Damnata is right. I’d go with her advice.
I would really like to do that if she's willing edgelord. It's not always the easiest to just let go of everything from the past but if we are to move forward it needs to be done. Maybe if she would like to try my cooking I could do something for her whole family. That way its a none date type of deal.
Make it a date so it’s clear where you stand IMO. Don’t want to friends place yourself. But yeah go with what Damnata said and go from there.

Well when we where talking about my cooking and these steaks she sounded interested in trying them as I said. Ppl tell me they are so amazing, out of this world good, best steaks ever kinda reviews. If anything could swing her my way that maybe it. She is a foodie. Have to go to see her and talk to her about us having dinner.


Yeah If you think that’s a strength then lead with that. Obviously couldn’t hurt. 😃

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I'm kinda humble about my cooking so I'm always I can get better at it. But I'm always told my foods good, my cousin said "I'm a bitch of a cook, if she likes food make her dinner and you got it made". Been told by my boss if he had my surf and turf meal on his menu he'd charge $ 40 - 50 for it. Just got to get her to try them it sounds.
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@Damnata is right. I’d go with her advice.
I would really like to do that if she's willing edgelord. It's not always the easiest to just let go of everything from the past but if we are to move forward it needs to be done. Maybe if she would like to try my cooking I could do something for her whole family. That way its a none date type of deal.
Make it a date so it’s clear where you stand IMO. Don’t want to friends place yourself. But yeah go with what Damnata said and go from there.

Well when we where talking about my cooking and these steaks she sounded interested in trying them as I said. Ppl tell me they are so amazing, out of this world good, best steaks ever kinda reviews. If anything could swing her my way that maybe it. She is a foodie. Have to go to see her and talk to her about us having dinner.


Yeah If you think that’s a strength then lead with that. Obviously couldn’t hurt. 😃

I'm kinda humble about my cooking so I'm always I can get better at it. But I'm always told my foods good, my cousin said "I'm a bitch of a cook, if she likes food make her dinner and you got it made". Been told by my boss if he had my surf and turf meal on his menu he'd charge $ 40 - 50 for it. Just got to get her to try them it sounds.
Then get it going bruh! It’ll work itself out if you just let it go. Don’t overthink. Just make a nice time for you two and enjoy yourselves and then go from there.

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Yes I have been over thinking everything between us. Was in full shock when I ran into her and really havn't understood things since. All that I do know is I care about her, despite all the bad things between us. We have both made mistakes but hopefully she will want to try and start moving forward with rebuilding things between us. Wish me luck! Thx for listening guys.
TY @sierra_ I know and understand what I did to her was the absolute worst thing I could have done to a virgo. It's hard enough to get you all to share and I treated her like a dog that messed in the house. zodiac matching sites say capricorn and virgo make a great pair so if we can get past all the weirdness right now things might work.