PLS HELP!! Virgo man has me spinning w/ confusion!
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by libramit on Monday, September 16, 2013 and has 15 replies.
Long story short. I worked with a Virgo man for 8mos. Had a thing for him the entire time. We have so much on common with each other and are interested in a lot of the same things. I don't loke to date people that I work with. A month a go he left where we worked to go work at a different establishment. I eagerly jumped on the opportunity to see if there was enough between us to take it to another level. We texted each other all day and night everyday for about a month before we even discused hanging out with each other. I liked the fact that we were getting to know each other first. I have a habit of rushing into to things. We would sometimes flirt with each other to the point that our conversationa would get pretty steamy. At other times we could be very serious & deep. I started developing feelings for him & was in no way to shy to tell him. So he knew that I liked him and was interested in pursuing something. Anyway so 3 different times we made plans to hang out and 3 different times he stood me up. Each time he would say to me the next day that he was so sorry and that he completely regretted not seeing it thru and wished he had. No matter, I was to the point that I was done. I felt like I was making an ass out of myself and that he obviously just wasn't interested. When exactly a week ago he texted me around 9pm and asked me if I wanted company. He ended up grabbing a cab and comming over. (Neither of us drives. I live on the city and take cabs and ride the bus. He lives in the country and relies on friends & family) well, I knew he would have to stay Sunday night. Which was fine. Weau talked about it. We had so much fun. I don't own a television. So we sat up all night long. We had a few drinks and just opened up to each other in a way that you can't thru a text. We ended up having sex and it was amazing. I had been single and sex free for the past year. He's everything I've wanted and waited for in a man. Well, 1 night ended up turning into 4. I know thatI had the time of my life & it sire seemed like he did too. I can't imagine that he would have stayed for 4 nights if he wasn't enjoying himself. We went for several walks, he made me dinner, I made breakfast, we listened to music, we talked so much about us and everything else, we slept curled up in each others arms. I was in pure heaven. So Thursday came and he had to go back to work. We layed around all morning. I know that I was anxious about him leaving and what to expect next. He seemed t
Sry it posted twice I'm not exactly sure why.
to be a bit anxious as well. I rode the bus with him to work so I could do some shopping. He kissed me good-bye and said he would text me.I sent him a txt telling him how much I enjoyed our time together, that I really like him & that I couldn't wait to see him again. He never replied. In fact, he didn't txt me at all umtill 3pm the next day and all he said was that he has decided to take a job out of town and he's moving. I didn't know how to respond. So I just told him good-bye then. He sent me 1 more txt twlling me that he wasn't moving today and that was the last that I have heard from him. I have sent him a few random txts, in 1 of them I asked him why he was ignoring me, but he has not answered any of them. So I stopped sendong him any. I'm already feeling like I've made a huge ass out of myself. I don't understand what happened? I don't get it at all. One day we're all lovey dovey and thwn the next, nothing, nada. WTF?? I don't know if it's something that I did or said. I'm so confused. Ive read that Virgos only pull away when they like you and are really into you. Is thia true? If so is this something that I just have to wait out? What should I do? I don't want to push him away any further by pushing on him but I don't want him to think that I'm not interested by not pushing on him? He sure seemed like he enjoyed himself? Did I get played? Please help me. I don't want to loose thia guy. Or have I already? What should I do. I'm seriously going crazy here. We were friends before our 4 days and yeah, I miss him. I'm at such a loss. UGH!!!
Ummm honey, it's 2013. I've been married and in long term relationships. I'm 38 I'm not getting any younger. I wanted to have sex with him. Or should I just said no because I'm a woman and I'm not allowed to do what I want to do because it makes me look bad. sorry I don't live that way I could give a s*** what people think of me. and he knew that before hand. We've been friends for about 8 months. he knows exactly what kind of person I am and everything about me and didn't have any problems with any of it before. and although I appreciate your opinion, excuse me if I don't agree with you!LOL!!!
A call at 9pm is a booty call. If you wanted sex well you got sex.
He's on the run, nothing to do now but stop contacting him and hope he'll stop being a jerk.
It's 2013 and these guys (a lot of them) will wait that 6 months out as long as there is a pay off.
Reminds me of that movie Friends with Benefits. One of the main characters like this guy, hung out with him, told him about her 6 month no sex rule.
He seemed completely okay with it. Once he got the sex he tried to slip out on her while she was out getting them both coffee. Long story short he asked her to be friends and she loudly replied "Fuck off."
I've heard from a few women who meet a guy, he talks and talks and just open with her, creates this FALSE sense of security in her by creating a bond only to walk off as if she doesn't exist.
What a jerk, what happened to you is happening a lot here lately. I hope for you this is not the case but it's looking like it is.
He's on the run, nothing to do now but stop contacting him and hope he'll stop being a jerk.
It's 2013 and these guys (a lot of them) will wait that 6 months out as long as there is a pay off.
Reminds me of that movie Friends with Benefits. One of the main characters like this guy, hung out with him, told him about her 6 month no sex rule.
He seemed completely okay with it. Once he got the sex he tried to slip out on her while she was out getting them both coffee. Long story short he asked her to be friends and she loudly replied "Fuck off."
I've heard from a few women who meet a guy, he talks and talks and just open with her, creates this FALSE sense of security in her by creating a bond only to walk off as if she doesn't exist.
What a jerk, what happened to you is happening a lot here lately. I hope for you this is not the case but it's looking like it is.
You see at first all I wanted was for him to be a booty call But after spending 4 days with him which is not a typical booty call. I fell in live. Or maybe I just fell in lust who knws. You guys can think what you want to think, but I went a year without any dick women have needs too. Ain't no shame in my game! however, as far as the consistentsy goes, you may be correct about that. he's an alcoholic, so I'm not even too sure that I would have a relationship with him. Maybe I just want to sleep with him some more. hey I'm just being honest.
^^^but by doing that you're kidding yourself because you said you're in love. You also said lust but the fact you said love first, I'm more inclined to believe you are, & a FWB will make it worse & have you hurt in the end if you want more.
And for the record, NO MAN is gonna pull away if he's REALLY into you, & risk losing you? No. When a man is really into you, he will persue you.
And when that does happen, he's NOT really into you, or he was & got turned off.
And when that does happen, he's NOT really into you, or he was & got turned off.
*pursue
There are 4 day booty calls though.
Probably just lust especially if you haven't had sex in a year. If you want to sleep with him some more you sure didn't act that way.
Appeared you wanted a real relationship so he bolted on you.
Probably just lust especially if you haven't had sex in a year. If you want to sleep with him some more you sure didn't act that way.
Appeared you wanted a real relationship so he bolted on you.
Posted by libramit
You see at first all I wanted was for him to be a booty call But after spending 4 days with him which is not a typical booty call. I fell in live. Or maybe I just fell in lust who knws. You guys can think what you want to think, but I went a year without any dick women have needs too. Ain't no shame in my game! however, as far as the consistentsy goes, you may be correct about that. he's an alcoholic, so I'm not even too sure that I would have a relationship with him. Maybe I just want to sleep with him some more. hey I'm just being honest.
It's OK.
Not judging.
Call it whatever you want.
Just don't call it a relationship.
Who knows! Ur never going to have an answer so send him on his way! N let it go!
What The Fuck? Yet another Libra Woman & Virgo Man catastrophe...
TB77: Call it whatever you want.
Just don't call it a relationship.
Accept it for what it was: A whirlwind bang session.
Now, forget about him.
It wouldn't have worked, anyway.
What the hell?
You know it's booty call, you even stated that you hadn't had sex for a year and that it's 2013, which is you making the implication that it's ok for a woman to fuck without a commitment.
Then when people notice that you have unrealistic expectations ... you get all pissy with them.
Sounds like the only person here who doesn't recognize the truth ... is you.
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