Post argument with a Virgo

Was in an argument last night with my virgo. After it was over he said he felt closer to me because of it. We have had a few others over the last year and a half and he is right it has brought us closer but he has never said anything like this before. Thots please.

what can be said but the obvious in a case like this? Arguments, and the release of deeply felt feeling is how I'd like to think WE as Virgoans grow closer to one another. I can't stand to be around sensitive/reactive people, not because I'm 'hard' but because I can't be my full self with them, which leaves me holding my deeper, truest feelings in making me brood resentfully at that persons weakness. As logical a person I am, I'm that much emotional; balance is important to me becase it allows me to grow in every sense of the word even at the cost of unearthing my worst fears. A person who is only interested in maintaining a stance on something (stubborn) and not seeing things from a new p.o.v. are hardest to deel with becuase they spend so much time going over their insecurities making sure they're all concealed. So, the image they show is fake, a facade that's used to protect them from the other.....They want you to protect THEM hold them, and keep them safe. "Love me and forget about yourself; make that sacrifice if you love me" that's the undercurrent of the situation, not the GENERALIZATION; It mainly depends on the person's focus in life.

dys31: "...he is right it has brought us closer but he has never said anything like this before."

First, I think what he means is that arguments bring out thoughts & feelings that haven't been expressed, but that need to be aired. However, this is not a good way over the long haul for couples to iron things out...

Second, you're a Scorp and he's a Virg, so verbal communication is gonna be tough at times. But, y'all have been together now for at least 9 months, right? You two should be comfortable enough with each other to discuss things in less stressful settings...

Debra & I do a lot of our "serious talking" while we're out walking. We're on neutral ground, and the exercise is relaxing, and we can hash out lots of things before we get back to the house. Maybe this would work for y'all??

I feel Dys31 is not facing reality regarding her "virgo guy". From the messages I have read dys31 I think the relationship is one sided and that is your side. If you have been with this guy for a year and a half and you have not verbally committed then maybe this is a fantasy—?? Just sounds that way to me. Have you kissed, been intimate or even gone on a date or is this just a school girl crush that you hope will blossom? I think after a year and a half you would have an idea if it is a friendship or a relationship. It sounds like your his best buddy and he calls everynight because you are there for him. Pretty selfish if you ask me....maybe you need to ask yourself where is this going!! Just my thoughts hate to see you heart broken.