Posted by CluelessCancer
Why does emotions correlate with need?
Funny thing is...emotional people are the people who GIVE the MOST...if you can believe I am asked for advice 24/7...other people are needy. TAKE TAKE TAKE.
Posted by MellyMel
I've learned that if you assume responsibility over something for long enough, most people will follow suit and assume its your responsibility too.. Social conditioning, or something similar.. if that makes any sense?
Posted by CluelessCancer
He saw it as being negative, i saw it as letting out whatever frustrations into the world, urfff...so much misunderstanding.
Posted by sara1691985Posted by MellyMel
I've learned that if you assume responsibility over something for long enough, most people will follow suit and assume its your responsibility too.. Social conditioning, or something similar.. if that makes any sense?
I think most virgos just need to relax more and just let it be, you can't control everything and be responsible for everything. hard to apply this in relationships though because you are not that rational in this case and emotions take over ...click to expand
Posted by sara1691985
I wonder if this is typical for Virgos: I always feel we are some how unrealistic in our expectations in relationships. I am extremely attracted to emotional men, the ones I feel need me. I feel this would be a fulfilling relationship for me. When it comes to marriage though, I need stability, someone who is not an emotional roller coaster. Although emotions attract me, they make me loose balance when we get too close, and I prefer someone in control of themselves. But again, I feel stable men are so dry for my taste ... I don't know if I am simply still growing up or if all Virgos are like that
Posted by sara1691985Posted by sara1691985Posted by MellyMel
I've learned that if you assume responsibility over something for long enough, most people will follow suit and assume its your responsibility too.. Social conditioning, or something similar.. if that makes any sense?
I think most virgos just need to relax more and just let it be, you can't control everything and be responsible for everything. hard to apply this in relationships though because you are not that rational in this case and emotions take over ...
and what makes it harder is the blame thing too, virgos blame themselves all the time: "did i hurt him when i said this or that?", "was he hurt when he felt i am tired or sad or whatever?" ... we have a really hard time with blaming ourselvesclick to expand
Posted by VirgoTINPosted by sara1691985Posted by sara1691985Posted by MellyMel
I've learned that if you assume responsibility over something for long enough, most people will follow suit and assume its your responsibility too.. Social conditioning, or something similar.. if that makes any sense?
I think most virgos just need to relax more and just let it be, you can't control everything and be responsible for everything. hard to apply this in relationships though because you are not that rational in this case and emotions take over ...
and what makes it harder is the blame thing too, virgos blame themselves all the time: "did i hurt him when i said this or that?", "was he hurt when he felt i am tired or sad or whatever?" ... we have a really hard time with blaming ourselves
And I all along i thought I have a disorder or something. I am like this and its making me sick. Not good. What's the way out? If there is any. Sighhclick to expand
Maybe its a wrong attitude though. I remember now a leo friend of mine who is really dramatic in her emotional expressions, I feel all the time I should help her, but she keeps telling me I'm just talking to you I don't want you to help me, but its just how I feel.
Posted by sara1691985
I wonder if this is typical for Virgos: I always feel we are some how unrealistic in our expectations in relationships. I am extremely attracted to emotional men, the ones I feel need me. I feel this would be a fulfilling relationship for me. When it comes to marriage though, I need stability, someone who is not an emotional roller coaster. Although emotions attract me, they make me loose balance when we get too close, and I prefer someone in control of themselves. But again, I feel stable men are so dry for my taste ... I don't know if I am simply still growing up or if all Virgos are like that
Posted by Gemini052388
In line with this topic, I wonder why when I needed my virgo, he wasn't there for me. Now that I don't need him and keeping my distance, he kept approaching me. Even said "I will remember that you said you will not date. I will keep reminding you about it" like really?! Why?! When I needed his assurance, he can't give it to me and now that I was close to happiness without him, there he goes.
Posted by TheLioness79Posted by sara1691985
I wonder if this is typical for Virgos: I always feel we are some how unrealistic in our expectations in relationships. I am extremely attracted to emotional men, the ones I feel need me. I feel this would be a fulfilling relationship for me. When it comes to marriage though, I need stability, someone who is not an emotional roller coaster. Although emotions attract me, they make me loose balance when we get too close, and I prefer someone in control of themselves. But again, I feel stable men are so dry for my taste ... I don't know if I am simply still growing up or if all Virgos are like that
When you say emotional, are talking a person who feels and shows their emotions or needy and you feel you can "fix" them? There is an difference. You can be emotional person and stable, but you cant be needy and broken who "needs fixing" and be a stable person. Careful with those. You can't fix people, only they can fix themselves. Don't be the rescuer, you will find yourself always being disappointed. If someone is not willing to help themselves you can not help them.click to expand
Posted by Gemini052388
@sara:possibly my emotions scared him. I was at my worst and he left me at that. I was disappointed. However, it is ok. I have forgiven him. But with what he is doing now... I'm afraid we might end up hurting each other instead. After he left me at my worst, I decided to get in a relationship with an aqua. He was asking me about it but I thought it was too personal to share with him so I never discussed it with him and just told him I was busy. I cannot date. And that's when he said he will remember that I said I won't date. And he will remind me over and over again when we meet.
It's just sad. I loved him. With all my heart. But I was too hurt and I am very afraid that maybe he just wants me now because I am ok. I am happy. I am calm. I am not at his disposal anymore. But what's gonna happen when I decide to go back to him? He will ditch me again at my tough times?