Hello,
My fiance of a few years is somewhat bizarre (sexually) and I would appreciate some insight. I'm not saying hes Gay but I cant help but feel like something is amiss.
-Will not remove underwear/boxers during sex (He has only removed them once or twice in years)
-Will not let me see or touch his butt, and when I accidently brushed against it or teased him by giving it a little slap he got very angry and defensive
-Is really interested in/obssesed only having anal sex and oral sex ( I get the impression having vaginal intercourse seems like a chore for him and he always (during vaginal sex) wants anal, usually doesnt want to finish off from vaginal sex only anal or oral )
-Is fixated on Girl on Girl Porn
-Never gives me oral, or even asks if I want it
-Rarely Kisses me (Usually gives me a couple pecks, no open mouth or tongue) Worth mentioning that His ex never let him kiss her. Sometimes he would ask if we could kiss, usually late at night before bed. Rare, but hes asked.
-Is very into watching me masturbate, and will usually comment that I should insert dildo anally while hes watching or receiving oral sex from me
-He tells me to say certain things during sex
He can never have deep conversations with me, or share private feelings with me. In essence, I feel like hes hiding something. Please help.
Thanks.
I forget to mention that he also is homophobic, has used the word faggot very frequently and he freaked out when he came home and I was watching that movie Brokeback Mountain. He started screaming that it was bad to watch a movie with faggots. Even though the scene wasnt of a sexual nature.
He is a Virgo too, if that helps.
No vaginal sex? huh? so you are planning on no children? What are you getting out of this? not even any sex, except what you give yourself. huh? he's just getting off - on you. I find this to be very sad if this is indeed true.
this has nothing do to with starsigns.
He's possibly hiding something...he is gay, maybe bi, gender confused or perhaps some type of abuse occurred in childhood or perhaps both, you never know.
You should confront with the facts, honesty and low emotion. They usually can't handle crazy emotions so you need to be calm, direct and stand up for yourself and your needs. He has no problems expressing his in bed now does he?
You have told us how you feel and stated all the problems in your relationship. Do not be afraid to ask the same of him. If he is gay, bi, confusion or even if he has had some sort of past trauma causing this behavior... you need to be very sensitive to him if he is not ready to come out about his sexuality or abuse. This is something that if pushed can be psychologically damaging.
If he opens up and trusts you enough to tell you what this is all about, discretion and respect are a must. Even if it's the end of the relationship for both of you. In any case, you need answers and are entitled to them.
If he refuses to give you the honest answers you need, then it's time to re-evaluate this relationship and decide if getting out is best for YOU. As it is, it seems very one sided and cold.
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Oct 08, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 2906 · Topics: 93
My fiance of a few years is somewhat bizarre (sexually) and I would appreciate some insight.
Why the fuck are you still engaged to him??
Is really interested in/obssesed only having anal sex and oral sex
I hope this thread is a joke!
If it's for real, what are you doing with this closet queen??
You can do better. Ditch this fruitcake and find yourself a straight man...
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Apr 10, 2007Comments: 0 · Posts: 329 · Topics: 23
I don't know where I read this, but I remember stumbling across something that said that virgos have this huge latent propensity for bisexuality.
Based on my own limited experience with virgo men, I'd say that denial isn't uncommon. I knew a guy who: 1) was getting regularly blown by a guy; 2) had anal sex with a guy a few times; and 3) swore up and down that he was totally straight. He wasn't homophobic at all - one of his brothers was gay. At the same time, he was really, really reluctant to admit that he might be, at a very minimum, bi.
Don't underestimate some virgos' capacity for denial. Doesn't make them bad people. Just means that they can't always see parts of themselves that don't fit in with their self-image.
So all of that and... you really shouldn't be marrying this man if you have these sorts of questions.
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
lol
Do you realize how it makes you look?
Being engaged to him, and acting like this engagement isn't an issue on your part, rather, just his sexuality being the only issue.
Instead of wondering what the fuck is the matter with him ..... in your position, I'd be wondering what the fuck is the matter with me.
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Don't underestimate some virgos' capacity for denial.
Like I've written before: A gay Virgo Male has to be one of the unhappiest creatures on Earth!
Homosexuality makes no sense to a practical Virgo, and admitting to such a serious personal flaw is anathema to us...
IMHO, there's nothing "gay" or happy for a homo Virgo...
Posted by DyarStra??_e
Don't underestimate some virgos' capacity for denial.
Like I've written before: A gay Virgo Male has to be one of the unhappiest creatures on Earth!
Homosexuality makes no sense to a practical Virgo, and admitting to such a serious personal flaw is anathema to us...
IMHO, there's nothing "gay" or happy for a homo Virgo...
LMAO, now thats funny, Sad, True, but treetrunking funnySorry for not responding sooner I had forgotten my password. Unfortunently, my post wasnt a joke. I wish it was though.
An update:
All along I had suspected he was sexually abused, and when I asked him about all the stuff I mentioned in my post all I would get was serious denial and no answers, just nothing but him not wanting to talk about it. So I just decided it would be best to end things with him alltogether. I cannot be with someone who cannot share who they are, no matter how bad the truth could have been. I guess the reason I stuck around was because I was assuming that he was just sexually abused and hadnt confronted his issues and just kept it all deep inside..So essentially, I couldnt hold it against him, if he was in fact a victim of sexual abuse & that wouldnt be his fault. His ex had asked me if he still kept his underwear on during sex and I answered yes, she then told me she thought he was abused by a priest. I told him what she said and he laughed it off and denied everything.
I came to the realization that even if hes NOT gay, theres something still very wrong..and if he couldnt open up to me about it then I did what I had to do. I couldnt be happy or satisfied with what went on in our sex life. I felt used..and abused..and there was no real intimacy. They say people who have been sexually abused have a propensity to take their abuse out on their partner..as they felt so powerless when it happened to them. It could have been his way of rectifying what happened to him. He felt confused by it, and it shaped his ideas about sex. Also, I needed to clarify that we had lots of vaginal sex...what I meant was that he always had anal on his mind everytime we were intimate. Sometimes if we had an argument or something, and he was wanting sex he would say that I needed to give him anal sex because it was my punishment. I seriously just thought he was joking, now I know he was serious. I remember one morning while we were asleep he was cuddling me and all of a sudden Im awoken by him having anal sex with me...I was shocked. I couldnt believe he would be into having sex with someone who was completely covered by blankets & wasnt moving or making any noises..I was asleep! He told me he thought I was awake..and I just gave him the benefit of the doubt since that had never happened before.
I'm just worried about any future partners he may have, I hope to god that they just RUN! Hes so charming, a good liar and I'd just hate to see anyon
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Posted by Xun3
this post reminds me of angel in america.
me too.
maybe this is the right movie you should look together?I'm not messed up, I know what a healthy sexual relationship is! And this obviously wasnt! The thing was I had suspected sexual abuse, but was too sympathetic to speak up about it & our sex life. I admit I made many mistakes by allowing his behavior, and keeping my mouth shut for far too long.
Oh, and Prince_Piesces....He had walked in our bedroom one night and I was watching a Guy-Girl Porn DVD and he flipped out and ripped the DVD and broke it to pieces! I guess since I wasnt watching Girl-Girl Porn, it set him off....
I have heard about that down low brother book, and it makes me curious. While my ex fiance is extremely masculine and physically theyre arent really any signs of homosexuality..maybe a Gay person on here can post some telltale signs or something to help women who are victimized by these closet gays.
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LMAO 
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Wow this is a sad post. Encourage therapy to him. Why did his last ex leave??
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What?
"I'm not messed up, I know what a healthy sexual relationship is! And this obviously wasnt!"
You do know?
Obviously?
Several years you said you were engaged, so I would logically assume that a courtship happened before the engagement ... so, it wouldn't be so far out in left field to make the assumption that at least 4 years you were with this guy ....... and you KNOW because it's OBVIOUS?
lol
Bizarre, indeed.
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Me thinks you know what you have to do 
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Cumming means nothing to a woman ..... it's the emotional affection he bestows upon her while getting her to this point that is important.
She can cum without him .. she can cum all by her little self ... getting her to cum is a feat she's been doing to herself since she was 12 years old.
Yay, congratulations, Virgos ..... you have discovered how to do something she already knows.
It's the romantic gestures, the emotional stroking of her feelings, the caresses to her feelings that tell her that she is the woman who rocks your world ...... is what is needed sexually .. without that, you're just fucking an empty shell, like a whore.
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Posted by P-Angel
like a whore.
Like a whore..??Signed Up:
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Posted by 25thDecan
So, there aren't any shallow women out there like men who simply enjoy "cumming"....yeah treetrunking right.
Let me put it in perspective for some people....I'm just telling what I've experienced, observed. I WASN'T affectionate in the past very much. In MY situation it had everything to do with not having affectionate parents AT ALL. You want your man to cuddle with you if he's a virgo, GO CUDDLE HIM, he should catch on. If not, then he's just a boyfriend and you can move on. Geesh, some people....
Of course there are shallow women out there, I was speaking for women on a general basis, not on an individual basis. The shallow women who just enjoy cumming without any emotional intimacy are damaged, and become whores.
If you are fucking women to whom enjoy orgasms ONLY without any emotional intimacy, then you are fucking sluts only ... and this actually sounds like the kind of woman you need really, since because of your childhood with unaffectionate parents, you were damaged into believing that affection isn't necessary, that any and all affection should be the effort of the woman coming to the man to get this attention, as if he shouldn't have any desire himself to give this to her because he loves her.
You sound like a typical Virgo ... sit back and believe that the woman should put forth all effort in a relationship ... you only have to get a hard dick, everything else is her job.Signed Up:
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So I'm totally in love with one of my vibrators and I have absolutely no sense of emotional intimacy towards it. I'm therefore damaged? 
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Well, 25th .. you proved it yourself, and know not.
"Here's where you treetrunk up everytime PISCES."
Actually, I didn't fuck up ... you did, and know not that it is the problem .. I'm merely pointing it out to you.
"You swam into some BS that only you made up because it definitely WASN'T in my post."
Yes, it was in your post, and is in this post also .... listen carefully, for it's possible to be the best advice you've ever heard to help you. And I say this not to be concieted, rather, to help you because "word" if you've heard it before, then you'd already know what it means and wouldn't have to have a Fish tell you.
"I'd for once like to meet a woman who isn't:
a) stuck on how she was jilted
b) understands HER ROLE in a relationship: i.e. not a treetrunking vampire
and
c) isn't so full of shat she can't see it when it flies from her mouth or fingertips"
You are asking to meet a woman based on negative qualitites ... you think about a woman, put energy into this, and the characteristical traits you are thinking about in a female are ALL negative ones ... and you've apparantly no clue that this is why you can't find a good woman ... because you bring to you what you call to you. And when put to the task in clarifying yourself, you would access in your mind to convey the negative qualities in a woman to which you do NOT like .. hear me here .. you are thinking about what YOU DO NOT LIKE, and using these negative characteristics as a foundation to base your thinking on, when you consider female traits.
"I'm going to need for you to be more versed on the subject of who I seem to be when you have no evidence thereof."
It's clear, and I've stated it a million times in here if I've stated it once ..... a Virgo concentrates on NEGATIVITY by considering what they do NOT want in their life, they talk about what they HATE ... their thoughts are based on the negative aspects ..
LOA only hears the subject.
If you think I hate bitches ... it hears bitches .. it has no clue you insinuated that you didn't want a bitch because you said hate .. it doesn't comprehend your inferences by usage of a adverbs, so it has no clue that by stating your dislike for something by usage of words that you do not want this in your life .... it can only comprehend your desires based on your emitted energy .... and what you emit is ...
A woman stuck on being jilted
A fucking vampire
A role/label
Full of shit
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Apr 13, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 44084 · Topics: 685
1) He's unaffectionate but I am
answer: Perhaps affection is more suited to YOUR personality type. This shouldn't be something that you have a problem conveying to your man. Let go of your treetrunking motives and tell him.
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Apparantly, the thought passes by you, so that you never take it seriously enough to think about, in which case, it doesn't happen for you ... and if it doesn't happen for you, then you will think this not happening is normal, in which case, you will then be left to say things like ..... if she wants affection then she should come to me and tell me, otherwise, it will never cross my mind to have this desire to give it to her because she likes it, and I would want her to experience feeling important enough to me for me to want her to feel special to me by giving something to her she wants that she doesn't have to ask for.
omg ! isnt that scary to know somebOdy your ia relatioship with who you have strog feelings for can be gay?? id think it was my fault && id be embarrassed
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Posted by ShyAries
*cough* ok is this a joke thread?
if not... then i would say he's gay. oh and you should ask him some questions relating to gay stuff.
Nooooo! Just let them get married and say I dos and then after we will read THE stories...
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Posted by P-Angel
lol
Do you realize how it makes you look?
Being engaged to him, and acting like this engagement isn't an issue on your part, rather, just his sexuality being the only issue.
Instead of wondering what the fuck is the matter with him ..... in your position, I'd be wondering what the fuck is the matter with me.
Are you ok? What's the matter with you? LolSigned Up:
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Just a heads up, this is from 8 years ago.
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Posted by Prince_Pisces
Repressed Homosexual?
Yes. By what you've described, i dont see how it could be any more obvious LOL!!!!
You don't have to try harder! You will never match up to that freak! I am sure he doesn't exist so we will keep you as a perfect sample! Ok? LolSigned Up:
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Posted by 915Virgo
Hello,
My fiance of a few years is somewhat bizarre (sexually) and I would appreciate some insight. I'm not saying hes Gay but I cant help but feel like something is amiss.
-Will not remove underwear/boxers during sex (He has only removed them once or twice in years)
-Will not let me see or touch his butt, and when I accidently brushed against it or teased him by giving it a little slap he got very angry and defensive
-Is really interested in/obssesed only having anal sex and oral sex ( I get the impression having vaginal intercourse seems like a chore for him and he always (during vaginal sex) wants anal, usually doesnt want to finish off from vaginal sex only anal or oral )
-Is fixated on Girl on Girl Porn
-Never gives me oral, or even asks if I want it
-Rarely Kisses me (Usually gives me a couple pecks, no open mouth or tongue) Worth mentioning that His ex never let him kiss her. Sometimes he would ask if we could kiss, usually late at night before bed. Rare, but hes asked.
-Is very into watching me masturbate, and will usually comment that I should insert dildo anally while hes watching or receiving oral sex from me
-He tells me to say certain things during sex
He can never have deep conversations with me, or share private feelings with me. In essence, I feel like hes hiding something. Please help.
Thanks.
God this is crazy, alot of these match with my experience also! he watched porn, liked to watch me masturbate and say things, liked anal ( these can prob seen as pretty normal) NEVER kissed unless it was during sex, never liked blowjobs, always had tissue in his hand while fucking. UGH!Signed Up:
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Posted by LibraLovesHim
Posted by 915Virgo
Hello,
My fiance of a few years is somewhat bizarre (sexually) and I would appreciate some insight. I'm not saying hes Gay but I cant help but feel like something is amiss.
-Will not remove underwear/boxers during sex (He has only removed them once or twice in years)
-Will not let me see or touch his butt, and when I accidently brushed against it or teased him by giving it a little slap he got very angry and defensive
-Is really interested in/obssesed only having anal sex and oral sex ( I get the impression having vaginal intercourse seems like a chore for him and he always (during vaginal sex) wants anal, usually doesnt want to finish off from vaginal sex only anal or oral )
-Is fixated on Girl on Girl Porn
-Never gives me oral, or even asks if I want it
-Rarely Kisses me (Usually gives me a couple pecks, no open mouth or tongue) Worth mentioning that His ex never let him kiss her. Sometimes he would ask if we could kiss, usually late at night before bed. Rare, but hes asked.
-Is very into watching me masturbate, and will usually comment that I should insert dildo anally while hes watching or receiving oral sex from me
-He tells me to say certain things during sex
He can never have deep conversations with me, or share private feelings with me. In essence, I feel like hes hiding something. Please help.
Thanks.
God this is crazy, alot of these match with my experience with Virgo ex also! he watched porn, liked to watch me masturbate and say things, liked anal ( these can prob seen as pretty normal) NEVER kissed unless it was during sex, never liked blowjobs, always had tissue in his hand while fucking. UGH!
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Posted by Blue_Froggie
Why is this revived?
Gemitati!!!
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Posted by Blue_Froggie
Posted by P-Angel
Cumming means nothing to a woman ..... it's the emotional affection he bestows upon her while getting her to this point that is important.
She can cum without him .. she can cum all by her little self ... getting her to cum is a feat she's been doing to herself since she was 12 years old.
Yay, congratulations, Virgos ..... you have discovered how to do something she already knows.
It's the romantic gestures, the emotional stroking of her feelings, the caresses to her feelings that tell her that she is the woman who rocks your world ...... is what is needed sexually .. without that, you're just fucking an empty shell, like a whore.
This is an amazing post!!!
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Ok. Now you please tell me what's so amazing about that post?
That woman doesn't need an orgazm because PA obviously never had one?
And she considering every sexual woman as a whore?
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The only weird thing I can't get is how one can get her ass entered while sleeping?
THAT is a really deep sleeper!
You touch me - I am up!
Waking up because someone up your ass - for to be stoned or hammered! Not even that!!! Idk...
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Jul 13, 2016Comments: 3 · Posts: 3225 · Topics: 93
I was just about to give elaborate advice and then I noticed it is an 8 year old thread.
I'm dying though. How do you wake up to a dick in your ass? I'm going to assume that it took some maneuvering to get in there unless:
(a)he has a very small penis
Or
(B) you have a very loose butthole
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
These threads keep popping up without any user help
I noticed that. very bizarre.
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Posted by Gemitati
The only weird thing I can't get is how one can get her ass entered while sleeping?
THAT is a really deep sleeper!
You touch me - I am up!
Waking up because someone up your ass - for to be stoned or hammered! Not even that!!! Idk...
My thoughts exactly.
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Posted by Deedee86
Posted by Gemitati
The only weird thing I can't get is how one can get her ass entered while sleeping?
THAT is a really deep sleeper!
You touch me - I am up!
Waking up because someone up your ass - for to be stoned or hammered! Not even that!!! Idk...
My thoughts exactly.
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It's whether smallest penus out there or biggest hole...
I wish she had explained.
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Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Deedee86
Posted by Gemitati
The only weird thing I can't get is how one can get her ass entered while sleeping?
THAT is a really deep sleeper!
You touch me - I am up!
Waking up because someone up your ass - for to be stoned or hammered! Not even that!!! Idk...
My thoughts exactly.
It's whether smallest penus out there or biggest hole...
I wish she had explained.
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Things don't just smoothly and nonchalantly slide into the butt.
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Posted by Deedee86
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Deedee86
Posted by Gemitati
The only weird thing I can't get is how one can get her ass entered while sleeping?
THAT is a really deep sleeper!
You touch me - I am up!
Waking up because someone up your ass - for to be stoned or hammered! Not even that!!! Idk...
My thoughts exactly.
It's whether smallest penus out there or biggest hole...
I wish she had explained.
Things don't just smoothly and nonchalantly slide into the butt.
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???????