Sag in love with a virgo....advice from a Virgo Ma

Hi Sweethearts and welcome 🙂

I know how confused you must be feeling and the "not knowing" sure can drive one batty. I am not a Virgo male - sorry...but, one may appear soon to help you with another perspective. If it is okay...I'd like to share some "thoughts" with you regarding men. Now, I do not know your Mr. Virgo but, I do know the basics of men - most of my pals are men and they tell me everything! I really should write a book. They are very, very simple humans. What they say, they usually mean - unless they are "game players" and you don't want them in your life anyway.

When a man says, "I just want to be friends." BELIEVE HIM. A man will NOT say this to a potential love interest just as a woman would not say this to a male potential love interest. We say this because, we are not interested in that way. Think about yourself for a min. Let's say you are with a guy - he's nice, you can get to know him, pal around with him...soon you may get a sense that you do not want the relationship to progress in a deeper way so, you state your feeling to the guy as such, "hey, I just want to be friends or I'm really not wanting to get into a "relationship" at the moment." Now, if the guy really, really likes you - he blocks out what you just said and says to himself, "I'll get her to change her mind, she will fall for me - she just doesn't know it yet." Has this ever happened to you? It has to me...I personally have told the man that all I want is friendship and they keep trying. He did NOT listen to me, he did not believe me. I have not changed my mind. Now, I have met my current guy and there is NO way that I can muster up the words..."I just want to be friends." Nope - no can do.

So, what we do, is we "justify" his actions...he doesn't know what he is doing- he will be back - he is just busy. NO, NO, and NOOOOOOOOO! He is telling you the truth - he only wants friendship and sometimes they say that only to ease the pain of the hurt in ending the relationship. If a man is truly interested in a woman, he will NOT use the "friends" word. That word is a red flag for a woman to move on and invest her beautiful self somewhere else doing what she enjoys.

"I'm so confused about his actions. I have tried to convince him that being different is good and that we can both learn from each other." - you are confused by his actions because he is confused. - love isn't confusing. You say you have tried to convince him....there should be nothing to convince. Once cannot convince someone to have a relationship with them or to fall in love with them. It just happens....

Sweatheart, I am sure this is not what you wanted to hear. For your heart and peace of mind, I'd say move on with your life and soon you will understand what a wonderful, truthful relationship is like. He does not deserve you...there are more wonderful men out there and your special guy is out there and at the right time for you both, he will appear.

It's all good! and my bestest to you!