Scorpio trying to be friends with a Virgo
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Scorpio1979 on Wednesday, September 14, 2016 and has 9 replies.
Hello,
So I'm a female Scorpio, and I've recently noticed that I have a strong connection to Virgos. I don't let people in quickly or easily, but I've had 2 Virgo friendships that started off with eerily strong connections, only to end badly when both decided to back away and disappear. I'm currently friends with another Virgo that when we're together, we have an amazing connection, but when we're apart, she seems much more elusive and disconnected. Is this just how Virgos are? I don't know what I did for the other 2 to check out of my life, and I don't want to make the same mistakes with this friend. As a Scorpio am I too intense perhaps? Should I just back off and allow her to connect as it suits her? How can I be a good friend to a Virgo, but not feel ignored or appear needy for emotional depth/connection?
So I'm a female Scorpio, and I've recently noticed that I have a strong connection to Virgos. I don't let people in quickly or easily, but I've had 2 Virgo friendships that started off with eerily strong connections, only to end badly when both decided to back away and disappear. I'm currently friends with another Virgo that when we're together, we have an amazing connection, but when we're apart, she seems much more elusive and disconnected. Is this just how Virgos are? I don't know what I did for the other 2 to check out of my life, and I don't want to make the same mistakes with this friend. As a Scorpio am I too intense perhaps? Should I just back off and allow her to connect as it suits her? How can I be a good friend to a Virgo, but not feel ignored or appear needy for emotional depth/connection?
Virgos are naturally pretty aloof. And we need our space, nothing personal, we just love our alone time. Hopefully she will communicate this to you.
Also try to talk to her about it if it bothers you. Are you male or female?
Also try to talk to her about it if it bothers you. Are you male or female?
Disregard the male or female thing. I just saw your a female ?
Good to know about the aloofness. When I've tried to broach the topic (i.e. when we haven't talked in awhile so I want to make sure we're cool), she seems genuinely confused and is like, "Of course we're fine, what are you talking about?!" I can respect the need for space. Usually I'm the one wanting space though! Lol.
Posted by starwarsGood to know. I'll fall back. Maybe she just needs space right now.
yeah. i do that to my friends....when im having a "me" time i dont talk to them much, but it doesnt effect our connection.
you dont have to worry if the virgo left and you were in good terms. in her head you still are, she will be the same and act like "nothing happened" when u meet up again, cause LITERALLY nothing happened.
scorpios make the best of friends i have couple and they are seriously the best.
my advice is to do you, as long as you're geniune nothing else matter.
Posted by TauroMale22Funny you say that. Almost all my other close friends are Taurus.
Taurus is better.
Posted by Infinite8Interesting. Thanks! I need to understand it because from my point of view I'm like, "I love our connections, why would you want to be flakey?!?!" When she moved, she said we would have a phone call once a week. She's dropped the ball on that. She's not really into texting or email, so it's just been difficult for me. I just miss her I guess. Tomorrow is her birthday. I sent her 7 gifts to open one a day for a week. Haven't heard from her the last couple of days, but I see her on social media. I just find it hard to understand why she would connect and acknowledge my effort to celebrate her, but she's obviously interacting with others. But I fully expect she'll text me tonight or tomorrow as if nothing it wrong.
They just require much more flexibility and space than we (Scorps) do... BUT, it's not personal!
Just appreciate them when they are there and trust that it is the same while they are gone.
? It's weird though... Because now that I think of it, sometimes it's the other way around and that just throws me off! I have a very close Virgo friend that I distanced myself from - not for anything personal... It's just that life happened and it was a natural thing. Some years past and I thought of her a lot, so I called her... And when I called her, she gave me a guilt trip for not calling more. I thought it was funny at first, but then she kept saying that EVERYTIME I called her! So, I just gave it to her straight "IM CALLING YOU. I make the effort everytime. You need to stop saying those things because it is taking away from the pleasure of me calling you".
She stopped and everything is cool. I love her ?
I agree... Virgos make awesome friends?
Posted by starwarsI honestly don't know. I'm new to this. I just realized the connection today that I've had some deep relationships with several Virgos, only for them to go terribly awry, so I'm just starting to explore this...how do I find out?
you sound so sweet, wheres your moon?
Posted by Infinite8You're 100% right. Flakey is only how I perceive it, not what she truly is. I'd never say that to her. I'm just such an intentional person, it is hard for me to understand and I completely accept that's just me and my personality. Yes, as you said, "fixed, focused, and intense." I will just accept this is who she is and try not to read it as she's losing interest in our friendship. Thank you for your insight.
I understand you completely, really I do.
But, as hard as this may be... You have to understand that she is just different. She doesn't work the same way as we do. We are fixed, focused and intense! Your gift giving was beautiful and very giving of you. I'm sure she appreciates it in her own way. Just not the same way as you.
They really like to help others and worry and analyze... But they have a hard time receiving. So when she receive so much, she probably got overwhelmed and doesn't know how to react properly.
If this really bothers you, try to talk to her in a constructive way. Firstly, don't call her a flake - name calling won't be helpful.
Just tell her how YOU FEEL and try to stay away from pointing fingers. Just tell her what you would want from her.
They are very practical. If there is something to "work on" they will gladly put in the effort. They just can't deal with too much emotions. So, look into what you need from her and try to vocalize it in a constructive way.
Also.... TRUST that she loves you in her own way - the only way she knows how.
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